Child Defender
You now have access to material to defend your child or children against the narcissist.
Using years of experience and insight combined with applied and effective advice given to those in consultation, HG Tudor has created the Child Defender Assistance Package. This unrivalled material is filled with information, insight, advice, analysis and practical steps to aid you in defending your child when you have been ensnared by the narcissist.
Whether you remain in the ensnarement, whether you have escaped or been disengaged from, whether there is an ongoing court battle, child arrangements or you want to know what to do if the narcissist returns, this is the most comprehensive assistance you can obtain.
Worth many times its cost, it will save you thousands in fees, hours of wasted time and energy and most importantly of all, it will give you the key to defend your child.
Delivered in SIX extensive audio files, each file covers the following:-
1. Introduction and Aims
2. What is the role of the child in the narcissistic dynamic?
3. How to protect your child from the narcissist (direct consequences and collateral consequences)
4. Do I tell my child that their parent is a narcissist?
5. How do I get the narcissist to leave my child and me alone.
6. Will my child become a narcissist too and what can I do to stop that?
The most effective tool available to defend your child from the narcissist, from the one who knows narcissists and their victims inside out.
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On the subject of defending children: I’ve heard peep from ‘the other side’ with regard to my offer to settle…
Hold on…*haven’t heard a peep
WhoCares, hugs to you x
Thanks Asp Emp.
I no longer entertain any particular expectations throughout this experience with the law. I am just going through the motions, and fulfilling only the barest of essentials – with informed learning attained through HG.
WhoCares, I understand how draining it is, having to go through a legal process with ‘difficult’ people involved. I also understand that it can ‘contribute’ to less ‘trust’ in the so-called-system. Some people I know ie a friend did not go through a grievance process because of similar reasons (I know it is not the same but the ‘principles’ of a process / system). She eventually did because I said that it was worth it and she had the evidence (including how I was treated, I said, use my ‘experiences’ as examples and not letting them get away with it etc). I am glad you are here and utilising what you have learned, as well as getting support through HG. It is too soon for me to say, yet I used my own experiences to help others (ie my friend), so I get ‘solace’ in knowing that, like some kind of ‘achievement’ if you can understand? Your strength and beliefs are strong and that helps you 🙂
Asp Emp,
I can absolutely understand why someone would not want to utilize the arm of the law in various matters (even if you have undisputed evidence)…it definitely requires a certain…fortitude or tenacity.
For some, they just discover it’s a wicked merry-go-round ride and want off of it.
I think it’s a mix of factors that have brought me this far along in this process…
I am glad you were able to provide some support and help to your friend. That’s a boon I take from this experience too – the learning that I take away from this experience – which maybe I can use to help someone else make an informed decision about how to or how NOT to use the law in their own situation.
WhoCares, yes, what you say here RE: tenacity. Knowledge certainly helps in some situations. One HR” professional” ‘lost’ her rag at me during a meeting in which my Union Rep was present – she raised her voice at me “You know your rights!”. The Reps nods. I say ‘yes’. I was calm. She never tried any of her BS on me again (LOL). Yes, sometimes, the use of law in not needed, just a verbal ‘club’ and empath grenades is enough 😉 🙂 You have done really well to get where you are now, kudos to you for that 🙂
Asp Emp,
“Yes, sometimes, the use of law in not needed, just a verbal ‘club’ and empath grenades is enough 😉 🙂”
I am glad that worked for you!
“You have done really well to get where you are now, kudos to you for that 🙂”
Thank-you.
WhoCares, apologies for late response. I know exactly what it is like to be in the ‘waiting’ period of such a legal proceedings.
Reading an update of your situation.
Way to go girl!
It is so good to read that you have achieved what you aimed for. Stuff having any ‘guilt’! You worked hard, putting yourself through this and being the one to stand in the defense position in a court – well, damn, that takes guts. You’re a credit to yourself, your son and to people who are victims in cases like this. No doubt, HG would be ‘yes! another narc taken down’ because you have proved that his methods work. He ‘benefits’ in this too.
“Custodial decision making granted to me and primary residence” – woo hoo!
“Instead, whatever he did, in response to my offer, has caused his lawyer to dump him as a client” – a MASSIVE success. That is one seriously ‘take the narc down’ insult to that narcissist.
Well done, WhoCares 🙂 You deserve to be on Cloud 9! I am really delighted for you! 🙂
My friend just got her final results Mon before last. They certainly are not looking out for the child’s best interest any more. Not it seems only the adults best interest, regardless of the evidence of what that adult brings on the child. It caused many tears. You are in my thoughts WC with your ongoing battle. I hope it turns out best for your child.
Now** it seems…
A Victor,
“My friend just got her final results Mon before last.”
Sorry – to clarify, you mean you’re friend got a final order in her legal case?
And thank-you for your supportive words AV.
Sorry WC, I’m not getting notifications apparently. My friend got the final results on the custody and child support. Equally split time, she got full legal but she’s paying $1000/mo child support. This was despite the findings that he is a narcissist, he has abuse of an adult daughter on his record, the kids said they don’t want to stay with him, he feeds them minimally and says it’s because they need to lose weight and he lets them stay home from school to the point that they likely won’t advance to the next grade. Very frustrating, we were so surprised. Not looking out for the kid’s interest, it’s all about different perspectives.
AV,
No problem. Thank-you for explaining.
That’s pretty crazy. I really feel for your friend. If the decision was before a narcissist judge, the outcome you are describing is entirely possible – because they simply do not give a rat’s ass. (Well, they give the illusion of caring, of course, and have regard for their facade but their fuel needs and control come first, naturally.)
That is awful for the children. Control of food, in my opinion, is one the most horrible things to subject a child too.
I almost feel guilty AV, updating you on my legal situation after you have shared about your friend. But I do it, in hopes that maybe it will encourage others to seek HG’s assistance packages and/or advice in their legal matters or co-parenting situations with a narcissist.
I say that I “almost” feel guilty AV – but, personally, I know how hard I have worked to grasp and apply HG’s knowledge in my situation – and it’s been very fruitful.
I have had a final order (that’s what we call it here) in my favour, for four years now. Custodial decision making granted to me and and primary residence. Very limited access granted to the other side, under supervised conditions. The narcissist keep contesting that in different ways, incurring costs and damaging his facade along the way (see HG’s video “Give the Narcissist Enough Rope…”!) AND racking up tasks that he must apply himself to and where he is fully accountable (So far – not happening. I know. Big surprise there.)
I have managed to apply myself enough to meet the court’s expectations in my situation – including putting forth an offer to settle (in the last round) that, amalgamated with a back-up plan of mine (which I consulted on with HG) – resulting in an offer that my ex *should* have jumped on. But he did not.
Instead, whatever he did, in response to my offer, has caused his lawyer to dump him as a client.
AV,
Maybe your friend should consult with HG?
Sorry, AV, for the wealth of replies…but I just wanted to add how much gratitude I have for HG’s work!! (I did email him following my court appearance and was on an emotional high for quite sometime aftewards.)
So far, status quo remains and my ex doesn’t simply just get handed more access to his child.
Thank-you HG. 💙
WC, many things to reply to here. First, congratulations on your success! I am so happy for you and your child on that! Also, I know that HG and his materials are amazing, I give him credit for much in my life also, though mine doesn’t involve court and children at this time. Still, many lifelong questions answered for which I will never be able to repay him properly. Another thing is that I would love if my friend would’ve consulted with HG, I might have even paid for an hour. But she has been resistant to HG across the board. She is in the midst of codependency and in my opinion does not want real answers yet. Not even when it affects her children, such is the power of the addiction sometimes. That is all I can chalk it up to. And, I feel if she did an empath detector, she would be CoD, thus unable to release herself from him as “easily” as some other schools might. I have had to limit contact with her because her addiction and talk about him was causing my ET to go up, not worth it. I love her but I have to take care of myself first or I am effectively worthless to her and many others. One more thing WC, don’t feel bad about sharing!! I love to hear a success story! And I love being able to celebrate with you, yours is a wonderful and well fought for victory! Thank you for sharing! And the last thing, haha, my friend’s ex was also “dumped” by a couple of attorneys along the way, I think that must be rather common for narcs! He had plenty of rope to hang himself with but our system is so screwed up that it bailed him out. Now, emboldened by this victory, he is taking her to court for even more!