The Power of Distraction
I utilise my good friends denial and deflection, but sometimes you just keep going so I need to roll out another friend from the D cupboard, namely Distraction. If you have accused me of something or you have challenged something I have said or done which I find too close for comfort I will need to distract you from having a landed a blow against me. I cannot countenance you believing that you have delivered a hit. The most effective way I achieve that distraction is to either walk away or erupt into a massive rage. If there is an opportunity to escape your cross-examination of me then I will seize it. This may be putting the phone down or not responding to your texts, but if it is in person, I need to leave and do so in a pronounced fashion leaving you in no doubt as to what you have done. You have annoyed, irritated and infuriated me. If I flee the scene you can expect a pronounced period of silent treatment to follow as I seek to even things up. If I find I cannot get away from you then I must unleash my anger at you. It will come out of nowhere, it will not be linked to anything specific or logical and is purely a means of shifting the focus from what you have said that has struck a chord with me.
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I storm off when I am annoyed. How is this different from when a narcissist does it? I do it when I feel annoyed because I know he knows he is wrong. And there is no point in arguing about it further because it will just upset me when nothing will come of an argument. Because been there done that.
He was so obvious when I used to nail him for all the bs. I would back him into a corner, I refused to let him think he could manipulate me.
I guess just taking responsibility for your wrong-doings would be more than you could take. It would weaken the “perfection” you see in yourself. So, stomping off, to you, is the adult way of handling things. Don’t you see how child-like and pathetic it makes you look?
No, why should I take responsibility for the short comings of others?
I am all too familiar with this… I am the stubborn button pusher.
I guess leaving is better than unleashing your anger .
Probably, as long as I can get evade the questioning, I will use either.