This is NOT No Contact No. 3 – Checking Social Media

  The temptation to check the narcissist´s social media is strong, often irresistible. After all, you need to know what he is doing, who is he with after he disengaged from you, is he writing about you? Does that cryptic post have something to do with you or is it aimed at someone new? He […]

No Contact Mistakes : The Need to Sign Off

The most common conclusion to the romantic entanglement with our kind is for you to be discarded. Certainly this is what happens the first time around for most people. Later on, the likelihood of it ending because you escape increases as a consequence of either increased knowledge or awareness and/or being unwilling or unable to […]

No Contact Mistakes – Talking About Us

    “Fire and swords are slow engines of destruction compared to the tongue of a gossip.” – Richard Steele True words indeed. Gossip is a sure fire way to destroy your imposition of no contact. When you have implemented no contact you will have most likely have ensured that you stay out of our […]

No Contact Mistakes : Thinking We Will Not Hoover You

  A second common mistake which occurs when somebody implements no contact is thinking that there will not be a hoover from us. As I have explained, the hoover takes place at various points in the dynamic between narcissist and victim. In this instance, it concerns the post escape or post disengagement  hoover. Where you […]

No Contact Mistakes : Item Retention

  It is well understood that no contact is the effective approach to tackling our kind. Whether your entanglement with a narcissist was in a romantic context, familial or a friend, the aim is to cut that person out of your life forever so that the cessation of fuel supply forces the narcissist to seek […]