The Geyser Empath

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The Geyser Empath is an individual who is empathic in nature with the additional tendency to fountain with emotion. All empaths are emotional, it goes with the territory but some empaths are far more emotional than others.

This type of empathic tendency is marked by high energy levels. One might even go so far as to say that shades of hyper activity start to appear with the Geyser Empath. He or she is always on the go, heading here and travelling there, seeking out people to see how they are and to exhibit their significant caring side with plenty of suitable expressions of concern, empathy and understanding. The Geyser Empath is very useful for our kind because of how expressive they are with regard to their emotions. Their responses are exaggerated. This does not mean that they are false, far from it, the exaggeration appears as a heightened response which is very useful for us to witness and then allows us to mimic it.There is no subtlety involved. When the Geyser Empath is happy it is shown as a torrent of joy, their concern is grave and focussed and their hurt is not of a silent tear but the wail and tears of the tortured. Such displays may seem melodramatic to some, but they are not, they are exactly how the Geyser Empath feels.

The Geyser Empath, owing to the high energy levels talks often about how he or she feels but this is not a case of them explaining that because it must be all about them, but rather they will convey those feelings in order to help others by causing them to better understand. When someone talks about being in despair, the Geyser Empath will relate how they know despair only too well and will articulate that feeling in order to demonstrate that they understand how the listener feels.

This person has a tissue thin skin and is highly sensitive. They are very easily hurt and when we lash out against them, they respond with a fountain of emotion. If they are praised, their thanks will gush from them with greater intensity than a Gwyneth Paltrow Oscar acceptance speech. If they are denigrated, the tears will not flow but they will cascade along with that trembling bottom lip and a near histrionic response to the pain caused by wounding words. The Geyser Empath is unable to put on a brave face. Whilst the Carrier Empath is dogged and stoic in the face of adversity, focussing their empathy on resolving the situation in  a practical fashion, the Geyser Empath will dissolve in a bubbling mess of tears. They are completely unable to conceal their emotions, even for a short time. A Carrier Empath can do so because they shift their feelings on to solving a problem. The Geyser Empath does not have that function. They are excellent at tea and sympathy, kind and comforting words flowing, but of little use practically.

Unlike the Magnet Empath, the Geyser Empath is better dealing with intimate and one-on-one situations rather than handling a crowd. The Geyser Empath loves nothing more than finding an individual as their project and wanting to use their biggest asset in order to resolve issues; their utter devotion to love. They are the greatest love devotees of all empaths, they truly believe that with love everything can be solved. Love conquers everything, all you need is love, love will save the day. If you were to ask them just how this happens, they could not answer, but explain that love works in mysterious ways and by being loving, showing love and acting with love in each and everything they do, this will resolve problems, heal hurt and bring happiness to all.

This devotion to love means that the Geyser Empath is big on romance and will readily fall prey to overt exhibitions of passion, love and romance from our kind. Any narcissist which presents as the knight in shining armour will have the Geyser Empath’s attention from the beginning as he or she believes they have found a kindred spirit. The Geyser Empath’s overt displays of emotion make our task of mirroring so much easier. He or she will wear his or her heart on their sleeve and they will suffer repeated heartbreak. Notwithstanding this outcome, the Geyser Empath is undeterred. They will suffer misery and pain from this broken heart and they will then affirm their belief in love and bounce back. No matter how devastated they are following the shattering of their heart, they will piece it back together and will do so with greater speed amongst the empathic types. They may suffer considerable pain and they will exhibit the effect more greatly than other empathic types but they also re-charge with a greater speed as a consequence of their devotion to love. Their belief is unshakeable. No matter how many times they are let down, hurt, cheated on and so forth, they will soon bounce back. They are not naïve but rather have an undimmed and undented belief in the power of love. This capacity for returning to the arena of love so promptly after heartache means that they are ideal candidates for post discard and post escape hoovers as they ‘refuel’ so quickly.

The Geyser Empath is highly sensitive and will be moved to tears regularly be they tears of joy or tears of pain. There will often be a need for a tissue when this person is around. One might be moved to consider them as someone pathetic but that would be an inappropriate label. Yes the Geyser Empath is very easy to manipulate into spurting out fuel and because of their beliefs they will suffer repeated hurts but their strength lies in their unwavering belief in love and how they soon bounce back following their set backs. They will do Misery 2.0 when they are wounded and hurt, the sobbing, the wailing and the tears will be extensive but it will not last. They do not wallow, but wipe away the tears, reapply the mascara, smooth down the rumpled clothes and climb right back on to their Unicorn of Love and Hope and gallop into the fray once again. The Geyser Empath can exhibit unpredictability of response. There will always be emotion, which suits our kind, but the extent and intensity of it may at times be so startling that it actually affects the standing of the narcissist with third parties who look on and witness what appears to them to be histrionics and melodrama. Exerting control over this emotional output can at times prove difficult for all save the Greater Narcissist.

The Geyser Empath lacks the serenity of the Magnet Empath and there is no cool deliberation of the Carrier. The Geyser will erupt with emotion with squeals of delight at the good news of a friend who is to be a parent, the triumphant praise for a colleague who has secured a promotion and the devastated collapse following the death of a loved one. The Geyser Empath believes that everyone has the capacity to love and that once they do, all their ills will be solved.

This person appeals to all schools of narcissist because of the high fuel content that is provided and the ease by which it can be provoked. They are easy to seduce but tend to suffer swifter devaluations than other empaths because they shine brighter and thus run the risk of our kind becoming familiar with their fuel in a quicker time so that the potency loses its lustre sooner. As explained above however, they are prime candidates for hoovers and often the hoover bar is lower for them as a consequence of the narcissist knowing that so much delicious fuel will become available with the added bonus of it being hoover fuel and furthermore because the devotion to love means that the Geyser Empath has a greater susceptibility to giving second, third and fourth chances.

The Geyser Empathic tendency is evident in all of the classes of empathic individuals. This tendency is often seen amongst the Co-Dependent class when this tendency manifests in an extreme form. Its presence will exist in Empaths but tends to be mixed with other empathic tendencies as well so the effect will be slightly diluted but not muted. With regard to the Super Empath it is unusual to see the Geyser Empathic tendency because of the Super Empath’s inherent resilience to both a sudden devaluation and being hoovered, however it will be seen amongst those who are borderline personality disorder as their displays of emotion and tissue thin emotional skin exhibit when their empathic side is unleashed and the resilience of the Super Empath is demonstrated when they lash out and withdraw.

The Lesser is drawn to those with this tendency because the effort required is so minimal to prompt a response and thus accords with the Lesser narcissist’s lower energy levels and reduced cognitive function for manipulation and machinations. The Mid-Ranger will also be attracted because of the fuel on offer and the ease by which it can be harvested but the emotional volatility can become wearing to the Mid-Ranger because he will struggle to assert control to achieve some of his aims. The Greater revels in those with Geyser Empathic tendencies finding the sudden eruptions amusing and playing straight into his portrayal of the individual as unbalanced and unhinged. He or she will take a perverse pleasure in provoking the Geyser into giving more and more fuel.

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41 thoughts on “The Geyser Empath”

      1. I think you coined Geyser Co-dependant up there. That’s probably me. I’ve always been told I wear my feelings on my sleeve, at least with those who really know me.

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  1. Grrrr More knowledge about myself? hate knowing who I am and that is unfixable. .. but I’d still will stand by opinion that I am naive… VERY Naive. thank You for Your lesson dear G.

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  2. Wow Mr. Tudor. You had me at Unicorn of Love. How did you know about her???
    Yes, I’ve had quite a few meltdowns in public – uncaring of who was watching and my narcs at the time were unable to exert any control over me. Once my volcano of emotions erupted, there was no way to taper it off. It is embarrassing now that I reminisce about how melodramatic I’ve been in the past. In my defense, I do not normally behave this way. My narcs were the only ones that could bring out these intense emotions.

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      1. As always, you shed much light on who we are. You know us so well. Thank you.
        I am curious how you are able to control someone like this once they’ve been set off. My most embarrassing moment was my narc picked me up and carried me away because I wouldn’t quiet down. But it was his fault because he triggered the emotional outburst.

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      2. If it is in private let it flow, if it is witnessed and the reaction is tears and woe, then a false show of concern for the benefit of the watching façade is appropriate, if it is an outburst of anger, I would just stand and soak up the fuel until the storm blows itself out and then log the incident to use in a later smear as evidence of The Crazy One.

        If it got out of hand, I would deposit said individual in a body of water – lake, pond or swimming pool, or if none available pour a bucket of water over them. It usually works.

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      3. Lolol! 😂 That’s brilliant! My narcs weren’t smart enough to douse my fire with a bucket of water.

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  3. This I why I never leave the house without waterproof makeup. I can be a fountain of emotions any day of the week. She brought it out of me more than anyone else. She had me crying wherever we went and it didn’t matter to me who saw it.

    This was my big clue in determining what she was. She never showed empathy and seemed to revel in the fact that I kept on crying.

    I did find it interesting in that you used the word project. She commented on, in our early friendship phase, that I saw her as a science project. I told her I didn’t because that was the truth. She was the one who told me all about her crazy exes and how she felt she was broken and messed up. She told me she had a monster in her. I was just trying to help. That always bothered me. Why did she say that?

    I see some of me in here but I am unfortunately naive and it takes awhile for me to bounce back. But I do believe in love.
    I love this series. Can’t for for the next one.

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  4. Lol and now I know why it was so hard to learn to control. And why I was always in trouble.
    It was a river, sitting on the railing he saw it appropriate to push me over.
    Stopped me dead in my tracks, the choice to swim or drown, then the anger when i climbed out.
    Yet I still wait to see what else you have, before I decided.

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  5. It all makes so much sense now! I recall on numerous occasions were I was told of my innocence. Yes, I was the epitome of a geyser empath. It’s amazing just how much one person or experience can change your entire sense of reality. Even with all the emotional ups and downs …once ensnared, it’s a tough high to walk away from. Logic and emotions are on a collision course from day one. Even with ALL the understanding in the world …still, it’s an unsurpassed ride we never forget! I would venture to guess there are many of us, that giving the opportunity would do it all over again? From my personal experience everything after is pretty mundane. Please HG chime in and help explain why this feeling is so prevalent, even after the discard or escape?

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    1. Hello Holly Really, yes there are certain people who are entirely susceptible to doing it all over again. This is because of the intrinsic need they have to be coupled with our kind (until such time as they have been assisted in removing or diminishing that need), the addictive qualities that we possess and the fact that many people actually do not realise what they have been entangled with and do not recognise it when it happens again, or there are those who understand but does not spot it a second time despite their understanding. It is akin to having spent much of your life on crystal meth. Once you stop, the world seems a duller and slower place even though it is far better for you and hence why the allure of the excitement, the shine and the sparkle of being with our kind allows us to pull you in once again.

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      1. That was a great explanation HG. I went through detox first. I enjoyed the down time because my I was physically and mentally tired from the whole relationship. It was a shock to my whole self. I am still grieving but I’m afraid that after the first of the year I’m going to miss the shine and the sparkle and like Indy says, the spice.
        So I’m hoping that if I plan some new ventures that this will make up for what I will be missing.
        I am still planning on returning to the gym after the first. I am expecting many triggers and I think I need a plan for when I walk in and when I see others from the other gym I went too. I’m going to be afraid to look at anyone or speak to them. I think I should be the one who always has earbuds in this time. Any suggestions HG? I think it’s important for me to return and I don’t want her to have that control over me still.
        Thanks

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      2. HG Thank you sincerely for your reply. Until I came across your site, I had an idea, but truly did not realize or understand how from the Golden period until my escape, that this is a continuous cycle that NEVER changes. It’s much as you say full of “sparkle” …but that comes with a great consequence. One thing you had recently talked about “online relationship advice” …stating that no one had touched on narcissist abuse. I can only imagine there’s a plethora of individuals out there struggling with no clue as to what they’ve encountered or currently experiencing. Having the knowledge and over a period of time working through the cognitive dissonance. I have become more perspicacious, setting new boundaries and removing anyone toxic in my life. Removing online profiles, thus (reducing) the attempts of potential hoovers etc. As wonderful as the facade may have seemed …that’s ALL it was. A “duller and slower place” …I can live with that! I can only hope that others find their way to your site and begin to live again. You’ve made a huge difference in so may lives! Many of which, might have been cut short without your writings. Much Respect!

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  6. Much truth. Not all for me.
    Def used my strengths against me in this way. I am very demonstrative…. very much communicator w my hands and body and voice. Worked well in my previous arena as teacher but to my ex….clay in his hands to use against me….in every way.
    Sucked the mojo right out of me….w a smile…

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  7. I am a lost empath…this is me but I’m not thin skinned and I won’t wail in tears…tears you’ll receive but they are silent tears and I’ll let you see my eyes glow bright green…nothing more. I am, however, “hyper” and have a high energy level. It’s hard to take me down but you can definitely and easily lift me up! I did ride in on my white unicorn with glitter and flowers flowing from its beautiful mane… Did I mention it’s lightly raining and there is a rainbow following my trusty steed? Nevermind the makeup…who needs that?
    Is there still more categorizing of us HG?

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  8. Today this post read again got me thinking. .. so funny that my Narc when asked by me when he first time noticed me before we met at worked, He says always the same: “When You cried talking to manager S. because You did not agree with him. ” Wow…. obviously he caught me afterwards. … and the dance began… Really my dear…. You know more about me that I know myself!

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  9. I think I used to be a Geyser Empath, especially as a child, but not anymore. Experience has hardened me, but I don’t think to the point of bitterness. Just enough for self-protection, healing and boundary setting.

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  10. My narc did just that when he was raging…dumped a bucket of water over me and my entire floor and then ordered me to change my clothes as he mopped up the water! My normal response would have been “no” but I had never seen that rage and dark eyes before. I knew it was best to “obey”.

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  11. What kind of interaction do you require in order to classify &/or target an empath?

    I definitely would have qualified for this category previously.. and up until very recently would have stood by the “love conquers all” ideal… but you and your kind have nearly convinced me otherwise.. though hope lingers still…

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      1. Are you offering to classify me according to your system via a private consultation? Hmm…

        Do you consider love to be a unicorn – a mythical creature that doesn’t exist?
        …or how do you see love?

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      2. That is the place to do it. If you do not wish to do so, that is your choice.

        No, I have seen love many times, from others.

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      3. You are absolutely intriguing – I’m probably too timid is all..

        ..but to discuss how you recognize the difference between feigned affection mascarading as love – like you manufacture – vs the real thing you demand to extract from your objects.. fascinating indeed…

        Perhaps you’ve written on this topic?

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      4. Indeed I am and if you are timid, so be it.

        There are numerous articles along these lines.

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      5. I am greatly indebted to you already, thanks to your insights..

        ..the material you’ve produced will keep me safely out of touch of your kind (one can hope)

        Thank you for your honesty.. it is definitely the single most valued characteristic of your work… perhaps why I didn’t want to trust you.. hope you can understand that…

        Forgive me, dearest HG – I remain a faithful fan 😊

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