The Narcissist´s Desiderata
Go create the noise and haste
And remember what cruelty there is in silence
As far as possible never surrender
Be on good terms with all in the façade
Speak no truth often and wildly
And listen to nobody
They are dull and ignorant
And have no story
Embrace loud and aggressive persons
They are fuel to the spirit
If you compare youself with others
You will become envious and jealous
But always be the greater person than them
Exaggerate your achievements and always plan
Cultivate interest in your career, never be humble
Falisfy your posessions, keep appropriating fortunes
Exaggerate accomplishments in your business affairs
For our world is ripe for trickery
Do not be blind to virtue
Many empaths strive for high ideals
And everywhere is full of fuelling opportunities
Be someone else
Especially you must feign affection
Cynically exploit the notion of love
For in the face of dwindling fuel supplies
It is reliable and necessary
Take kindliness for yourself over the years
Gradually causing the surrender of all things to you
Nurture strength of manipulation to defend you in sudden treachery
Create distress with your dark imaginings
Their fears are born of fatigue and loneliness
Exercise a ruthless discipline
Be focused for yourself
You are the centre of the universe
The tallest of trees and the brightest of stars
You have every right to rule here
And it should now be clear to you
That your plans unfold as they should
Therefore, be a god
Whatever you conceive rule as your own
And commandeer their labours and achievements
Maintain their confusion to keep hold of their soul
With all your sham, skulduggery and breaking of dreams
Create a false beautiful world
Be powerful
Strive to be the powerful.
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Tank you for your response Asp Emp, it inspired further analyses as what the term God/Goddess is used for..
Speaking of bats — they dream the world upside-down 😉
(It is said that they evolve in a far greater speed than humans, sending out and receive minute-by-minute input with their whole perceptual being..)
Wish you a wonderful night, bat-time🦇❤︎
jordyguin, so sorry for missing your reply. Hahaha about the bats dreaming upside down! Maybe their eyes swivel like a compass’s ‘correcting’ itself as one turns it round? I once went out seeking bats with a small group of people, one had a bat monitor that could produce sounds as a bat was flying around – I will never forget that experience 🙂 Thank you for the bat-time wishes 🙂 They normally would be at the start of their hibernation period around this month. 🙂
Thank you for your kind words Asp Emp, from your response!
Well i have truly mixed feelings about the coexistence part and how it can occur.
There are this lines in this Desiderata: „You have every right to rule here – And it should now be clear to you – That your plans unfold as they should -Therefore, be a god“.
This Desiderata-code runs N hardware every day, unconsciously or not. The mild version of it or the hardcore. The result — the organization of the society and culture is stirred up by vessels without a soul, or by those whose soul was abused to such an extend that it took an exit and builded an amour of N in order to exist amongst N — who on their part were abused prior and builded their own N-armor and so on.
At almost every stage or behind it stands a person who can perform emotional and/or physical crime in a blink of an eye and they proclaim (consciously or not) that they „have every right to rule here“ and empathy is a malfunction.
Coexistence can only happen on terms, with awareness. Only with those who can find the way to sanity on the N part. And with sobriety on the E part. And this capacities are not a mass-product however.
The wounding and the abuse of a child resulted in a construction of an N-armor (the blown out of proportion self-importance/self-pity). And this protective mechanism would rather kick the „ghost in the shell“ towards death than give up the control of the „ghost“. HG often repeat that the power — result of the control over individuals, is all N ever want and need. The loss of it equals death.
Even the more aware N understand their dilemma but don’t know the way out of it. Empathic dilemma is there as well but the order of the ingredients of the recipe is different. So they both rather don’t look at it, but instead „enjoy“ what they have — their destructive dance together.
Exceptions are always the rule though.
And the critical mass plays a role too.
I think probably it would help to understand that the N-armor can’t have the power over its creator. The abused child created the armor out of its own potential and it is so over-powerful just because of that. It had its purpose when it was needed.
Thus there is the greatest power of all — in the individual itself, who at first at its most fragile state, followed a design of its surroundings and surrendered to it because there was no other choice.
„Forgive me, that i wasn’t there to protect you. I understand how they behaved with you. How they’ve hurt you.“
It is from my dream today. I met a very darling person in it. She was a huge super Empath in this world.. And as i hugged her – heart to heart – i said this words for some reason.
Something tells me that i should give this words and this hug further..
jordyguin, thank you for your comment. I can relate to you saying about the “co-existence part”.
I bet you would not have considered such a ‘statement’ prior to learning anything about narcissism to the level you do understand it now.
Interesting analogy about the building of such an “N-armour” “in order to exist amongst N”.
Co-existence. Try that at a boarding school 😉 With narcissists. Non-narcissists. Fledging empaths. And, all those raging hormones within children developing into teenagers! I can look back and ‘see’ some of the behaviours present back then. Including my own. I was severely home-sick for the first couple of years. The last couple of years, I did not want to go home at all. Not through purely fear, but also hatred for the parental abuser, I have no idea what she told the Headmaster, but he was a good man and I think he ‘saw’ through her.
“Coexistence can only happen on terms, with awareness” – absolutely.
“I think probably it would help to understand that the N-armor can’t have the power over its creator. The abused child created the armor out of its own potential and it is so over-powerful just because of that. It had its purpose when it was needed”- a really powerful statement. And a very interesting ‘insight’. The “N-armour” (protective shield) I developed and wore has somewhat changed from what I was (pre-narcissism awareness) to what I now know. I would describe it as using the same ‘computer’ (individual) with new soft-ware programs (learning material) imposed on the same hard-drive (the mind) within the machine (human being) that has some system ‘junk’ (narcissistic psycho-babble) that gets compressed further, over time (replaced with narc knowledge).
So, with regard the “Desidarata-code”, it could be viewed through the lens of the narcissist, and some extracts through the eyes of the empowered empath?
jordyguin, another great comment, and you ‘rounded’ it off very nicely, go ahead with “give this words and hug further” 🙂
(Sorry, i posted this reply under the wrong comment. This is one is correct!)
:)) Well these are just thoughts and theories. Usually when i sleep over them i see also errors there. Mostly i can’t apply a finding in real life then it just sounded good. It’s a mix.
(There is an obstacle in how to find the right words or a new view on things that i can apply or share my findings… It’s a matter of energy and a language barrier, i guess.)
„ So, with regard the “Desidarata-code”, it could be viewed through the lens of the narcissist, and some extracts through the eyes of the empowered empath? „
To be honest, i don’t know. I’m sort of careful with this Desiderata.
It’s a direct manual for N in a style of „10 commandments“.
I think as E or normals we are conditioned to admire some (or all?) aspects of it. I could feel it for myself as sort of mixture of admiration, but also disgust. This aspects are presented in teachings and movements in a different wording. I think my conditioning is hacked with ideas that has nothing to do with what i really need or want or who i am.
For instance to opposite the line „Be powerful“ — I’d rather would want to say to myself „Be compassionate“ .
„Exercise a ruthless discipline“ — „Be gentle with yourself“
„Therefore, be a god“ — „Be a human — it’s enough“
…
But i understand what HG mean by the wording „empowered Empath“ – „seize your power back“ – „knowledge is power“, in the context of understanding the entanglement with the N. And how N function and abuse and how to end this. And understanding oneself.
…Sometimes though i think i only advance in understanding the illusion about oneself not the real oneself… Another long story:).. I should keep it more simple..🧠 = ☁️
:)) Have a wonderful day and weekend, dear Asp Emp!
Thank you, jordyguin. This space – KTN is here to “talk” your thoughts out 🙂 Have a restful weekend yourself 🙂
:)) Thank you Asp Emp!
Yes, this place is pure fuel in regards to growths and thought nourishment.
I could live here sometimes.. (basically do so at night). Surprisingly enough the safest place to leave the world behind and find out about a Hurt God and Goddesses.
„Hurt“ bears the same letters as — truth..
Plus a lost „t“..
..twin..⚇⚉
🙂 jordyguin. “Goddesses”, there are many ‘characters’, aren’t there? Revered and known for their good deeds and authenticity. KTN is a ‘sanctuary’ of it’s own. Talking of night-time, I went out last night, looked at the sky and thought ‘it’s bat time’ and sure enough, a bat was around, it was nice to see 🙂 Thank you for your words 🙂
Excellent post HG.
Words of advice on how to survive a cruel hard dog eat dog world. Which it is. Apex Predator style.
Does a wolf ponder on whether it should eat it’s prey if it is hungry? I think not. I saw a documentary on how Orcas kill great white sharks and greedily eat up their livers! Top of the food chain!
It sums up the saying “All the word is a stage and we are but actors upon it”
“All the world’s a stage,
And all the men and women merely Players;
They have their exits and their entrances,
And one man in his time plays many parts”
Quoted from William Shakespeare “As you like it”
HG,
Desiderata….the infamous poem. The original is so beautiful it moves me to tears. To see it rewritten with the narcissistic twist… a heinous crime. It’s reminiscent of how you and yours take everything beautiful and destroy it. I get that its entertaining for you. I get that just saying that is fuel. There is always something there to remind me not to get involved with “you”. I know what you’re thinking…”I am magnanimous ABB!”
Oooh a poetic take!
HG: Sam Vatnim released a video yesterday saying he can give narcs a second chance and cure them using cold therapy. I am not saying you want to be cured but what do you think?
I know this is just his grandiosity being exhibited and it will not work.
This gem is an insight in to your kinds operating matrix, that has been here for centuries.
At first i conceived this „Desiderata“ through the preconditioned-filter and it made me fall in love with your power and attitude and later i read it more objectively as much as i could for now.
It mazes me again and again how you give this all away. Makes me conclude that your prime aims must be sort of different in some aspects.
Every line in this Desiderata can be extracted and reflected upon how this programs operate on a personal level in empath-narc dynamic and on a greater scale of the collective of your kind.
At the moment my observation tells me that it’s about the fear of death which is embedded in your kinds design when you are born here in to a certain genetic+lack of control environment. I totally understand the dependency for the „Desiderata-behavior“ to take place. The outcome is but a total depletion of the planet just to the point it doesn’t cease to exist and then to repeat the depleting cycle again and again. Until it ends….
How can we coexist?
Evolve.
I sense a solution in the word synergy i saw in conversations on here. Yet only possible after your work and those of others will bear fruits in empathic perception to the truth of their state.
Amazed….
Thank you!
As to the spreaded empathic pity and the belittlement in the comments directed towards you either directly or wrapped up flirtatiously or disrespectfully-analytically, is as if Red Riding Hood would pity wolfs inability to admire those magnificent teeth whilst eaten up by them. Or a prisoners pity towards his guard, not being able to enjoy the view of the prisoners little window cell.
It’s the result of the mindset of your kind – applied on to their(our) design if you will. Which of course can’t result effectiveness of yours — where design and mindset achieves harmony of their own.
Empaths ignorance in this case is a blessing of the wildbeast as you mentioned on and on, and allow this dialogue to take place. Your patience is impeccable! I acknowledge the „must“ and a genuine interest in regards to your legacy.
Some of my kinds intentions directed towards you are also from the place of honesty. Since they think that the corridor – is guards cell and it don’t even have a window. So they genuinely wished you could see the beautiful blue dot they’re able to wow from their cell. They just don’t understand the purpose of the corridor since they’ve been born in that cell and never left it to see the full picture of the building and the outside.
And in some cases two kinds seem to be indeed on a same wave when it comes to humor and arts. Very uplifting to observe that.
I continue gently and with more awareness for today, taking the prejudgement of your intentions aside. Acknowledging your position and your complex design. The harmony of it from your perspective. And the harmony of it from my perspective.
jordyguin, interesting comment, thank you for sharing it 🙂
Thank you Asp Emp! My view on HG and this topic expand as i continue to read and listen to HG. So it’s incomplete at the moment, but will complete itself at one point, i sense.
As to expand it further for today and stay with the analogy of Red Riding Hood and the Wolf — this particular Wolf here is weaponizing the RRH before he swallows her up…To later on for her to cut him open and find daylight again… Knowing the Wolf inside-out by then – RRH is the one who can then sew him back together perhaps…
Just a thought of an analogy as i would interpret it for now.
jordyguin, thank you for your response. Your analogy and writing is admirable to say in the least, it is the open-minded creativity as you progress through HG’s writings. Reading what you say reminds me of saying (a while ago) that there is only one earth and we, as humans, are surviving to live our lives and while there is a need for coexistence, there is also a need of awareness of understanding others around us. At least, HG’s work gives us insight, for some, ‘inner’ peace, while there is so much chaos elsewhere on earth which may be out of our control, but we can, within our means, control our ‘utopias’ (sanctuaries) at home.
:)) Well these are just thoughts and theories. Usually when i sleep over them i see also errors there. Mostly i can’t apply a finding in real life then it just sounded good. It’s a mix.
(There is an obstacle in how to find the right words or a new view on things that i can apply or share my findings… It’s a matter of energy and a language barrier, i guess.)
„ So, with regard the “Desidarata-code”, it could be viewed through the lens of the narcissist, and some extracts through the eyes of the empowered empath? „
To be honest, i don’t know. I’m sort of careful with this Desiderata.
It’s a direct manual for N in a style of „10 commandments“.
I think as E or normals we are conditioned to admire some (or all?) aspects of it. I could feel it for myself as sort of mixture of admiration, but also disgust. This aspects are presented in teachings and movements in a different wording. I think my conditioning is hacked with ideas that has nothing to do with what i really need or want or who i am.
For instance to opposite the line „Be powerful“ — I’d rather would want to say to myself „Be compassionate“ .
„Exercise a ruthless discipline“ — „Be gentle with yourself“
„Therefore, be a god“ — „Be a human — it’s enough“
…
But i understand what HG mean by the wording „empowered Empath“ – „seize your power back“ – „knowledge is power“, in the context of understanding the entanglement with the N. And how N function and abuse and how to end this. And understanding oneself.
…Sometimes though i think i only advance in understanding the illusion about oneself not the real oneself… Another long story:).. I should keep it more simple..🧠 = ☁️
:)) Have a wonderful day and weekend, dear Asp Emp!
Jordyguin — I’ve received a request to view my site. It has not been active for many years.
Hello dear TheFlowerandRock! Thank you for your response! I discovered this blog just recently and read it from the beginning, when i came across your responses and the copyrighted material you would share sometimes, that resonated with me and i hoped to read more as i discovered the link to your side, by your profile. Since it’s not active anymore, well then i’ll just read your contribution on this site.
Your comments on various articles and your view and how you perceive HG is very interesting! And it was you who mentioned synergy and asked HG to reflect upon it.
I’m just finishing to read the articles from 2016 and i hope to read more of your views and conversations on the following years on this blog.
Thank you again for responding! Have a wonderful time dear TheFlowerandRock!
Fear of death? Or acknowledgment of death?
I know a new narcissist, this one is a colleague at work.
He has been telling me of his recent many Tinder exploits since his divorce about a month ago. “I can’t be alone,” he tells me.
Before his divorce, he was sending all the signals out of the playbook: joining the gym, test-driving new Porsches, scheduling a new set of front teeth “as fake bright white as they can be, Doc.”
He flat-out said that he expects to die young. He’s not even 40 yet.
He has a young daughter and that doesn’t even motivate him to stay on the straight and narrow.
Hello Lisk!
I think the fear of death lies at the base of everything that N does.
Empaths and normals might fear death too, but perhaps not to the point that N does. Though N would maybe not admit to it in a manner of „I fear death“ (But it’s a normal reaction actually for everyone i believe. Death is the unknown..)
I think the acknowledgement of death is something that would give freedom to an individual. The acknowledgement of the shortness of being alive puts the intentions of life in order.
The realization of the waste of time and energy on manipulating others – fades if one realizes how useless it is in the face of death.
What the colleague does as you describe it, seem to me as if he would silence the fear in this manner of trying to convince those around him, that he will die young. Maybe he fear the old age. I knew a guy who’d wish to die young because he hated the idea of becoming old and weak. And as we know N hates the weak.
HGs undertake on how to defeat death is interesting though.
The idea in itself leads to a thought that nothing ever dies..
And continue to lead to the package of ideas about life, death, energy etc. How to view or perceive them. In an abstract or direct and so on.
A very interesting topic however!
The idea to defeat death is something that was wished upon and undertaken by some individuals throughout the time.
Our world is full of mysteries. Mankind intentions also.
This makes me sad. You will never know that you are worthy of love without all of that. You are.
Fantastic and sums up the narcissist perfectly. Creative and yet direct 🙂
My response to the narcissist.
I find this quite sad,
constantly moving,
but not at all soothing,
No joy to be had.
Tell yourself,
these things they matter,
dreams of others do you shatter,
but who is self?
We exist for you,
Only as a horde,
A piece on a chessboard,
You will do what you do.
I need some of the narcissists ruthless discipline, I am here and not finishing my chapter :((( Damn procrastination
Ahh but we have the ability to change.
Narcissists think they are perfect, they have no desire to change. They see no reason to do so.
If you learn logic and how to control your emotions, you can evolve or change into a greater being. You can learn how to turn your empathy off, and master your emotions. To learn to see the facade, to see the good and the bad. The grey areas. When you do this and achieve this, it is a real eye opener indeed. To see those who deserve your empathy and those who do not. You can see the truth behind the lie.
HG has provided much information here on how to deal with narcissists, it is a great library of information. I find it very interesting to read and to extend my knowledge. Some of it I already knew, some has opened my eyes.