Exposure During Devaluation

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That lightbulb moment has arrived. You know what you are dealing with. At last. You’ve known that what is happening or has happened to you is wrong. You didn’t know why it was happening and you certainly had no idea that you were ensnared by a narcissist but now you do know. You know what he or she is.

In keeping with your empathic traits of honesty, decency, goodness and wanting to seek the truth, amongst other characteristics, you feel that hard to resist pull of wanting to utilise your new found knowledge. You are not addressing the desire to tell us what we are, although that is also pressing, but instead it is that need to tell the world, everybody else,what we are.

I do not mean your close and trusted confidantes. They may well already have reservations about us (even if they do not know what we are) and will need little convincing. Exposing us to them has little impact anyway since we will have most likely regarded them as trouble makers and sought to discredit and isolate them from you already.

This exposure is in respect of telling our family, our friends, our work colleagues, our fellow team members, neighbours and anybody else you can think of. You want to expose us. You want everybody to know the label that describes us and you want everybody to know precisely what that means. You want to detail the cunning seduction, the sudden switch to devaluation, the mind games, the abuse, the push and the pull, the torture, the future faking, the despair, the insidious nature of it, the lies and the lies and the lies.

You want to create a flyer, a billboard, a film ripping that mask off and exposing everything that lies underneath. It is not enough to tell people that we are a narcissist, after all, most people will not understand what that really means. No, what you want to do is give the world the knowledge that we are a narcissist and this means x,y and z. The full horror. The gory detail. You want that spotlight that we crave so often to turn into a searing, burning flame of truthful exposure that causes us to shrink away from its illuminating beam causing us to scuttle away, a pariah, an outcast and a reject. Exiled by your exposure of what we truly are. What sweet revenge, what satisfaction to let everybody know just what we are so that nobody else in the locality falls for the deceit, the fraud and the seductive con-tricks ever again.

Do you do it?

Of course there are those of you, most likely those who have absorbed the knowledge provided to you and whose character leans this way in any event, who would rather focus on using your new found knowledge to get out and stay out and you are not concerned about achieving an exposure.

But what about for those of you who feel this pressing need to expose us to the wider world? What ought you to consider?

To understand what is likely to happen if you take this step, thus you become informed in your decision-making, there are two key questions.

When do you do it?

What type of our kind are you dealing with?

It is safe to say that no exposure really occurs during seduction. Firstly, next to nobody knows that they are being seduced by a narcissist. If you have an awareness following previous entanglements you invariably evade the overtures when they first manifest and get away from the relevant individual. There is no real compulsion to expose in such an instance. For the most part, the individual being seduced has no idea they are entangled with a narcissist and of course, the pleasure of the seduction would put to bed any such thoughts of exposure.

Exposure may be something that springs to mind during devaluation. It is still reasonably uncommon for someone to realise that they are in the grip of a narcissist during devaluation (enlightenment usually appears post discard or in subsequent entanglements following successful hoovers). However, let us take the instance whereby you know the treatment you are receiving is wrong and you have, somehow, been able to learn that what you are involved in is the narcissistic dynamic and this person who you love, but whose love for you has turned to malice, is indeed a narcissist.

It is noteworthy at this juncture that the prospects of exposure still remain slim because even though you may now know who you are dealing with, the emotional thinking that has a hold on you, combined with your empathic traits actually fights against exposing that person. You are more likely to want to let them know what this person is in order to try to help them and make things alter. You may not have yet grasped that such a step is futile or even if you have been told this, your emotional impulses are too great and they override logic, so you remain and wish to heal and fix.

Accordingly, exposure during devaluation is uncommon owing to first the lack of knowledge and then even if knowledge is acquired, a failure to apply it owing to the emotional infection that prevails.

Let us assume however that you have gained this knowledge and you are resolute in your desire to expose us to the wider world. Should you proceed when you remain in the devaluation?

The Lesser.  If you expose the Lesser Narcissist to third parties word will reach him. He does not know what he is. Your behaviour is seen as extreme treachery. It is a criticism of him, to other people, those who know him and consider him to be a decent person, reliable and likeable. You will face resistance from those you tell because of their lack of being able to see what the narcissist is really like. This resistance is not substantial however because there will have been instances of the mask slipping witnessed by others although they will not have attributed it to this person being a narcissist. Most people who are in the fuel matrix of a Lesser Narcissist will have witnessed devaluing behaviours, usually towards them and possibly also towards you. However, they will not recognise it as narcissism and they pass it off as something else “He just has a temper”, “She has anger issues”, “Oh he goes radge at times, just keep you head down and it will blow over”, “Oh we have all seen what happens when he loses it, big temper tantrum but he will calm down in time, just stay out of his way.” They do not know what this person is or why they are behaving this way. Instead, it will be linked to fatigue, stress, drink or such like. There is also the potential that you have been smeared by us which damages your credibility. Thus, subject to the evidence you have, its quality and independence, you may not succeed in the exposure anyway.

What you will face however is the inevitable ignition of the Lesser’s fury which will manifest as heated fury. You can expect it to be savage and brutal as you are trying to tear down his carefully created world and leave him exposed in the wilderness. You are likely to be in danger of physical assault, property damage, verbal assaults and a raging fury of a response. Since you have done this during devaluation and thus you will be readily accessible, you will be placing yourself in considerable danger.

Accordingly, if you expose us during devaluation with a Lesser you are risking serious injury and harm. You may succeed in smashing the facade, because people may well link what you say with what they have witnessed previously when the mask slips, but it is not guaranteed.

The Mid-Ranger. Word will again reach the Mid-Ranger of what you are doing. You will face considerable resistance from the facade because the improved cognitive function of the Mid-Ranger, compared with the Lesser, his degree of charm and quiet and easy manner means that those who are subjected to your exposure attempt will struggle to reconcile what you are saying with what they have seen and therefore you will have minimal impact. Of course, the quality of your evidence will have some bearing on this, but it will not be straight forward. You also have the additional obstacle of potentially having been smeared, dependent on how close discard is.

In terms of the response from the Mid-Ranger, his fury will ignite as a consequence of the criticism he sees from your exposure attempt.He will not be able to control this fury. You will be challenged by the Mid-Ranger who will initially plead with you to stop and make use of pity plays, trying to convince you that you are wrong. Remember, he does not know what he is either and therefore will see you exposing his behaviour as plain incorrect and also disloyal. If the pity play does not work, you can expect to see heated fury from the Mid-Ranger. This is one of the few occasions when heated fury is seen with a Mid-Ranger as they tend to use cold fury more often. This is because not only are they facing the loss of their primary source, they are also facing damage to the facade and this pincer movement will push him to heated fury. You can expect verbal assaults, property damage and a calculated campaign of intimidation. Physical violence remains less likely and nowhere near as brutal as that doled out by the lesser.

If you persist, the Mid-Ranger is likely then to withdraw and impose a cold fury against you with silent treatment. Subject to your response, this may actually cause him to withdraw for some time as you are discarded as a consequence of what you have done. The risk of a hoover will also be reduced owing to the knowledge that you have acquired and the raising of the bar in respect of the Hoover Execution Criteria being reached.

Thus with the Mid-Ranger if you expose him during devaluation you will face an unpleasant reaction and you will struggle to affect the facade to any great degree. You will however bring about a discard and a withdrawal which may well provide you with a head start concerning no contact, but you can expect that the reaction of third parties will be difficult to deal with. Many will see you as the villain of the piece, for hurting the Mid-Ranger, for “telling tales” and spoiling, which to the outside, appeared to be a good relationship.

The Greater. What then of the Greater? How will he react and what will happen if you decide to expose him or her during devaluation? The more extensive cognitive function of the Greater combined with his wider networks means that he or she will be aware of your treachery very quickly.

First of all you have little chance of all at affecting the facade. The powers of the Greater will be such that most people will be completely brainwashed to the virtues of the Greater and will not accept what they are being told about us. Furthermore, subject to the proximity of the discard, you will have been smeared and therefore your words will be treated with scepticism (you are portrayed as a habitual liar), patronising sympathy (you have been portrayed as The Fantasist), scorn (you have been painted as The Abuser) or disgust (you have been labelled as The Ungrateful One). Also, since your treacherous exposure will be learned of quicker than in the instances above, the propaganda machine of the Greater will have been wheeled out in order to extinguish your ill-founded gossip and ramblings.

The combination of brainwashing, prompt propaganda response and smearing makes it extremely hard for you to impact on the facade of a greater. Your evidence will have to be extremely convincing and to have been delivered without a smear in place.

Secondly, the Greater will launch a charm offensive with you. You will experience a Respite Hoover and a reinstatement of the golden period. His or her ability to charm, explain, smooth over and assuage your concerns will actually cause your resolve to waver. They will appear so convincing that you will be persuaded to think that you have wrongly labelled them as a narcissist. The Greater knows what he is, but he will not admit it, but he will play to your sense of wanting to seek the truth, to understand to heal by sitting down with you and listening to your concerns. He knows that rather than have you tell the wider world what he is, it is far better to keep it between you and him. That way he causes you to shift your focus so the facade is left well alone. He may even admit he has some issues or problems and asks for your help to address them. Of course this is lip service. The Greater knows that he is better served by not reinforcing the image of being a narcissist through abuse, but better off charming you again and casting your conclusion into considerable doubt. This technique, combined with the return of the addictive golden period and the inherent empathic traits means that you are more than likely to halt your exposure.

The Greater is now fore-warned as to your knowledge. He will maintain a period of respite but will be plotting to smear you into oblivion and then discard you, so that when you try to revisit the exposure post discard you will be doomed to failure in terms of affecting the facade.

Thus, these are the likely scenarios when seeking to expose us to the wider world during devaluation. The follow-up part of this article will explain what will happen if the exposure takes place post-escape or post discard.

82 thoughts on “Exposure During Devaluation

  1. Duchessbea says:

    HG,
    We get to learn more about the man. Again he rises in esteemed estimation. A Jaguar driver is regarded as one who has a liking for power and prowess. Very impressive HG. I can only imagine you wearing some very fine, well tailored threads behind the wheel of your car aswell.
    Best,
    DB

  2. FoolMe1Time says:

    Congratulations A Victor on your one year anniversary of learning and fighting that addiction. I wish you nothing but happiness and peace going forward. Xx

    1. A Victor says:

      Thank you FM1T!

  3. A Victor says:

    Well, it has been one year today, this morning, since I broke it off with the summer narc, and began my search to learn what had just happened to me. I think I found narcsite 3 days later, so that anniversary is coming up soon also. But today I am remembering the gut-wrenching sensation of ripping my addiction away from that which fed it. That sensation of flipping end over end into whatever was to become, an unknown, but somehow understanding there was no other option. I am remembering the constant reminding myself that it had to be, of what he’d done that was so horrible to bring it to this end. I am remembering the ongoing battle in my mind between his “fun”, “good”, “endearing” qualities and that which caused me to end it, that constant weighing of good against bad, the ever present question, did the bad really win out…? And wondering why something that had only been a part of my life for three months was having such a profound effect at it’s removal. Looking back, it is so easy to see that the bad easily outweighed the good, but at that time, nothing was easy about it. I am actually surprised I made it the three days before I found narcsite, although there was no real alternative. Looking back now I can also so easily see the actual truth of what he offered, it was so unhealthy, so dangerous, so evil, how did I even fall for it a little? I remember reaching out to people so desperately, searching frantically online for answers, telling myself every few minutes that I would survive, that I could not reach out to him. The absolute chaos of those early days, it was a horrible place to be. I am thankful that it is now only a memory and today I am on an even keel once again, mostly. But I never want to forget completely what it was like, it is a needed reminder to do things very differently going forward. I learned a short time later it was my addiction in full swing, an idea I accepted only because of the utter misery of my position at that time. Today I am grateful to know about my addiction. Going forward, this will not be a date to remember, only the things learned because of it. But today, I am thankful for the one year mark, thankful to have reached it.

    1. Leigh says:

      AV, this is such an inspirational comment! Once we’re away from what we are addicted to, we begin to have clarity. You go girl! You did it!

      1. A Victor says:

        Thank you Leigh. It does feel good and the last year has seemed like 3 in some ways. And, I am still with my mother, though I can’t remember when I last saw her or interacted with her. I am glad you found my comment inspirational, I was really trying to get the feelings I was experiencing that day/week into it, those feelings were so powerful and most people in my life had and continue to have no idea I went through that! Nor what I experienced with my ex or my parents either! How many people do I interact with who are or have gone through something similar? Who knows, but now I am talking more, about what happened to me and also HG.

        My daughter asked me how HG was last night on the phone, I hadn’t spoken with her in a few days. It really surprised me, usually I call him “my narc guy” to my kids because I have found it easier for them to hear stuff with some distance like that. But she said it and giggled at my confusion. Then she said, “Well, that’s his name, right?” So now I get to say HG, at least to her. She’s the one who has done the EDC so there is a bit more connection. They worry about me because he is a narcissistic psychopath. My son and I were talking cars last night and Jaguars came up. I said “my narc guy” has one, amongst his vehicles. My son told me I shouldn’t believe anything he shares about his private life because what they do is lie, except for the stuff about narcissism which he did admit was likely spot on. Haha, at least he admits that! I take much HG says with a grain of salt, but it doesn’t matter to me if everything is fabricated because the narcissism information is still absolutely accurate, from what my experiences have been with my narcs, friends experiences, as well as all the bloggers here and commenters on YT. And HG’s success speaks to it’s accuracy also.

        Not sure where all that came from, with regard to your reply, haha! Anyway, thank you for the kind words!

        1. Leigh says:

          Mr. Tudor has a jaguar?!?! I didn’t know that. Its my favorite car!!! F-Type convertible in navy blue 😍😍😍 I have dreams about that car, lol!

          I got my daughter (the one that’s not a narcissist) to start following Mr. Tudor on YouTube. Now she wants to talk all the time.

          You call him “my narc guy”. That made me giggle. I just call him Mr. Tudor. It feels weird to call him HG. I view him as a teacher so Mr. Tudor just seems more natural.

          1. HG Tudor says:

            I currently have two Jaguars.

          2. Asp Emp says:

            I bet they purr with pleasure with you in the driving seat 🙂

          3. HG Tudor says:

            Pussies larges and small all purr under the expert handling of the Ultra.

          4. Asp Emp says:

            Laughing……I bet they do HG, I bet they do! Hahaha….I bet it’s Pancake Day every time too! 😉

          5. A Victor says:

            Tease.

          6. WiserNow says:

            For the sake of accuracy HG – something I know you find very important – cats also purr when they are stressed, anxious or sick. It’s a vocalisation made to self-soothe in both positive and negative situations.

            That being said, a purring cat can be stressed, in which case the natural progression of events is that it may bite you after purring.

            Be careful how you handle your Jags HG . . . 😉

          7. Leigh says:

            May I ask what color?

          8. HG Tudor says:

            Colour of what? (I do not see the preceding post in the moderation pane)

          9. Leigh says:

            The colors of your Jaguars.

          10. HG Tudor says:

            Both anthracite black. Like my heart.

          11. WiserNow says:

            HG,

            The Jaguar E Type made in the 1960s is a very unique and classy looking car. If that’s the kind of Jaguar you have, I imagine you looking like James Bond driving it down some lonely English country road. What are the Jaguar models you have? How many cars do you have overall?

            I’m not a car expert, but if you ask me, different models of new cars look very similar these days. There’s not much difference in the look of say, a Mercedes, compared to an Audi, compared to a Jaguar. Again, I must stress, I am not a car expert and I’m talking about the build only or the overall shape and look.

            You wouldn’t be Simon Cowell in ‘real-life’ would you? He is British, and from I’ve heard, he has a collection of luxury cars.

          12. HG Tudor says:

            No.

          13. A Victor says:

            My son will be rolling his eyes now! 😂

          14. Violetta says:

            Leigh:
            For all we know, HG stands for “Highest God.” In any case, he has never objected to it. If he instructs us otherwise, I will comply.

          15. Leigh says:

            Hi Violetta, I know Mr. Tudor is fine with us calling him HG. I don’t know why, I just prefer to call him Mr. Tudor. At this point I’ve been doing it for 2.5 years so it will feel weird to change.

          16. HG Tudor says:

            HG, Mr Tudor, my lord, my saviour, The Ultra – all are acceptable.

          17. A Victor says:

            Oh my god, not capitalized, my lord?? 😁

          18. WiserNow says:

            What about Haughty Gremlin … ?

          19. A Victor says:

            Yes, I don’t remember where I first heard that but, confirmation below! I have always been a Corvette gal myself, red of course, late 70s-early 80s era are my favorites. I have dreamed about that car! I think if they did it in a seashell pink with a slightly opalescent glossy finish I might go for that…

            Happy to hear about your daughter, that’s really great!! I hope she continues to have interest! Mine is following HG on TicToc, she thinks his fire stuff on there is interesting. It inspired her to watch a couple of movies about Ted Bundy and Jeffrey Dahmer. I’m glad because I want her to understand that there are really bad people out there. She is pretty naive, she had one bf who tried to kill her but she is starting to connect the dots between him and what HG teaches, we have been talking about it finally, it is good. It’s taken her two and a half years to be able to talk about it. Learning about narcissism is helping her, also learning about herself as an empath. Isn’t it exciting to watch them learn and grow!

          20. Leigh says:

            I’m so sorry to hear that she had that horrific experience but I’m glad to know she’s healing. I’m glad the young ones have a head start. Hopefully the future will be better for them because of it.

          21. A Victor says:

            I believe it will be Leigh, better for them! For the ones not already ensnared anyway.

          22. Leigh says:

            My hope is that since they are learning earlier on, they will be able to see the toxicity sooner and escape sooner as well,

          23. Alexissmith2016 says:

            This is why HG keeps disappearing for so long, he has to keep queuing up at ASDA filling up his two jags. Hhahaha oh god I’m funny.

          24. HG Tudor says:

            Nice try however I am in a land of plentiful petrol and not in the UK, so you enjoy queuing for petrol, empty shelves and the military driving ambulances north of the border, I will savour City´s victory over Chelsea with this rather pleasant Chablis, continue laughing at Arsenal and continue my planning. Chin, chin!

          25. Leigh says:

            I had to Google ASDA and saw its owned by Walmart. Picturing Mr. Tudor shopping at Walmart made me chuckle 😆 🤣

          26. A Victor says:

            Haha, that is funny to picture! Also, I had to Google this entire conversation!! It’s all so British, I guess! 😂

          27. WiserNow says:

            Alexissmith2016,

            That’s funny! 😂 🤣

          28. Z - zwartbolleke says:

            AlexisS2016,
            Hahahahahahahaha, you are sooooo funny indeed, naughty naughty!!!

          29. Alexissmith2016 says:

            Up the gunners!

          30. HG Tudor says:

            Nobody cares.

          31. WiserNow says:

            HG,
            How do you know that nobody cares? For your info, I looked up Arsenal’s latest match and saw they won 3 – 1 against Tottenham.

            You’ll probably ignore this comment. I appear to be in a prolonged, absent silent treatment.

            Are you correctively devaluing me HG?

          32. HG Tudor says:

            You have to matter to me to be given a silent treatment.

            Arsenal are yesterday’s team, even my distant neighbour who ardently supports them knows this, as does AS2016.

          33. A Victor says:

            Oh boy, now everyone will want a silent treatment from you!!

    2. Fiddleress says:

      AV, so much of what you wrote resonates with me! All of it, in fact.
      Happy Anniversary to you. One year is not a very long time, but you have already come a long way.

      1. A Victor says:

        Thank you Fiddleress, I know it is not that long but it FEELS like at least 3! Haha! Not in a bad way, of course, just so much so fast! I am glad my comment resonated and thank you for your kind words!

    3. BC30 says:

      Holy Smokes! 🎉🎉🎉 That’s a HUGE win for you, and I’m so happy to read this! 😃

      1. A Victor says:

        Thank you BC30. And I received my “Once You Know, You Go” commemorative zip hoodie, in Deep Royal, not long ago, just in time for the cool weather! You inspired that purchase! And I love it! 🥰

        1. BC30 says:

          How do you like the hoodie?! 😃 I am thinking about getting another one.

          1. A Victor says:

            I want a couple more colors also. I’m going to need a bigger closet. Hahaha.

        2. BC30 says:

          How’s your hoodie? I just got a coupon in my email today. I may order another color.

          1. HG Tudor says:

            HG approves

          2. A Victor says:

            I do!! I love it!! It is perfect in every way! Just like I imagine HG to be, except missing the empathy? 😁😂

    4. Eternity says:

      Congrats A Victor I am very happy for you! Yay! Keep it up,
      .

      1. A Victor says:

        Thank you Eternity!

      2. A Victor says:

        Hey Eternity, haven’t seen you around for a while, hope all is well! Miss you!

    5. WhoCares says:

      Happy One Year of GOSO, AV!
      Good for you!

      1. A Victor says:

        Thank you WhoCares!

    6. WiserNow says:

      Well done AV! This is great to hear and I am happy for you.

      That initial realisation and the days and months directly afterwards are difficult and feel horrible. As you keep moving forward, the new thought processes keep strengthening though, until things feel easier and life gets better. You have done really well to get this far.

      I can relate to your thoughts about never wanting to forget completely what it was like. I was thinking about that just the other day. Once we feel more grounded and comfortable in our ‘new’ ways of thinking, it’s easier to forget how harmful narcissists actually are. They don’t ‘forget’ though. They are always on a mission to get their ever-needed ‘fuel’. It’s important to keep reminding yourself of that and keep looking out for the red flags and learning about yourself and what makes you susceptible.

      I hope you continue moving forward and keep learning. Best wishes to you 🙂

      1. A Victor says:

        Thank you WiserNow!

    7. JB says:

      Ah, AV, I meant to say, congrats on a year of NC! I didn’t quite make it to a year (though had a good reason) xx

      1. A Victor says:

        Thank you JB!

      2. A Victor says:

        JB, coming back to this comment, you got my curiosity up. Is it something you share, why you didn’t make it to a year? If not, I totally understand, and the almost a year is an achievement also!

        1. JB says:

          AV, long story, but in short, I needed his help, as he had something of mine (sentimental) which I needed back. So I felt I had to bite the bullet and ask him if he still had it. I didn’t know if he would even respond, to be honest, but he did reply, and he did grant my request, so hopefully all’s well that ends well xx

          1. A Victor says:

            Aw, I see. Thank you, my curiosity can go away now, it is a blessing and a curse! Yes, let’s hope all ends well now!

          2. Leigh says:

            JB, I apologize. As much as I try, I can’t always keeps everyone’s story straight. I thought your Dad was the narcissist in your like. Did you also have an intimate relationship with a narcissist?

            I’m glad your ex narc was cooperative. I hope he’s staying away now.

          3. JB says:

            Leigh,

            Ha ha, that’s ok, no need to apologise! I have trouble keeping up too!

            My dad is the suspected narc, but I came here after a friendship with somebody who turned out to be a narcissist xx

        2. JB says:

          AV,

          Ah that’s ok, I am the same, just as curious! 😂 xx

    8. Z - zwartbolleke says:

      Yaj! Very well done AV!
      You got this!
      X

      1. A Victor says:

        Thank you Z-zwartbolleke!

    9. Bubbles says:

      Dearest A Victor,
      We have seen you blossom and acquire a whole new bunch of ‘character traits’ all of your own ……feels bloody good, doesn’t it ? 💪
      You are an absolute delight and your contributions have been such an asset here.
      Congratulations 🎉 AV on your 1st year anniversary and I humbly thank you for everything you have shared and taught me from your own experiences.
      You are the loveliest of lovelies and I always look forward to all your ideas, stories, questions and answers
      Thank you for being you 💕
      Luv Bubbles xx 😘

      1. A Victor says:

        Aw Bubbles! Thank you!! I can’t ever thank all of you enough, HG included of course, but all you bloggers too! I feel like a completely different person from a year ago in so many ways! And yes, it does feel amazing! I know I could never have done it without this blog and HG and his materials and all of your wisdom! You are all my favorites now!!

        My kids are now trying to figure out who I am on here! They’re still my favorites too, of course, and they’ve been so supportive too, they get some credit. But, if they figure who I am…hahahaha, they may see a whole new side to “Mom”!! Hahaha!!!

        Thank you Bubbles, you always know just what to say!! 💗

        1. Bubbles says:

          Dearest A Victor,
          My absolute pleasure lovely one……I hope you plan on staying indefinitely, you’d be a great asset to the new Tudorites

          My kids would pick me by my emojis and memes 😂…..they’re not interested in ‘reading’ all my crazy stuff, they’ve heard it all before, they already know I’m a fruit cake 🤣

          Your kids will be so proud of you when they figure out who you are ….. cos we all are
          💕
          Luv Bubbles xx 😘

          1. A Victor says:

            Aw, see, you did it again! The perfect words! Thank you! 😘

          2. Violetta says:

            Bubbles, how are you doing? Have seen items in DM (which of course likes to sensationalize everything) about vax riots and government repression in Oz. Is your area at least recovering from fires, etc.?

          3. Bubbles says:

            Dearest Violetta,
            We are in a good place and thriving where we live. Haven’t really been affected by the ‘ya-hoos’ and their protests (part n parcel of most democratic countries) Repression ….. hmmmmm, with regard to Covid, they are cracking down hard about getting vaxxed now (availability was our biggest problem) and people don’t like it, typical, people just don’t like being told what to do…… haha

            I do have concerns with our govt trying to introduce new legislation to ICAC (Independent Commission Against Corruption) to protect their very own …..’politicians’ …….’one’ of the biggest bunch of corrupt narcissists out there in my book.

            Apart from the initial lockdown in the beginning, we’ve been cruising. It’s not mandatory where I am to wear a mask outside, but going into a shop or business ….. yes and QR coding is also mandatory! I personally don’t have a problem with it

            Good grief, I remember when we all lined up outside for our compulsory jabs at school for just about every disease known to mankind at the time, no one complained, I was thankful not to get polio, TB, measles, mumps, rubella and all those other nasties. You just do it and get on with it! ( Omg, I sound like the Queen 😂)

            The govt implemented incentives to obtain discount vouchers to get out and support local businesses particularly bushfire affected areas and covid suffering businesses. From what I’ve seen and heard, it’s all been very positive and rewarding.
            To help just a little, we have symbolically adopted three koalas thru WWF 🐨🐨🐨

            Thank you so kindly for asking Violetta, I do hope all is good in your neck of the woods. 😊
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

    10. NarcAngel says:

      AV

      Happy KTNaversary.

      1. A Victor says:

        Thank you NA!

  4. Georgina says:

    HG, are you still blogging? Haven’t seen sn update in a week

  5. WiserNow says:

    Best wishes to you HG on your Birthday today! Hope you are having a great day 🙂

    1. WiserNow says:

      … on second thoughts HG, I am guessing your birthday falls on 19th September, going by your email address. You have never stated that your email address does in fact show your date of birth. Indeed, why would a Greater narcissist make anything that obvious … ?

      So, if your birthday was not on the 19th, then best wishes for whatever day in September it actually does fall.

      1. WiserNow says:

        **correction … From the information I am aware of, you have not stated that your email address does in fact show your date of birth.

      2. HG Tudor says:

        Thank you.

  6. Empath007 says:

    Is it ever possible a narcissits could remain single for a long(ish) period of time ?

    I’ve read all the articles regarding this – but it’s been 3 years since my break up with the narc and there is still NO sign of his IPPS.

    Mind you he’s only ever had one public girlfriend and has dated plenty of women whom he’s kept in the shadows (me being one of them) – but why would he never want an IPPS ?? It’s so weird !! Even by narcissits standards – it’s like he has ZERO interest in making someone public information. And doesn’t want to be in a actual relationship with anyone ! Isn’t this strange even for a narcissits ?? To only ever have one public IPPS.

    It’s blowing my mind. Where is his new girlfriend/boyfriend ?!?!?! Where !

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Yes, one can be single and still interact intimately with appliances as well as with lots of non intimate ones. You will find “Understanding Changes to the Narcissist´s Fuel Matrix” helpful.

  7. Whitney says:

    HG my God
    I find it so attractive how you have a goal, a legacy, interests, a plan, brilliant and pioneering insights, etc.

    He is flimsy and useless. Always changing. No inherent content. I find that unattractive, HG. He clutches to me. I feel sorry for him and want to help him.

    I try to foster his self confidence. I have done a good job. He’s gone from depressed and suicidal to happy.

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