Knowing the Narcissist : Shelf Life : What’s Going On?



Life on the shelf.

The position of the Intimate Partner Secondary Source

Other commentators talk about the standard cycle of the narcissist being idealisation, then devaluation, then dis-engagement (or discard) and then hoovering. This is just one dynamic of many. None realise that there are many other dynamics and one in particular which is of considerable concern is in respect of those individuals who are Intimate Partner Secondary Sources (which includes Dirty Little Secrets) who are treated by the narcissist and ONLY the narcissist in a shelf manner.

Making sense of this interaction and also what is going to happen to you within the ´wheels within wheels´situation of a narcissist´s fuel matrix is not addressed elsewhere. For those of you who are in or believe you are in a shelf scenario, where you feel you are picked up and put down, treated like an afterthought, seen as a side piece, The Other Man or Woman, a mistress or booty call, this Logic Bulletin is absolutely for you.

This Logic Bulletin details a series of scenarios concerning you as an IPSS and the narcissist, including

  • What will happen to you? Will you always be treated in a shelf manner?
  • Will you become the Candidate IPSS and if so, in what circumstances?
  • Will you ever become the IPPS and if so, in what circumstances?
  • Why are you not becoming the Candidate IPSS?
  • Who else might be in the fuel matrix?
  • What is happening with you when there is an IPPS already in place?
  • What happens with you if the IPPS escapes?
  • What happens with you if the narcissist disengages from the IPPS?
  • Could there be other IPSS´in the picture? How to know and what this means?
  • What if there is no visible IPPS? Why are you not being made into the IPPS.

Through detailed scenarios set out over two audio files delivered by email, HG Tudor provides you with his accurate insight so you can understand shelf life so you can then make informed decisions with regard to your next steps and gain answers to everything you wanted to know about life on the shelf.

To access this extremely helpful material, which is available at just US $ 29.99, use this link 

18 thoughts on “Knowing the Narcissist : Shelf Life : What’s Going On?

  1. Black Phoenix says:

    In my opinion the DLS position is the most horrible and cruel form of abuse.
    You are a ghost. You have no dignity. You don’t exist.

    The classic IPSS position is hard and humiliating. But not extremely humiliating like the DLS.

    Do you agree with me Ultra?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I suspect some IPPSs in sustained devaluation would disagree.

      1. Rebecca says:

        If I’m remembering correctly, I recall your work stating the IPPS gets the worse treatment during devaluation, unless of course another type of appliance does something really naughty, then they get the worse devaluation. I think it’s really based on what the appliance did wrong and how badly it wounded the narcissist, how good their fuel was and exactly where they’re at in the fuel matrix.

      2. Black Phoenix says:

        Thank you Ultra.

        Probably I hate the fact that I had never been posted on social media with her.
        Very frustrating and humiliating.
        Her Big black (“dick”) friend IPSS was present many times…

        When I discovered the existence of the IPPS she blocked me permanently.
        I blocked her too.

        1. annaamel says:

          Why are you still thinking about this woman, Black Phoenix? Have you looked into the material provided to help you stop thinking about people like this? You seem at times to be hoping to be hoovered and it makes me concerned you are mired in emotional thinking. There are lots of info packages to support you in thinking about this in a better way.

          1. Black Phoenix says:

            No, after 6 year I have finally implemented a true, strong no contact. Even if I feel a strong pain.
            I deleted all photos etc.

            I had read Exorcism and No Contact.

            I was a DLS so sometimes the emotional thinking tricked me in this years especially because I don’t understand why I was put in this terrible position.

            Thank you annaamel

          2. annaamel says:

            Thankyou for replying, BP. No contact means not thinking about as well. It’s the thinking about that I’m noticing. A lot of thinking about.

  2. M7 Galibiyeti says:

    By Allah’s leave, this order, in which the devil reigns, will soon be destroyed by the volcan Cengiz. La Galibe illallah

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Nah, imaginary friends don’t have that impact.

      1. M7 Galibiyeti says:

        if the imaginary demon is doing that much. The Messenger appointed by Allah will wash them all easily, Insha’Allah.

      2. Rebecca says:

        I just bought this, this week and I found it very informative and gave it 5 stars. Thanks HG xx❤️❤️

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Thank you.

          1. Rebecca says:

            You’re very welcome HG xx

          2. annaamel says:

            I’m confused Rebecca. You’re an IPPS…

          3. Rebecca says:

            My husband isn’t the only narc I’ve had in my life.

          4. annaamel says:

            But your husband is the one you live with, who you want to leave. Living independently costs money, it requires savings, it requires resources to help you navigate the challenges that will arrive. HG has resource packages that can help you both remove yourself from the relationship and maintain your independence once you’ve done so. If he were to outline which resources those would be, I don’t think this one would be on it.

      3. Viol. says:

        What about imaginary enemies? I think the copier here is possessed by the demon Pazuzu.

        1. Rebecca says:


          You can borrow my pet Zuul, he’ll eat the printer, problem solved, just a one time donation to the Zuul fund would be adequate. 😁

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