The Magnet Cadre of Empath
The Magnet Empath. This is an empathic individual who has certain magnetic tendencies which are layered onto their classification as an empath, super empath or co-dependent. The Magnet Empath is a person that people are instinctively and naturally drawn to. This person has an inner light which is easily recognised by certain people; those who are in need.
The Magnet Empath might be sat on a tube train when the person next to them will find an irresistible urge to want to tell them that they are travelling to an important interview and they are feeling nervous. The Magnet Empath might be waiting in line to be served in a shop when the customer behind them begins to tell them about their concerns and worries, or where the Magnet Empath is sat watching the swans on a lake when a stranger will sit beside them and start to tell their life story.
If you find that complete strangers have a tendency to share intimate and private details with you at the drop of a hat, that they feel a need to off load to you within moments of meeting you and confide in you about their hopes, fears and problems, then you have this magnetic quality.
You draw those in need to you. This is because you shine with this inner light which acts as a beacon of hope and that is what the Magnet Empath embodies; hope. Your empathic nature lights up rooms, illuminates the darkest of situations and brightens the dullest day and this is because you are a walking beacon of hope.
The Magnet Empath moves with confidence and purpose. There is no swagger or arrogance in the way that they enter a room, this person glides, they are serene and elegant. You will not witness any timid scurrying or rolling shoulder bluster, but somebody who is calm and assured. This individual has a clear sense of self – something which appeals to our kind – and this radiates wherever they are. Heads turn, eyes focus and people gravitate towards the appearance of the Magnet Empath. People’s faces light up, there is a lifting of the mood and people want to be seen with and to be next to the Magnet Empath.
Whereas our kind expects this kind of reaction from those around us and indeed seeks and demands it, the Magnet Empath accepts attention with grace and humility. They are not shy, they are not reserved, but there is none of the bluff and bragging that would accompany the engagement of a narcissist with those assembled. The Magnet Empath moves amongst people with a lightness of touch, an encouraging smile, a soft hand placed on the arm and hope shines from him or her.
The Magnet Empath will talk about themselves but in a manner which is encouraging and inspirational. Whilst our kind will also inspire it is done from a platform of declaring one’s own brilliance and you should be more like me.
Those with the magnetic empathy will inspire by explaining that the listener is already empowered they just need to release it and to explain that if the magnetic empath can achieve certain aims then so can the listener. They emphasise the connectivity between them and those they interact with, demonstrating how essentially, since they are empathic individuals, they are all cut from the same cloth.
The narcissist will demonstrate how we are a cut above and use jealousy and envy as motivational tools instead, demanding improvement, whipping individuals into action for fear of the consequences of not doing so, emphasising the difference between the narcissist and the listener and indicating, heavily, that the listener needs to shape up or ship out, go big or go home, if he or she is to achieve anything.
He or she is content for others to share the limelight and indeed positively encourages it which contrasts with the spotlight stealing behaviour of our kind, but this also acts as an attracting factor to our kind. We identify somebody who can capture the spotlight but does not wish to hog it, allowing us to camp on to it instead.
The Magnet Empath wants to harness potential, bring motivation through the provision of hope, the instilling of belief and the raising of optimism. The Magnet Empath is not one of practicality however. They will not assume the mantle of responsibility for an individual and will not get their hands excessively dirty on behalf of another but rather their aim is to cause those around them to feel better in themselves through their own innate abilities, to tap into as yet unharnessed skills and attributes.
This person provides panache and style, bringing hope through words, rather than through actions, a person who can influence in a positive manner the lives of many. Whereas the Carrier Empath is a rugged and practical individual and tends to focus on assisting only a few people, sometimes often only one – usually our kind – the Magnet Empath can affect many people at once with their messages of hope and inspiration.
This individual always believes in hope. This is what drives them and causes them to provide extensive fuel generated by this hope. They hope that love can conquer all and therefore are significant love devotees. They refuse to give up, often flogging a dead horse, endeavouring to overcome the insurmountable. This hope often blinds those with magnetic tendencies to the reality of a situation and causes them to engage in courses of action which invariably result in harm to the empathic person. Blind hope will take them down a path which will be exploited by our kind.
Excellent fuel is generated by this gracious individual, their words inspiring, uplifting, praising and complimenting. They are content to say all of these words and expect little or nothing in return, save that the listener grasps hope and secures growth and achievement. The Magnet Empath is also easily led by false exhibitions of hope, the slightest glimmer is something that they will latch on to in the expectation of improvement and seeing changes. Where the narcissist gives this person cause to hope, it will cause the individual to remain in the grasp of the narcissist as they dangle hope before them to keep them bound.
Often this person need not say anything. Their composure and general demeanour marks them out as who they are, which means that many people engage with them as strangers, unaware that sub-consciously they are drawn to the Magnet Empath. These people are sought after as inspirational speakers, people who present prizes, open new buildings, support charitable trusts and such like and their popularity in this regard and the desire of people who just want to reach out and be touched by the Magnet Empath means that they will often find themselves pulled in many directions and spread thin.
This impacts on their energy levels as they feel unable to say no to anybody, not wanting to extinguish the hope that they have begun to cultivate. Instead the Magnet Empath will often take on many different obligations and functions for a wide variety of people with not only consequences for their own ability to deliver but their interaction with our kind when we have ensnared a Magnet Empath.
The Lesser Narcissist tend not to choose those with strong magnetic tendencies. This is because the jealous nature of the narcissist as a whole, but especially the less capable Lesser, means that they fear being overshadowed far too quickly and their resentment would be palpable notwithstanding their seduction. The Lesser’s low control threshold would result in him or her being unable to keep their fury under control during seduction and thus the seduction would fail. Accordingly, it is not attempted.
Furthermore, the Lesser will hate the attention that this individual would receive with the upshot that the Lesser would be ignored and overlooked. Unable to compete, the Lesser would be repeatedly wounded and notwithstanding the fuel that comes from the Magnet Empath, this would not be enough. Thus it is unusual to find a Lesser who has ensnared such a person.
The Mid-Ranger likes and wants those empaths with magnetic qualities as they encompass those attributes – charisma, likeability, people skills – which the Mid Ranger believes that he or she has and wishes to project to the world at large. Those with magnetic tendencies prove to be a double-edged sword however. The Mid Ranger will struggle to resist, naturally being drawn to this person for who they are because they are prime material for the narcissist, but find themselves awash with jealousy and envy once devaluation begins. During seduction, these traits can be kept in check and the Mid Ranger will appropriate the benign traits of the Magnet Empath for his own use, but once devaluation commences, he becomes coated in envy which will manifest as prolonged and repeated sulking silent treatments.
The Greater Narcissist revels in the Magnet Empath. Possessing similar levels of charm and magnetism, the Greater finds mirroring extremely easy in order to attract this type of empath. The Magnet Empath’s popularity is also appealing to the Greater who basks in the reflected glory of other people’s enthusiasm, praises the Greater for being with such a wonderful person and naturally soaks up the motivating and complimentary words of the Magnet Empath towards him or her. The Greater regards their acquisition as one which actually saves the Greater some work by attracting additional appliances which the Greater will draw fuel from, hijack as his own appliances and then turn against the Magnet Empath when the smearing commences during devaluation.
The Magnet Empath is a popular person with many empathic attributes, their energy level is not as great as other kinds since they engage more in words than actions, but that is not to say they do not act, just not to the same degree as other types of empath. They also have many demands on their time and attention which ultimately will clash with the desires of our kind, resulting in conflict and control. This will not only hurt this type of empath but result in them feeling torn since they feel obliged to assist others, not just the narcissist and this will result in the narcissist wishing to regulate those behaviours and isolate the Magnet Empath. Their capacity to draw people to them in whatever circumstance, even when not actively doing so, will irk the narcissist considerably during devaluation and provide him or her with the grounds for attack and triangulation.
An excellent fuel provider, both in themselves and the ability to bring others to the narcissist’s table and the Magnet Empath is someone who hangs in there, always strung along by hope, which is at the centre of the magnet’s being,usually to their ultimate detriment during devaluation and also in terms of susceptibility to post discard/post escape hoovering.
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I’m hoping for one of these articles eventually on contagion empaths, or is it mostly a generic? I’m only 12% magnet. My mom on the other hand has to be mostly magnet, one day I’ll get her a reading 🙂 always has people out of nowhere telling her private things usually to their shagrin, they’d relax when she’d warmly chuckle and tell them she was used to it, my friends loved coming over esp if they were upset because she has soothing energy that takes the tension off just being around her. Always wished to be more like her in that way, graceful, loving and glowing… I’m a clumsy trainwreck 😂 we do share that curse of hope though… That carrot that keeps us running in circles *facepalm*
One of my favorite people in the world, Dolly Parton is probably a Magnet but most definitely an empath. I just love the warm kindness emanating from her. She tend to make a lot of self deprecating jokes about being blonde, big breasted, and wearing a lot of makeup and a big hair but I don’t think that it’s because she’s a people pleaser or she has low self esteem but it’s because she wants to be personable and approachable to people. She has been married for over half a century to this man that is very private and she has been very respectful of his boundaries. She said that she goes on tours and doesn’t see him for a long time while he stayed home doing his asphalt-paving business and when she comes home from her concerts and tours they are both excited to listen to each other’s stories. I love her story about her coat of many colors and how she was made fun of but she didn’t let it break her. My kids got so much free books from her Imagination Library and they love the two books that she wrote. I believe she has said that she started that program because she believes in the importance of childhood literacy especially since her dad didn’t know how to read. She doesn’t have any kids because oh health reasons but she said if she did she wouldn’t have achieved what she has achieved because she would leave the industry and focus on raising her child which she would have totally loved to do which shows she has a strong nurturing part in her.
MP,
I think you are right. I lived in Nashville for a while. It’s a very close knit place. Country music people are slightly different to other types of musicians, in that they appear to be more down to earth, less affected. I’m not big into country music, so I’d be in a restaurant and someone would say ,‘That’s Blake Shelton over there.’ I’d say, ‘Who?’ But it’s very like that, low key. There’s no fuss over them. I chatted to Keith Urban at a pumpkin patch while our kids were playing in the hay bale maze. Didn’t know him either. Ha ha! In fairness though, he wasn’t doing the sunglasses on ‘ Oh don’t talk to me.’ routine.
I knew a few songwriters and musicians when I was there. They’d play at the Bluebird from time to time but a lot of it was low key, writing, not as much glitz and glamour as there is with other types of music. I never heard a bad word spoken about Dolly. People who had direct dealings with her included. Highly respected, much loved. Private. I’ll eat my knickers if she’s a narc. Not sure about magnet though.
That sounds like a really cool culture in Nashville. I’m not into country music either but I would love to visit that place for the experience. It sounds like a lot of people there are nice and down to earth.
MP,
Yes, the place has a good vibe to it. It’s a strange city in many respects. There’s no real city centre. There is, but really it’s just a row of honkytonk bars and restaurants. There are pockets of shops and cafe’s in different areas around the city. It misses a real city feel though.
People wise, nice people, down to earth, music is everywhere but in a non glamorous way. The place has a soul about it for that reason. I wish I had been more into the country music aspect really, it’s key strength was lost on me a little but the people I found to be genuine. Strong values, strong faith, family oriented etc. I think you would like it. It’s worth a visit definitely.
Gawd, just read that back, littered with grammar errors even by my standards, sorry folks!
Haha TS I’m a walking grammar disaster. I try to correct them when I see the error but I try not to concern myself too much. My past and present tenses are often wrong and sometimes I use words that I thought have the same meaning but I find out is not appropriate for the context of my sentence and the structure of how I write my thoughts even change the meaning without me realizing it until I carefully read it several times. But for what it’s worth, I didn’t notice grammar errors from you.
TS, I make so many mistakes, when I reread it’s embarrassing. Haha, so I don’t reread unless I have to! Sometimes it’s autocorrect, often I’m just excited about what I’m writing and do it too fast, sometimes I’m tired or preoccupied but want to get a thought out before I forget, many reasons for errors, I can’t worry about it or it would hinder me here. Fwiw, I don’t know what errors you found, looks good to me.
Thank you MP 🙂 Honestly, if I could write in a second language as well as several of the commenters here, I would be very proud of myself!
AV,
Autocorrect can work against us you’re right. I was tired too last night. Tuesdays I have French German Maths and Science between the two kids. My brain is always fried on Tuesdays. Nearly there, two days to go. Then I’ll be sad on Monday when they go back to school! I’ve enjoyed having them with me. I’ve even enjoyed some of the subjects! Other than Physics, hated Physics at school, hated it still. Consistent then!
TS, I did not realize you had children and certainly not old enough to be doing Physics! I love Physics, Algebra was my nemesis.
AV,
Yes I have two. My boy Sam is 14 and Sophie is 13. They behave like twins, fight like cat and dog, until it’s an outsider, then they stand shoulder to shoulder!
TS,
I love the name Sophie. Your two are like my brother and I, 15 month apart. We got along very well and were like twins in many ways also. If there is another empath in my family, it would be him. But I don’t know him any more so who knows. I miss him.
It’s sweet to hear that you’re enjoying them, the time goes by so fast.
AV, I’m sad to hear about your brother too. I hope you get the chance to get to know him again.
Thank you Leigh, I do too.
AV,
That’s sad to read about your brother. I won’t pry, but hopefully one day you two can reconnect. Sometimes it just takes the first move. Families can be tough though, I know that too.
The sibling dynamic confuses me! I’m an only child, always wanted an older brother. The sibling rivalry is bizarre. I have always taken care to treat both evenly, time, hugs, talks, even Santa left the same number of gifts under the tree. Still the rivalry, venomous, until the chips are down, then they’re a defensive fighting unit. The mind boggles!
Yes, I do enjoy them. I’ll be awful on Monday when they go back to school. Feels like first day of Kindergarten all over again. I dwell terribly about time passing. I see that date looming already when they ship off to their adult life. I feel like a competitor on Treasure Hunt. ‘Stop the clock!’
I really love her too MP, I think you’re spot on x
Thank you AlexisS! x
She’s an Empath. No doubt. She’s lovely.
MP,
I’m not so sure…lots of rumors about infidelity and all that plastic surgery….I agree she makes fun of her trashy look but even Greater narcs can have a schtick. Not saying she is, but there are red flags in my opinon.
Hello SN, I understand the points you made and how those can indeed be red flags. Personally for me, I do tag red flags on people but the biggest conclusive factor for me is how they love their lives in a span of many years. If I see a pervasive pattern of lack of accountability, provocation, lack of remorse, dishonesty etc. I am most likely to believe the person is a narcissist.
I have read the articles about infidelity and from how I understood them, she and her husband allows each other to be flirtatious and she even calls it an open marriage (which I think is not accurate but I could be wrong). She said that they are allowed to flirt as long as there is no sex. She did allude that there was one case that the flirtation ended up getting more serious even though it didn’t involve sex and she considered that as infidelity. She said that the affair ended up going in a bad direction that it caused her to be depressed and she even contemplated suicide at that time. Personally I think it sounded more like she may have gotten ensnared by a narcissist. She said that she is ok that her husband flirts here and there as long as it stops there. She said there was one woman that he started spending more and more time although he didn’t have sex with the woman it started to threaten her because the woman was beautiful and had long legs which she doesn’t have. So she said she got rid of that woman really fast and she wrote Jolene inspired by that woman. I think for me, Judd gong all of her behaviors including the red flags, the red flags still fall on the boundary of not being NPD. Also I think being a celebrity makes her a lot more narcissistic and maybe even insecure in terms of her appearance which can cause her to have plastic surgeries.
I see your points but I also don’t know many empaths who would embrace and be ok with the concept of an “open marriage”.
I think talking openly about having an emotional affair that almost drove you to suicide shows a distinct lack of emotional empathy toward your spouse and reeks of triangulation. “Getting rid” of someone your husband spends time with, but being ok with flirting yourself also shows a sense of entitlement, lack of emotional empathy, lack of accountability, and the use of double standards as well.
Perhaps HG will enlighten us one day!
I think I would definitely add her in my list for HG to assess. Thank you for your good points SN.
Aha, this is a different perspective, thank you! I just sent her in on my Know the Empath, due to this thread. She may be going on my Narc Bullets after all! Thank you!
Will the narcissistic abuse quench the inner light of the magnet empath?
No, it will reduce the individuals emotional empathy for a period of time but it will not be extinguished. It will return when the empath implements and sustains no contact.
Thank you!
Excellent article HG. Very well written. Brilliant. Thank you HG.
Thank you.
Same, I wish I had a little sometimes.
Leela, my above comment was supposed to be a reply to you, I did it from the WordPress site so it didn’t go where I expected it to. Oops. 🙂
Sounds like my cadre.They are all drawn to me. Hehehe
0 % Magnet here. 🙁
I’m Magnet and trying to figure out how it manifests because I most certainly do not glide into rooms…haha
“do not glide into rooms” – laughing…… I just loved it….
BC30, I suspect your Geyser makes you an animated Magnet, probably a lot of fun at a party for both you and the other attendees! I think your combination would be an effervescent sparkling kind of welcome acceptance of others, joyful. I have a daughter that makes me think this, she loves people and isn’t shy, she can be boisterous but always is feminine and warm. She also has a side that responds quickly both with humor or in defense of another if there is need, but if that happens it is over and done before you know it and everyone is happy again. Sadly, she won’t stand up for herself the same way. She is beautiful and it is a fun thing to watch her interact with people and their response to her. If this is way off I’d be very curious how your combo manifests, I think it’s fascinating!
BC30, only just saw this! Ha ha. Me either, though I don’t stomp or slouch either. Stride, I stride. Honestly I think that’s because all my partners have been so tall. I had to stride to keep up! I certainly wasn’t going to trot at the side like a Shetland pony!
I trot. 😂. I was also told once that I stomp, and also that I move silently. Depends on the situation and the perception of the other person I guess. My (guessed) Geyser daughter stomps, we have lovingly teased her about it for years, we always know when she’s moving around!
@BC30
I’m 36% magnet and I don’t glide into rooms either and I am reserved and can be shy, until I’m comfortable around you then I will be my true weird self and will start talking to the wall in front of you
I’m a walking contradiction with every cadre fighting for control. LOL I can be the life of the party, but more often will go talk to the wallflower so they don’t fee left out. I have the same amount of Magnet and Savior.
I’ve perfected RBF, but it is a defense mechanism. People who get to know me know it’s all a show. My boss has gotten me gifts that say things like, “I hate everyone too.” On the other hand I can be very personable and persuasive. I think like Alexis mentions, I can dim it.
I like being extroverted, but on my terms– if that makes sense.
@BC30
I am majority carrier with only 7%saviour and geyser. I tend to assess social groups first and then decide how honest and weird I can be infront of these people.
I tend to keep work very separate from my personal life and I don’t consider anyone “my friend” at work. I think this is because how I say things can be very ghetto and I can’t afford to have people who are more sensitive misunderstanding me. So I have a work persona that’s different. Even people in my personal life are exposed to certain character traits that others aren’t.
I wouldn’t say I’m naturally good at fitting in socially which is why sometimes I have to mask
Ah, so your minority cadres are evenly split as well? I don’t have friends at work, but my boss is so kind she’s been called a marshmallow by our colleagues!
@BC30
I’m luckily too. I’ve had all empath seniors otherwise I wouldn’t be able to cope.
I’ve heard horror stories regarding some other agencies that are more feminist and ideology based .. they seem to attract more narcissists
I am always the same, if I even go to the party, I step in the door, step to one side and observe the situation. Then, if I find a person I know who is alone, I will work my way over to them and start a conversation. If there is no one I know present, or at least know enough to want to talk to, I will just stand there, maybe go for a beverage and some snacks, maybe not. Then, after a while, I leave. Haha, that’s it. And it takes several days to recover. There are two small groups of people in my life that it would be different with, and those get-togethers are rare.
“…start talking to the wall in front of you”? Lol! Thank you for the giggle!
I’m not a glider. There are times when I instinctively dim my magnetic qualities, I think perhaps when a room is full of people who would be unappreciative (too many female Ns lol). There are times when I don’t dim it and I wish I did because it makes me the odd female N completely despise me. But I never learn, although I am trying to hahah something inside me just makes me unable to help myself.
I always look back and remember the rule of not dressing better than the person who is hosting a party. God I should listen to that advice hahah and no I’m not a flamboyant dresser but people (in most situations) very much know I’m in the room. Crikey I must be really annoying
It’s not your fault that the female narc decided to turn up to the party in washed out leggings, unblended blue eye shadow and crusty toes hanging out a tacky sandal heel, then starts cleaning up the whole house at the end of the party to prove that she’s wifey material.
Just be yourself!
Hahahah aww that made me laugh witch. Yes I am myself, I struggle to be anything but lol but i am learning to recognise that it can be helpful to at times
Alexis, has it always been so for you? Even when you were with the narcissist(s)?
Av has what always been the same? That I dim it or some female Ns don’t like me?
Almost spat my tea out. Brilliant!
Alexissmith, that you’re always yourself, has that always been so?
Alexis,
Honestly, I just enjoy clothes. I love making an effort for the right occasion and I don’t see anything wrong with that. I don’t criticise what anyone else is wearing, I don’t see why people should criticise me either.
If other women have a problem, that’s their problem.
I love people to do well, I love people to look nice, feel confident and make the best of themselves if that’s what they want to do. I find it odd that others don’t feel the same.
I don’t intentionally attention seek. I don’t try to one up anybody. I work hard to maintain my figure, I should be able to enjoy the fruits of my hard work! If that’s narcy, then so be it ha ha! I bet you do light up a room Alexis, good for you girl!
Oh god I can be very attention seeking when I want to be hahah. It sounds like you take really good care of yourself TS
I know I don’t understand at all why other people don’t want others to succeed. I would always help others to achieve their goals, in the past that included narcs, now it doesn’t, but nor do I wish them anything bad either – I just don’t care.
Blue eyeshadow and 80s blush up near the hairline are back!
BC30
Yes they are! I’ll be first in line for the 80’s perm too haha!
Aquanet or Rave?!! Bigger the hair, the better!
The 80’s were the best! Stylistically as well as many other ways!
It was a great time to be alive!
BC30,
Do you remember the spiral perm? I had that ha ha! I used to put so much mousse in it, you could lift up entire sections of my hair in one piece!
Agree, they were a great time. I remember ‘Taping’ the top 40 on a Sunday night, trying to hit the record button at just the right time to cut out the talking in between. Blue ghetto blaster on the window sill as I danced along to the songs. Was a Gloria Estefan fan, and Madonna. Both narcs. Is there nothing sacred?!
I love to dress up as well. It has been discouraging this last year, with Covid, to not have any place to go. But even on a day to day basis, I enjoy looking my best. I think in part it stems from my upbringing by the narcissists, particularly my dad on this one. But it is something I am thankful for.
AV,
The timing of reading your comment is quite funny. I’ve just opened my Sweaty Betty order and laid my new outfit on the bed.
Ha ha! Yes, I even have to look good at the gym, though I don’t go with full make up on and don’t text people while I’m on the elliptical.
I shall go hang my head in shame!
I definitely see the magnet in you. I was drawn to you almost immediately. You were one of the commenters that made me feel at ease.
Really? That’s sweet. Ty. It’s something think about often, but I like to be welcoming and include everyone. I never want anyone to feel left out. No one left behind!
Absolutely! I first came to narcsite about two years ago. I didn’t comment. I just read. At the time, I didn’t realize my husband and my parents were narcissists. I had come because of workplace narc. When I finally had the backbone to interact, you were one of the only ones I felt safe enough to interact with. Thank you 🙂
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