The First No Contact


The first no contact the empath did try,

Was to certain dire narcs to counter their lies,

The hoovers they used to lure them back in,

But the empath was not fooled by that oh so false grin,

No C, No C, No C, No C,

No contact ends the misery.


The empath stayed focussed and then blocked the ‘phone,

And kept the narc from their email, their messages and home,

They studied hard and they all read HG,

So they understood that his works would give liberty,

No C, No C, No C, No c,

No contact will set you free.


And so the defences were built, both firm and high,

The empath knew not to laugh, smile, shout or cry,

Thus starved of the fuel and feeling beat,

The wounded narc withdrew and beat a retreat,

No C, No C, No C, No C

No contact will secure your destinythe

50 thoughts on “The First No Contact

  1. Asp Emp says:

    WOW. Absolutely WOW. Brilliantly composed.

  2. Natalie says:

    I read your book on no contact and took some of the measures you suggested with the exception of social media. I had the ex and the NS blocked and continued on with life. I recently discovered that the NS has a second Facebook page and showed up as a friend suggestion. I may be paranoid in thinking she watches my page but I should have taken heed to your instructions and deleted my page altogether. Thanks for you insight through books and this blog!!

  3. Sail Away says:

    Oh HG, I could kiss your handsome face for this. I wish I could have remained NC the first time. I will try again and do better now that I know so much more. Because of you!

    Merry Christmas from the States!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Merry Christmas SA.

  4. BraveHeart says:

    Just my opinion, you can’t go NC, without having contact with HG! He’s the only one who saved me from days, weeks and months of torturous pain. Learning the reasons for going NC has made my life so much easier. I will say though, I do wish at times that I had found this site a year earlier, because then I would’ve escaped instead of being discarded. I guess one good thing coming from being discarded though, is the fact that he hasn’t hoovered me during the entire 9 months since (because it ended the way he wanted it to); whereas, had I escaped, I think he would have made it much more difficult on me to get away.

    Thanks again, HG, for everything!!!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you BH, Merry Christmas

      1. BraveHeart says:

        Merry Christmas, HG!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Merry Christmas BH

  5. Clary says:

    Hahhaha they all read HG I was confused for a moment then read thru all read jh and understood the whole thing made me laugh it has the I am wonderful written all over it, so u

  6. yeah yeah. and nice rhyme. 😉

  7. Lolo says:

    HG~ I was well on my way to recovery, but finding your site has helped to seal the deal, so Thank You for that! I do have a question and I’m sure only you have the answer. After a year of no contact, my greater continues to attempt contact. I almost think the “no contact” has caused him to romanticize our history together and he mistakes the yearning feeling he has as love. He has never had anyone before me deny him so I think he now sees it as a challenge. Would I be better off replying with a short, apathetic response? Which one is worse for your kind- being ignored or treated as though you no longer matter? Thank You in advance for what I’m sure will be the perfect answer!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Lolo, you are best continuing to ignore him as ultimately this will lessen the risk of a hoover by reducing the risk of a Hoover Trigger and also by raising the bar on the Hoover Execution Criteria.

  8. Rain says:

    Well said HG!!! Thank you so much for keep reminding us NC….

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome Rain.

  9. ICGB says:

    Hilarious Goodjob, HG! 😀

    Oh, the narc outside is frightful,
    Inside, it IS delightful!
    And after some time has passed,
    I don’t care, I don’t care, anymore!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Very good ICBG.

  10. Snow White says:

    You just keep getting better and better HG.
    I love all the Christmas themes.
    And in between the humor you still teach us the important messages.
    I need your reminders all the time that NC is a must and to stay on track and for that I will be forever grateful.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you SW.

  11. Matilda says:

    Made me laugh, well done! 😀 … No Contact = the only strategy that works long-term!!

  12. summeringa says:

    Christmas poetry à la HG, well done!!!
    I like …

  13. Elena says:

    Thank you HG, your articles and videos are the best validation I ever had. It’s interesting to remember the past with your knowledge and putting all the pieces back in place and see that the weird comments, strange behavior and the hiden abuse now makes perfect “sense”.

    It also reassured me that the only fault I had was ignorance of your kind and my own kind, empaths.

    Please keep the good work.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you Elena and do keep reading.

    2. i hear ya elena. Me 2!

  14. Angelina says:

    No Contact in the only way to cleanse the mind and soul and heal. It brings about clarity and truth. Also, HG’s expertise is also a big part in gaining knowledge and understanding of the narc’s world of insanity.

  15. Liking your style!!

  16. Ollie says:

    Best advice ever…

  17. When does the HG Tudor’s Narc Holiday Hits Album come out?….Red vinyl is cool, jus sayin’. Or HG Tudor Narc Channel on Sirius XM…All Narc All the Time…I really should be your agent (provocateur that is).

    1. AH OH says:

      This is going to be my job ABB. But you can assist if you like.

  18. 1jaded1 says:

    HG. You are a genius but you already know this. Brilliant.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Indeed, thank you.

  19. Marjorie says:

    I’m new here. It’s my first time to leave a comment. Your blog continues to enlighten me with each new post. Thank you for writing it and furthering my education. My divorce was final in August 2016.

    I discovered your blog approximately two weeks ago and I’m relieved to know more about what I didn’t know about until it was almost too late.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Marjorie, welcome on board and I do hope you continue to gain further understanding from your reading here and contribute further.

    2. AH OH says:

      Welcome Marjorie. Play your cards right and you too can be a sister wife.
      Just kidding. Enjoy the ride. Very enlightening here.

    3. BraveHeart says:

      Welcome, Marjorie!!!

  20. AH OH says:

    Keep writing poems like that and I might just offer myself up for a sacrifice.

  21. AH OH says:

    You are a funny guy with your writing. I sure do enjoy getting the message in such a non-traditional way. Cheers!

  22. Indy says:

    Ok, standing and clapping!!!! Excellent HG.
    No C all the way…oh what fun, it is to ride, a no narc holiday, hey!!!!

  23. AH OH says:

    Lick the rapper.

    This was filmed at Gavin Maloof’s home, It was across the street from my house. We went there for the day. I have good stories from this day.

    1. I met Lil Wayne this year in Philadelphia….shady group for shizzle.

      1. HG Tudor says:

        What about the nizzle?

      2. Love says:

        Glad you didn’t say it ABB.

      3. AH OH says:

        Yep Suge Knight was there and he hugged me to take the pics. Static Major was very cool and I was disturbed he died. He was so cool and polite to my kids. I have a bunch of pics and with my son at the mic. Gavin Maloof was one of the owner of the Palms. I use to run with these boys and Joe and I would always hang out.

    2. Love says:

      You know the Maloof family Ah Oh? They are Lebanese.

      1. AH OH says:

        And Irish. Now I would say the mom is ultra Matrinarc. I have been to many of their parties. Joe was always my favorite.

      2. AH OH says:

        Joe always admired my legs. My youngest would love to watch the girls go in and out of Gavin’s house. These boys always treated me with respect and I had many good times with them.

  24. Romeo says:

    When you see a narc after couple months of No contacts, whats the effective way to attract them back? being nice & Jolly like nothing happen or being protective as in Hi and bye?. Why? Sometime its just out of mind self-satisfaction you want things to go in your way.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      If you want to bring about a hoover Romeo, you need to consider where you are in the dynamic. Did you escape or were you discarded? Is there a new primary source? Where is the narc at with that relationship? Work those things out and also read the article How To Make Him Hoover (if you really want to try).

  25. SII says:

    Love this! So very true HG. The very best advice I learned from you. I might have been reeled back in. I deleted emails. I left the music company he used and went to another. I deleted his info from my phone. I never regretted meeting him. He showed me what I didn’t know, many times.
    When I was done I was done. I told him if he pushed me to hard I would no longer be around. He didn’t take me seriously.

  26. Adele says:


Vent Your Spleen! (Please see the Rules in Formal Info)

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Previous article

The Narc Days of Christmas – No 8