You are my television. At first you broadcast all my favourite shows which I binge watch one after the other. I stare at the screen with avid enthusiasm relishing what is being provided for me to watch. I follow every development in the plot and I eagerly anticipate the next episode. I discuss what is being shown with all and sundry, delighted with the standard of output. I am so fortunate to have happened on your channel. It is as if everything you show has been written specifically for me. I cannot believe how much I happen to love everything you show. After a while however the shows start to lose their allure and become stale. This does not take long. I flick onto other channels and find shows there which are much more my kind of thing. I delve deep into these new shows finding them fascinating. I rarely return to your channel and when I do it is just to deride your output and take pleasure in pouring scorn on what you are broadcasting. In fact, I derive more enjoyment from criticising your shows than appreciating them. Eventually I stop watching your channel altogether as I am enveloped by what is being shown on several other channels (I have worked out that I am best served by having several channels on the go at once, jumping between them to heighten my enjoyment). A little while later I will decide that I don’t need your show and I don’t want the television on which I watched it. To distance myself completely from you I will go and by a new television. After all I can always get a better television can’t I?
17 thoughts on “Channel Hopping”
Hi HG, I’m working my way through all posts. They really are very helpful. May I ask 2 questions ?
First one is why does one person become the girlfriend openly to the world ? And another or others remain only in the back ground and last for a short period only ? And possibly not returned too?
Second question do you think the devaluation of a main one come because , there is a fear of attachment from the N towards the victim or the devaluation is just to receive confirmation how much the victim cares , Testing ? There fore fear of rejection ? I appreciate your time 😊
Hello Lisa, I am pleased you are finding the posts helpful and thank you for letting me know.
1. This is done for the purposes of triangulation. In such a scenario it is likely that the Public GF does not know about the Hidden GF. The N shows off this wonderful person and maintains his façade with the outside world as a great guy,with a super job, excellent life and wonderful GF. All positive fuel from the Public GF and from the people that constitute the façade. The Hidden GF will know about the Public GF and the N does this to draw negative fuel from the Hidden GF by making her upset, angry and jealous.
2. The devaluation arises because the quality of the fuel that is provided wanes and we blame you for this, thus the devaluation commences.
Well yeah, I’ve been guilty of “channel surfing” back & forth between people. The year I was 23, I binge-watched a man called Vinnie (but I can’t access his channel anymore because he realized what I was & blocked me).
He was your true love, right?
No that’s me.
Hey you! That question wasn’t for you. Lol You asked me how I proposed to deal with you feeling criticised while watching your game on TV if I was disturbing you. Would my idea diffuse the situation or no?
It has potential but the criticism has already arise and the fury ignited. How do you deal with that?
I’m glad to hear it has potential! The issue was to give you your golden silence during your game which I was obliging. I see I’d probably throw a few spitballs at your head too! Come the end of the game and no budge from your stance you would need to worry about my fury igniting. I suspect a stormy row late into the night…lol
I understand the intent but the fact you failed initially to recognise that I wanted to watch the match in peace and you kept going meant that this amounted to a criticism and thus my fury was ignited. Being pleasant and accommodating afterwards may take the edge of it but it wouldn’t stop it in the first place because the response is just that; a response which is too late.
My initial answer with the paper airplane, was that I was able to discern much quicker than current GF that you were in no mood to converse and driving you to want to be in a coma with mind-numbing conversation. So possibly the potential exists that it would have diffused somewhat.
But point taken the response is too late in your world view. At least it’s a reaction!!!
Another reaction could have been waiting for your team to make a big play and walk past the TV putting a post-it on the screen to obscure your view. The post-it would read A-hole. But I’m still remaining quiet, you see. Lol
Option A when I was leaving you be and offered a drink and nice convo after the game was really the way to go.
Agreed. If you were attuned to ascertain the situation much quicker then you may indeed avert the ignition of the fury with your paper airplance antics! The post it note would be a massive criticism – no emotion attached to it and yes you are remaining quiet but you wont be when the heated fury is unleashed at you for doing this.
And I am loving these role play antics!! I’m pleased when I’m learning better non-emotional, yet criticising responses as that will only aid me more when JN tends to hoover which we established if/when again, they will be malign attempts to punish me.
As far as this scenario goes, I believe I would get the reaction from you I was seeking with both plays. Positive for sure with the paper airplane. Negative and fury based with the A- hole Post-it. Although my fury is no match for yours, I have enough flames, I’d singe you back a few times…lol You have to admit, if you knew I did that to someone else who deserved it, you’d probably laugh and think it was funny!
You wouldn’t singe me, you would have wounded me. It is you who provides the reaction incidentally, by firing the paper plane or slapping the post it note on the TV. I do, you react. I may respond thereafter admittedly but the first move will be mine. Naturally if you rolled this out against someone else I would be amused.
My wish for you is that someday the stars line up so you can re-connect with him. If only to tell him thank you.
Or other viewing mechanism. Televisions are becoming a thing of the past, unlike your point, which is relevant and timeless.
When there is no emotional attachment them TVs can be replaced like people can be replaced by another and another… I attach myself so much to humans and animals that it is something I will never really really grip. I understand what is written above in words and sentences but not what it really means inside me.
Its veeery hard to read this HG. but its part of it so necessary to hear..
Send you many many many many many hugs 💝❤️