15 Seductive Triangles


Our seductive tendrils wrap around the unsuspecting and draw them into our false reality. We have many ways of effecting this seduction, from the outrageous declarations of premature love, to the excessive texting and messaging, from the gifts and attentiveness to the fantastic sex. There are many strings to our bow when it comes to seducing our victims. We love the allure of the triangle. Bringing someone else or something else into the dynamic between you and me generates endless possibilities for fuel, control and manipulation. Triangulation is seen throughout the narcissistic dance and appears more than you may realise at the outset of your relationship with our kind. Of course our most serious and intense seductive techniques are reserved for our intimate partners who become our primary source of fuel, but we triangulate everybody who we wish to draw fuel from. Whether you are a parent, a sibling, a co-worker, a boss, a friend or someone who is an acquaintance, we will triangulate you in some way.

When triangulation is used in seduction it will be done to portray ourselves as a good and decent person and on the receiving end of some unpleasant and undeserved behaviour from a different source, in order to make you admire us for dealing with this unnecessary attack or provide us with affection to make us feel better or sympathy in respect of our predicament. You are made to think that we are explaining our position and you are made to feel special because we are telling you about something that apparently is troubling us. The reality is that this is being done in order to draw an appropriate reaction from you for the purposes of gaining fuel. It is also designed to make you think that there is something you can do to assist us and help us and therefore gain favour with us through this action .Here are fifteen of these regularly used techniques which may be familiar to you or what you ought to be looking out for.

  1. My wife doesn’t understand me.
  2. My husband has no interest in sex with me anymore.
  3. My children don’t respect me.
  4. My parents expect me to be their full-time carers.
  5. My boss is a tyrant.
  6. My team are incompetent.
  7. My supplier is unreliable.
  8. My neighbour is inconsiderate.
  9. My partner never listens.
  10. My boyfriend spends all of his time with his friends rather than me.
  11. My girlfriend spends all my money.
  12. My friends expect me to be available all of the time.
  13. My partner just doesn’t appreciate what I do.
  14. My girlfriend would rather play Candy Crush than talk to me.
  15. My children never ring me to see how I am.

7 thoughts on “15 Seductive Triangles

  1. Lisa says:

    ….back to the brothel hopping…
    I just hope he paid a handsome amount of money to these girls, just so he could cry, ‘poor me, poor me’. 😩 They would have deserved EVERY cent!

  2. Lisa says:

    Common denominator word here is ‘my’. Me me me me me….. Funny that! 🙂

  3. Snow White says:

    My sister never believed me
    My mother favored my sister
    My ex is crazy ( I will run if I ever hear this again )
    My boss never gives me credit
    Everyone ends up leaving me
    I didn’t fully grasp before how many ways you use this. Everyone you come in contact with can be pulled into this triangle.
    It was always my ex, her girlfriend, and one other person. I see the pattern now. From her previous friends, a co-worker, a ping-pong IP, to “a daughter”. There are always three. The majority of her fuel came from the two main people in her life. And then everyone else who could be brought in when needed. More light bulbs HG. Thanks

  4. I'm still standing says:

    It actually hurts my head to see that in black and white.

    I guess I am lucky to see it all, the last time my head hurt that bad was the night my Narc gave me a right hook across my face, 6′ of him thrown at against 5′ of me and I hit my head on the way down. When I came round and managed to walk to the door way there was blood all up the walls and he had a knife in his hand and had cut himself, screaming at me look what I had made him do!!! I mean fuel!! Give me a break. Read a book!! Lol all this because I had the same name as a gentleman in the room, therefore I must have slept with him.

    1. entertainment says:

      Still standing sorry to hear about the abuse. Thank God you were able to escape before he killed you. Sounds like a psycho/sociopath.

  5. Hope says:

    He said most of these, and I believed every single one. 🙁
    (In fact – that was what drew me closer to him. I felt bad that someone so wonderful wasn’t truly appreciated by anyone.)

  6. HG,
    #14…hilarious. but I’d believe it.

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