You Wait Until Later Tonight

 

YOU WAIT UNTIL LATER TONIGHT 

You wait until later tonight. Oh such promise. I expect those words are already generating an excited anticipation as to what lies in store for you. When I whisper those words down the telephone line to you or in your ear as I lean down over you, you can feel that delicious tingle drift across you, like the lightest of sensual touches. How you marvel at my surprises.

Each day feels like your birthday as some new delight is sent your way. What might it be tonight? Will it be an evening out somewhere? Perhaps the prominence of a favourable table in a well-regarded restaurant? It might be drinks with my friends who have taken such a shine to you and made you feel completely at home. Then again it might be the presentation of some gift, carefully selected by reference to the desires you have and which we have learned about you from careful scrutiny of your behaviour, from a dedicated attention to what you tell us and our own expertly honed intuition borne from repeated practice. There is a myriad of opportunities and this is what makes us so special to you.

We offer so many different avenues towards pleasure, love and delight. We know what makes you tick and we utilise that to ensure you are made joyously happy. But it is the promise of what is to come that works so well. It plays to your sense of intrigue, it heightens your expectation and thrills you. Rather than giving you it now, we create a delicious sense of expectation causing you to look forward to whatever it might be with considerable hunger.

How exciting this all is, how different this is to anything you have experienced before. It is fantastic to be treated so magnificently.You wonder what the surprise is? What will come later? Perhaps with the reference being made to you waiting until later tonight it will be a passionate and sensual encounter between the sheets? The mere thought of that causes a surge of delight to rise from deep inside of you as your mind conjures up the evocative images of our last night together.

You can honestly say you have never experienced anything like it before. We set you ablaze with passion, the energy that flowed between us was tangible and the urgent union of our bodies culminated in the most scintillating of conclusions. It was truly magnificent. The throaty way we suggested to you that you wait until later tonight must surely mean that this is what is in store for you? Another earth-shattering coupling. Both your body and mind are already responding to this prospect, the warmth of anticipation flooding across your body. You replay those words that I murmured to you and think of that promise…..

You wait until later tonight. Oh such a threat. I expect those words are already generating a fearful anticipation as to what lies in store for you. When I growl those words down the telephone line to you or hiss them in your ear as I loom over you, you can feel that sinking dread crawl across you, like the dead cold grip of a wraith has touched you. How you baulk at my threats.

Each day feels like your funeral as some spiteful threat is sent your way. What might it be tonight? Will it be an evening of silence with glowering looks from across the room? Perhaps the unsophisticated onslaught of words and fists, raining down on you, blunt instruments of awful intimidation? It might be the humiliation of drinks with my friends who have taken such a dislike to you and make you feel completely isolated whenever I force you to endure them.

Then again it might be the presentation of some fabricated home truths, carefully selected by reference to the weaknesses that you have and which we have learned about you from carefully scrutiny of your behaviour, from a dedicated attention to what you tell us and our own expertly honed intuition borne from repeated practice of hurling insults at the person we supposedly love. There is a myriad of opportunities and this is what makes us so awful to you. We offer so many different avenues towards hatred, humiliation and fear.

We know what makes you sick and we utilise that to ensure you are made deliriously fearful. But it is the threat of what is to come that works so well. It plays to your sense of terror, it heightens your dread and paralyses you. Rather than giving you the abusive delivery now, we create a mortifying sense of fearful expectation causing you to have anxiety as to whatever it might be that is to be exacted against you. How terrifying this all is, how different this is to anything you have experienced before. It is frightening to be treated so horribly.

You wonder what is lurking in store for you? What will come later? Perhaps with the reference being made to you waiting until later tonight it will be an unwanted and degrading encounter between the sheets? The mere thought of that causes a surge of nausea to rise from deep inside of you as your mind conjures up the excruciating images of the last time that happened. You can honestly say you have never experienced anything like it before. We set you on edge, the venom that flowed from us was so poisonous and the urgent delivery of our abuse culminated in the most degrading of outcomes. It was truly horrific.

The malevolent way we suggested to you that you wait until later tonight must surely mean that this is what is in store for you? Another disgusting, degrading act meted out against you. Both your body and mind are already responding to this prospect, dizzying fear and pounding heart gripping you. You replay those words that I murmured to you and think of that threat….

What a difference a day makes.

The outcome may seem different to you but to us it is always the same. Whether it is seductive charmer or malevolent abuser it is about control.

The threat of what might happen is often more enjoyable/more terrible than the actual event itself.

This is what creates such considerable control.

And who do we regard as responsible for causing this?

Not us.

You are the one who thinks about what is going to happen.

You are the one who creates the scenarios in your mind.

You are the one who creates the anticipation, be it of excitement or fear.

Yet again, we are able to blame you.

5 thoughts on “You Wait Until Later Tonight

  1. A Victor says:

    This article just speaks to me of terror. I don’t handle future promises or future threats well, they both shut me down, one because it won’t happen, the other because it will. This type of manipulation was not used by my exes, after my parents, I would’ve walked away had they tried.

    1. Joa says:

      AV, you are right. In a veiled way, it is terror. An excellent tool to keep a person ready and in the expected position.

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      For work narcissists, I drop promises in one ear and let out the other.

      Last week, we had a close meeting on the future of the company and the personnel and personnel policy. Constantly changed future decisions, thanks to which the boss keeps his subordinate narcissists in check. I was almost asleep. At one point, the boss said, “Maybe Joa will take the position, I’m sure she’ll do just very fine.” I woke up right away and smiled radiantly at this jackal, squinting and saying “I know what you’re doing”, he was very pleased with himself, ha ha ha 🙂 Now I will have to work a bit to calm down parallel narcissists to quench their anxiety.

      Once my boss offered me his position, of course, in front of witnesses, to mix things up. I smile and don’t take it seriously. I know what such tricks are for. He doesn’t have to examine me, he knows me perfectly well.

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      Future threats fuel me. This is not a good method for me. The opposite of the expected effect. You don’t want to get to know my narcissistic side, don’t do this. I can fight and I can be effective.

      Future romantic promises – I’m almost defenseless. I believe. I just believe it.

      1. A Victor says:

        Hi Joa, It dawned on me yesterday that the terminology had thrown me a bit. Future promises were from my parents, future faking was from the romantic narcissists. But, technically, they are the same thing. I did not experience a lot of future faking from my exes but there was an absolute ton of it from the summer narc, virtually non-stop. And, like you said, I was defenseless also, I wanted to hear it and I chose to believe it. Thankfully for only three months. And the good thing is that with him I also started to realize that his words and actions did not match.

        Future threats were mainly with my mother. As a result I didn’t date any man that did this, not blatantly like she did anyway. I haven’t thought about it enough to know if my exes did it, they did not do it verbally, though I did hide weapons just prior to leaving my first ex so clearly I felt threat there.

  2. Joa says:

    Oh yes! Waiting is great. Even as a child, I extended my waiting time and when my sister and I received gifts, she immediately tore the papers, and I calmly waited and opened my gift at the very end.

    Before Christmas, my sister was looking for buried gifts, I never spoiled my pleasure and did not want to know what I would get.

    The received chocolate was eaten by my sister at once, I was dosing mine with pieces for a longer period of time.

    I love waiting. I love to dream.
    I love to savor.

    Waiting is better than the gift itself, which often fails. Same as narcissus: P

    The present is good, but ordinary. It is the future and the past colored by my mind that become beautiful.

    As for waiting for punishment. Fear only overwhelms me for a moment and I don’t show it, then I attack and fight. I can control my fear and think very logically. I learned it in my childhood.

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    I can wait for hours, days, weeks and years. I’m also waiting now. For the next move.
    I have set a time when no movement will also mean movement.

  3. Asp Emp says:

    Other images of this article……Slurping from a bowl of soup…..video of a guy’s looking pleased with himself *BTW, how on earth did he manage to, er, get his face covered, by what looks like, white “stuff”……laughing……occupants of a house with cray-crays…….giggling……

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