The Narcissistic Truths – No. 187


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  1. Pam says:

    H.G. (I’m going to defend him) is intelligent, well-spoken, congenial, honest and forthright, kind, and has a fantastic sense of humour. I’ve been through 2 tough N. relationships–well before I even knew the term, “Narcissist,” and I know how damaged I was coming out of them. At the same time, these people (for women can also be N.) were raised way poorly, from maybe 3 – 4 years old. They never had a chance. While we all need to be responsible for ourselves after we hit “the age of our majority,” and I agree with this, I have empathy for N. “Those of HG’s kind,” need prayer, my friend.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you Pam.

    2. heathertx70 says:

      Yes Pam you are correct about HG. I apologize! Heather + Wine = anger! Too much to drink lastnight!

  2. Zzzzz says:

    Don’t get it

  3. Claudia says:

    Nooo, I will never tickle you. I use to tickle the Somatic Narcissist, and he would giggle and wiggle, and laugh heartedly. But, I would not tickle you. No.

    1. Pam says:

      I’m glad, Claudia; I wouldn’t want you to!! It’s interesting that the ‘Somatic N.’ Used to giggle and wiggle when to used to tickle him! Was the ‘Somatic N.’ To whom you are referring, by chance, H.G?

      1. Claudia says:

        Ha, no the Somatic Narcissist was not H.G., but rather D.S. 😝

      2. Claudia says:

        It is, in fact, the Somatic Narcissist, D.S., who has been hoovering me- (even though he got married to his third wife several months after I left him for sexting other women; he is doing the same thing to me, now, through email). I ignore him. Now, he wants to play ‘Words With Friends’ with me, but from past experience, he will then start sexting me on the ‘Words’ Application. He is doing the exact same thing, to me, that I left him for (because he was doing this with OTHER women (though we were engaged), even though I already gave him more than he could handle, and he didn’t even have enough Viagra for that). Never do they change. No one is good enough, in their vulture-eyes, for a sustained and loyal relationship with them. πŸ‘ŽπŸ‘Ž

  4. Claudia says:


  5. neurocolls says:

    A question to all or any of you.

    My wife always was attractive and still is now thirty years later.

    She often comes with these two dramas:

    1. Someone said she is ugly or laughs at her. Usually a stranger, most often a woman or a girl. Someone in public like sitting near at the table in a cafe. I can be there and have my own understanding of the situation or she can be there on her own and bring it up later. I will almost always truthfully say that I have not heard anything like it and I can not imagine that it happened. Then she will be upset and tell me that I am unfair in accusing her of paranoia or imagining things. Then after quite some provocation from her side I have no other option than to say that in case someone laughed at her or said she was ugly this person there must have something wrong with them or they be envious of her. After that of course I am accused of being dishonest for first saying that I was sure that it did not happen and then say that it happened but, etc…

    2. She says that people stare at her. Similar story to above. I think is that she has a tendency to stare at people and they stare back because they are curious why she does it. I do not dare say that to her. I say that I do not look around much so I don’t notice people staring. It is usually easier for me to stay protected in this case than in case 1.

    I think that HG will say that it is all for provocation and intentional. I was always sure that her insecurities were real and I was there to care for and sweep away her fears. I am not sure anymore.

    Although I recognise at 90% of the narcissistic patterns that are detailed on this blog and elsewhere I can not fit the openly paranoid insecurities with narcissism. Do you think that this is a sign of true self showing or of only provocation?

    I can testify that these acts can take many hours to defuse with much aggression and works as provocations on me for sure. Even after a three hour defuse operation the slightest association can reignite the drama.

    1. NarcAngel says:


      As strictly an observer to your post with no qualification in mental health, I would ask: why are you trying to make the distinction between paranoia and provocation? The result seems to be the same. She pushes you until drama ensues. It sounds like what you are really asking is: is it intentional on her part. If we assume that to be true for a moment, how would you handle things differently?

      1. neurocolls says:

        Even if the external effect is the same there is a big difference. If it is paranoia then I am caring person; if it is provocation I am a fool.
        Would be the same distinction between helping someone with a broken leg compared to helping someone pretending to have a broken leg. Same amount of effort to help.

        1. NarcAngel says:

          I would not help a person who pretended to have a broken leg so there would be a difference for me. It they were paranoid I could not help them, and if provoked I would not help them, so I must have misunderstood you.

  6. Claudia says:

    M. Tudor, where are you?

  7. Claudia says:

    M. Tudor, do you giggle if Primary Source tickles you? Are you ticklish?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      No. I am not ticklish. It is a very bad move to try to tickle me during devaluation.

      1. Claudia says:

        I meant during Golden Period, not devaluation.

      2. Pam says:

        Who….in hell is Claudia

        1. Claudia says:

          I am Claudia, but I am not in hell at this moment πŸ”₯πŸ”₯

          1. Pam says:

            Good one, Claudia!

          2. Claudia says:


      3. MLA - Clarece says:

        You make it sound like it happens frequently during devalue. Lol

  8. Hi HG * IT was always YOU. And always it will forever be. So you are correct with your statement of being a God.

    You are a love teacher, by teaching people what they don’t want. Without people like you humanity wouldnt be able to identify and therefore heal these “wounds”. It’s a paradox but so is this whole game. You’ve taken on the Role as the evil – villain in this incarnation. Good Casting πŸ™‚

    Your levels, your understanding of YOU.
    Your merging with the Higher Self YOU.
    Then at the higher levels there are no longer ideas of how this or that should be.
    There lives the peace of love, that is true.
    That lives now in its own world.

    Even now.

    When you are ready.

    1. Pam says:

      Perhaps H.G. is paying off some karma, by allowing himself to be available to explain, text, and write about “his kind,” to those of us who lack the insider’s understanding and knowledge. (I love his dry humor. At my outside perspective.)

  9. Claudia says:

    You need us, but only for a little while. We need you to stay. But, you go away. You always go away.

    1. Pam says:

      What happenned to your sun gravitar!? Now it’s,a butterfly!

      1. Claudia says:

        I love pretty colors, and I could not decide on icon pictures between the bright copper sun, or the rainbow 🌈 butterfly πŸ¦‹. So many choices, and yet so little time 😘.

  10. Yes. Need Fuel underneath that wittle, cute, machine that was alone in the world to fend for itself. I think you may have got better parenting from Siri….Cortana from Halo….Amazon Echo….Hal….Light Brite. Sadly, me too. πŸ€–

    1. When I try to “Like” something here it sends me into this WordPress thing which I still can’t figure out ( Luddite) but I wanted you to know I liked your post.

    2. 1jaded1 says:

      ABB. Sad. The new trend might be Alexa. Supposedly she is a genius? I don’t think so. Like any computer program, GIGO. I’m not sure why this picture bothers me except the being looks totally alone and lost. Well there, I just answered my own question.

  11. A Con Quest says:

    HG – do you or have you ever had respect for anyone – albeit for a transitionary period? Do you think you are capable of respecting anyone – accepting that they may not be a superior as yourself ?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I may have but I will not show it.

  12. 1jaded1 says:

    That picture provokes sadness. Maybe more to come later, maybe not.

  13. Pam says:

    I told the Narc, I accept himas he is. Well he likes this girl more (he is 75. I am 62. She is 40. AH-HA That’s quite,a status symbol.) At the same time her anger issue is so strong i’m afraid she’ll hurt him down the line. I’m not going to back down about being myself. So he chooses her.

    1. Claudia says:

      The Somatic Narcissist was 15-16 years older, than I. The health insurance would cover as much Viagra as we wished for this man to have.

      1. Pam says:

        I asked the question to H.G.!

    2. amsodone says:

      is he heavily insured?

      1. Pam says:

        That cracked me up!!!

  14. Pam says:

    He likes her sass in a whiskey glass; and her dignity

  15. Pam says:


  16. Pam says:

    As I’m thinking it over, it seems the Narc. Likes 2 types of co-dependents: yhe kind that love to rage,argue pick at things and have crying spells. The second type is the dprmat, who keeps marching on and bearing the demands of the Narc. A Narc. I like is (acting like) he’s going to marry the first type; he likes how she reacts when she catches him acting like he is going to cheat…or acting like he enjoys porn. Can he really be a Narc? Do you by chance,have any feedback for me?

  17. Golden Goldman says:

    Because your kind is a slave. your master created your kind for one purpose. you do your job or your master will send you back to nothingness. as long as the matrix existes, all kinds of the human race will never be free

    1. Brian says:

      it is true

  18. Ha! My mother used to call me a block head when I didn’t understand something as a child. This reminded me of it.

  19. Pam says:

    U need us to give you emotional reactions. If we keep adoring you, do you still discard us,due to boredom?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It depends on where you fit into the structure of our appliances and also whether your positive fuel remains potent, fulsome and frequent.

      1. Pam says:

        Oh! Thank you!!

  20. Pam says:

    Your honesty is a Godsend!

  21. NarcAngel says:

    *standing outside, hands on hips and breathing deeply*
    HG, dont you just love the smell of napalm in the morning?

  22. Katie says:

    You need us for ‘fuel’ as you call it, we need you for our type of, acceptance, attention…our fuel from you never comes in the form that we need..but we have faith that it will…one day.

    1. noah80 says:

      And we can die wirh this faith…because you can’t take love where there isn’t love. It is like to search fishes from a empty lake. You can put there your water but can’t find fishes.

  23. Scout says:

    You don’t need anyone.

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