How to Handle the Narcissist At Court
This Logic Bulletin provides you with a considerable array of information about how you deal with the narcissist at a court hearing.
Whether it is recovering money or property, a hearing about child arrangements, dealing with divorce or a dispute over a boundary there is a significant chance you will end up in court at some point with a narcissist.
This bulletin enables you to understand the a huge amount about attending the court hearing where a narcissist is involved and includes the following:-
- How the narcissist will behave in court, broken down between the different schools of narcissist
- What the narcissist wants from the court hearing
- How the narcissist will behave towards you at a court hearing
- How the narcissist will use Lieutenants and The Coterie at a court hearing
- What you can do to maximise your prospects of success at the court hearing
- How you should handle the narcissist at the court hearing
- How the narcissist will try to hoover you at this court hearing
- Key considerations you need to understand with regard to your lawyer, court officials and court experts
- How you should conduct yourself in the court hearing
- The standard manipulations you can expect from the narcissist
- A series of practical steps and “Best practice” for you to use to not only succeed but to avoid increase anxiety and upset with regard to the process
- Plus much, much more.
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I knew I was fucked in my court case when my former narcissist from hell coworker said “so help me god” before his testimony. He hit me in the face back in January and we finally had our hearing this morning from my pressing charges. This fool detested religion and made fun of folks that find solace in their beliefs. When I heard him affirm he’d be honest upon that Bible it was lying time. He denied his horrible treatment of me, his awful reviews and customer complaints, and he lied that he put his hands on me after threatening me with his fist. (My reactions to the violence was a super situation. I’ve been that mad maybe 5 times in 5 decades.) The state attorney had forewarned me it’s a “he said she said” situation and it would likely be not guilty. My former narc coworker had an attorney that looked like he smelled terrible, was completely non groomed and wore a wrinkled suit that looked like it’d be on the floor for a few weeks. Sure enough, not guilty. Okay fine, it’s over now, yay. The piece of 💩ex-coworker made a satisfied noise as I walked by his bench. I stopped and stepped back to I guess let the court know but instead I quietly told him that he was gonna get his. My emotional thinking went sky high, I was so pissed. It didn’t help that we drove away at the same time with me directly behind him. I road raged him until he got away from me. I hoovered him on his road and drove past his house. It’s stupid af now but I had no regard for the law or any type of empathy. Even after 7 months of no contact I want to destroy him more. I want to make him paranoid and to suffer. He put me thru hell in a floral position that I loved dearly. Evil isn’t a strong enough word for this beast. I’m sure I just fed him tons of fuel for the very last time but I still pretend think I gave him a reason to be scared. My son (empath for sure) works for the county police and he helped move my rage into tears after getting home. Crying when I’m mad seems to help calm me down. It turns into “why do these evil fuckfaces, I mean narcissist’, always win?” “Why can’t I exist quietly without being either sexually harassed and/or verbally/violently assaulted?” I’m not a shithead. I’m peaceful and sincerely only wish to be happy and for others to feel happy as well. I’m still trying to swallow the reasons a narcissist wants to control me and why our orbits continuously collide. One day I feel super confident and being ever mindful of ET and the next, I’m road raging a man I hate. I don’t know if I’m fixable 🤪
I feel empathy for the state attorney to loose cases frequently. I feel lots of empathy for people that experience the dismissal of a violent deed. That sucked ass to be called “credible” then hear “not guilty.” I spoke the truth with zero emotion on the stand. My integrity is intact. It’s no wonder so many abused victims don’t even bother telling what’s happened to them.
Anm,
“The Narcisisst has decided to start representing himself.”
“the attorney he once painted all white he smeared in court”
“he yelled at the judge numerous times while interupting her”
Not pleasant, but sounds pretty textbook for a narcissist.
I just had a court date recently and leading up to it, my ex decided to self-represent as well. Then at court, he asks for time to find a new lawyer (self-created delay.)
“it wasn’t a pleasant experience dealing with someone so mental, but the courts actually sympathized with.”
Maybe their sympathy will expire soon after behaviour like that?
I’m glad to hear that you got most of what you want.
Who cares, what your ex did, is what I think my ex will do now. Here is how Narcisisst my ex is. We finally got a new judge (thank God), and my ex was so in contempt of court, that instead of filing an enforcement, I filed to modify the orders so that I could put extra provisions in there, and throw out what obviously isn’t working. In my exes response, and in narcissistic fashion, he stated that the courts should not grant me anything, but should give him xyz. When the judge started the hearing, she said, “Let’s go ahead and set this case for trial.” My ex started fake crying, and was like, “I don’t want to set anything for trial, I want you to dismiss her petition.” The judge was like, “if you wanted to dismiss her petition, why didn’t you file a motion to do so, instead you filed a response.” He was like, “fine. I would like to file a motion then to dismiss, and another motion to have the court designate her as a vextascious litigant”. The judge then said, “you can file anything you want. We have to keep moving this forward, and mother has met all the legal requirements to do so.” I kept pushing for temporary orders to put in place for the time being, and so the judge asked him if he could “temporarily” just give me the schedule I was asking for. More fake tears. She kept telling him, “I know this is hard. We are dealing with your parenting time, but if you don’t work things out with the mother, you are going to just keep coming back to my court.” It was bad.
Ugh, Anm, he sounds so whiny. Even more so than mine, and mine is a Mid-ranger.
So far, sounds like judge is sticking to logic!
Lisa, my fingers are crossed
I had court again today. The Narcisisst has decided to start representing himself. The Narcisisst was displaying strong male BPD/Narcissistic traits (crying/being a victim, the attorney he once painted all white he smeared in court claiming that the previous attorney took advantage of him financially, he painted me black because I forced him to be there and claimed I was the Narcisisst, he yelled at the judge numerous times while interupting her, he monopolized the time at the hearing). Total shit show. It forced me to use my words wisely. When I spoke, I couldn’t defend every accusation, and I kept moving to get what I wanted in way that conveyed resolution. I was granted most of what I was asking, but it wasn’t a pleasant experience dealing with someone so mental, but the courts actually sympathized with.
Anm,
I have an earlier reply that apparently fell short of the reply button under your post.
I agree that it’s frustrating when the courts entertain them despite their very poor behaviour.
It almost seems, in your case, that he has all his true colors on display and you just need to keep showing up at court, being the decent and reasonable person that you are ,and you’ll outshine him.
Sympathized with you or with him?
Naturally, the person crying in the room, not me.
Once upon a time, “my” narcissist, during a court hearing, addressed me as a stranger, whom he sees for the first time 🙂
After the sentence was announced, he told the judge, “I’m not going to pay anything!”
And he did not pay. For 13 years, neither the court, nor the offices, nor the bailiff were able to force him to support his child.
Did you have a lawyer representing you in your enforcement endeavours?
Yes. However, it is difficult to execute a ghost man 🙂
Currently, he and his narcissistic family live 1700 km away from me. He gave me the real address at the time of hoovering (checked).
After 13 years of no contact, we arranged the financial matters ourselves, without lawyers. We signed a contract between us. He even gives more than we agreed. He needs it to build a facade (“I HAVE CAME”) + fuel of admiration, shock + some other needs related to mother’s triangulation.
Sick, but has been working for a year. Better than the legal institutions I was disappointed with …
Joa, 13 years, that’s better late than never. You are absolutely correct, the legal institutions are frustrating, and frustrated with narcissist. It sounds like you made a request to a narcissist at the right time. You wanted to move on, and he wanted to showcase his generosity to new supply.
There is all kinds of ways to go around child support enforcement. A Narcisisst could quit their job every few months before child support agencies catch on that they have started a new job, they can work for cash, etc. If someone is truly a narcissist, and is so obsessed with money and spite, than I always tell people, if you can, allow the child support to build up to a significant amount, instead of enforcing it and then eventually offer the Narcisisst to have them sign over their parental rights in exchange for some type of elimination of the child support/debt forgiveness. That part will take a significant amount of money from the victim though because you will need an attorney to navigate the child support laws and parental rights termination proceedings. I don’t recommend this without an attorney, because someone could land themselves with child trafficking charges, but it’s one way of permanently having the Narcisisst walk away. I hope your kids and you are out of that mess now. It’s exhausting.
ANM
Ugh. It is maddening to experience and I feel for you having to endure it and stay the course while you feel like screaming.
I’ve told this before but don’t know if you saw it:
StepNarc was in court once for careless driving. The judge asked if my mother was in the car. Confirmed. He then said he would like to hear from her how things unfolded. SN burst out with “whaddya wanna talk to her for! She’s just gonna tell you the same thing!”
(She’d been coached but he didn’t trust her not to get caught out). The courtroom erupted in laughter including the judge. They likely thought him so stupid and pathetic they let him off. Frustrating.
Hopefully in your case, their patience will wear thin and as you continue to stay focused he becomes more transparent for what he really is, or at least what he’s trying to pull.
Yes, you nailed it correctly right there. Narcisisst are often so embarrassing in court, that that is ultimately how they receive their sympathy from the court. Nothing is below them, so if they can act embarrassing to confuse or gain pity, they will do it.
“Narcisisst are often so embarrassing in court, that that is ultimately how they receive their sympathy from the court.”
This made me laugh. It’s funny – and so not funny.