Like A Book

How is that we are so skilled at reading people? It is straight forward. We spend all of our waking time doing it. We do not feel most emotions so we have to learn about them. We also need to learn what you like and dislike so this enables us to ensnare you in the first place. Our need to mimic what you do is fundamental. Thus we watch and observe you and other people to see how you react in certain situations. We then carefully log this in our minds. We know how much you love animals so any adverse comment about a cat or a dog will cause you to be upset. If we target this at your pet then your reaction is even stronger. We are aware that you have a poor relationship with your sister so we will use this knowledge to extract appropriate reactions from you by commenting favourable on things that she does. This may make us seem pleasant by paying her a compliment but we are really doing it because we know it will draw a reaction from you.

Years of practice has made us masters at this. It helps us in two ways. We learn how we should react and thus build up our complement of masks which we use to get us through life. It also enables us to know exactly which buttons to press with you to elicit the best reaction to suit our purposes. You will look back on our relationship and regard it as uncanny how we had this knack. You will wonder if it isΒ some sixth sense peculiar to my kind. People often wonder if its learned at some Narc Academy. The reality is that from an early age we were watching, scrutinising, logging and mimicking in order to apply the best way of manipulating you.

7 thoughts on “Like A Book

  1. A Victor says:

    This explains a lot. I had been wondering and thought you became good at reading people for the purpose of telling the world about narcissism, haha, I have never denied I can be a bit slow on the uptake. Thankfully, once I’ve got it, it sticks. This shows so clearly the predative aspect of how narcissism works. Very interesting.

  2. Ptsdafternarcabuse says:

    I know narcs reflect feelings/emotions because they lack certain emotions themselves, but why the need to reflect actions or traits of somebody else? Especially if she is not a primary source to be ensnared? I’m assuming it is due to a lack of identity. But as far as i can see, my narc very much has an identity, as do you. You are an accomplished writer. You said that you were a sports figure in your past. You are academically gifted as evidenced by your school performance. So how is it that you lack identity? This confuses me.

    I am reading your blogs from the beginning and am thoroughly addicted. It is fascinating, intriguing, saddening, and maddening (anger at matrinarc). Thank you for enlightening us, even though it is for your own reasons, as you say. I am a codependant empath and i wish i could make your childhood beautiful once again. Thank you HG.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are most welcome.

  3. Maddie says:

    I wonder if You have figured me out yet G? πŸ˜‰ If yes I’d like to hear it πŸ˜‰

  4. alexis2015s says:

    I’m interested to know HG how quickly you can pick up who is an empath, one of your kind or CD etc ?

    Does this require much / any interaction ?

    Do you consciously think about it day to day or only when you’re looking for new fuel ?

    1. malignnarc says:

      I can tell within a few minutes of speaking to somebody. Sometimes there are glaring examples on a person’s social media, but usually it requires a conversation with me framing some appropriate questions. Do I think about who a person is each day? I always analyse the people I meet to ascertain whether they could supply fuel in some way.

      1. alexis2015s says:

        Thanks HG. I always noticed (pre n). That certain people would look at me with eyes of utter hatred and I never understood why. I now realise there were likely Ns or at the very least toxic people.

        I bloody assess and read everyone now when I meet them. Are they an MN , N, other toxic or empath.

        But not for the same reasons you do HG. So I can steer bloody clear πŸ™‚

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