Gone Fishing

thEP8WDJVCI do enjoy going fishing. After all, I am a master at preparing the bait aren’t I? Based on my expertly honed observational skills I know exactly what to say or do to provoke a reaction from people and in turn garner some fuel from them. I know for example that my sister is obsessed with fashion and has to wear what is deemed to be the latest item or ‘in this season’. All I have to do with her is greet her and remark on her dress.

“That’s a lovely dress you have on. Is it new?”

“Yes, it is MaxMara, it is a runway piece. It is the latest high fashion,” she replies delighted by my compliment and the opportunity to boast about its origins and exclusivity.

“Is that so? I saw the very same dress last year when I attended that fashion show in Milan.”

“No you didn’t?” she will answer. Note how her reply was not a statement but it was a question. Straight away I have my bite. She is not so confident as to issue a full-blooded rebuttal. All I have to do is keep telling her that I did see it last year, embellish it with the name of a famous model and keep repeating the circumstances so my conviction seems absolute. Any criticism of her fashion selection will reduce her to tears and have her running from the room. If I receive any withering stares from her friends or my family, I will shrug and say,

“Hey, I wasn’t the one who was telling a lie was I by saying it was the latest high fashion was I?”  Nifty piece of blame-shifting there as well. They can shake their heads and tut all they like but I know I have landed a blow. By the time she returns having found some verification from a third party that her attire is the latest dress to wear from MaxMara the moment has passed and triumph has eluded her. It is easy and I get the reaction I am looking for.

I have a colleague who thinks he is an expert on the Tudor dynasty. I will throw him the occasional obscure fact and back it up with obstinate insistence and an almost slavish devotion to confirming I am right. He cannot stand it and it send him into a rage. He literally stamps his feet in exasperation. I usually choose to do this when he has no method of verifying what I am saying. Days later when he tries to correct me I brush him aside and give him no opportunity to speak. It does not matter then. I got my catch earlier and by telling a whopper I landed a whopper.

8 thoughts on “Gone Fishing

  1. Joa says:

    Oh, gullible fishesss 🙂

    I rarely get caught on such a hook, but I remember it perfectly 🙂 I hung on it several times. Uuuuuu, burning feeling! 🙂

    Unfortunately, I used to throw this hook to others (in my youth) quite often… at this point I feel sorry for my sister, who still has an aversion to me, when I sometimes take on the “director’s tone”.

    Today, I only use real hooks (yes? hmmmm… yyyes 😛 ). I throw them to conceited people, who use false hooks on vulnerable people. I like to do it in the presence of these vulnerable people. Especially. Just wait for the opportunity.

    I can’t help myself, though sometimes I should.

  2. Dan says:

    Maddie, if he is an n no reverse can happen. Maybe an awareness like H has but…

  3. Maddie says:

    Any ideas G?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      About what Maddie?

      1. Maddie says:

        About my son. How to reverse the whole transformation. ..see comments above x

  4. Magda says:

    Hi. how to “help” a child whos 9 n act like a narc???

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Magda, what is the behaviour which is exhibited?

      1. Maddie says:

        My first comment lol very memorable date 😉 well my son know every trick how to manipulate and tease me and his brother… absolutely he’s better than anyone can imagine… I sometimes get the feeling that it’s too late and that he has transformed into a victim narcissist. .. after reading You blog and books I still don’t know how to help him…

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