Tom Bower – Revenge – Excerpt 3 – Peeling Back the Layers of How A Victim Is Affected By the Narcissist
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Risky. I hope it works out. HG.
Thoughts;
So empaths take on character traits also = interesting.
That an empath can have these traits reduced so much that they would deliberately hurt those they care about and love = scary. (I guess one could sort of relate it to those who let their partner abuse and beat their children and even join in.). Not sure if being with a narcissist can excuse any behaviour tho.
I guess this is what is termed shared fantasy? = Where the narcissist traps the empath to share their fantasy and warped view. They are unable to live in reality but a parallel universe where they are wonderful, kind and brilliant. I forgot successful and connected to all the right people. Only their thoughts and ideas are correct. Trust them because everyone else is a charlatan and does not have their back. Of course a lie brought about by emotional thinking on their side.
You are correct Harry is beginning to look like a narcissist. He was always an attention seeker – I think back to things like the swastika incident and demonstrations of lack of impulse control.
I am also reminded at how some people seem to blame Carrie and not Johnson for his actions.
I think I am going to explore some of these concepts in my next book – following the one about a psychopath.
Thanks HG 🙂
Whoa! – 20 thousand plus views on this video since this morning. It’s going to be a very popular series… looking forward to it.
WhoCares, yes, the number of viewings has been high, not surprising with the excellent work HG does. It also indicates the interest in Tom Bower’s book too, because he (as well as HG has) written about other well known people 🙂
Asp Emp – agreed. It’s brilliant and timely for HG to be reviewing this book and providing his insights. And we all benefit from the education.
WhoCares, yes, indeed. I think it is funny the fact Tom Bower’s book is due out and HG continues to “talk” about Harry’s wife which makes it the more difficult for her to “do something about it” 🙂 It will be interesting to see how she actually reacts when the book comes out, and, what the mainstream public’s reaction will be too (ie the ones that have not seen HG’s work on her, not aware of her being a narcissist).
Much of the fun for longtime Tudorites will be having readers and listeners recognize that Bower’s research confirms the patterns of narcissism that HG has been identifying and analyzing from the beginning. Her grandiosity and compulsion to shoot down everyone’s ideas (without offering better, or even any ideas of her own) during the Reitman’s modeling gig are textbook examples. I was ready to fall over when I learned how she acted (up). Even genuine Supers Cindy Crawford and Linda Evangelista started out modeling for local clothing stores, college papers, and hair styling salons.
“Much of the fun for longtime Tudorites will be having readers and listeners recognize that Bower’s research confirms the patterns of narcissism that HG has been identifying and analyzing from the beginning.”
Agreed.
I also find there is always more to learn and reflect on, even if we have had much experience practically applying the past learning.
Utterly fascinating with regards to the collateral damages narcissist can inflict. The funeral looking back showed the IPPS so frustrated/ enraged because he was trapped.
The “uncomfortable” feeling that victims of narcissistic abuse / ensnarement may differ because different emotions are ‘involved’ but not recognised as such by someone with highly ‘messed’ up ET / LT. The ‘nuances’ in the differences may be observed by people who are not emotionally involved, or directly connected to the narcissist and the victim.
If we ‘examine’ various photographs / video clips of Harry when he is either with his wife, or members of the Royal Family, and at the same time, view these in a lateral and analytical manner, the ‘nuances’ in the discomfort can be seen at closer inspection.
Even though I have ‘re-programmed’ the way I look and feel about my past, I can ‘reflect’ and recall such incidents when I was with different members of my family. It does not increase my ET, nor ‘impact’ on my LT as I do this when I am reading, say, this particular video as above. It is interesting to observe the differences in my ET / LT at the time of the ‘incidences’ and recalling these ‘moments’ in my early days of the new path of understanding myself and my past and to how I ‘see’ and ‘feel’ about these incidents now.
People say “Time heals”. Bullshit. It is not about the “time”, never mind the “healing”. Nobody “heals”. It is about understanding oneself, the ‘trauma’, the ‘experiences’ and whether one was supported at that present moment in time. Who was the ‘mentor’, the nurturer, the ‘light’ that was needed there and then? It is about being given the right ‘tools / resources’ to introduce the understanding by the right person(s) at the right time.
Thank you, HG, for listening and understanding people like me, including yourself as an individual 🙂