The Narcissistic Truths – No. 1

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      1. The strange thing is i wonder if i am teaching my kids empathy or not. I mean.. I’m trying butThe ironic thing is.. coparenting 4 small kids w a crazy narcicisst… sometimes stresses me out so much that i react in a nonempathic way to my kids.
        Very very frustrating. Any suggestions on how to help with this ? Anyone?

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      1. Someone in my life is making me feel like I should take a dirtnap.I can do that emotionally. Jaded is there. I’m resisting but it is difficult when the triggers are there. Part of the reason I am breaking myself down and buying HGs books.

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      2. Jaded ((((hugs))))) We are here for you, they obviously do not deserve your time or beautiful light. Good for you reaching out and getting some helpful reading!!

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  1. How can I get it back? I believe I read are in therapy, am I right? Is this something I should consider? I’m so lost.

    I’ve followed San Vankin prior to finding you, HG. I’m sure you are aware of him. He has found a mate and she knows exactly what he is. They make it work. Is it possible that she and he have found a way to balance negative and positive fuel, so as to keep him satiated?

    I know I’m all over the place, and I know you can help me. I’d so appreciate it if you’d give me a nugget of your knowledge. Thank you for what you’re doing!

    Is that what you have found? Is that what you even want?

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    1. Misty infatuation is fun but you can take some narcissistic traits on that work for you and live without them. Get empaths to influence your judgment. Are you wanting one again???
      The end result will always be receiving nothing. Feeling lonely and worthless (because that’s what people are to them).

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  2. I wouldn’t say any of it dies… I would say every day adds another fracture to it and in the end it shatters into a million painful bleeding pieces… and then we put it back together. Some of us with your help. It still all works the same, it didn’t die and still is empathic and capable of amazing love… just more protected. I believe that once we learn and grow from the involvement with a Narc it actually takes another empaths touch, love, compassion, commitment and endurance to rediscover that love. A Narc would never have that patience to put all that work in. So maybe every time the dance or cycle ends just to restart later the Narc is cutting his own supply, quality and quantity of an excellent source of fuel short. If any of the heart would have died we would be transformed into Narcissists eventually… but we are not. Don’t project your dead heart problems onto us as well 😉… here I go again forgetting everything is our fault haha.

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  3. HG that’s very good but people don’t realise this. I challenged and knew something was amiss but nevertheless I continued. I then had a feeling and it was saying keep away from him so I did. I listened to my intuition but it hurt my heart, I have to say this move saved my life. Thank you for assisting in bringing meaning back to my life.

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  4. 100%.
    You are a death sentence.
    Sometimes I have flashes of memories, and here I am, walking with my raincoat on, eyes on the ground, thinking I must be the nastiest person in the world, trying to numb myself listening only the rithmic sound of my steps; when getting on a bus someone looks at me and smiles, at ME!
    I answer with a you-must-be-crazy-don’t-you-know-I-am horrible-nasty-psychotic-and-mad? look.
    Then I look at myself, trying to find what he saw in me to smile about.
    I just look alright. It doesn’t show on the outside the mess I’m in.
    But that smile, I held it dear. Someone could still see something in me, something that I couldn’t see anymore, something I had to find again.

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    1. Giulia, I too have felt like this.

      And when you can’t stop replaying the nasty words spoken in your head. Thought fuel for the narc makes them feel good, and our thoughts make us feel bad.

      There has also been times when I felt everyone around me knew what my thoughts were – causing anxiety and isolation. More understanding opens doors, and in turn, makes room for ideas to flow more freely, to develop a better perspective

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    2. The upside of this, for me, is that nowadays I feel much more appreciative of regular things that normal people do. I am more thankful, and grateful (whereas in the pre-N era, little gestures of “normal” people went under my radar. Now I don’t find them little. I find them important)

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    1. Some, like mine, don’t care enough and pay attention enough to realize. I wasn’t paid attention, until was time to abuse me physically by my mother and sexually by my father. As a result, I …

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    2. Absolutely Amy.
      I grow up with massive insecurities and lack of self esteem , having a deep seeded belief that I am not good enough.
      Rules were built on shame, guilt and fear. I was always one of the best ones at school and sport but there was no acceptance or positive feedback. As a child I learned not to argue , not to answer back and if I stand up for myself I would be severely punished.I grow up believing that I deserve this kind of treatment and to avoid it I have to do more and try harder.
      I had to develop high tolerance for physical and emotional pain to survive.

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  5. I think there’s very similar distinctions between narcissists and people with high functioning autism. With autism, all the intelligence and cleverness is there and they exceed in a multitude of professions… But, they’re born with little or virtually non-existant empathy. They cannot distinguish facial expressions between happy, sad, angry, frustrated etc. The world is theirs for the taking – the kings and queens of the castle. And just narcissists, they encounter troublesome reactions from the people around them.

    I think both types of personalities are born this way, but to which level of degree their functioning has reached is also dependant on nurture and their experiences

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  6. Go back to before the abuse H.G. and embrace that child.. Love that child… God has not forsaken you.. He is with you still even now, though you cannot see, hear or feel Him.. He is with you, and has seen and felt your pain and longs to take it away… Release it H.G. Let it go.. Be free to feel and love without taking… Love is a gift…

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