Knowing HG Parts 1-3


Here comes the weekend.

It is time for some intrigue.

Learn about The Hourglass, The Crow Graveyard and the Pilgrimage of Ice and Snow and gain unrivalled and unique access into the mind of HG Tudor.

Will you be able to unravel the clues provided in each part that will grant you access to a stunning secret?

There is only one way to find out……

Knowing HG


Knowing HG Pt 3


139 thoughts on “Knowing HG Parts 1-3

  1. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

    Dearest HG: I heard the short sellers are very angry and have lost literally, and without exaggeration, billions of dollars shorting Tesla stock. lol. Short sellers are more vocal than they use to be, and even some are sort of infamous, I have noticed. Some of Tesla`s short sellers are even named. If I owned Tesla stock, I would take some profit right now, and then buy it back later, maybe next year or so, during a huge dip. Sell High is not hard for me, to deal with, like it is for most people. Most people can say: Sell High and Buy low, but in reality, the majority of people become attached to their stocks and will not take profit when the market is High: Empaths? I was wondering, is there a way that Tesla can hedge itself against these infamous and named short sellers?

    On another note, I am sure the market will crash soon, once the Corona situation is fully impacting many countries, and the next stage of admissions of how bad it is and will be, is publicly announced.

    HG: IF I were a financial advisor, I would tell my clients to sell RIGHT NOW, any stocks that they want to sell, and any stocks that they have made a good profit on, right now, while the market is High and is ARTIFICIALLY, to prevent panic, being propped up. Then I would tell my clients to hold their CASH from selling those stocks and buy back some stuff later on, if they please. Buy low and Sell High. Dearest HG, please listen to your PSE and: SELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    P.S. I heard that Tesla is going to have a vehicle on display for the SuperBowl, in the U.S. this weekend, but not alone: Competitors will also have a vehicle, with celebrities promoting each vehicle of course.

    1. FYC says:

      PSE, I hope all is well with you and if you receive this notification, please do let the blog know you are well. Take care.

  2. Violetta says:

    Desirée: Given the traditional Manhattan gridlock, that would be hard to equal. There might be worse drivers in some places, but not worse traffic.

  3. Desirée says:

    I also had only one thing come up on the inside track that I did not agree with. Overall, it will most likely pan out this exact way.

    1. FYC says:

      Desiree, I hope all is well with you and if you receive this notification, please do let the blog know you are well. We have eradicated all Demodex and Covid19 from the blog so it is safe to return! Take care.

  4. Desirée says:

    Re: traffic in Toronto
    How bad is it on a scale from 1 to Manhattan?

  5. Desirée says:

    Sounds great, I kind of wish we could discuss it in the comments. I have so many thoughts about this that need straightening out.

    1. FYC says:

      Desiree, I understand and it would be interesting, but then the confidentiality would be breached and the proprietary nature of the contents would be lost. We will have to be creative and talk around it carefully to protect the actual content.

      Maybe at some point, HG could host a paid for webinar for a private Q & A session for those who have purchased the packages? (Time permitting and attendance sufficient to make it worth his while.)

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Something along those lines is in hand

        1. FYC says:

          Thank you HG, I look forward to it!

      2. Violetta says:

        Desirée and FYC:

        Makes sense. I wanted to make specific comments on “AVRN – Inside Track,” but didn’t want to give away any spoilers. I will say that I could anticipate most of the patterns HG has taught us; only one thing took me by surprise.

        (Obi-Wan has trained me well.)

  6. Lorelei says:

    All wine must have a chill! Now—obviously in social settings I don’t ask for this and will drink what is served. At home though it all is served cool or cold.

  7. WhoCares says:


    Happy to hear that you left your narcissist and that you are healing!

    I thought I would respond because when I was still absorbing HG’s work, in the beginning, I also thought my narcissist was a greater. However, greaters do not beg and plead and would have very little trouble containing their fury. Many of the behaviours you have mentioned, including that your narcissist “erupts very easily”, are not indicative of a greater.

    I would definitely follow through on HG’s recommendations. You will find much peace of mind in determining the school and cadre of your narcissist, since then you can better gage what to expect in terms of hoovers etc.

  8. zwartbolleke says:

    Everything from reading your blog, listening to your material, listening to these knowing HG chapters, it all feels like listening to Bach, Mr Tudor.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I am obliged, ZB.

  9. Cloudy says:


    How would be your perspectives on some of the best battles are won in complete silence?

    Please clarify

    1. lisk says:

      Cloudy, I understand that you are quite curious, but this sounds like an essay question!

  10. Anm says:

    what kind of red wine do you chill? A Zinfandel, Lambrusco, even a Cabernet or Pinot Noir is ok or even good to chill. The only time I am picky, and insist that I drink red wine warm, is when I eat Italian food. Then I need a more full bodied red wine like a chianti. I would probably flip the table over yelling if my wine was served chilled in that circumstance.

  11. Cloudy says:


    How about Positive Narcissism?

    Any articles on this?

  12. Cloudy says:


    What is narcissistic rage?

    Can you please give a brief description

    1. HG Tudor says:

      See the book Fury.

  13. Caity says:

    HG, I just purchased your 1 to 3 and look forward to hearing them. I also wanted to share that a friend if mine has escaped today from her Lesser husband. I’d given her many of your books to read (she hid them at work so he never knew) and I do not exaggerate when I say your work was instrumental in her finally getting the courage to escape, and that is indeed what it is. Escape. She had tried to leave once before but he used an extremely threatening hoover; this time she knew what she had to do and all was successful. He won’t find her, and while she knows it’s a long road ahead she thanks you for helping her to understand finally what she was living with. As with most Lessers, he was brutally abusive. This time, instead if doing what she’d thought was right and telling him it was over, with very careful help, she literally escaped. Thank you so much from her and from me…had I not found your work I could not have helped her. I wouldn’t have known how. Once she’s settled and truly safe, I hope to help her with a consultation with you. She’ll need it.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Caity, thank you for your purchase and also for sharing my work with your friend. I am pleased, but unsurprised, to see that it gave her the much-needed courage to plan and commence her escape. Do encourage her to organise a consultation and also send her “HG approves” to gird her loins.

      1. Caity says:

        Thank you, HG, and I will, to both. Also, listened to 1 thru 3 and they were wonderful. Loads of questions, of course, and I highly recommend to other readers to purchase and listen…not just for the insight into yourself, but also as you mentioned, because your words if considered on a deeper level, do offer another insight into ourselves and how we see your kind. Thank you.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You are welcome.

    2. lisk says:

      I’m so happy for your friend, Caity.

      After reading it, I cannot help but think that HG really saves lives.

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Indeed I do.

  14. Smantha says:

    HG, I was IPPS, I left my lower greater narc, he had narcissistic injury after I told him something and he said it was over but it was just rage in that moment and he blocked me. So i told him to get lost as well and blocked him as well. but 2 days later he unblocked me and comes back and does the IGH for 7 days. He blew up my phone with voice messages and private calls, emails, begging and pleading that he had anxiety and could not eat/sleep, he missed/loved me, to forgive him, to call him, to have mercy on him, to give him closure if i was moving on.
    i felt bad but was not going to respond to him as he would have sucked me back in, and I asked my sister to give him a response which was implying that my father was not having him waste my time anymore. After this he did not try to contact me again.
    since then i have not heard from him and i will assume that he is focused on the new supply (whoever the poor thing is)

    I am healing, i guess i didn’t really suffer a huge devaluation and i am focusing on myself for now. i did not suffer PTSD but apart of me still misses him sometimes. Hence no dating for now.

    Do narcissists usually do follow up hoovers to restart the relationship with the old IPPS if the current IPPS fails?
    (i would never go back again but just curious)

    He erupts very easily even during idealisation he can be extremely harsh and he doesn’t care about it.
    He was a bit careful with me, he told me i reminded him of his mother (MatriNarc lol)

    I am just wondering how cautious would i need to be? so that he isn’t able to speak to me, as i sometimes get business private calls so i always answer.
    Do narcs do FUH using private calls to test the waters as he cannot message me because he is blocked.

    By the way love all your books packed with so much great information.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Smantha,
      From the information provided I doubt you were ensnared with a Lower Greater Narcissist – I recommend you use this
      When the new IPPS falls into devaluation, this increases the risk of being hoovered for the Immediate Former IPPS, although this level of risk is also affected by how good your no contact regime is. However, when the new IPPS falls into devaluation, this increases the possibility of being hoovered (other factors can reduce it). The Former IPPS may be hoovered for just fuel or to reinstate the Former IPPS as the IPPS, it depends on what is occurring within the fuel matrix. See also
      To protect yourself use

  15. Violetta says:

    Mercy: hey, I slept like a rock after listening to HG reading the Grinch.

  16. Renarde says:


    Just bought part 3. Can you send it to my new email address please? Ta

  17. Renarde says:


    You missus are a dirty bird. I hope the other hand didnt wander..

    1. MB says:

      No ma’am. Purely educational.

      1. FoolMe1Time says:

        If there is a mystery to be solved, you will solve it MB. My money is on you and FYC. 🥰

      2. Renarde says:


        Phew! I was worried for a second!

  18. Claire says:

    Dear fellow readers, these amazing materials are not to be missed! I am mesmerised!
    I treasure these golden opportunities to know more about the man who helped me to rebuilt my inner strength and finally to restore my inner peace.

    I eagerly look forward for more material about the brilliant author HG Tudor , the saviour and the guardian of the Empaths.

  19. Lorelei says:

    Haha—no. But it is my secret!

    1. MB says:

      Lorelei, pssst…it’s not a secret anymore! Nobody chills MBs Merlot!

  20. Violetta says:

    “I have a secret MB—I like my red wine chilled.”

    Anathema maranatha!

    Next you’ll be serving it with fish….

    1. Lorelei says:

      Fish and red wine? No.

      1. Violetta says:


        Just don’t put your scotch on the rocks in the UK. They used to beat people up for that.

        1. Lorelei says:

          Haha—no. I have a friend in Scotland that wants me to visit. He’s kinda weird though and I don’t want to feel “stuck..” But it’s a place to stay! Maybe 2021.

          1. Violetta says:

            Have you tried haggis? I figure it’s like black and white puddens, Dim Sum, or scrapple: tastes great as long as you don’t think too much about what went into it.

          2. Lorelei says:

            No but I’ll eat anything once!

  21. FYC says:

    Challenge accepted! I listened to all three. Twice. The first time I just listened straight through. The second time I took detailed notes. I assimilated far more finely detailed information contained in the audio file with this effort, as each file is loaded with layers of illuminating personal recollections as well as other data. All three parts reveal so much, yet when taken together, they reveal even more: Not only about you, but about narcissism, in a way that only you can deliver. Part 3 really provokes a strong emotional response. You offer a powerful, evocative depiction of a formative experience and reveal a driving force with regard to something very important to you. Thank you so much for sharing this series with us, HG, and for all of the valuable insights you deliver. You never cease to amaze. I look forward to part 4 – 10, or is it 20? No matter, count me in.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you FYC, good to read.

    2. FoolMe1Time says:

      If anyone can figure it out, it will be you FYC.

      1. FYC says:

        You are most kind, dear FM1T. I have a feeling about what it is, but I am doing a bit more research to try and confirm. I love a good mystery and a challenge. Too bad we can’t all meet for coffee and sleuth it together!

        By the way, I am so proud of you and your new job and outlook and bright future. Well done. And sorry you are feeling emotional today, but let it all flow and you will be all the better for it. Feelings are meant to be felt. Just retain your LT in full while you do so. They work best together. Hugs to you.😘

        1. Fool Me 1 Time says:

          Thank you FYC. I have never been very good at looking for clues and solving mysteries, I’ll leave that up to the rest of you to do. Have a good weekend FYC. 💞

      2. Lorelei says:

        Costa Rica? 🙂

        1. FoolMe1Time says:

          🌞 🌊 🏖

        2. WhoCares says:

          Lorelei, what about Costa Rica?
          It’s beautiful there, but that’s all I know.

          1. Lorelei says:

            I think there are men worthy of having a drink with in Costa Rica. Drinks with little umbrella decorations.

          2. Fool Me 1 Time says:

            Little umbrellas?! Ugh!

          3. WhoCares says:

            “I think there are men worthy of having a drink with in Costa Rica. Drinks with little umbrella decorations.”

            Indeed Lorelei – I recall Frederico (just call me “Freddie”) the very witty and charming tour guide – who, when no one else was looking – would fiddle with my long hair and invited me to come visit him in San Jose, saying that he could use a native English speaker to teach his children…
            And yes, if I could have escaped our hotel room without my parents noticing – you can bet that drinks with little umbrellas would have been delightful with, Guillermo, the bartender. I am certain “Guillermo” just rolls off the tongue in a lovely way after a few Pina coladas…

            I went when I was 16 and fell in love with Costa Rica; I dreamed of returning many times over the years. It didn’t hurt that I had a potential job offer ‘awaiting’ me – haha. I am absolutely certain now that Freddie was a narc.

          4. Lorelei says:

            Whocares—of course he was!! I think Costa Rica is in the future.

          5. FoolMe1Time says:

            Sounds like an adventure is calling Lorelei.

          6. WhoCares says:

            Aside from the narc men, it really is a unique place – when I went the tourist industry was just getting under way so there was still a huge middle class and people appeared mostly happy and welcoming to visitors. I don’t know if that is still the same. (You didn’t see extreme wealth and extreme poverty like some tourist destinations.)
            The beauty of it was incredibly unique – we stayed in San Jose and did excursions to both coasts and a local countryside tour (the local food was awesome).
            It felt so novel to be able to travel across an entire country in a day – of course my comparison is Canada where it *feels* like it takes forever and a day just to get out of Ontario.
            My favourite part was the Pacific coast of Costa Rica – since we stayed at a quiet hotel, had the entire beach to ourselves and it was black sand (from volcanoes!)Which, at 16 I didn’t know existed.

          7. Lorelei says:

            I’ve never seen sand tainted by volcanoes but I know in Hawaii it is in many areas. I’m trying to make plans and it is really inexpensive to travel to Costa Rica. I’ve spend time in Ontario—my friend has relocated there from the Alberta Prairie which is way too far and remote for travel. I can drive to the area she is now located in a half a day. I am waiting for probably May? We met on Facebook some years back in a dog training group! Talked for years and have never “met.” I love Canada as I’ve spend time there with fond memories. Maybe I’ll see MM!

          8. WhoCares says:


            May sounds about right, anytime before that is freak snowstorm time (at least where I am) and May is the season of Mud in my neck of the woods.
            I guess you could see MM – especially if she and Harry end up anywhere around Toronto!
            I won’t be seeing her; not enough high profile photos op where I am.

            Have fun planning your trip to Central America.

          9. Lorelei says:

            I found a July departure date with an excellent rate to stay in a rainforest or some such location. My oldest daughter is likely to go—the little kids should be on vacation with their imbecile father! Hotel Punta Leona. Doesn’t look too bad. It’s gonna be hot & rainy. I’m glad she is considering because it’s a strained situation.

          10. WhoCares says:

            We didn’t do the rainforest, sadly. But got really good exposure to local culture, which I loved.

            When I was there, somewhere not far from the Gold Museum, I bought a lovely soapstone sculpture by a local artisan – it was of two birds, necks gracefully out stretched, beaks touching at a point (the narrowest point being where the beaks met; I didn’t think that was achievable with soapstone). When I told the artist that I would be taking it back to Canada, he shooed me away and told me to come back in half an hour for it. When I returned, he had modified a small, sturdy cardboard box with a lid and very carefully secured it at many points, with soft twine, so it would survive the trip back. I was very impressed by this gesture – the memory lasted longer than the sculpture!

          11. Lorelei says:

            I understand! The item has more associated than being pretty to look at—I remember a teacup I bought after climbing the Great Wall—they were very cautious to wrap it and it made it home intact. (That’s a bitch of a climb too—its very disjointed and the footing is a challenge)
            My mother was generous enough to fund the excursion so I’m excited. I have to go in the summer though because it’s hard to be away while the kids are in school and I’m
            already away twice in school months.

          12. WhoCares says:

            Re: the Great Wall – that sounds like quite an adventure…bet that is a treasured teacup.
            I am excited for you and your plans for Costa Rica!

          13. Lorelei says:

            Thanks. I hope the kids never break it—they are forbidden to touch it. It was a great experience though because the history is so rich.

          14. Lorelei says:

            I temporarily changed my avatar Whocares—this was taken looking down after we were about halfway up to where we stopped. The leaves were turning—perfect time of year.

          15. WhoCares says:

            Thank-you Lorelei!
            That’s a cool shot of the wall and the expansive view of the landscape behind is pretty impressive too.

          16. Lorelei says:

            Toronto makes me want to die to drive around.. Traffic is awful at midnight in that city. The public transport is ok, but driving sucks.

          17. WhoCares says:


            Toronto is alright…I have studied, lived, worked and vacationed there. I personally never drove there though; not much point when the transit system is pretty good and cheap!
            However, I would never live there again.
            I had the chance to take my son there recently, we did some local sights including Canada’s Wonderland. Stayed in a tiny AirBnB, but in a nice locale…he was mostly impressed with the subway system, haha.
            Kids are funny that way.

          18. Lorelei says:

            The subway was cake to navigate.

          19. Violetta says:

            FYC: it’s the math equivalent of Dolores Umbridge and her “Synthesis Matrix.” I hate these “Method over Material” types. One of those hall monitor types (though I think she was an actual one, complete with sash and badge) from Girl Scouts grew up to be an elementary school teacher. Her web site contained at least one post from a student puzzled that she wanted them to show their work using her particular Method, but he went along with it. No Gausses in her class!

          20. FYC says:

            Violetta, we both know it is all about the accurate results. The rest is control.

  22. nikitalondon says:

    What is the difference in between part 1, 2 3 separately and this 1to 3?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      There is no difference.

  23. MB says:

    Are there enough clues in these three to reveal the stunning secret, HG?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You’ll have to work it out

      1. MB says:

        You are a mysterious and intriguing man Mr. Tudor.

        Hot bubble bath + Red wine + HG in my ears = a wonderful and relaxing Friday evening.

        MB, super sleuth 🕵️‍♀️

        1. Lorelei says:

          I have a secret MB—I like my red wine chilled. What a faux pas!!

    2. Mercy says:

      MB, Haha I think HG just gave you a challenge. I have no doubt you will solve this mystery. I seriously hope I can figure it out because it’ll drive me nutso

      1. MB says:

        Mercy, I woke up during the night thinking about it and trying to work it out. Not much interrupts my sleep. I think it’s a sign I need an HG break!

        1. Mercy says:

          Aww I hope it won’t be an extended break like last time. Are you ok with your NC. Are you ok in general? I know when I’ve taken breaks in the past, it was at times I was vulnerable which ended in breaking NC.

          1. FYC says:

            Mercy, you don’t need an HG break. Besides we all appreciate you here. Of course, do what is right for you, but we will look forward to your return if you go. Better still, stay.

          2. Mercy says:

            FYC, I’m not going anywhere. I’ve still got that legal stuff to get through. I need HGs wisdom to keep me on track and I need you guys too! Plus I just like being here. It keeps me strong. I was responding to our girl MB.

          3. FYC says:

            Yes, Mercy, My apologies. I realized my error after I hit send. Same message applies to MB!! This place would not be the same without either of you.

            MB, I hope you feel better today. It’s too bad we do not have a private “Knowing HG” platform for those who have purchased the package (so as to maintain confidentiality) so we could discuss the many clues and perceptions and have it moderated by HG for questions (because he has so much time on his hands! haha). Then you could get your curious angst out and sleep like a baby. Take good care and have a happy weekend!

          4. Mercy says:

            “Then you could get your curious angst out and sleep like a baby” And get back to her morning shower routine instead of baths, wine and The Man whispering in her ear!! That would keep anyone awake haha.

            FYC, I do thank your for your kind words even if in error. A perfect example of why I need you guys!!

          5. FYC says:

            Aww Mercy, you are most kind. The sentiment remains true.

          6. WhoCares says:

            “It’s too bad we do not have a private “Knowing HG” platform for those who have purchased the package (so as to maintain confidentiality) so we could discuss the many clues and perceptions and have it moderated by HG”
            I like this idea, and had a similar thought. I suspect HG wants us each to work it out on our own? And as you said, there is the time investment for him.

          7. FYC says:

            Hi WhoCares, I am sure he does want us to work it out and I have learned a great deal more by the challenge. And although it would be fun to read others impressions, I am sure HG would not have the time to run a separate platform for the paid materials. The only down-side is all the questions that must wait for a future date to have a confirmed answer, but that is also part of the excitement and fun getting a new set of clues. I am enjoying the process. Have you sorted out the secret?

          8. WhoCares says:


            No I am sure I haven’t worked out the secret yet! I have only had a single full listening of part 3. I am intrigued by HG’s description of his internal experiences but so far my favourite is part 1.
            FYC – in your opinion, which part is more ‘revealing’ with regard to your findings? Or is it a combination of the 3?

            Haha – maybe HG will permit this question…maybe not.

          9. FYC says:

            WhoCares, Parts one and two provide facts, insight and backdrop, but I think the most telling clue is in part three on one sentence. I am not sure my theory is accurate. I have not been able to confirm through other previous writings as of yet. Perhaps it will forever remain a theory.

          10. WhoCares says:

            Thank-you FYC, I am having a re-listening…

          11. FYC says:

            My pleasure, WhoCares, the clue I reference is a sentence towards the end of the audiofile.

          12. WhoCares says:

            Thanks for the additional tip, FYC.

          13. Mercy says:

            FYC and WhoCares, like MB I woke up last night thinking about this. My dreams were very strange. I was trying to answer a multiple choice question but there were so many clues in the question and I couldn’t come up with a reasonable answer. It dawned on me while getting ready this morning what triggered the dreams.

          14. WhoCares says:

            Oh no Mercy, you too?
            I can’t say this affecting my dreams or my sleep – except I am up at 4:30 am having coffee and answering you!
            But that is pretty typical behaviour for me.

          15. Mercy says:

            WhoCares, Coffee and HG is my morning routine too.

          16. HG Tudor says:

            HG approves.

          17. WhoCares says:

            Early mornings become my routine because I can actually hear my brain at that time… coffee, HG, and the blog have become part of that routine mostly because of the intrigue and new stuff as of late – plus I enjoy checking in with people whose stories I am familiar with here. Conveniently, it is also a good distraction from legal matters.

            How is your legal situation going?

          18. Mercy says:

            WhoCares, I agree about early mornings. The blog is a good way to start the day on a positive note.

            As far as the legal matters, thank you for asking. Depositions are this week and I wasn’t called so that is a good sign in my opinion. I wish I could take a vacation out of the country for a month or two and all of this will go away. Hopefully it will all be over by the end of February. I’ve spoken to HG and know what my best course of action is. I just hoping that no action will be required of me.

            How are you doing? Any new news with your legal matters?

          19. WhoCares says:

            Mercy, I do hope your involvement is minimal and you manage to fit in a vacation!

            My narcissist is making mid-ranger maneuvers to the tune of “But I can change…” In one way, it is good because he keeps consistently demonstrating that he cannot make *actual* change happen and keeps showing his true colours. But there is a small chance that with the right judge he could gain some ground.

            And while I am very well prepared with regard to how things will play out and what to expect (thanks to HG’s co-parenting package etc.) I just worry because maybe there is something else going on in the rest his fuel matrix (which I know zero about and don’t care to know) that may cause him to prolong the process more and from every angle possible.

          20. Mercy says:

            WhoCares, have you had a chance to look at “Future Protection”? I think I read something about protecting ourselves when there’s a shift in the fuel matrix.

            I know it’s scary wondering if one of their sources gets wise to what they are and then they turn their attention back on us. I think about that all the time. It’s probably not the most companionate way to look at it, obviously I wouldn’t wish anyone to have to endure the abuse, it just sucks that a shift can affect us.

          21. WhoCares says:


            Re: Future Protection, it’s definitely on my future ‘wishlist.’

            I hear you re: compassion for others in our narcissist’s fuel matrix. The fact is whether or not we have an awareness of that particular individual, we still know our narcs are out there abusing someone – or about to. I can only defend myself and while doing so inform others along the way.
            Fortunately, in my case, the only way he can get at me is with a legal application. The only way he will get further access to me is to succeed in modifying our court order – of course he is trying to frame it as in ‘the best interests of the child’.

            No. The bests interests of the child = no further litigation.

          22. Mercy says:

            WhoCares, re: using your childs best interest. I feel for you in that aspect. I was lucky that my girl’s narc father wasn’t smart enough to challenge me. Instead of the fight he would move on to easier fuel. They still suffered from his lies and future faking but at least I didn’t have to worry about the legal system taking away my right to protect them These are the best memories you’ll have with your son and it’s a shame that you have to deal with the added stress from his father. He’s very lucky to have you in his corner. Too many children are forgotten when the empathetic parent looses themselves to the abuse of the narcissist.

          23. WhoCares says:

            Thank-you Mercy. I am so glad to hear that yours moved on to easier fuel! It is saddening that your girls had to endure his lies and manipulation, even if for a limited time.
            I think my biggest issue is actually with family law, at this time, because – to make it fair – both sides are given a voice and are allowed to be heard repeatedly. Mine is abusing this reality but it is also beginning to come clearer to those involved that there is an underlying issue here.
            Yes, you are very right that the stress of the legal process takes away from the empathetic parent’s ability to do their best parenting.
            Honestly, though I am so very fortunate to have minimal contact with my ex and the best protection for my child (for now) that I can manage, within the confines of the legal system.

          24. Mercy says:

            WhoCares, I wish I knew about narcissism back then. I would have done things differently with the kids. I didn’t realize what a lasting effect he would have on them. They still talk to him but it’s more out of guilt than wanting a relationship with him. A few years back he told the girls he had cancer. I knew it was a pity play and nothing was Wrong with him. They suspected too but felt guilty for doubting him I’m case he was really sick.

            When talking about making it fair in court, I’ve found fair isn’t always fair. I’m glad that your ex’s tactics are becoming clear to those judging your case.

          25. WhoCares says:

            Ugh..telling your kids that he has cancer. The depths they will sink to for some attention and pity fuel, unbelievable. They truly have no shame or insight. And, while misplaced, I understand your girls’ guilt over not believing him. I have had to confront with similar guilt over my mother but it is all too transparent in the end.
            I’m so glad you and your girls have no legal obligation to interact with him!

          26. FYC says:

            Hi Mercy, please don’t worry about too many clues. It’s not the amount of information that is important. Aside from HG and his internal experience, there is really only one subject that runs through all three offerings, and one clue that references a trigger that correlates with that subject matter. I believe this may be what HG is alluding to. I suspect something, but cannot confirm it as of yet from other HG materials. Of course, I could be missing something or be wrong entirely. I look forward to seeing if my theory is even close to correct. In any case, when you can’t sleep, give your open loop (unresolved issue) an ending, whether it be a decision, a conclusion, an action, etc. Then your subconscious mind will not stay stuck in the loop and you will sleep soundly. Sweet dreams tonight!

          27. Mercy says:

            FYC, I think a lot of it has to do with a course I had to take last week. The test was brutal and then HG gives us this little challenge like a cherry on top. Your theory is interesting. I assume I know the one subject matter so I’ll look for the trigger clue.

            I like your advice about an ending for unresolved issues. Maybe that will work with other issues I have going on.

          28. FYC says:

            Mercy, I bet you aced that course! I stumbled upon that bit of info in a neuroscience journal. It works for almost any anything!

          29. Mercy says:

            FYC, I don’t know if I aced it but I feel pretty good about it. I won’t find out for a couple weeks. Have you ran across anything in your neuroscience studies that helps with retaining or remembering what you read. Ive always relied heavily on resources but that’s not going to help me with this series of test I have to take.

          30. FYC says:

            Mercy, I am pretty sure if you feel good about it, you probably did better than you expected!

            As for memory retention: When we learn anything we are accessing our short-term memory. To migrate anything to longer term memory (different area of the brain) this can be accomplished in several ways, repetition, association with pre-existing long term memories, mnemonics, encoding via emotion, or a combination of all these (and there may be others I am unaware of). Anything that evokes strong emotion and engages our senses increases memory retention. It also helps to break down the complex into more easily understood parts (micro learning). When we understand something well, it is easier to remember. What form of subject matter are you dealing with (numerical, informational, rules-based, historical, etc.)?

            With regard to any standardized tests there are little things you can do to increase your performance too: Get good rest the night before the test; relax immediately before the test (try a mini-meditation); and eat something high in sugar or carbs 20 minutes prior to the test.

          31. Mercy says:

            Thank you FYC, it’s a case study and mainly mathematical which normally I’m very good at. The case study has one subject and there are several pages of information describing the subject. I’m being tested on three methods to come up with a final answer. Basically I have to find the information that applies to each method.  Each question builds upon the other so let’s say you get question 3 wrong, then 4 through 10 will be wrong too.  Here’s the kicker, I have no problem getting the final answer because of the method I’ve been using for the last 12 years at my job. Unfortunately none of that will help me answer everything in between. Also the terminology is different than what I’m use to. Basically I have to unlearn everything I know so I can wrap my head around what I’m supposed to be learning. 

            As I’m typing this it just dawned on me that I can compartmentalize each method. I read some things last night after I asked you that question. I did actually see what you were talking about, how emotion affects learning and memory. I also read about memory palace. I’ve never heard about this but apparently it was developed by ancient Romans and Greeks. If I knew about it, I forgot to store it in my palace haha. 

            Thank you for your help. As always, you gave me fun stuff to think about. Sorry if I bore you with all of the test information. I’m going to come up with a simple conclusion so Ill be able to rest tonight.  

          32. FYC says:

            Mercy, you never bore me. That sounds like a big challenge! Definitely do not try to unlearn anything. Create hooks into what you already know to make the shift. Using the principles you already know, create a translation key. You know X method, they prefer Y method, both arrive at Z. Find the similarities and differences and you’ll make a key that works. Test each as you go and you will build to a successful conclusion. You’ve got this, and I’ll be pulling for you!

          33. FYC says:

            Mercy, Your problem reminded me of my 7th grade algebra class. My father was a math genius and taught me a shortcut to solve any problem. It was awesome. The teacher accused me of cheating which I took offense at. He asked me to prove how I was getting all the answers right and asked me to take a test in front of him using my father’s method. I did so and got 100%. He was furious and told me that he is banning my method and his method was required. So I resolved this by using my father’s method and then going back and filling in the long work after the fact. Equally easy, but time consuming. So keep your method. Something like, problem A = Z (your method) now fill in the clues consistent with your method. If method B = Z what clues lead to this being true. If method C = Z, what clues support that conclusion? When you read the paragraphs, use a straight underscore for A, a wavy underscore for B and a dotted underscore for C. That way, you can quickly refer back to the supporting information for each problem you solve. Hope I got that right and made sense.

          34. Mercy says:

            Hahaha FYC your first sentence just made me feel really really dumb. Ok I’m going to read the rest. I know this will be a lesson to learn, I was just struck funjy

          35. FYC says:

            Hahahaha, Mercy, I didn’t mean it that way!!

          36. NarcAngel says:

            I feel so ” I like rokths! ” after reading that haha. Your natural curiosity and the way you process things I find so interesting.

          37. FYC says:

            Haha, NA! I am an anomaly. Interestingly, I find the same true of you and enjoy it immensely. I’m sure if I were to meet you IRL we would be fast friends.

          38. Mercy says:

            FYC, I knew this would be a valuable lesson. That’s pretty much what I did for the last test. I used the answer and went backwards. Sometimes I had to do process of elimination to rule out the wrong answers. I have time before this next test so Im reading over the methods individually and taking my time in hopes that it’ll all click.

            The last class I took with a co worker. She is also a math genius. When I looked over at her during class and saw the fear in her face I thought “well I’m fucked”. I think we both did well though. It’s just the fear of the unknown that messes with my head. Like what trickery will they try next?

            I can actually relate to your story with the teacher. His way was obviously not well thought out in order to inspire his students to succeed. I feel the same way about the class I took. I want to rewrite the program. I think alot of times the people making these programs have never actually used them. They’re just trying to cram a bunch of info into a set amount of time.

          39. FYC says:

            Mercy, I would put my money on you. I am sure you and your friend will do well. When the objective is how to make a test difficult, the teacher/institution fails the student. It becomes more about the test and its difficulty than learning how things work. Knowing how things work is far, far more important and useful. Then again, I did learn how to work around those who are controlling very well. I will have to credit the Ns in my life for that skill.

            Do let me know how it goes after you take the test. I have faith in you.

          40. Mercy says:

            “Then again, I did learn how to work around those who are controlling very well” look at you bringing us back on subject. Very clever! I was just thinking we better turn it around.

          41. FYC says:

            Mercy, speaking of on topic, have you listened to part 4 of Knowing HG? I do hope people will enter the private forum to have more discussion on topic. I note WP did not not offer nor send notifications for comments on the private forum even after selecting for notification, so you’ll have to check back from time to time.

          42. Mercy says:

            I purchased it this morning before work but haven’t had time to listen yet. I didn’t know there is a private forum!! Ive been replying to comments from notifications but haven’t looked at new stuff written today. Now I’m excited! Ugh I feel like I missing important stuff!

          43. FYC says:

            It just launched today. Listen when you can, and ask HG for the password.

          44. Mercy says:

            I’m in FYC! Should be interesting.

          45. FYC says:

            Excellent. I’ll head over there in a few minutes.

            WhoCares, come join in after you listen to part 4!

          46. Mercy says:

            FYC, I copied the last part of your comment and sent it to my home email. I had to read it a few times but I think got it and I think it’s going to work. I’m actually excited to do this.

          47. FYC says:

            Happy to hear that, Mercy! I hope it assists.

    3. Lorelei says:

      MB—I see no clues for anything!

      1. HG Tudor says:

        That’s because it’s an audio

        1. Lorelei says:

          Oh my god—never stops does it?!

        2. Ana says:

          Mister HG why would the narcissit block me after i exposes him and why when he say me he was showing me his back? Not even looking at me ?

          1. HG Tudor says:

            To assert control following your threat to that control by challenging him.

          2. E. B. says:

            Hello Ana,
            I recommend reading HG’s Logic Bulletin “The Three Interactions With The Narcissist”
            You will be able to understand the narcissist’s response more clearly.

        3. PrincessSuperEmpath says:

          FYC: I read your strategy on solving those math problems, and your teacher did not like it. Too sad: The more ways at our disposal to solve a problem the better, in life. I remember, when I was a pre-teen, and I loved reading historical romances before I accidentally branched off into espionage novels. My mom did not like really like me to read the historical romances, and a few times she asked me what I liked about a book that I was reading and I explained some of the story lines, and she was surprised and allowed me to continue to read them.

          Anyway, in those great families, one of the situations that I found interesting, when reading those historical romances, was that the Parents or Guardian, etc. would bring in Teachers/Tutors, and if the child/children did not learn, the Teachers/Tutors would be the person that got in trouble and even at times, dismissed/fired. Now, in modern times, when children do not learn, the children are punished, in many school systems, and the teachers continue on practically unscathed. What a difference! You would make an excellent teacher, FYC. I wish I had someone like you, as a teacher, when I was in school and very young, when growing up.

          1. FYC says:

            Most kind of you to say, PSE. Thank you very much. If I could impart anything to you, it would be to know and trust yourself. Know your strengths and weaknesses and accept yourself fully, leaving room for change. Continually pursue knowledge and wisdom. Live life fully until you can live no more. You do not need influencers or approval of others, you only need your own. Explore, experience and enjoy. You are capable of far more than you imagine!

  24. Lorelei says:

    That you are really a woman?

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