Hello HG, I hope you are well my dear. Your blog has been wonderful as of late. (You know how I cannot bear the child memes–it makes me feel so awful for you.)
Recently I told N his social media following had no idea what it was like to know the true him. I actually didn’t mean this in a negative way, but he still responded, “Is that a threat?”
I found that response odd. As I have ever been threatening.
Do you think that means he has an inclination of what he is?
I have wondered *a lot* lately about how aware my N is. To all the world, he’s Mr Wonderful, He’s often said about how ‘caring’ he is, and I am sure he *genuinely* believes he *is* a wonderful partner to me (god knows I hear it enough, he makes himself sound like such a martyr). I’m not confrontational, so the confusion/disappointment/hurt (gutwrenching hurt!) or whatever I feel at his behaviors make me withdraw from him and my barriers come up. If/when a discussion does take place, he will then be full of blame shifting, gaslighting, maybe a few spiteful remarks, and lots of references to how lovely he is, how terrible things have been for him in the past, what ‘nasty’ how lucky I am, how bad things would be for me without him, blah blah.
I can’t believe he can be completely unaware that his behaviors are far from wonderful, no matter how much he tries to tell me otherwise… he *must* know it’s not right, surely? or is it possible to genuinely think you *are* a caring person by mimicking some of the things that you think caring people do?
Sail Away, even my narc says ‘there’s something not right with me’, ‘my mind is messed up’ – so i think they do know, like HG said, that something is ‘off.’
The meme is so upsetting. It’s an innocent little boy who needed love, and wasn’t granted it at the right time 😔😢
I feel the same way except l’m an empath. My feelings are deep but l never show them. Most don’t know that l’m experiencing any pain. Maybe that’s one quality we have in common.
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hmmm. yes nicely put. true yes.
Very true, people hide more then they realize. Sadly for most it is from themselves.
Awarness
To quote one of my favorite songs..
“All you know about me is what I sold you, dumbf*ck.”
Was that in the Sound of Music?
how’d ya guess? lol
I suppose it just happened to be One Of My Favourite Things.
Hello HG, I hope you are well my dear. Your blog has been wonderful as of late. (You know how I cannot bear the child memes–it makes me feel so awful for you.)
Recently I told N his social media following had no idea what it was like to know the true him. I actually didn’t mean this in a negative way, but he still responded, “Is that a threat?”
I found that response odd. As I have ever been threatening.
Do you think that means he has an inclination of what he is?
He perceived it as a threat. He will not know what he is, but he has an inkling that his behaviours are “off”.
I have wondered *a lot* lately about how aware my N is. To all the world, he’s Mr Wonderful, He’s often said about how ‘caring’ he is, and I am sure he *genuinely* believes he *is* a wonderful partner to me (god knows I hear it enough, he makes himself sound like such a martyr). I’m not confrontational, so the confusion/disappointment/hurt (gutwrenching hurt!) or whatever I feel at his behaviors make me withdraw from him and my barriers come up. If/when a discussion does take place, he will then be full of blame shifting, gaslighting, maybe a few spiteful remarks, and lots of references to how lovely he is, how terrible things have been for him in the past, what ‘nasty’ how lucky I am, how bad things would be for me without him, blah blah.
I can’t believe he can be completely unaware that his behaviors are far from wonderful, no matter how much he tries to tell me otherwise… he *must* know it’s not right, surely? or is it possible to genuinely think you *are* a caring person by mimicking some of the things that you think caring people do?
Sail Away, even my narc says ‘there’s something not right with me’, ‘my mind is messed up’ – so i think they do know, like HG said, that something is ‘off.’
The meme is so upsetting. It’s an innocent little boy who needed love, and wasn’t granted it at the right time 😔😢
:.-(
So true! 🙁
I feel the same way except l’m an empath. My feelings are deep but l never show them. Most don’t know that l’m experiencing any pain. Maybe that’s one quality we have in common.