The Haughty Forty


The trait of haughty arrogance runs through our kind. This is predicated on our innate superiority to all around us. The world ought to realise how special we truly are and we are naturally contemptuous of those who fail to deliver the required respect and recognition. Our default setting is one whereby we are scathing of those around us, irritated by any success that they may have which moves the spotlight of admiration away from us and on to them. It annoys us to see underlings being afforded attention and angers us when we are not given the appropriate adoration befitting who we are. We are sometimes at a loss to understand how these ordinary people fail to realise that a giant walks amongst them, a colossus, a behemoth, these princes amongst men and we realise that this is a further failing that is attributed to those who are cannot claim the greatness that is ours. If we knew how to feel it, we might pity them, but we do not and as a consequence our feelings are ones of contempt, annoyance and impatience. Naturally, when we are seducing you, our wonderful prospective primary source we need you to see the benevolent individuals that we are, the kindly souls, the magnanimous man, the entertaining and humorous person and those masks are expertly and conveniently worn. Beneath this veneer of pleasantry remains our sneering disdain for all those we interact with. How we scoff at their foolish little lives, their ignorance of what really matters, the mundane rituals they engage in as they drift through life like some epsilon semi-moron. They are so fortunate that our kind brightens their lives and brings some respite from the ennui through the great works we create, great charisma that we exhibit and the great sensations we evoke in all who have the privilege of being selected by us. Occasionally, we cannot keep this haughty arrogance in check. During moments of incompetence by underlings, those of a tertiary and servile nature, we may snap and be dismissive of them. Usually you, as our primary source, will regard this as evidence of our desire for high standards and the mark of a person who does not suffer fools. Any discomfort you may experience in our unpleasant dressing down of a clerk who mixes up our tickets or a bumbling waiter who spills our drink is dissipated as you remain in our thrall, mesmerised by our superiority. At times your thinking may be allied with our haughty disregard for these minions. Those instances are providing you with short-lived glimpses of what really lurks beneath our many masks and in the fullness of time you will find yourself experiencing such arrogant contempt once your own devaluation is in full swing. Nobody is immune from this stance of ours because it runs through our core, we keep it hidden for as long as we are able for most of our kind has the awareness that such an outlook towards people is regarded as regrettable and unpleasant. Entwined within this attitude you will also witness repeated projection by us onto you. It is necessary for us to relieve the burden by passing it on to you, to maintain our elevated status and preserve our control of you and others through this contemptuous air. Here are forty spoken instances of our haughty arrogance which you ought to keep a watchful eye out for.


  1. Don’t be sorry, be accurate.
  2. You are always a let-down aren’t you?
  3. Don’t be bitter, be better.
  4. You go out of your way to annoy me don’t you?
  5. Not like that, like this.
  6. I haven’t got time for this.
  7. You don’t understand, you are not me.
  8. Sorry is your favourite word isn’t it?
  9. I’d do it myself but you need to learn.
  10. I honestly have no idea why I bother with you.
  11. I have the patience of the saint, I really do.
  12. Do you know who I am?
  13. I don’t notice what other people are wearing.
  14. I lead, you follow.
  15. I do, I am not done to.
  16. I have one of those only mine is better.
  17. You’ve made such a little go a very long way.
  18. I would tell you why but you wouldn’t understand.
  19. You’d be nothing were it not for me.
  20. I’m the rock star in this relationship.
  21. People only like you because of me.
  22. You need to smile less; you look like an imbecile.
  23. I suppose it is the best you can do isn’t it?
  24. No, it’s not good enough, you’re not good enough.
  25. Why did I ever choose someone like you?
  26. That’s okay, you can’t help who you are can you?
  27. It must be hell being you.
  28. Who are you again?
  29. Sorry, do I know you?
  30. Once is a mistake, twice is you sitting in a room with no work to do.
  31. I’m not arrogant, I’m just better than you
  32. You have no idea what I have to deal with.
  33. You wouldn’t last five minutes being me.
  34. You don’t get to be me through chance you know?
  35. You’ll wish you hadn’t said that because you’re wrong.
  36. Don’t worry I’ve carried you so far.
  37. You should have been smothered at birth.
  38. You are such a waste of space.
  39. Laughter is for fools.
  40. You really are a sorry excuse for a human being.

26 thoughts on “The Haughty Forty

  1. karen519 says:

    As on all that I have read of your work so far it as always is on point. Wow You Rock HG. This post makes me laugh too because it’s like hearing me and my N argument starting. I am guilty too with the words but he always wore it much better than I could 🙂

  2. V says:

    Does the desire or need to devalue, then discard go off inside of you like an internal time clock ever? Does it ever creep up for no real reason in a long term relationship?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello V, there is no automatic occurrence of devaluation. It always happens for a reason.

      1. V says:

        What about the withdrawal? My experience and the experience with exes of T was that he would be very nice…..then almost like an internal clock create drama or disconnect. Does that make any sense to you?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          When discard is looming we usually plan for it to happen so we can ensure that the alternative primary source is in place.

  3. Claire says:

    Lol! That’s coz you narcs only come from the false self “ego” and not your true self “soul” 😩

  4. 1jaded1 says:

    People are people..and that wasn’t really even a Depeche reference..some may have status and all that but if someone is intent on stabbing someone in the carotid, we all be going down if they are so intent. When ex turned it on me, the response was something like, “I know.”…as in why the f do you stay?

  5. bethany7337 says:

    Now there’s a telling selfie HG!!! LOL, you are a POW! It is humorous to read these contemptuous thoughts that lurk under the surface. Does your incorrigible thinking ever amuse you?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I am in a state of near permanent amusement Bethany.

      1. bethany7337 says:

        So, your English amuses me considerably!!!

        “I am stood”

        “You are sat”

        WTF- HGisms! Hilarious.

        And I am near giddy when you exclaim “Goodness me”!

  6. Oh hahah j forgot how much he hates underlings to donor have something better. Thanks for the reminder HG. I’m sensing some lavish praise for someone completely insignificant coming up soon and rather publically too 😉

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You remain such a rascal Alexis, but you learn well.

      1. Thanks HG. That means a lot. I want to learn everything you have to teach me.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I relish hearing those words.

          1. Am I your best student HG ?

          2. HG Tudor says:

            Exam results will be available in mid-August.

          3. I’ve taken a test already ?

          4. HG Tudor says:

            Indeed you did. Didn’t you realise?

          5. Oh no HG ? I was clueless ! I look forward to the results

          6. HG Tudor says:

            You were clueless, not any longer!

          7. Hey, hey. I’m loving that HG – nice one

          8. You’ve totally made my day !!

  7. Leilani says:

    I can’t get over the picture composition. I like the nails. Ugh, I have an itch on my back. Would you scratch it? Asked one narc to the another.

  8. luckyotter says:

    This list was so, so, so, triggering. Damn you, HG.

  9. Cara says:

    “You wouldn’t last five minutes being me”, is a favorite of my mother’s. I’ve seen her do “Do you know who I am” at a restaurant where her only claim to fame is she went to grammar school with the owner’s father.

  10. I may have used a few of these on occasion (or several) myself.

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