Knowing the Narcissist : Smeared
The smear campaign is a well-used and devastating narcissistic tool. With the unrivalled insight provided by a narcissist, this book explains why they are used, why they are so effective, who is involved in them and why, why people respond as they do to them plus more fascinating insights and enlightenment. This book also provides practical and effective methods of countering the smear campaign to ally to your new found understanding.
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Hello HG:
1. Did you march today?
2. I have been watching Tommy Robinson all day? I find him passionate, and deeply caring and embedded by his mission.
Smeared? He has been jailed and smeared.
I think he is an empath.
3. You?
1. No, I was watching Manchester City win the FA Cup.
2. You are entitled to your view but since you are a lawyer you may wish to read the judgment in his libel defeat https://www.judiciary.uk/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Hijazi-v-Yaxley-Lennon-judgment-220721.pdf
3. He is not an empath.
HG, I didn’t think he was an empath. Thank you for clarfying as such.
Dear HG:
Thank you for that decision. I won’t be like Donald Trump and dismiss it as awful judges that need to be removed. It was detailed. Balanced and thought out and it makes me wonder about Tommy Robinson. You see if I see something like that and it plants a seed of doubt in anything he says. Interesting. After reading that decision, I am better educated on Mr. Robinson who by the way is all over America. Thank you.
1. By the way, why America? Why is he meeting with all our podcasters etc… versus France or other EU countries that have more in common? We have a tiny percent of Muslims and it has not been an issue for our own versus the extremists and 9/11.
Why the USA? Money.
Well HG:
Tommy has been effective here and Canada. Jordan Peterson defended him to Piers Morgan as “what type of monster does it take to take on the establishment when it comes to hiding human trafficking”. Sadly we need a Tommy to fight the Epstein result which like the UK has had no one other than the direct offenders held responsible. It is disgusting to the young girls trafficked. I hope someone even if it is Tommy causes proper accountability no matter how many years go by. That’s my last word on the subject. I find it all disgusting.
Good, it has strayed from the subject of narcissism.
I would add after Jeffrey Epstein which went international, how can we trust the government when they cover up crimes and fail to prosecute? Webb writes about the history of corruption and if true and some is proven that money controls government and protects them and its deep and interwoven for a long time. Institutional corruption. People are being lied to and a two tier system exists. If that does not scream narcissism ….?
Also HG, he would be a good subject for the Tudorscope. I wonder now if his story of childhood horrors is real. I do believe there is some truth in it but that’s always the case for people who persuade.
One last thing, where was the Western world in this grooming scandal? The parents, social services, the police, even the press? Yes it was a hate crime. But why are young poor children so ignored? Hello Epstein? Who besides Epstein andMaxwell were arrested? Why are Gods children for sale? Where are we in evolution when it comes to them in general? It sickens me.
Hello HG:
Since my trial schedule has a lull, and I am having internet issues, I have been watching a lot of pod casters like Piers Morgan, Jordan Peterson, PBD, Joe Rogan and others and what I have found is that they give a platform to those they obviously dislike or who they are putting in the show to boost likes, numbers, ratings. I get it, everyone has to eat. But the filth that is platformed like Nick Fuentes. It’s different. And the polite way they handle filth is distasteful to me. To me, it was why I could not be a public defender. I don’t believe in constitutional rights enough to defend a pedophile. It was the same reason I left the district attorneys office and rejected the offer to join the Feds, I saw enough desire to win a case over ethical decisions to win to want out. I am grateful there are people who can do the job on both sides as with cops, but to me, it’s too serious when dealing with life and death etc… to compromise. And I watch these podcasts and I see institutional narcissism. They want fuel, attention, money, numbers over what is right. Now their guests often believe in their own narrative whether they are narcs or not. Tommy I find interesting as he seems to have suffered and seen suffering to legitimize his position but he has committed assaults in doing so. Crimes. Was he intentionally committing libel or was he a dumb shit who believed others? There were 5 witnesses the judge discounted. Personally the two kids fighting in a yard should have not been a media story for anyone including Tommy. It’s not fair to the kids. But the grooming scandal in Manchester across decades affecting thousands of white girls at the hands of rapist Pakistani men with a million rapes… covered up… like Epstein… with not enough held accountable…. Yeah. Go Tommy! So the judicial decision makes me question Tommy on that issue. The grooming scandal that he has been hammering about for a decade does not. I have watched credible evidence on that too. I think his position risks good people and moderate Muslims in the UK and I have friends in that group and worry about them. But I think his concern about Islamic ideology entering into the UK or any western world is valid. For example, there are only 3 democracies in the Muslim world: Morocco, Indonesia and turkey. The western world believes in democracy. Second, sharia law including women’s rights are in opposition to traditional Islamic principles. Who wants a fast growing theology growing on their country well established that would topple long established beliefs. In theUSA immigration control is about job loss, pressures on the medical and school system and crime but our Mexicans are Christian like the nation we don’t face issues like LA being majority Hispanic ( it is) and wanting sharia law. The recent immigration in masses is the problem too. When I was last in the UK, the boats coming over could not all be stopped. That was last year. Often it is displaced young Muslim men as women and children are left behind and they can’t get jobs. What happens when young often angry men have idle time? In New York they built basketball courts at the projects and it lowered the crime rate. Most Muslim countries are hell on Earth for regular citizens and many Muslim countries restrict or ban extremists from entering them. This argument is before you get to the Koran and certain passage or the beliefs children are given before coming to the Western world. Of course there are wonderful, good law abiding citizens who give diversity a good name and a reason to be protected but these valuable assets to the countries are at risk too in many ways. I think the leaders of the western world need a hard discussion on this. But they don’t. They hide away with fear and the grooming scandal shows this or they throw the baby out with the bath water like Trump did once banning all Muslims or suggesting so. It is a complex issue that needs kindness, finesse and firmness. The Muslim world is good at protecting their identity. I see nothing wrong in western cultures protecting their identity.
Contagious,
There are no Muslim democracies that deserve the name.
In Morocco the king is the sovereign, not the people. Any elected government serves entirely at the pleasure of the king who retains true power. In Indonesia, corrupt elites are eroding what democratic institutions there are from within and increasing the military’s influence steadily. And in Turkey, the dictator Erdogan just had another opposition leader arrested based on invented charges with the goal of imprisoning him just as Erdogan has imprisoned countless other opposition figures.
Anna: interesting as they are said to be democracies. It even lowers the field from what you said. Thank you!
Islam isn’t a religion, it is a dictorial political ideology originally governed by men,in fact still is.
Muhammad the prophet was in fact,a Warlord,a rapist,a pedophile,a murderer,had many slaves. He was a monster.
He murdered both jews and Christians.
What a fine example of a prophet he was!!??
Sadly most Muslim people either don’t know the truth about Muhammad, or they deny it.
Hello Jill:
I am an absolute believer in Jesus. But I know Muslims in USA and UK who would disagree and interpret their religion as caring for others and the poor and doing good works. Who believe their religion is designed for good. They are really good people too. My UK friend is a solicitor whose wife works and doesn’t wear a habib. My friend is wanting to engage in legal work that involves stopping honor killings. His great grandfather came from Pakistan and while he honors his heritage he calls it backward. The point is he is a Londoner true and throughout. Many generations. I worry about him and his family. I am against violations of human rights. And there is a line between those from all over who peacefully assimilate in a culture and those who arrive and do not assimilate and want to change the culture and who resent it. I mean even visitors who go to my Muslim cultures as visitors must respect it. I would never enter Dubai and not change my dress and ways. So why is it wrong to object to people who object to our culture? It’s not open to debate. America accepts all cultures, all religions but the buck stops at replacing us and our laws. Sharia law was outlawed in USA. It will never be here. But the reality is borders. Our borders have Christian Mexicans, central American’s and south Americans. Mostly christian. Europeans have the middle east and africa so the religions clash. There needs to be a fair dialog about how Christian countries are accepting muslim immigrants. Those there have been good for decades. But a dialog is needed. Or they must clamp down on dress, sharia laws and immigration to stop it. Most countries ate going in the far right later direction.
HG, because narcissists think in the moment, how does a smear campaign work, since it implies thinking ahead? I have read the book, maybe the answer is in there and I’ve forgotten it. My ex did a very real and months long smear campaign before leaving, hence my question. Thank you for your time and any answer you may give.
With an unaware narcissist, you threaten the narcissist´s need for control. The narcissist tries to assert control directly but you stand your ground and argue. He then breaks off and goes and complains about your behaviour (from his perspective) to his friends by saying you are an alcoholic and you are abusive towards him. They support him and he gains indirect control.
Three days later, you threaten control again. The direct assertion does not work. He again goes to his friends and complains that you are controlling. They sympathise and he gains indirect control.
A week later, you threaten control again. The direct assertion of control does not work. He goes to his friends and explains how you got drunk and verbally abused him. They are unsurprised as there is a pattern of behaviour, they criticise you and support him, giving him indirect control.
You have no idea that this is going on, but these individual instances of smearing which give him indirect control over you amass in aggregate and have the effect of a smear campaign even though there was no planning.
And isn’t usually with people you have never met? I met some of my exes a MLN and they were shocked. I really thought you were a bad person…. The funny thing is MLN do that to everyone: at work, with family and with friends. They are “ bitches” as my son said about my ex. My son said “ Never liked that dude, a whiny victim playing bitch-ass, loser.” True. He was weak that’s why they smear. They can’t cope with anything. They need to run to friends, family etc… about friends, family and work but they constantly get caught smearing! lol so they need new friends to run to etc… etc… etc….They boil up if anyone makes them accountable. They can’t cope so they run to the nearest mama to cry too. They are just weak people.
Okay, that makes so much sense! Thank you so much HG! And of course, by the time he started the smart campaign, I was failing him all the time, in his mind. This is very informative. Apologies for the delayed reply, I just found this.