Knowing the Narcissist : How To CoParent With a Narcissist
Often viewed as one of the harshest outcomes from an ensnarement with a narcissist is the issue of children and co-parenting with the narcissist. A frequent question that is asked of me by many individuals who find themselves in this predicament, worn down and unsure of how to go about this in an effective manner for both themselves and also their child or children.
The most common reason given to failing to implement total no contact is the issue of shared parenting with a narcissist. The attempt to escape the nightmare of ensnarement is viewed as unachievable and increases the concern, fear and anxiety for the non-narcissist parent in feeling eternally chained.
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Co-Parenting as part of your no contact regime
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What to do when the narcissist becomes problematic concerning arrangements
What to do where the narcissist involves a new partner with the children
What to expect in terms of the extent and regularity of the narcissist’s involvement in the co-parenting process
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How to handle occasions where joint appearances occur in relation to school or sporting events
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Slightly on top is is the daddies in the military. We consulted as my son is an 8 year kick in the door marine by choice and a boxer. My son is a loyal compassionate man with integrity since a child. I will give a proud mom example… when in 5th grade my son stopped a fight where bullies were picking on an African American boy on the basis of race. My son not only stood up to the bullies and threatened them, he told them the President of the United States was black so they no longer threatened this boy but the country of the USA. (Lol a soldier in the making). The principal called him in and oddly asked why he identified with the bullied boy. My son said he was half Cuban and therefore they were “ related.” I cannot tell you the layers of pride I have for my son then and now. I worried however as the training is bleed in your feet physically and psychologically brutal. Comfort is not in the vocabulary of a marine. And the training to kill is undeniable. My son was bombed in Iraq. I cried watching the tv. He told his friends not to contact me hoping I would not see and worry. But I did. He called me. I said “ we’re you afraid baby?” He said he felt his adrenaline run but he was taught to run to danger not away from it. He was ready. Fine. These daddies raised my boy in different ways then me but despite his trained ability to kill, readiness to kill, HG says that the military doesn’t make narcs or psychopaths, it’s different. I can see it but his lean mean war machine existence makes me proud but uncomfortable too…this is a kid who can sit on the edge of a helicopter 10,000 miles up with comfort, who can jump out of a plane without thinking, who can be bombed grab his gun and run to the source and with no doubt could kill if needed. Yet he spoke of the Iraqis with respect. Many serve the military, and he saw their poverty and said most who attacked were under equated and trained. He once told me he felt uncomfortable when people thanked him for his service. He felt he had not earned it. Can you believe it? He was two chosen in highest rank, popular and respected. He was in Iraq during conflict?! I said To him even if you had done nothing but train, the world knows your boots are on the ground ready and trained, your very being keeps us from being Putnim or Chinas bitch. Don’t you forget that…I may not like the idea of my son being a trained killer but I get it. I get the need for military in our society and grateful.I am grateful for the daddies who trained him and stand by even govern him;)
I think he was an ASPD not a narc. He has no empathy but very different than any narc you describe. Can a person just be a criminal or ASPD and not a narcissist? I think so but I am very keen to learning more as you are the master. No one compares. I heard that the DSM is revising narcissism in its 4th division. I think the more they learn about cluster B the lines blur. You should be consulted! And in every psychology class worldwide! What troubles me about Lucy is her particular “ lack of control” environment. I think LOTS is kept secret by the parents but still it seems a strong narc gene must have been present to take a spoiled or smothered girl to kill babies. I also believe evil exists so that is not accounted for you for obvious reasons. Chapeau!
I co- parented well with a diagnosed ASPD. I need to learn more about ASPD not from a he DSM or genetic research but through you HG. For example I was mislead in my beliefs that psychopaths are more violent and lead to kill than narcs. ChatGPT says so. I also believed psychopaths were “born not made.” Yesterday I watched Lucy Letby by you and it was too logical and brilliant to ignore. I thought narcissistic psychopath as I didn’t think psychopath tendencies existed. You are either born one or not. Lots of studies that prove a psychopath has a different brain. But if tendencies then you can be born with tendencies or created without a full fledged psychopath personality disorder. Your work on narcissists explains it all in intricate unwavering accuracy. But your psychopath works don’t remind me of my ASPD husband or many criminals including those who don’t kill. I also think my ex is AsPD and not a narc. Perhaps why we were able to coparent so effectively. I was also able to not talk to him once, stick to the court order and I got 80%, never asked for money and paid for braces, activities, phone, school supplies, clothes and vacations, SAT tutoring, college counseling and two years of rent as she was on a full ride at an 80,000 year tuition school near Malibu. I never asked him for anything. No contact. And I never interfered with their relationship biting my tongue when he took ownership of her accomplishments despite it being 80% of my time and my money and my nourishment. Her father hates me and this caused confusion but I would tell her that’s not important, what’s important is your relationship with him. He was good at discipline such as making her wash her car, do her own laundry etc… He was strict in knowing where she was and insisted in meeting her friends and the parents. He is paranoid. My trusting open view contracted but not a bad mix. He is a good businessman and she learned at his knee. Most of all during the divorce …I never ever revealed third parties names or my understanding of what he did and with who. His attorney once called me to try to figure out what I knew. I said even if I did know and I am not saying I have a clue, I would never say. I am not stupid. One psychopath is enough to deal with;) During the marriage I was clueless believing he had a legitimate business.