February 8, 2023/ Last updated : February 8, 2023HG TudorHG Knowledge
Don’t Fail Me
I have exacting standards. It is important to do so in order to achieve success and make my mark on the world. Owing to this, I hate being let down. If you tell me that we are meeting for lunch at 1pm then I expect you there at 1pm. Punctuality is the politeness of kings. If you are late you are telling me that you do not value my time. That is unacceptable. If you explain that you can deliver the product I want, the way I want it and in the colour I have chosen, I expect you to adhere to that. I am not interested in excuses. I will exert my influence as far as I can to ensure that what I have been promised is provided. I will cajole, coerce, persuade and harass to ensure the outcome is as was confirmed to me. Hotels, restaurants, shops, online providers, sporting venues, bars, people, products – all of them have been subjected to my precision and desire for high standards. I provide excellence in my profession (of course aided by a legion of underlings but it is at my direction).
Nobody likes to things to be wrong do they? Nobody wants a blue car when they asked for black. Nobody wants the wrong name or age on their birthday cake. I am sure I am not alone in my desire to achieve error-free services, goods and people. That is a laudable sentiment. Should I fail to deliver on my promises then it will be because I have been let down first. I have an aversion to disappointment and my failing can only arise as a consequence of the neglect and negligence of another. Each and every day I strive to ensure that I am not left flailing in the wind, as dejection cuts through me as a consequence of having been let down. It cannot happen again.
Where does this demand for delivery and high standards come from? It comes from my dread and fear of being let down. I cannot stand it. It breaks me in two and rips open a wound that has never properly healed. Being let down undermines me, makes me feel unwanted, unnoticed and unappreciated. All things which are anathema to me. He let me down all those years ago. I relied on him. Well, we relied on one another. It was, or at least it was as I thought, an unbreakable bond. I looked to him and admired how he carried on, when all hope seemed to have gone. The towering waves of misfortune and misery would crash against him but he was always unbroken and unbowed. He said that he would always look after me. He told me that he would protect me against those slings and arrows of outrageous fortune. I knew the world was a dangerous place, a cruel domain which showed no mercy and took no prisoners. I had seen with my own eyes what this place had done and could do. I was under no illusion as to the harshness of the vagaries of treading along the mortal path. He listened to my hopes and fears and he understood them like no other. He made me feels safe and wanted. I hung on his every word, mimicked what he did and pledged my unswerving loyalty. He accepted my fealty with open, gracious arms and I fell into them, safe in the knowledge that nothing could tear us apart. He promised me that,
“I will never let you down.”
I still hear his voice saying those words. But he did. He left. He let me down.
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This article has a deeper meaning for me personally, because it was part my journey of what I needed to ‘set free’, what had haunted me for so long.
This is why I suggest that Prince Harry needs to access HG’s work because the therapists that Harry has had time with has not assisted him to realise and deal with his trauma.
This article will always be remembered as a piece of the puzzle that what was my past. Thank you for giving me access to your resources to enable me to unlock my past in order for me not to carry it around with me any more xx
Jordyguin, in my view, I think Harry needs an approach to HG’s work slightly differently than most empaths who access his work because they do not necessarily have the neurodiversity as such that Harry has. In my view, Harry needs to find out and learn about his particular neurodiversity as to why he seems ‘different’ to his brother, for example. Harry will understand but needs more time to process everything that he needs to learn compared to someone like me. Maybe HW is already “distracting” herself elsewhere but she needs to “ensure” that she has “secured” her next victim?
Hmm exchange one victim for another? We could end up full time „Mission Narcpossible“👍🕯Maybe a good thing!
I didn’t pay much attention to Harrys particular neurodiversity, can’t comment on that. But in general, for some reason I tend to think that (empathic) male logic ability adapt faster if there is a leader, who is worth his salt and men have access to him.. but yea perhaps you are right in Harrys case. His situation is a bit different to the majority.
To be honest, I personally think it is irrelevant about whether the person is male, or female when it comes to the speed of adaptability where logic and empathy are concerned. There is no “perhaps” about it in Harry’s case, it is a fact but nobody (ie publicly) is aware of evidential fact(s) in regard to what is exactly his neurological psychology. His behaviours are clues, what he says, what he does (now) and how he was before he met HW. Harry’s neurological thinking / feeling did not ’cause’ him to be how he is now, it certainly contributed to his current circumstances and his current mental / emotional wellbeing. He is only “different to the majority” because it is all public and one we all know about, there are thousands of others we do not know about.
Hi Asp Emp, I’m sorry I missed your reply.. I never referred to as male vs female logic but mentioned a benefitting ability, an aspect of male logical skills men tend to have in common belonging to the empathic group. Which is an ability of orienting themselves towards a leadership of a male friend, mentor, which increases their overall pace. Again, it is what I tend to think, observe. There is no relevance mentioned on male vs female logic in my reply. My „perhaps“ referred also to my stance as not having observed in detail any „particular neurodiversity“ compared to you who is perhaps examining this case in far greater detail. What I wrote was in addition to your observations and not a contrary. (My apologies if my formulation was confusing and viewed by you as such🐱☀️🌼)
This are my thoughts. In Harrys case and his situation which is different to the majority of victims of narcissists — him being a representative of a tradition and a lineage of rulers who structured society over long periods of time and had an influence on the history, development of mankind, make his case a bit different, at least for me. Mostly important there is a certain responsibility aspect tied to his existence of preserving the monarchy, which he began to view through a narcissistic, distorted vision of HW.
At the same time his particular case turned into an unprecedented, unique opportunity to learn about Narcissism in such detail which is impossible for any other analyst to even come close to! Perhaps a responsibility royal descendants may also serve and in a very unexpected way Harry is fulfilling his part by serving „an example“… A very extraordinary case indeed all together!!!
I agree with you on; the abuse he is exposed to is no different to the majority in terms of he is a victim of a particular school/cadre of a narcissist and they all operate from the same handbook.
(Communicating in a playful manner about Harrys rescue and putting him in touch with HG’s knowledge was my starting point.. I’m good with- to whatever direction a communication may lead and can adjust or refrain to various types of communication as we all are unique in our perception or preferences.
Anyway, I enjoy reading your various observations throughout the blog whenever they cross my attention and wish you a fruitful continuation in your endeavors and a wonderful weekend, dear Asp Emp🌷)
Jordyguin, so very sorry, I had not been notified of this comment – months ago 🙂 I have suggested somewhere on this blog that when it comes to someone like Harry, he has the neurological (ADHD?) and that is his ‘primary’ “condition”, followed by, his PTSD (mother), then the self-medicating (a lot of) and then his narcissistic abuse by the one he married. These are 4 main areas he has to work through. These have nothing to do with his Royal titles, in my view, they have no real bearing on how Harry thinks / feels. He was doing ok-ish before he met HW before she ‘re-conditioned’ his thinking, thus, his feeling (skewed ET / LT).
Having said that, as I was typing the above, I was recalling Johnny Depp and his telling the court about his own childhood (abuse & taking drugs at 11 years old), his ADHD, his abuse from Amber, apparently, his drink / drug taking increased while with Amber = similarities to Harry’s story (as HG tells it). Ok, JD is narcissistic, not the same as Harry (but people are seeing a highly narcissistic Harry at present).
Thinking about both these guys behaviours, there is an age difference. There is also awareness difference. I think JD was informed what Amber is prior to the trial, so he was advised how to “deal” with her in court. He found out about his ADHD around 2014 (if I recall correctly).
I think many people with ADHD / autism have some ‘idea’ that they are different, even told by other people, simply through lack of understanding / awareness. When given the tools to understand, it is a case of managing the triggers (recognising), sometimes, not always avoidable. Alas.
I understand exactly where you were coming from. I was not offended in any way. I think you suggested it correctly, a bit of ‘cross-wires’ 🙂 It happens 🙂 Likewise, you writings are interesting to read, sometimes, offering a different slant on perceptions, which is good. That is why I appreciate HG’s blog (space) to also look at how others think (because of the different backgrounds, cultures, diversity etc). Thank you for your compliment, I appreciate it. Again, I am sorry it’s taken this long for me to reply 🙂
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This article has a deeper meaning for me personally, because it was part my journey of what I needed to ‘set free’, what had haunted me for so long.
This is why I suggest that Prince Harry needs to access HG’s work because the therapists that Harry has had time with has not assisted him to realise and deal with his trauma.
This article will always be remembered as a piece of the puzzle that what was my past. Thank you for giving me access to your resources to enable me to unlock my past in order for me not to carry it around with me any more xx
– „This is why I suggest that Prince Harry needs to access HG’s work“ –
Let’s join our rascal empathy together Asp Emp, and brainstorm!!
🕯Mission Narcpossible🕯 🪂Next Stop Montecito🪂
> Get Harry out
> Place Harry in front of HG’s channel
> Select a playlist
> PLAY!!!
Key question: Who distracts HW and how???
Jordyguin, in my view, I think Harry needs an approach to HG’s work slightly differently than most empaths who access his work because they do not necessarily have the neurodiversity as such that Harry has. In my view, Harry needs to find out and learn about his particular neurodiversity as to why he seems ‘different’ to his brother, for example. Harry will understand but needs more time to process everything that he needs to learn compared to someone like me. Maybe HW is already “distracting” herself elsewhere but she needs to “ensure” that she has “secured” her next victim?
Hmm exchange one victim for another? We could end up full time „Mission Narcpossible“👍🕯Maybe a good thing!
I didn’t pay much attention to Harrys particular neurodiversity, can’t comment on that. But in general, for some reason I tend to think that (empathic) male logic ability adapt faster if there is a leader, who is worth his salt and men have access to him.. but yea perhaps you are right in Harrys case. His situation is a bit different to the majority.
To be honest, I personally think it is irrelevant about whether the person is male, or female when it comes to the speed of adaptability where logic and empathy are concerned. There is no “perhaps” about it in Harry’s case, it is a fact but nobody (ie publicly) is aware of evidential fact(s) in regard to what is exactly his neurological psychology. His behaviours are clues, what he says, what he does (now) and how he was before he met HW. Harry’s neurological thinking / feeling did not ’cause’ him to be how he is now, it certainly contributed to his current circumstances and his current mental / emotional wellbeing. He is only “different to the majority” because it is all public and one we all know about, there are thousands of others we do not know about.
Hi Asp Emp, I’m sorry I missed your reply.. I never referred to as male vs female logic but mentioned a benefitting ability, an aspect of male logical skills men tend to have in common belonging to the empathic group. Which is an ability of orienting themselves towards a leadership of a male friend, mentor, which increases their overall pace. Again, it is what I tend to think, observe. There is no relevance mentioned on male vs female logic in my reply. My „perhaps“ referred also to my stance as not having observed in detail any „particular neurodiversity“ compared to you who is perhaps examining this case in far greater detail. What I wrote was in addition to your observations and not a contrary. (My apologies if my formulation was confusing and viewed by you as such🐱☀️🌼)
This are my thoughts. In Harrys case and his situation which is different to the majority of victims of narcissists — him being a representative of a tradition and a lineage of rulers who structured society over long periods of time and had an influence on the history, development of mankind, make his case a bit different, at least for me. Mostly important there is a certain responsibility aspect tied to his existence of preserving the monarchy, which he began to view through a narcissistic, distorted vision of HW.
At the same time his particular case turned into an unprecedented, unique opportunity to learn about Narcissism in such detail which is impossible for any other analyst to even come close to! Perhaps a responsibility royal descendants may also serve and in a very unexpected way Harry is fulfilling his part by serving „an example“… A very extraordinary case indeed all together!!!
I agree with you on; the abuse he is exposed to is no different to the majority in terms of he is a victim of a particular school/cadre of a narcissist and they all operate from the same handbook.
(Communicating in a playful manner about Harrys rescue and putting him in touch with HG’s knowledge was my starting point.. I’m good with- to whatever direction a communication may lead and can adjust or refrain to various types of communication as we all are unique in our perception or preferences.
Anyway, I enjoy reading your various observations throughout the blog whenever they cross my attention and wish you a fruitful continuation in your endeavors and a wonderful weekend, dear Asp Emp🌷)
Jordyguin, so very sorry, I had not been notified of this comment – months ago 🙂 I have suggested somewhere on this blog that when it comes to someone like Harry, he has the neurological (ADHD?) and that is his ‘primary’ “condition”, followed by, his PTSD (mother), then the self-medicating (a lot of) and then his narcissistic abuse by the one he married. These are 4 main areas he has to work through. These have nothing to do with his Royal titles, in my view, they have no real bearing on how Harry thinks / feels. He was doing ok-ish before he met HW before she ‘re-conditioned’ his thinking, thus, his feeling (skewed ET / LT).
Having said that, as I was typing the above, I was recalling Johnny Depp and his telling the court about his own childhood (abuse & taking drugs at 11 years old), his ADHD, his abuse from Amber, apparently, his drink / drug taking increased while with Amber = similarities to Harry’s story (as HG tells it). Ok, JD is narcissistic, not the same as Harry (but people are seeing a highly narcissistic Harry at present).
Thinking about both these guys behaviours, there is an age difference. There is also awareness difference. I think JD was informed what Amber is prior to the trial, so he was advised how to “deal” with her in court. He found out about his ADHD around 2014 (if I recall correctly).
I think many people with ADHD / autism have some ‘idea’ that they are different, even told by other people, simply through lack of understanding / awareness. When given the tools to understand, it is a case of managing the triggers (recognising), sometimes, not always avoidable. Alas.
I understand exactly where you were coming from. I was not offended in any way. I think you suggested it correctly, a bit of ‘cross-wires’ 🙂 It happens 🙂 Likewise, you writings are interesting to read, sometimes, offering a different slant on perceptions, which is good. That is why I appreciate HG’s blog (space) to also look at how others think (because of the different backgrounds, cultures, diversity etc). Thank you for your compliment, I appreciate it. Again, I am sorry it’s taken this long for me to reply 🙂