Love Letter : Using The Love Devotee Trait Against The Target

LOVE-LETTER

 

I have always used the love letter as a method of building my connections with my target. I first started at school when one would write a short note and pass it across the class to the object of one’s affection. With a sideways glance I would watch as she would open the piece of paper up and smile before nudging her friend sat besides her and both would look my way with a smile and a giggle. Ah, from such acorns did my prowess with the billet-doux grow.

Those early ‘romances’ which in truth lasted little more than a month or so before we moved on to someone else gave way to the first proper girlfriend and then more meaningful correspondences sprang up. I remember during the Easter holidays in my penultimate year at school I engaged in an exchange of letters with a young lady who lived in a village a little way from where I lived. She would write a letter and I would receive it the next day. I immediately wrote a reply and she would receive it the next day. Back and forth our letters went. Of course we had no such thing as Instant Messenger or text messages. E-mail was in its infancy and was certainly not something that was used from home. I remember she wrote on light green paper placed inside a green envelope. It certainly stood our when it arrived on the doormat in the morning. I of course responded by writing (no use of typewriter or word processor back then) on crisp white paper of a decent thickness which would be folded into a third and inserted into an envelope. I still have her letters along with all of the others that I have received. Once in a while I will lift the box from on top of the wardrobe and sit and rifle through the contents. I have no real interest in the content or returning to those moments, I usually do it in front of my current partner in order to provoke a reaction from her.

Those early letters exchanged that Easter began as exchanges about what we had been doing each day, talking about other friends and then began a mild flirtation. We ended up as girlfriend and boyfriend after the letter writing. This earned me considerable kudos with my peers since the girl in question was held up as one of the most desirable in the year (although looking back I suspect much of that was to do with the fact that she arrived in our first year well-developed for her age). I recall when we went to watch a film at the cinema on of our dates she told me,

“You are not my usual type. I usually go for older boys but I loved what you wrote to me. Nobody has done that before.”

Whilst I cannot of course lay claim to be the only person who has written a love letter, it became apparent that it had become something of a dying art. I do not mean silly notes in class or something that resembles little more than an extract from a diary. Instead I am referring to the sweeping, grand, romantic proclamations of love and desire. Vulgarity is not allowed in this poetic pieces of literature, instead should one wish to express a physical need for coupling then the application of euphemism and analogy came to the fore.

I honed my craft corresponding with girlfriends from university. Invariably we came from different parts of the country and therefore during holidays we wrote to one another. I used this as an opportunity to sharpen my skills and polish my prose. The upshot was that thereafter although there was no real need to write to one another (we lived in the same place or even together) the production of a love letter left on a pillow or placed by a prepared breakfast on the dining table worked magically as a method of seduction.

I had a template of about five differing types of letter and have used them on several different ladies. I would copy them word for word with suitable alterations mutatis mutandis to cater for differences in appearance or demeanour. These crafted missives were powerful indeed. They created strong connections between my target and I. The content was such the lady in question would always be swept off her feet and of course when those loving words became barbed and thorny, she would retreat to where she kept them and weep over the beauty contained in those first letters. Knowing that these letters would be clutched in a shaking hand as the tears rolled down her cheeks however weeks down the line was edifying indeed.

I still use them. In a world governed by technology, text speak and the immediacy of communication, the provision of a hand-written billet-doux has a tremendous effect.

27 thoughts on “Love Letter : Using The Love Devotee Trait Against The Target

  1. TinaD says:

    Les Liaisons Dangeureuses. One set of letters recounting the seduction of Mme de la Tourvel is meant to simultaneously corrupt little Cécile, “hoover” Mme de la Merteuil, and rob D’Anceny of his cougar. Valmont was not a narcissist who believed in half measures.

  2. amyemerson311 says:

    At this point, I wouldn’t mind receiving recycled love letters…😂

  3. In so many words says:

    I belong to the Jane Austen Society (although I haven’t been to a meeting for a long time), and when her novels are discussed, the letters are a frequent theme. The long letter that Darcy wrote to Elisabeth to defend his actions and his honor in Pride and Prejudice. The soul destroying letter that Willoughby wrote to Marianne in Sense and Sensibility. But the one that everyone swoons over is the letter that Captain Wentworth wrote to Anne Elliot in Persuasion. The one where he writes, “You pierce my soul. I am half agony, half hope,” after pursuing another woman while Anne watched, because he was angry at Anne for rejecting him seven years earlier. I found the letter rather melodramatic, and thought Wentworth could do with a more sincerely apology. That character has strong narcissistic traits (but is empathic and acts honorably). HG’s letters would likely have just the right amount of strong sentiment, but then again, Anne Elliot could look fondly at her letters years later. Except that she is a fictional character. As is HG when he writes those letters.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Interesting observations, thank you for sharing them.

      1. In so many words says:

        Thank you HG. The other day on a podcast you asked us about examples of narcissists in literature. Jane Austen has many, but I think Mr. Elliot in Persuasion is one of the most accurate. He is shapeshifter, and pursues an empath, Anne Elliot, although there is no material gain. When she rejects him, he asserts control by withdrawal.

        1. In so many words says:

          That was inaccurate of me. She did not reject him, she wounded him. She simply avoided him and then her engagement to another was announced. Go Anne.

  4. Lucycita says:

    When I was about 13, a boy wrote a letter to me and took his courage and one of his friends and walked up to me while I was sitting chatting with my best friend in one of the parks and gave me an envelope with a letter. As soon as I held the letter in my hand, I felt SO angry that I tore the envelope into small pieces and threw them into the bin a few steps away. I dont understand what made me so angry but I suspect because I was still grieving for my mother’s death and hated everyone or I must have been a narcissist or narcissistic as a child and then left me for some reason. I regret a thousand times now that I never read what a boy can write to a girl and I never had a second chance to another love letter as a child. I still remember his name though. Johny.

    1. Viol. says:

      It would have been worse for him if you’d read it and then torn it up.

    2. A Victor says:

      Lucycita, I had a Johnny also. I often thought of the practical aspects of marriage to him. I was in 3rd and 4th grade and he and I were very good friends, then my family moved. He was my first crush. Thank you for reminding me.

      1. Bubbles says:

        Dearest A Victor,
        I had a male ‘friend’, back in my late teens, who wrote me this lovely letter before embarking on an adventure around Australia. He had exquisite cursive handwriting …..absolutely stunning! I came across his letter only recently as Mr Bubbles and I are ‘in the throes’ of ‘death cleaning’, so….in the bin it went, all shredded. I only kept it because I didn’t have the heart to throw away something so beautiful.

        Our current trend of SMS’ing isn’t quite the same, is it ?
        Luv Bubbles xx 😘

        1. A Victor says:

          No, it really isn’t. Thank you for sharing that sweet story Bubbles. I think some things have been lost with technology.

        2. A Victor says:

          PS-glad you’re back, I’d missed you!

          1. Bubbles says:

            Dearest A. Victor,
            Was that comment for me lovely? Awwwww, ☺️…….thank you, I’ve missed you all too, so much to catch up on.
            Mum’s taken up most of my time recently, she’s now back home…..hers!
            The sick narcissist is very true, she’s verbally abused and name called the nurses coming into her house to help with after care. When I brought it to her attention, she didn’t remember saying it, yet remembers everything else. She yelled at me, says I’m bossy and threatened to cut me out of her will, there you go …. fun times!
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

          2. Asp Emp says:

            Bubbles, brilliant to read that “IT indoors” is back at IT’s home 🙂 When she mentions the will next time, say to her “no, that does not make sense, I should get everything” (I am just being my sarcastic self by writing that). Muvver said same thing to me but it was all air-puffs and nowt else 🙂

          3. A Victor says:

            Yes, it was for you Bubbles! I’ve been a little concerned but figured you were just busy. Glad to know I was right. So sorry about how you’ve had to be spending time but I’m glad she’s back home, hers, now! Isn’t it crazy what they “forget”, conveniently, for them. My mother is the same, it is not easy. Glad you’re back, I hope you can rest up a bit, it’s taxing. 😘

          4. Bubbles says:

            Dearest Asp Emp,
            Mum was reliant on everyone in hospital and therefore ‘oh so nice’, now she’s back at home …..she wants everyone to rack off, including me.
            I have now backed off
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

          5. Bubbles says:

            Dearest A Victor,
            Thank you for thinking of me lovely one, that’s so precious of you ☺️
            Alas, no rest for me, I’m Mr Bubbles Uber driver, taking him to appointments and hospital treatments…..it’s all go, in between getting flu vacs and booster jabs. I’m busier now in retirement than when I was working and raising 3 ankle-biters.
            However, AV, I am taking good care of myself …by avoiding people 😂🤣😂🤣
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

        3. Asp Emp says:

          Hey, Bubbles, you do make me laugh “SMS’ing”, phonetically it comes out as “smessing” 🙂

          1. Bubbles says:

            Dearest Asp Emp,
            I was trying to be ‘correct’ …. I normally say texting 😂
            Smessing in neither here nor there, just smessing around ….no wonder we’re all stuffed up 🤣
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

          2. Asp Emp says:

            Laughing…….it is rather a good sounding word 😉

          3. Bubbles says:

            Dearest Asp Amp,
            I seriously think thats why I get attention, I’m always happy and laughing, I always try to look at the bright side and turn downers into uppers with all my friends. I can be serious, when necessary, but I really prefer to laugh.
            Laughing is the best and cheapest medicine, ever
            Luv Bubbles xx 😘

          4. Asp Emp says:

            Bubbles, you are absolutely right 🙂 I was just re-reading this very conversation moments ago 🙂 Ah, bless you, Bubbles xx

  5. Asp Emp says:

    https://narcsite.com/2021/07/12/love-letter-using-the-love-devotee-trait-against-the-target-8/

    HG, oh, HG, thank you SO much for re-posting this thread. I really enjoyed re-reading it. I was crying with laughter. Fooking hilarious…….(thank you xxx).

    Bubbles, you made me laugh a lot then! 🙂

    1. Bubbles says:

      Dearest Asp Emp,
      Thank you for the memory lane chuckle AE 💕
      If pen comes to shove, ✍🏼 it’s all in the wrist action 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
      Luv Bubbles xx 😘

      1. Asp Emp says:

        Bubbles 🙂 hahaha who needs pens these days 😉

        1. Bubbles says:

          Dearest Asp Emp,
          I used to dabble in calligraphy and I still have my pens 🖋🥰
          And I still send cards
          Luv Bubbles xx 😘

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