The Narcissistic Covenant
There is a covenant which exists between you and I, between our kind and your kind. It is not necessary for you to provide consent to this covenant in order for it to be binding. You do not know that this covenant exists but it does. Its terms govern the relationship between us and you, whether you are entangled with the Lesser of our kind, the Mid-Range r the Greater. It matters not. The covenant applied from the moment that we selected you to be our victim. There are ten parts to this covenant and they reflect the mind set and attitude of our kind towards you and how you and I interact. There is little doubt that in looking back at your entanglement with us you will recognise certain elements of this but whilst you were very much in our grip, you would have no idea that these were the terms which governed our treatment of you.
- You were chosen
Our ensnaring of you might have been portrayed as chance, a piece of serendipity but it was not. You were chosen to be our victim. The Lesser will have instinctively recognised your potential without knowing why. The Mid-Range will have applied some thought to the process, potentially dismissing less favourable candidates. The Greater identified you, monitored you and then moved in for the “kill”. In every instance you were chosen.
- You belong to us
You are an object to us. An appliance. Therefore, we are able to assert proprietary rights over you just as we would with some other kind of object or chattel. Since we own you, we choose what to do with you, without recourse to you or anybody else. This is our inalienable right.
- You exist solely for our purposes
We are the centre of your world, the heart of your universe and at all times everything that you do should be focused on us, for our benefit and advancement. You do not exist for your family. You do not exist for our children. You do not exist for your friends, colleagues, fellow members of a club or congregation. We are all that matters to you.
- This is forever
This covenant lasts for ever. In our minds it is one that exists in perpetuity for we do not wish to contemplate our own demise and care nothing for yours, other than it inconveniencing us by the interruption to our supply of fuel. This relationship transcends all others. You may have told us that you do not wish to be “with us” any longer. You may have broken off the engagement or divorced us. In our mind all that you have done is end the Formal Relationship which is something that people lesser than our kind engage in with one another and that which we accede to for the sake of fitting in. In our minds our relationship exists beyond this Formal Relationship. This is the Narcissistic Relationship and means we remain entitled to effect the terms of this covenant against you at all times until your last breath or our last breath.
- This is totalitarian
There is no limit to our power over you. We are entitled to and we will exercise our right to, govern every facet of your life, interfere in everything that you do, monitor you and control you in order to achieve our aims. You must accept that you are entirely subservient to us.
- You cannot end this covenant
You have no rights under this covenant. You cannot bring about its unilateral termination. Indeed, it cannot be ended at all. You are not able to state that its terms are inapplicable to you, that it has no jurisdiction or effect over you. Such protestations are invalid.
- We owe you nothing
We are entitled to do as we please without challenge, question or restraint. We have no obligation to do anything for you. We have no compulsion to act in your interests, have regard to your opinion, your feelings or your desires. If we do so, it will only be for the advancement of our position.
- Fuel provision is paramount
The provision of fuel is above all else. This is in terms of what you must provide to us and also in allows us to seek fuel from other sources, whenever we deem necessary and howsoever we choose. Concepts of fidelity and monogamy are null and void with regard to this part of the covenant. Issues of protocol and etiquette and meaningless.
- The Ends Justifies the Means
The covenant grants us carte blanche to do what is necessary for our purposes. This is supported by our concept of total entitlement and the fact that we have no accountability, culpability or blameworthiness for any of our actions. Whatever needs to be done will be done to ensure the furtherance of our agenda, aims and needs.
- We are the Victim
We are the victim in all of this. This is why the covenant exists by reason to compensate us for all of the outrageous injustices, misfortunes, unfairness and hardships that this cruel and feckless world has meted out to us.
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Hi HG!
I love your writing and I have got three questions for you:
1. When you make statements like “We want to provoke you, to extract your emotional response (fuel), and there are millions of ways of doing that”, can you break it down really clearly? For example, you are in a casual conversation with a co-worker; so do you actually consciously think to yourself as you talk to your “friend”, “Now I am going to use technique number 10 to provoke this fool” and then you steer the conversation such that you have an opportunity to deploy that technique? Really, is your internal thinking that explicit, however fleeting it may be?
2. I assume that sometimes you must find yourself in such rare situations for which you have no set response mask. For example, it might be a very uncommon human experience of mixed events combined in a very peculiar way. In such situations, non-narcissists would normally fall back on their emotional “autopilot” to communicate with others. And these natural responses are often non-formulaic and “not like in movies”, but they feel deeply real to all non-narcissists. So, in such cases, do you, as a (I hope recovering) narcissist feel that your mask is slipping, and, if yes, what do you do then?
3. In your writings you use present tense: “Our kind does…”, “I provoke you…”, etc., but, considering that you are presumably willingly working with your “good doctors”, do you find yourself wanting to use past tense, like “I used to provoke you…”? Or would that feel false to you in your present personal state?
Thank you in advance for you responses. I hope that you are learning to enjoy the responses from many abuse survivors not just because they express their appreciation, approval and admiration, but also because you realize that sharing a little bit of yourself with others is real power (and not fake narcissistic substitute for it).
Hi SK, I have your questions and shall answer them in due course. Just so you know all posts go into moderation,hence that is why they didn’t first appear.
My ownership papers. MARRIGE LICENSE
I remember the day he told me he could do anything he wanted with those in his hand.
They meant so much to him I made sure they were with him in the end.
oh man, it feels like my ex is in front of me again … He said he owns me forever. He doesn’t care if I move on or love someone else because I will always belong to him… *sigh* But this is the way you guys think 🙁 BTW, I heard your interview today, HG. Very good!!
Thank you Marcella, you are in luck as there is more of that type of thing to come.
Hi HG!
I love your writing and I have got three questions for you:
1. When you make statements like “We want to provoke you, to extract your emotional response (fuel), and there are millions of ways of doing that”, can you break it down really clearly? For example, you are in a casual conversation with a co-worker; so do you actually consciously think to yourself as you talk to your “friend”, “Now I am going to use technique number 10 to provoke this fool” and then you steer the conversation such that you have an opportunity to deploy that technique? Really, is your internal thinking that explicit, however fleeting it may be?
2. I assume that sometimes you must find yourself in such rare situations for which you have no set response mask. For example, it might be a very uncommon human experience of mixed events combined in a very peculiar way. In such situations, non-narcissists would normally fall back on their emotional “autopilot” to communicate with others. And these natural responses are often non-formulaic and “not like in movies”, but they feel deeply real to all non-narcissists. So, in such cases, do you, as a (I hope recovering) narcissist feel that your mask is slipping, and, if yes, what do you do then?
3. In your writings you use present tense: “Our kind does…”, “I provoke you…”, etc., but, considering that you are presumably willingly working with your “good doctors”, do you find yourself wanting to use past tense, like “I used to provoke you…”? Or would that feel false to you in your present personal state?
Thank you in advance for you responses. I hope that you are learning to enjoy the responses from many abuse survivors not just because they express their appreciation, approval and admiration, but also because you realize that sharing a little bit of yourself with others is real power (and not fake narcissistic substitute for it).
Hello SK thank you for your kind compliment and for reading.
1. In the instance you refer to an example that would happen instinctively. I know that I want to provoke a reaction and therefore I shall do so through instinct when dealing with say a colleague. I may however be in a bar and decide I need fuel, so I will assess the best way to do it in terms of those around me. The thought and application is far more prevalent when dealing with the seduction of an IPSS (to become an IPPS) and then when unleashing a sustained period of malign hoovers in order to crush somebody or ascertaining the best way to implement an Initial Grand Hoover in order to draw somebody back in. A forthcoming book ’24 Hours in the Mind of a Narcissistic Sociopath’ will give you an unrivalled insight into exactly what i am thinking.
2.The scenario you describe is where the ignited fury threatens to appear. In some instances I shall ascertain that this ignited fury should be manifested in order to achieve what i want and therefore I have no issue with the mask slipping. If I determine that the production of the ignited fury would be counter productive and I am struggling to contain it, I would withdraw, seek fuel elsewhere and re-present.
3. The use of the current tense is applicable, although there is a time lag between what i write about and what is happening with the good doctors.
Thank you for your observations and also your thoughtful questions, I found them interesting.
1. You were chosen. Yes but thats because we’re everything you can never be.
2. You belong to us. Um, i dont think so. Dont get too carried away now.
3.you exist solely for our purposes. Wrong again. Don’t forget we keep the unfun house of mirrors on its stilts we can kick them out from under you at any moment!
4. This is forever. There u go again dont make me shatter your existence by reminding you how long forever is.
5. This is totalitarian. Rubbish. You don’t have a clue how fast we learn and grow u only have access to the information we share with you,the rest is inaccessible to you and always will be.
6. You cannot end this covenant. Really? Its me who drives the crazy train and i can derail it or stop laying the track any time i like.
7.we owe you nothing. Correct. Keep the damaged pieces. We don’t need them anyway. perhaps you could juggle them for us like a real clown atleast.
8.fuel provision is paramount. Unless i shut the pump off or decide to pump it back into myself that is !
9.the ends justifies the means. Granted. But thanks to the modern technology of today i think you might find cold hard evidence will blow down your house of cards at the single press of a button haha!
10.we are the victim. Oh poor you, would like a box of tissues ?
Never forget an educated empath is your wost nightmare for the rest of your “life” on this planet. After that, well, like i said, forever is a very long time. Enjoy X
Hi John. It’s very interesting to hear a male empath’s point of view. You fight and oppose Mr. Tudor’s words. I embrace them. It’s music to my ears. This is not about being ‘educated’. There are those of us on this blog who have high academic achievements along with a lifetime of education. We all have a choice. My eyes are open to who and what a narcissist is, and still I am drawn to them. I choose the covenant. If you are awake now as well, then you have a choice never to go back. You are free.
Love, This is your strength of conviction that you know what we are yet remain undaunted. That you have a backbone yet still come willingly is most endearing, your type of energy is most delightful! The others are too but you even more so. By “educated” John means educated about narcissists, not academic degree education. He is writing as an empath but likely is also a mid-range narcissist himself, maybe an inverted type. HG correct this if you see otherwise as this is your castle and you know all about these matters, but it is my impression. The tension in his writing is clearly not of a victim, though he is wounded. Either way he wishes himself in control of his narcissist but still angry because he can’t be, nobody could be. Thank you HG for your categorization and explication of the different levels of narcissist.
Thank you for the clarification Triad. I appreciate you calling my energy delightful 😊
Love, you are very welcome indeed!
Epic comment 👌
I’d like to see it, sign it though .. I like to have it as a proof…
you are very sick!