The issue of our kind impregnating a victim is yet another tool that exists within our manipulative toolkit to enable us to achieve our aims. I daresay some of you may find it abhorrent and reprehensible that such an act as conception and the bringing forth of new life should also fall within our repertoire of machinations. Others of you will not be surprised, long-used to the notion that nothing is off limits to us. Everything is in play. As ever,the issue of impregnation and the forthcoming birth is very much something that is relevant to our kind and as ever, I provide you with the truth of how it is regarded by our kind, no matter how unpalatable it may be.
There are several ways in which the act of conception, pregnancy and the issue of children are used to further our dark agendas.
- The Promise
The promise to give you children at the early stage of the relationship is always done with a view to ensuring that you succumb to our seduction. See how committed we are to you? We want to have children with you. You. Nobody else. What other commitment underlines and reinforces the strength of our desire to you? The joining of two people in love and creating new life together is the epitome of commitment. How your eyes fill with joyous tears and that look of spreading delight crosses your face when you realise that this wonderful, brilliant and magnificent person wants to have children with you. Whether it is impregnating you or us bearing your child, this promise is readily wheeled out in order to clinch the deal. What you should also have regard to that expressing a desire to make you pregnant/become pregnant by you is actually all about reinforcing our dominance over you. From the male narcissistic perspective, the act of having you take our seed deep inside of you, subjugated to our desire to create new life underlines our power. You are not only allowing us to enter your most private of places but you are allowing us to deposit our very essence there as well. To us this is the ultimate act of conquest. We have vanquished all resistance and there, deep in your sacred and intimate place we have placed ourselves. From the female perspective, the act of becoming pregnant by you underlines how we have subsumed you into us. We have engulfed you and drawn that which defines you into our very deepest of places. We have similarly conquered you.
Not only is this promise made early in the seduction, it will be made irrespective of existing children we may have and that you may have. In our minds they are all just tests demonstrating our fertility for this most supreme of acts, the union of you and I. If we are considerably younger than you and you are female, aware of the ticking of the biological clock this promise of wanting to impregnate you will be used as a golden carrot to dangle in front of you. You are on the cusp of being barren, sterile years may well beckon and here we are, youthful, virile, fertile ready to not only give you our perfect love but to offer that perfect love by way of impregnating you. It is a powerful and irresistible promise which many find exhilarating and captivating. Add to this mix any existing issues in terms of trying to conceive or give birth and this vulnerability will be exploited even further. We want to give you what you want, only because it will give us what we want.
This promise will be launched at you from early on and will initially seem like a loving and romantic comment to make, but it is one that is borne out of the need to dominate and conquer and is a promise that will be made good for the second reason.
There is no better way to bind you to us than the issue of children. The creation of children means that you are far less likely (and indeed in many cases unable) to escape us. You want the perfect image of a family and with someone who has arrived with such a glorious love for you, who better than us to have children with? We know that because as an empathic person you will dedicate yourself to their upbringing and therefore allow us reduce our own involvement save when it suits us. As you know, when you need support we are invariably found to be lacking. We choose having children as a means of tying you tight to us, ensuring you will provide plenty of fuel for us and have a huge obstacle in your way when it comes to trying to escape us. We have no desire to have children with you because of anything to do with you. We are using you as an incubator. We are like the insect which arrives and lays its eggs in another host causing them to do all the hard work. Once those eggs hatch you will be consumed, cast aside, just as that insect would with the empty husk of the carrier whose role has been completed. You are an appliance that supplies fuel. You are an appliance which is there to carry our offspring leaving us free to cultivate other fuel sources. You will receive little or no help from us, or be doted on, dependent on whether the pregnancy remains in the golden period. Whichever it is we expect you to bring forth our issue without complication or problem because these children are required for the third and fourth reasons.
What better device to use as a means of triangulation than one’s own children? These pawns are used in the ongoing competition with you.
“I love you more than mummy, you know that don’t you?”
“I’m your favourite aren’t I?”
“Let’s not tell daddy about this.”
“Mummy doesn’t really love you, but I do.”
Such utterances are issued in order to ensure that the children understand who is their master and commander. They will be used to provide us with fuel as they find themselves to our manipulations also but more than anything else they are a necessary and brilliant device that is used to triangulate with you.
“I will let you but daddy won’t.”
“Isn’t Mummy grumpy today?”
“Here, take this money but don’t tell your mother.”
“Aren’t you happy you look just like me?”
Your parenting of these children will be questioned. What you once did so well, will become the subject of scrutiny and criticism. Any perceived failure on the part of the advancement of these children – in education, popularity, sport and social competence – will be laid at your door. You have failed them. This heartless and savage criticism, attacking your competency as a parent is a fantastic method of causing you to spill fuel. All the while to the outside world we will appear the doting dad, the marvellous mother, the perfect parent. Little does the façade reveal of the tyrannical reign that emerges behind that closed door. The tears and sobbing never cross the threshold.
We wish to live forever. Someone as brilliant as ourselves deserves this and children provide the ideal conduit for securing that legacy. Our magnificence lives on through the accomplishments and achievements of children.
“He gets his brains from me.”
“Yes I was a champion sprinter as well.”
“He has inherited my artistic side.”
“I always knew he would follow me into the profession.”
“It is in the good genes I gave her; I always knew she would be a brilliant swimmer.”
The child never achieves anything. We caused those achievements. The credit will always be hoovered up by us. Sucking the admiration and fuel from onlookers as we grasp the glory and seize it for ourselves. We never give credit to anybody else and we make no adjustment to this selfishness with our children. They are just a further extension of ourselves. We attached you to us as an extension but we actually created these extensions, that is how powerful we consider ourselves to be.
We believe that children are the future.
12 thoughts on “Impregnate”
Oh my, this reminds me of the conversation that my ex narc started when he told me he wanted me to have his baby. Mind you, I am 52 years old with two grown daughters and five grandchildren 13 years old to 2 years. The youngest 3 live with me and their mom. Shockingly, this man had me looking into IVF!! Now, if I can be even remotely persuaded to consider this I know I was dealing with a master manipulator from the pits of hell! I love my children and grandkids with all my heart but dear Lord! I was brainwashed to the ultimate degree because there ain’t no way in hades would I want more kids! Lolol. 😂🤪
Haha, they can be persuasive, can’t they?! We kind of lose our heads when the addiction takes hold!
AV, lol, yes they can be!! Not only did he have me thinking about IVF but had me considering leaving my great job and home to move in with him. He kept pressuring me and swore that we would get our own beautiful new home together as soon as I left all behind including my family and friends. This was all in the first couple of months! Oh and the travel to Europe in the summer! He promised me a wonderful time traveling with him and all the places we would go. Thank God I came to my senses! Grateful his masked slipped otherwise I might be stuck with him now barefoot and pregnant!! Lol 🍼😳🤦♀️
Wendy, I am happy for you that you saw him for what he was! To ask you to leave your family behind?! That’s extreme! “…stuck with him now barefoot and pregnant!!”-this made me laugh! 😂 Dreadful thought!
AV, yes quite Dreadful! Glad you got a giggle and I can laugh some now as well. My 24 year old daughter told me “ mom, if you come home pregnant I’ll disown you!”Lol They really have power over us but thankful his spell was broken by his own doing. 🙏
Wendy, I read your story with a WTF but I am glad you shared it. It was still a ‘wow’, another perspective (experience) of what narcissism does those who have it and those around them.
Asp Emp, I look back and still say WTF was I thinking! Haha. I read many of the comments on here and have learned so much from everyone’s different yet very much the same stories. It’s healing. I think of the narc less and less everyday. 😊
Wendy, it happens. We get mentally ‘re-programmed’ through our emotions being manipulated without understanding why until we come across this valuable site. Glad you’re finding things easier now 🙂
Wendy , you made an excellent choice! He future faked you and then you would be barefoot, pregnant and isolated from the whole entire WORLD!!!!
Eternity, thank you! You are right. I am so glad I got away!
Thanks for sharing your story Wendy. Wow, that was a close shave!
May I ask you how his mask slipped? I’d be interested to know, if you don’t mind sharing.
Hi Fiddleress. Yw and I’d be happy to. He was not one to rage or get loud even when he was upset. I would explain it as silent rage that I’ve heard people describe. But, when it really started to show was how he became so upset and angry when I would not answer his calls. To him this was an ultimate betrayal and I immediately was told that I was “fucking around” in his words. ( projection) In Lowe’s one day while talking to the sales rep he blew my phone up and demanded I video chat him so he could see I was where I said I was. Then he would demand me to “stop the idiotic laughing!” just because I found something funny not at him just in general. And then finding the evidence of cheating that I believe he wanted me to find as a payment for my discretions of not answering his calls or visiting a friend when he didn’t want me to. Finding all of the solicitations to prostitutes and women on his phone. He started to not respond to my to texts or calls for hours. It all started going downhill until I finally said “that it’s” I’m walking away from this. Then he actually hoovered me back when I got weak and unblocked him on my phone after two weeks. I foolishly went to visit him one more time and my car broke down while visiting him. I needed him to help me get back home and he became so angry saying I was causing him to lose time off from work to have to drive me home. Just a real ass and after that I completely blocked him on everything. More examples but this is some of it. I was being devalued and he already had a new supply lovebombing her I’m sure. Also several IPSS.