Get Ready to Drop

thUAB5MUHMPeople often accuse my kind and me of not doing pleasant things. I find that hurtful and incorrect. If there are two things that will annoy me considerably, they are being hurt and people being incorrect (see the War on Error) . I regard this as a useful opportunity to remove that misconception. When I first meet a lady, two things go through my mind. The first is that I want to look after her, treat her well and make her feel special. The second is I wonder what she looks like when she cries. Notice which one I put first though. I am generous to a fault. I will buy you gifts, I will take you to fantastic places and I will ensure that you and usually an audience are fully aware of the extent of my largesse. I take an interest in you and engage in doing all the things that you enjoy. Tell me now, how can it be said that I do not do pleasant things?

As with most relationships, there is a honeymoon period and things settle down. There is no need to keep buying you perfume or lingerie, or that new boxset of DVDs. One can tire of dining in a fabulous restaurant every Friday or having those long weekends at the coast. I reduce the extent of my generosity but I do not extinguish it altogether. Not at all. I like to surprise you. I like to make a sudden grand gesture by telling you that I have got tickets for your favourite pop star or I might hide a delightful gift under your pillow. I love to do this as it makes you feel happy and wanted. It also means that I am just about to push you off the cliff and land a hammer blow on you. I do not want you to know it is coming. Goodness me no, I want you feeling secure when I suddenly subject you to a period of silent treatment. That way I get a sensational reaction to my behaviour and I can feed deep on your over emotional behaviour.

9 thoughts on “Get Ready to Drop

  1. karaa34 says:

    So a present from You isn’t really a gift, then 😞

  2. Megan says:

    Incredible. This is yet another pattern – the pulling you in closer before the final drop when you are least expecting it, guaranteed to cause the ‘victim’ maximum pain and bewilderment. It’s something that even now, 4 months after the event, still has me reeling.

    Thank you for this blog – I’ve gained so much clarity and insight which some comfort.

    1. malignnarc says:

      You are welcome Megan. It isn’t comfortable reading at times but the whole point is to tell it as it is which people find really assists their understanding.

  3. Wow says:

    I can’t believe how text book it all is. And how I so readily fell for it…ignored the the red flags, the cold chills I got when the mask would drop. My narc and I recently had a great conversation and he promised to call me the next day. Instead I heard nothing for three days. Later when he was calling me an obsessed stalker for trying to get in touch with him he let it slip how much he enjoyed seeing me get more and more upset thru my texts. This has been the most confusing experience of my life.

    1. malignnarc says:

      Hello Wow and thank you for your post, sorry for the delay in replying. I am pleased you have found how the article resonates with your own experience, if you keep reading the blog and my books the confusion will recede. There’s nothing like getting clarity straight from the perpetrator.

  4. Miss_taken says:

    and it works Hook. Line. Sinker. Hooray for you! But meanwhile in PTSD-land …

    1. malignnarc says:

      PTSD does that mean Programmed To Suddenly Discard ?

  5. Stacey says:

    Hopefully when you push them off the cliff, they end up landing on a REAL mans tongue. 😉. I couldn’t imagine a better way.

    1. malignnarc says:

      Ha ha or I might just catch them at the bottom and take them back to the top !

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