Is there a contrast in how you feel when you talk about football to someone to get closer to them, and how you feel when you do an interview about narcissism?
(because in the interview you are genuinely talking about something you have knowledge on)
Well I have knowledge about football in both situations Brian, but I think what you are driving at is, is there a difference where I talk about a topic in order to draw somebody to me and then when I talk about a topic in an interview. No, I am drawing people to me in both instances.
So HG you dont feel any more enthusiasm talking on a subject where you have actually experienced something vs where you have obtained the information from elsewhere and are presenting it as your own? The receiving of fuel I understand, but you dont feel pride or even relief that you actually know or have experienced the subject and wont get caught out in a lie for instance?
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It will use less energy to talk about something which has been experienced, but the concerns about being caught out in a lie are not applicable owing to the gymnastics we engage in, the sense of entitlement and the rejection of accountability.
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Subject: [New post] The Narcissistic Truths – No. 81
It was that time and scene. Drug of choice I suppose.
I have seen plenty of this in my time working where I worked in the 80’s. The biggest dealers would be in there laundering money.
I have the ability to change the track of my own nightmares or dreams… as a child who suffered a lot from them I’ve learnt how to have consciousness and act like it’s not a dream /nightmare. .. I’ve learn how to control my dreams because that was the only way not to be scared… I sound like a narcissist. .. control in order to not feel fear… hmm
What was it about? A giant coconut trying to eat you?
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No! But maybe, as it was a dark hair blob coming at me in a pool of water and I am frantically gripping the side of the pool trying to move away from it and the water slowed me down. Over and over I had this dream. It was intense and I would wake up and go under the sheets and it would be so hot as we did not have air conditioning and I lived back east. I was afraid of the dark until I was 16 years old. Then I embraced it. Still do to this day.
I have had dreams and then watched what I dreamt happen. When I had the dreams I did not understand them.
I have some doozies. Lately I have had a few disturbing ones.
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My ex-N said he never had dreams. I was curious if it was true for most of them.
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I ever dream or if I do I never remember them.
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Hi Disintegration, It’s called lucid dreaming and I too developed this ability. In my dreams I’d hold my breath to force myself to wake up. It can be fun too, like flying by choice. In my dream it was a breathing technique to fly, weird stuff 😊
Oh Mr. Tudor. I stand before you, head bowed and chagrined. You have been right as always. I was so confident… So full of myself. Yet now I realize I am a phoney bologney (or polony if you prefer).
I thought I was over his hoovers. Over him. Yet this mid level mediocre narc got me with just 1 sentence. ‘I miss your cooking’. Well that and a lot of begging.
The good news is I didn’t give him my home address. The bad news: he’s wanting to come for dinner tomorrow night.
Easy peezy, you say, just deny him. Ignore.
If only it was that easy. He’s awakened my empathy again. Now the real battle begins. On one side of the ring is my logic, on the other side is my empath desires – just oozing with love and nurtering. Ah! This will be a fight to the death.
Get your wagers in before it starts.
An update to my Hoover post.
The crisis has been averted. He did not call. I was on pins and needles, unsure of what to do. He made it easy on me by not calling. I didn’t have to make that hard decision. I hope most hoovers are simple threats… All bark no action.
It was a good lesson though. I’m not as cool, calm, and collected as I thought. My heart still bleeds empathy.
Thank you Mr. Tudor. You bring so much awareness to us. 💖
The narc I was involved with unsolicitedly promised me a bright future, but now has given me a huge nightmare!
I can vouch for this, and it comes by way of the Lieutenants (or FM), too.
yes very much the case word by word.. a nightmare sold as dream
Is there a contrast in how you feel when you talk about football to someone to get closer to them, and how you feel when you do an interview about narcissism?
(because in the interview you are genuinely talking about something you have knowledge on)
Well I have knowledge about football in both situations Brian, but I think what you are driving at is, is there a difference where I talk about a topic in order to draw somebody to me and then when I talk about a topic in an interview. No, I am drawing people to me in both instances.
Good question Brian
So HG you dont feel any more enthusiasm talking on a subject where you have actually experienced something vs where you have obtained the information from elsewhere and are presenting it as your own? The receiving of fuel I understand, but you dont feel pride or even relief that you actually know or have experienced the subject and wont get caught out in a lie for instance?
It will use less energy to talk about something which has been experienced, but the concerns about being caught out in a lie are not applicable owing to the gymnastics we engage in, the sense of entitlement and the rejection of accountability.
I recently subscribed to the email posts and I am receiving the them, however I can’t view the “new posts” when I get the email. It will take me to your site, but I have tried clicking on the title, the picture, the URL at the bottom, or your name and but it will not display the content of your posts. It will show me the comments, but still can’t view the posts. Any suggestions?
Subject: [New post] The Narcissistic Truths – No. 81
HG Tudor posted: “”
Hello Heather, the Narcissistic Truths are memes so there is no additional content.
https://youtu.be/EEnp3in3gTA
It’s on me who wants to wrap around your dreams and
Have you any, Dreams you like to sell?
Dreams of loneliness
You can’t go wrong with those cocaine enthusiasts.
It was that time and scene. Drug of choice I suppose.
I have seen plenty of this in my time working where I worked in the 80’s. The biggest dealers would be in there laundering money.
Yes, you summed it up nicely.
I have the ability to change the track of my own nightmares or dreams… as a child who suffered a lot from them I’ve learnt how to have consciousness and act like it’s not a dream /nightmare. .. I’ve learn how to control my dreams because that was the only way not to be scared… I sound like a narcissist. .. control in order to not feel fear… hmm
I understand narcs do not dream.
I do not know of one child that did not have nightmares. I had the same one over and over.
What was it about? A giant coconut trying to eat you?
No! But maybe, as it was a dark hair blob coming at me in a pool of water and I am frantically gripping the side of the pool trying to move away from it and the water slowed me down. Over and over I had this dream. It was intense and I would wake up and go under the sheets and it would be so hot as we did not have air conditioning and I lived back east. I was afraid of the dark until I was 16 years old. Then I embraced it. Still do to this day.
I have had dreams and then watched what I dreamt happen. When I had the dreams I did not understand them.
I have some doozies. Lately I have had a few disturbing ones.
My ex-N said he never had dreams. I was curious if it was true for most of them.
I ever dream or if I do I never remember them.
Hi Disintegration, It’s called lucid dreaming and I too developed this ability. In my dreams I’d hold my breath to force myself to wake up. It can be fun too, like flying by choice. In my dream it was a breathing technique to fly, weird stuff 😊
Oh Mr. Tudor. I stand before you, head bowed and chagrined. You have been right as always. I was so confident… So full of myself. Yet now I realize I am a phoney bologney (or polony if you prefer).
I thought I was over his hoovers. Over him. Yet this mid level mediocre narc got me with just 1 sentence. ‘I miss your cooking’. Well that and a lot of begging.
The good news is I didn’t give him my home address. The bad news: he’s wanting to come for dinner tomorrow night.
Easy peezy, you say, just deny him. Ignore.
If only it was that easy. He’s awakened my empathy again. Now the real battle begins. On one side of the ring is my logic, on the other side is my empath desires – just oozing with love and nurtering. Ah! This will be a fight to the death.
Get your wagers in before it starts.
An update to my Hoover post.
The crisis has been averted. He did not call. I was on pins and needles, unsure of what to do. He made it easy on me by not calling. I didn’t have to make that hard decision. I hope most hoovers are simple threats… All bark no action.
It was a good lesson though. I’m not as cool, calm, and collected as I thought. My heart still bleeds empathy.
Thank you Mr. Tudor. You bring so much awareness to us. 💖
That illusion you can never hold onto. Im slowly loosening my grasp
And you receive your commission (fuel) whilst everyone deals with the brunt…of your lies.
I learned that the hard way!
The way you feel in the beginning is a complete contrast to how you feel after.
Total nightmare.