The Narcissist´s 3 Assertions of Control
You will threaten the control of the narcissist and you will do so on a repeated basis.
Whatever position you hold in the narcissists fuel matrix, your actions, inactions and words will threaten the narcissists sense of control over you.
What then will the narcissist do? Naturally, he or she, being a creature of control must maintain or regain control over you. How does the narcissist do this? The narcissist asserts control in one of three ways.
This Logic Bulletin addresses
– What those three methods are
– The most common method of asserting control over you
– Your status as the Primary Protagonist
– What happens when one of the methods of asserting control fails
– Enabling you to understand why the narcissist has responded in a particular way, so that you now recognise that this is actually an alternative method of asserting control over you
– Recognising the absolute necessity of the need for control and your role within that.
This demystifies the narcissists behaviour in a simple manner enabling you to add to your armoury of defences, reduce falling prey to the lure of emotional thinking and avoiding the effects of confusion and bewilderment.
15 thoughts on “The Narcissist´s 3 Assertions of Control”
HG I would like to have this but my gift card doesn’t work with the new payment method you have, not that it worked with the old way either!
Your fist pic would make a cool gravatar, HG!
This explains a behavior I experienced with a former co-worker that I ascertained was a narcissist. I knew he did it because he was a narcissist as it was not normal behavior when interacting with people. Now I know exactly why he behaved that way. Thank you for explaining. Your analogies clarify your message perfectly.
Indeed it would MB.
I am pleased you found the material useful. Don’t forget to provide a rating on Gumroad.
I shall do that. I didn’t realize that was a thing.
Dear HG, the God.
I definitely need this. I will buy all of it, as soon as possible.
The Somatic text me “What did you eat today?” so I sent him a photo of my cheeseburger.
He replied “I’m booking a punishment cruise. The Coronavirus cruise.”
When I next saw him at our sport, he said he found a cruise ship that was just in Asia, which has been discounted. Now it’s cruising around Australia. I was upset. He was staring at me to bathe in the fuel and he looked his happiest.
I told him that monitoring my diet was a human rights violation so he said I should complain at the Geneva Convention. Haha.
He also said he wants to install cameras in my shop that he can view remotely.
I just want to say HG, your success and achievements are motivational to me. I have a new focus and inspiration in life. I want to work hard and be like you.
Thank you Whitney
Whitney, when will you stop answering this creep? “What are you eating”? “I want cameras in your shop”? Who is he, the KGB?
Haha. Thanks Violetta.
When I try to do “no-contact” and cut-off narcissists abruptly, it feels agonising and I beg them to forgive me (because of my addiction).
So I’m using this method of slowly cutting away.
I blocked him on Facebook and Instagram. We both know but we don’t mention it.
We communicate via text and email instead.
Blocking him on social media has eased my addiction.
I also don’t always attend our sport anymore- which occurs twice a week. He messages me and interrogates my friend when I don’t attend.
Not attending our sport has eased my addiction.
I had an epiphany today that I have wonderful Empaths in my life. My dad and brother, and extremely Empathetic friends. I got a letter from my Grandma from overseas today and she said “I think of you often, especially when I look at the gift you gave me. I hope to see you some day” and my dad said today “I love you my sweet darling daughter”. Today my brother invited me to his house on the weekend- to make me food. And my Empath friend phoned me today.
I am lucky for them, and HG. I’m going to refocus away from Narcissists. Why must Narcissists monopolise my mind.
Is this new or a re-brand, HG?
It is new.
I honestly (speaking to feed you), think it’s awful 😩😩😩 that you’re now trying to charge money for this advice!!! I feel (again feeding you, and I know how much you have a love/hate relationship with that), that you are earning enough money in your law business (probably family law), but that’s my own ability to read (again feeding you with information). Why am I doing this?? Why am I playing RNA ping pong 🏓 with you??? You ask??? You don’t get to have my T.
I DARE you to respond to me!!!
Does this also address the ways in which *I* will threaten the narcissist’s control?
Yes it does.
Good stuff , HG ! Thank you .
Indeed it is and you are welcome.