The Narcissistic Truths – No. 162
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Well, of course. I will admit it. I love learning why people tick, both those people that are a pain in the tukkus, and those that are not. It is partially what drew me to my work. It is also what I did as a child. I was the silent observer of people, figuring out these curious creatures. I was not very social as a young kid, so it was all about observation, hypothesis testing (well, I didn’t know that then that was what I was doing), etc.
I already did with the help of his brethren … HG!
To all of you,
it is so interesting how different we all see /interpret the meme. I see a man who is in total fear that someone could put the key right in his eyes, turn it around and damage/devastate the brain. I see a man whose fear is to be killed by us. When we unlock him, he is killed. If this was meant, I must agree a little bit, not on the whole. We do not want a totally different man to see, we do not want to kill you. Nothing bad would happen to you, if you lessen your highly manipulative and highly destructive behaviour towards women and former friends. There will be no devastation of your whole personality, only parts of it. And we do not want to unlock your brain, we want to unlock your black coloured,,stonelike heart. But you are such a destruction machine, it will never happen. The machine will only stop, when there is no “fuel” anymore. A living tank, destroying live.
Mona what you said: ” i see a man whose fear is to be killed by us”
i think metaforically that it’s so appropriate.. the Narcs facade is kept alive by his victims fuel.. .. without it he would be annihilated..
Successful…Salvage unlocked.
It seems so familiar to me now. Like an old friend who pays a visit from time to time. “Hey there. Nice to see you again”.
well… she is holding the key.. and eyes are reportedly window to the soul.
You do not have a soul, you are one (CS Lewis)
I think they want to unlock the reasons for the switch. From love bombing to devalue. That is all. Cheap pop psychology theory and spirituality that fails them in this situation has kept too many people involved. Some never find out. Some do. But with the internet, word is certainly spready about why and the solution is never to pray harder, to be a better person, but to run fast and far.
I want a lot of things…some about you and not always good for you. You know that you generate hate in your victims so the thinks that comes in our minds, as a stream, aren’t always of love…
But the most things that I want are about me: my quite, my health, my dignity (that you have trampled and that i have allowed you it) and my future that not includes you.
I use the word “You” just to mean the Narc, especially my Narc, I haven’t hate for you.
I know what i want as bad as you:
i want you to be mine and mine alone.
But that it will never be.
I let myself be yours, why can’ t you be mine?
Is it because my terms and conditions are impossible for you to comply?
Maybe it is due to they want you free of the creature, and nothing more.
I want to unlock myself. And if I see I’m in an unhealthy dynamic with someone else, I want to unlock them, too. For my own benefit, and for the sake of the relationship.
It is tiring to engage with a person guarding their inner truth so fiercely.
Perhaps HG, you are right. Perhaps victims do want to unlock their narcs. But only because of the manipulation that has led to them forming an attachment. They don’t really want to unlock you, you’ve just made them think that they do.
I hope that makes sense?! In effect, you’ve bewitched them. But that spell will be broken eventually.
I guess I am just not a “nice” empath or maybe my codependency overrides my empathic nature when I find out someone purposefully went about trying to destroy me from the inside out. I no longer delude myself into thinking that he can be anything more than the hollow, hate filled animal he is. He used me and did so with purpose and guile, something that this INFJ cannot and will not ever forgive. The only thing I want to unlock on him is an entire can of ass beating or a jail cell door for him to enter. It is coming. Revenge is a dish best served cold. Icy cold.
Is INFJ the personality type of narcs, I take it? I wish I could remember mine!
Apologies, I just realised that is your personality type. Phew!
Any studies linking Myers-Briggs personality types to narcissism / sociopathy / psychopathy, do you know?
No, I am an empath. INFJ is the rarest of personality types. I would imagine narcs don’t ever fall under an “F” category which is “feeling”. 😉
http://introvertdear.com/news/3-reasons-infj-empaths-fall-prey-to-narcissists/
Yes. I got to that point. I will never, ever forgive him for what he did to me, past and present. He is ugly though and through.
No thanks .
I’ve seen whats inside & I never want to see it again .
I had a trigger. I have been free since 8/27/16. I shared the living space of it and the Sig 1. I passed it this Friday and My strength was gone.
I wanted to, and I did. He said to stop psychoanalyzing him. Stop trying to figure him out. Haha, I love what Amber wrote. Sorry! I am a soldier of the third eye… it is my job to fight evil. To find the key and I did. His narcissism was the key. And all it does is unlock patterns. Nothing but patterns. And nothing else to him. Turns out there was no mystery and nothing special once I found the key. Although, I keep wanting to believe there was something genuine and real. Its been painful having to kill off that feeling. The process of erasing him from my consciousness is hard to do. I did it once before. So thoroughly that I did not even fully remember him when he came back. What a shock that was to remember inly far too late. But, that was the gift he gave me. He unlocked some buried parts of me and my life’s memories. But now, he is being erased again. Sad. Maybe we will meet in another realm. Oh, wait, oops. That is part of that whole false soulmate thing. I forgot. That was false, too. Oh well, the gotchas are endless!
When you’ve healed you don’t want to – at all.
want what?
Unlock us.
Sometimes we don’t. Sometimes we want to best you. Sometimes we want you to know that you have not beaten us.
Perhaps there are some that know exactly what you are but have no intention of trying to heal you, fix you, unlock you – they see it as a personal challenge to come away unscathed.
Sometimes it’s not all about you – sometimes it’s about us.
About you? We cannot have that!
Oh – does that frustrate you HG? I’m so sorry 🙂