Know Your Foe

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A triumvirate of aids to understand and beat the narcissist.

Spot the seduction. End the abuse. Resist the pull.

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10 thoughts on “Know Your Foe

  1. 1mindblog says:

    My narc still stalks but I don’t engage no way and no how. I am glad I got my heart back and my mind. No longer feeling squirly doubtful brain washed or someone’s prisoner. I owe it to God and much prayer and spiritual reflection.

  2. T says:

    I’m ok with everyone as long as they are up front about who they are and what they want. That way, I am fully aware of what I am getting into,and I have a choice on whether or not to engage. We learn from each other on this blog. That Zain guy fooled all of us….he only chose women he felt were attractive to include on this “exclusive” page…and he played all of us….his “moderators” would be so quick to call “narc” on anybody they didn’t like…and the others were too weak or too scared to be excluded because they had no other place to go for support….(friends try…but if they’ve never been through this…they haven’t a clue what we are going through)…therapist are helpful…but most of them have never been ensnared….they can spot an N in their personal life…and they avoid the abuse. My mom has great advice–MOVE ON! My dad and step mom’s (God rest their souls)…advice was to give me a gun, and watch my back…lol!

    I am very thankful for this blog!

  3. T says:

    ….and I want to thank HG for providing such a great a positive blog for us, and spending his time answering our questions!!! We should be showing our appreciation by leaving book reviews on Amazon! Those a very important for fellow survivors….they need to know which books will help them most! We can help them by leaving a good review! Thanks!

    1. malignnarc says:

      You are most welcome and I heartily endorse your suggestion.

      1. T says:

        You have a beautiful blog, HG! You wouldn’t believe the goings on in some private Facebook (victim/survivor pages)….a lot of abuse and rudeness to people just looking to heal. I got caught up on one such private page. It was supposed to administered by a fellow survivor–BUT HE TURNED OUT TO BE A NARC UNDERCOVER!!! He got others to abuse people and triangulate….got involved with women that were barely hanging on to any hope of getting through their past relationship….it was just awful! He was exposed and got ran off Facebook thank God!!! Thank you for being above board!!!

        1. malignnarc says:

          Thank you. Oh I have watched with some degree of amusement at what goes on at these FB pages. I see people who are trying to get answers (but they rarely do – they need to come here) , people who do nothing save give an hour by hour update on what they are dealing with. That interests me. On the one hand I know the confusion they are caught up in, because we cause that, but if they have found themselves on a FB support group for abuse and/or narcissism they must know what they are dealing with, so why keep on complaining and why not do something? I do see many people who just love the attention they get from moaning all the time (and people call me an attention seeker). There are narcs who sit there waiting and then abuse people and then there are people who legitimately ask a pertinent question or question why someone is doing what they are doing and they are rounded on as a narc. I remember one situation where it was like a witch hunt. The questioner was labelled a narc. Those who supported the questioner were labelled as narcs and I sat back and ate my popcorn as a free for all developed. You don’t get that here. I do see some people who need serious help and wonder what they make of the carnage on the page. I also see some people who are genuine in their need to help other people. They are fascinating places and no wonder, as I wrote in Sitting Target, my kind lurk there. I am what I am. I make no bones about that but if you want to learn and understand and then YOU choose what you want to do with that information then here is the place to be. Yes, I get fuel from it, why shouldn’t I and I up front about that but I also find considerable interest in what people write and I love writing too.

  4. T says:

    I finished Red Flag in 2 hours! It was great! #50 was unexpected….but ALWAYS present in these types of relationships!!!

    Although I knew about foreshadowing….I always ignored it…most people do….

    My mom and step mom always warned us girls to listen to what a man tells us and NEVER discount it! (my dad married twice-and he went for wisdom and class both times-he picked well). All of my N’s foreshadowed their ugly behavior to come in their speech. ALL OF THEM!!

    Give them enough rope…and they will hang themselves….

    1. malignnarc says:

      I am pleased you found it a good read. Most people ignore a lot of these red flags.What until you learn about the black flags…..

      1. T says:

        Black Flags?!!!

        1. malignnarc says:

          Wait and read !

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