The Heart Hooks No. 1 – Narc Sayings of Seduction

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Did the narcissist say this to you? How was it conveyed, when was it conveyed and what was your response?
Do you believe in the concept of soulmates? If this phrase (or similar) was said to you, how did it make you feel? What did you believe by it?



The concept of being a soulmate/twin flame has been said to me on different relationships, occasions and at different times. It has been conveyed verbally which brought about feelings of being connected emotionally, physically, mentally and sometimes spiritually. Feeling intuitively. Nevertheless you must decipher if the person conveying this statement of being a soulmates or a twin flame may really be a “false twin flame” , or if this is a “karmic relationship” that will teach you something and help you evolve. If so, realize it’s a was a lesson, not a life sentence.
“I´m wanking while you´re doing ..xy [while I did some daily stuff]”
Guess that one is not exactly seductive. 😂😂😂 But a great WFT-moment. 😂😂😂
Is silly, flirty humor with the narc a threat to their control? My ex shut that down right at the outset of our relationship, like in the first two weeks. I don’t know why I gave it up so easily, he must have impressed me on some other level. But, there was not allowed a free back and forth of just fun, it was his fun or none at all. Has this been experienced by others here?
You doing ok, HG?
I’m astounded, knowing what I know now and feeling how I feel now – that hearing these sorts of things used to matter so much to me. And that I would be swooned by it. Hindsight is 20/20
Having a good day?
I think that when a narcissist say’s this to you its meant with the intent for you to adjust yourself to the max to the narcissist.Raising the bar if you like. ”I have high expectations now its up to you to live up to them.” The narcissist will probably say this in the very beginning, when he/she has know way of knowing this. When a non narcissist says this it means he/she is very content with the other and the relation,finds the two of them a good match,we suit very well. Soulmates definitely exist in the normal world,in a romantic relation aswell as in friendship.
Lovely God, he told me how he felt about me. Just once. I knew he meant it. Words of affirmation are almost non existant for him. His love languages are acts of service and quality time.
I know he has empathy for me. But almost only me.
I know longer believe in soul mates. I no longer believe in my having a partner. I believe in my safety and happiness.
My ex never used the term soul mates but he did say to me “ are you real? can this be true?” Lol
Also told me that he had never met anyone like me before and that out of all the others ( 🚩) I was the only one he brought flowers to every day! Lol
Oh, and when he started devaluing me after I became so upset and was pulling away from him he attempted a Hoover and told me “ I don’t know what it is about you I can’t seem to let you go.” Ha! Guess he hadn’t secured that next IPPS yet!
Liar, liar pants on fire!! 🙄
Get some sleep and rest.
🤢 First rule for me from now on… when any man says something remotely similar to this I have to believe there are narcissistic and manipulative undertones and RUN LIKE HELL the opposite direction. 🏃♀️
17 years ago, during the first seduction – I don’t remember. Maybe I didn’t pay attention to such a cliché 🙂
A recent hoover, he said, “I’m no longer interested in soul mates.”
I hate the saying but the image is hot.
I would like to have it as a painting in my home.
I have thought that also Jasmin.
AV, just been listening to your interview with HG! Just wanted to say well done xx
Hi JB, thank you. I appreciate so much HG allowing me the opportunity to speak to what he and his work have done for me. I hope that many more people benefit from him as a result of those interviews.
They definitely will, AV. It was so moving. There was one moment where you paused, and it brought a real lump to my throat. I really felt for you xx Did you feel nervous doing it? I think I would be really nervous; not because of HG, but because I would worry that somebody might recognise me from my voice! Think I would have to adopt a false Scottish accent or similar! 😂
I was nervous, which surprised me. I had everything written out but only used it as prompts and because there is so much, I still lost my train of thought a few times. My goal was to promote HG and then, you know, embarrassing myself that I laughed so much, but I do laugh a lot and add nerves, there you go. Also a couple of times relistening felt I more pointed at me than at him and his stuff, it’s nerve wracking, before, during and after. But it’s done, haha, for better or worse! I am not concerned that anyone would recognize me in real life. Those who might ever listen would not be surprised by anything on there. If my ex or mom did listen, too bad for them, they’re the problem. 😂
AV,
I love that sentiment ( “Too bad for them, they’re the problem.” ) One day I wish I could feel that way too, but at the moment this blog remains my guilty secret!