Getting Out!


Realisation has finally arrived that you have been sucked into the nightmare world of the narcissist. No contact is the way forward but have you got what it takes to resist the machinations of the Narcissist as she or he does their utmost to derail your campaign? You need to prepare for no contact and who better than to tell you how to do it than the dark-hearted master narcissist. Invaluable techniques are delivered so you can prepare and maximise your chances of attaining no contact and beating the narcissist.




14 thoughts on “Getting Out!

  1. My xnarc always said to me, “don’t EVER think that you are smarter then me!”. I really thought that I was. I wasn’t at all. He had many many more years of deceit and lies and playing on people’s emotions then I did. No matter what, they can’t be outsmarted. It wasn’t worth my time too even continue trying.

  2. Pam says:

    Funny I did the same exact thing. Hung out in the golden period for a while actually told him I was going to marry him LOL knowing fully what was going on. I stayed I watched I listened I observed and I learned. And when I could have no more of it I cut him off again. Hopefully this time it’s for good I feel like it is. I chalk it up to part of the journey a life experience I will do better because I know better.

    1. BC says:

      I am in the same exact situation. And we also deserve better.

  3. KT says:

    I am always wondering why escape is needed if they discard and move on so quickly, often so when the IPPS Is not ready to get discarded yet.

  4. Ellie says:

    If he knows you are on to him he will be setting up your fall. probably grooming a new supply and ready to discredit you in every way shape and form.

  5. BC says:

    After months of NC and him hoovering me, I got sucked back in as a IPSS DLS. He knows that I know. He just does not seem to care. I am watching, observing and trying to stay afloat. Not strong enough to call it quits yet, but at least I know what I am dealing with. Wonder what his plans are..

    1. Angelic says:


      That it is what is happening to me.

    2. shantily says:

      Well his plans are to punish the fuck out of you pound you into the ground torture you, discard you, use you and maybe if he’s of a lesser kind murder you … why go back for the millionth ass kicking which could be your last??? let me know what happens pretty sure I’ve predicted his “plans” for you ? *note to self

      1. BC says:

        Hi Shantily,

        My mid-range discarded me after I figured him out but after couple of weeks he started hoovering me on daily bases. It seems to me that he failed to find my replacement, otherwise he would have left me alone. I broke NC to see what he was up to but was ignored for another couple of weeks before he made his big move. I asume he did this because he was low on fuel and I was a low hanging fruit.

        I went back because I have mastered the rules of the game. I see through him. I know what he is up to. I can read the signs and I am fascinated. I also enjoy the fact that he is struggling to control me but without a new supply, his hands seem to be tied.

        Currently he is using fake profiles online to find my replacement and will discard me the minute he embeds his new DS. But since we live in a very small country the potential candidates are only a handful making things way more difficult for him compared to what he was hoping for and by now most women want to know the person before jumping into bed too soon. If he manages a second date, by then the potential victim will figure him out. He is not as cunning as he thinks he is.

        I do not have any self esteem issues. He just made me stronger, wiser and openned up this whole new world to me. This is my learning curve and am truely greatful for the knowledge that came with this originally horrifying experience.

        I will not stay forever. It is still toxic, but I hope that this is my final ride to freedom…

    3. shantily says:

      BC I think we all come here thinking we can “Master the rules of the game” and believe me I did too. I thought if I knew what his motives were maybe I could control the situation… but that was a mistake !!!!! Their intentions are to do what I said destroy you and if you know what he is and you tell him you know ??? Or use his narcissisim against him ? ? you’re going to pay for that and I mean pay dearly ! He will set out to destroy you there is no line he won’t cross. I believe 💯 that something bad is going to happen to you if you stay and play in this dangerous game of horrors … you cannot win. None of us can. Stay strong protect yourself I’m saying this to you but I’m talking to myself too . 🌺

      1. BC says:

        I am on my way to NC already after finding his brand new profile last night on a cheating site. I am happy to say, tha I am not surprised nor devastated. Good luck to us all.

        1. shantily says:

          Yay!!!! Hang in there !! What a creep BC !! I’ve blocked mine too on all fronts he sucked me back in with an “I’m sick I need you ploy ” well he wasn’t that sick!!! he could still throw a tantrum of epic proportions. Left me bruised and battered things strewn across the lawn … good luck to us all indeed ! ❤️ I need this to be OVER!

      2. BC says:

        I must say that I would have stayed if the golden period was reinstated. But obviously his only aim was to hurt. “Sorry” to say, but that did not work…

  6. SVR says:

    HG the narc I knew is a lesser most definitely who caught me off guard at a very vulnerable time in my life. When we had a few words on text he said to me: OK no contact. To that I was very surprised as had never heard those words said before. My question is if he does not know about his kind how does he know to say no contact? Is it because he has learnt it from others (stealing there words) or does he know that he has to do this but not sure why? Does he know that every relationship he has will be doomed or does he really think his gullible soul mate is out there?

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