Relationship Bulletins

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Β of my early girlfriends, Olivia (amazing legs by the way) said that one of the things she really liked about me when we first got together was the pride I showed in broadcasting to the world that I was in a relationship with her. She expressed surprise and delight at how widespread my announcement that we were together was. I posted repeated and regular updates on Facebook of us together, at different restaurants, on the beach, at dinner parties, holding one another and smiling for all to see. I would tweet about how happy I was as a consequence of being with her and also what a breath of fresh air she was compared to the stale, possessive relationship I had been in previously. I would take her to a dizzying array of drinks receptions (both with friends and with work) and introduce her to all and sundry, positively bursting with pride. I ensured we attended plenty of dinner parties and barbecues where we worked our way around the other guests as I enthused about her wonderful qualities knowing full well that those who were in attendance would post about it on their Facebook pages and talk to other friends and acquaintances. Well we all enjoy the latest gossip don’t we? I changed my ringtone to her favourite pop song and when people commented on the tune I would explain why I had chosen it. I spread the news as far as I possibly could, using every available channel of the dissemination of information, content that once the news was out there, it would continue to spread. Yes, Olivia was utterly swept off her feet by the huge exposure I gave her to this glamorous lifestyle of mine and moreover the repeated and concentrated blasts of heralding our coupling. She adored me for it. Of course, what she had not realised that I was not doing it for her. I was letting Sandy, who I had discarded the week prior, know just how happy I was without her and how she was missing out. That’s what it was all about.

132 thoughts on “Relationship Bulletins

  1. Narc affair says:

    Its all for show and tell. This is why its sooo important to block them every which way not just so they dont snoop on your social media but also so the victim doesnt either. They can post as many pics and lovey dovey comments and its not seen and reacted to. No contact is no contact for a very good reason! It speeds the healing process.

  2. Pamela says:

    My guess if HG is a Gemini, that he turned 47 in May. If he is indeed a Capricorn then he will turn 47 this December. Plus, if that is his real voice In interviews and YouTube videos, that does not sound the voice of a man in his twenties or thirties. Add to that all the 80s references.

    Regardless of age, HG, you are ageless, timeless and an immeasurable man of mystery and indeed a saviour to those here and out there, but not within your victim grasp, in need of your knowledge.

    1. MLA - Clarece says:

      πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

  3. Melissa Dean says:

    My guess is 44, dark hair, 6’3, green-eye’d scopio that prefers younger blondes. That’s how I see him anyway.

    1. MLA - Clarece says:

      The stats he’s given out is 6’1″, blonde, blue eyes. He prefers a clean, innocent look over a Khardashian poser and if the fuel is provided in copious amounts, red hair, blonde hair or brunette is all good with him!!

  4. ME says:

    45, 46 in September, my guess;)

    1. ME says:

      but he looks ten years younger… didn’t want to state the obvious.

  5. ajo says:

    My ex narc took down his social media after I called him out on being instagram friends with one of the women he cheated on his wife with. I believe he likes the privacy now as having social media can cause issues when the IPPS wants to know why you’re not posting pics of her etc. He likes to keep his relationships private as well. He doesn’t even introduce them to his family. He doesn’t want people to know how quickly he cycles through them.
    Although, when the well runs dry I have a feeling he will activate his accounts back up as he seemed to get a lot of fuel from his “Look how awesome of a dad I am” pictures and posts. Gag. I don’t look forward to that friend request someday.

  6. Nat says:

    HG when does the narc stops taking revege on his ex girlfriend using his new source of supply?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It depends on various factors. If you are being triangulated with in such a scenario it is likely that you keep entering the sphere of influence of the narcissist so that you are being lashed out at (thus stopping that will reduce this ‘revenge’) or you may be subjected to a malice obsession which is driving this campaign against you. It would be necessary to have more detail of the precise circumstances to comment effectively and a consultation is the appropriate arena for doing so.

  7. Sarah says:

    Definitely an Aries.

  8. K says:

    Scorpio.

  9. Listful Dahlia says:

    He’s Gemini.

    1. Giulia says:

      Could be….

  10. Star says:

    Mmmm… maybe a Leo?? Or a Sagittarius?

    1. Giulia says:

      Better Leo. Please no sagittarius, it won’t end well. Besides, he’s too sharp to be a sagittarius.

  11. Sarah says:

    Born at 6:66am. On a Chewsday. And HE smacked the nurse’s bottom.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Ha ha, very good.

  12. Sarah says:

    53 (typo) πŸ˜›

    1. Brian says:

      I would guess 53 and born around April-May about 10-11.A.M

      1. Narc affair says:

        Brian… you didnt include the minute πŸ˜„

      2. Ms brown says:

        I would guess a Virgo baby…

      3. Sarah says:

        Brian, could you be more specific please?

        1. Brian says:

          The room was beige!

      4. Indy says:

        *puts hands to forehead like fortune teller*
        *eyes closed*
        **POOF*

        I am seeing an…Aries sun ….yes……with a Scorpio moon and a …..oh my, a Capricorn rising.

  13. Sarah says:

    I’m guessing Mister Chew-dah is 43. Which age bracket would you date within, if I may ask?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Whatever I deem appropriate for achieving the Prime Aims.

      1. Giulia says:

        Having babies?…πŸ‘ΆπŸΌ :))

    2. Narc affair says:

      We need a poll on how old do you think HG is lol my guess would be 44. This is based on tidbits mentioned thru the articles. 44 sticks out in my mind πŸ˜„πŸ€”

    3. Narc affair says:

      Im changing my answer on the age. Duran Duran was mentioned in one article and that would make a fan at the time to be around 48. Im going with 48. Its amazing what you can find out thru music lol

      1. πŸ‘πŸΌ 48

      2. MLA - Clarece says:

        H.G. really scared me once early on, when he dropped a pop culture reference to Telly Savalas, and I thought to myself, “oh please don’t be around my parent’s age…” lol (Oh, hi H.G.)

      3. MLA - Clarece says:

        His ’80’s music knowledge is on point so I’m leaning with you!

      4. strongerwendy says:

        I’m thinking he’s close to 60…πŸ˜†

        1. Ms brown aka Seastarr Cβ˜… says:

          Oh, Strongerwendy, that could be perceived as criticism to a somatic, lol….

          1. strongerwendy says:

            I kid! There’s no way he’s 60.

        2. Ms brown aka Seastarr Cβ˜… says:

          I would bet $$$, HG is VIRGO β™οΈŽ… but guess what? WE will never know…

  14. Listful Dahlia says:

    HG says 40s are way out. My guess is still in the game that means!

  15. Nat says:

    The key question here HG: when does it stop? When does a Narc stops to take revenge on his discarded ex using his current gf ? He is supposed to focus entirely on his new source right?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Usually that is the case Nat, yes. If it is not the case then it is because you are either entering the spheres of influence too often (thus stop doing that and it will recede) or you are subjected to a malice campaign which will end when the narcissist is unable to draw fuel and have any impact on you. This can take a long time.

  16. Thank you for sharing your experiences and how your mind works. It is extremely enlightening and helpful. ☺

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are most welcome Janice.

  17. Fay Turner says:

    What if they don’t shout it from the rooftops? Why?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      They may be shouting it from the rooftops but to different people so you do not know about it. Alternatively, they are keeping the new relationship quiet and this is done because they do not want you interfering and also they want to keep you guessing as to what is going on.

      1. Fay Turner says:

        Thanks HG. Pathetic is what it is. The situation not you. What would I interfere with? Smearing do you think?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Yes, smearing him to the new IPPS, denting his delicious golden period.

          1. Fay Turner says:

            It’s hilarious. Being flirted with just a little today HG?

    2. KT says:

      My ex midranger kept all romantic relationships top secret. No trace of any relationships on any of his social media. I guess it is too risky since this might cause blurred lines between comparments

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Cue Robin Thicke.

  18. VFH says:

    Dammit. I thought the hokey cokey was what it’s all about.

  19. Nat says:

    HG I blocked him everywhere but the only place I cannot do it is Instagram as he just made his profile public. We’ve been together for 3 years and it’s been 2 months since breakup when he started to post these pictures of a happily-ever-after couple. He triangulated this girl for 2 years. I beg you please tell me those pictures are there on purpose to hurt me…

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Yes they are. They are posted to seek fuel from you. Do not provide any.

      1. Nat says:

        Thank you HG. I’m not going to give him any fuel but I’m afraid he’s satisfied with his Thought Fuel as he knows how much this triangulation of her hurt me during our relationship.

  20. narnomore says:

    Exactly what is happening now with the new (not so new as it’s going on 3 years, but only seriously for one), except SHE is the one posting cryptic posts with no pics or actual mentions of his name because he is technically still married, although now separated. I feel she does it because she knows I peek at her profile. I also suspect she is a narcissist as well.

    Thank you HG for easing the pain/confusion I feel at seeing what I view as the new fuel source getting the love and display of admiration/affection I never got. It has empowered me to know that soon, she will be discarded, if she doesn’t beat him to the punch and discards him first, as she was seeing him while living with someone else.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Yes she will do it because she knows and expects you to peek at her profile. Stop doing it.

      You are welcome and you are correct, the new fuel source will be dis-engaged from in due course and it is just an illusion.

  21. Star says:

    Hmmm… he could be in his late 30s, say, 37 , 38. Maybe he likes older women.Who knows? LOL

    1. Scout says:

      In my experience narcs prefer younger flesh… But I could be wrong. πŸ˜‰

      1. M. says:

        Scout, very often they target older women. They are easier prey, I think. Much more vulnerable, with less options (or so they think) and, unfortunately, very unfortunately, much more understanding.

      2. Scout says:

        M, I follow your theory about older women as vulnerable targets. To go with an older woman was beneath my narc. All of his exs have been younger. His current supply is approx 20 yrs younger than him.

  22. Dodo says:

    If you’ve listened to “his” WNAAD podcast interview – if his voice is “real” – he’s obviously not young.

    Personally, for me, trying to use fear as a way to make an impression, use control, appear authoritative, etc does not work for me. I don’t understand why people fall for it? Mind over matter …..

  23. Nyx says:

    >and introduce *you* to all and sundry

    was that a typo HG?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Yes, thanks.

      1. Nyx says:

        Good, it was like you broke the fourth wall and spoke to me. Spooky πŸ™‚

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You are welcome.

      2. strongerwendy says:

        Does it make you mad when we point out typos? I do a lot of editing and can’t help myself but to want to fix them.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Typos irritate me as I would rather they were not there, but the speed at which my mind operates exceeds the speed of my fingers and the shortage of time means that the necessity of delivering the message takes precedence over typos.

      3. K says:

        HG
        If my notes are correct, you are 6’1″, blond hair, blue eyes, and 42 years old. You mentioned Weeble Wobbles in a previous post, if I remember correctly. So, I didn’t think you were a Millennial but most likely a Gen-X er. You are from the baby bust generation if my info is correct.

      4. Love says:

        Mr. Tudor, all the more reason for you have a live audio sessions with us. Like your own radio station. We hear your sexy voice and no typos ❀

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Ha ha Tudor FM !

          1. Love says:

            You have such a large diverse audience that it would definitely make sense. Satellite radio to reach your international fan base.

          2. Ms brown says:

            I had suggested PRI a long time ago to HG!

  24. K says:

    This post was so lovely and reads like a dream come true or a fairy tale…then boom, reality hits! Poor Sandy! And poor Olivia, too! HG, you are such a Dirty Dog. I wish we empaths could all get together and fix you, but that isn’t likely to happen in this lifetime.

    I read on-line that Facebook was launched February 4th 2004.

  25. Sarah says:

    Is that Popeye’s missus?

    1. Giulia says:

      Yes… :)))

  26. Giulia says:

    There’s also Olivia Oyl

  27. Narc affair says:

    Poor olivia newton johns cancer is back πŸ™

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Olivia Neutron Bomb.

      1. Narc affair says:

        John ravolting was a hearthrob back then. Those dark italian looks. Who knew back then what we know now

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I have always thought he is funny looking.

          1. Ms brown says:

            Kinda like I think the British are funny looking? πŸ˜€

          2. HG Tudor says:

            No.

          3. Ms brown says:

            Well how then did you perceive him to be “funny looking”… just curious HG

          4. HG Tudor says:

            The shape of his face.

          5. Ms brown says:

            Yeah, kinda like a jelly bean shape, no?…

          6. Ms brown says:

            As a side note to my question, I do not doubt that you are a fox and far above “out of the stratosphere superior” aesthetically speaking, to Mr. Travolta…

      2. Love says:

        I agree. He looked a bit goofy. A young Marlon Brando or James Dean, he was not.

      3. Scout says:

        That’s what we used to call her, HG, so I think you are in my age range. πŸ˜‰

    2. Narc affair says:

      You cant forget his strut tho πŸ˜‚ ill have to dig out my saturday night fever vid πŸ˜„

  28. strongerwendy says:

    Facebook existed during your early girlfriend years. …?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Correct.

      1. Listful Dahlia says:

        I guess that places you in your early thirties.

      2. strongerwendy says:

        So you are just a kid?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          No.

      3. Indy says:

        You are a whipper -snapper!!! Don’t tell me you are the youngster in the room! All of us older women will have to bend you over our knees and give you a proper spanking!! Consecutively!!! By age!!! πŸ˜‚

        1. HG Tudor says:

          HG does not get spanked. He issues the firm hand of governance.

      4. Matilda says:

        I loove the age guessing game. My intuition tells me you’re in your early 40ies, around 42 πŸ˜€

        1. MLA - Clarece says:

          πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

    2. Giulia says:

      A quick calculation and you realize HG could very well be a little more than a kid.
      We old chicks don’t stand a chance. There could be a silver lining though, we don’t have to deal with this greater, which is not bad at all.

      1. HG Tudor says:

        Then again, when you have had many IPPSs, early to me may not be early to you.

    3. MLA - Clarece says:

      “Early girlfriend years” could mean post his divorce or another word salad.
      At one point HG has said in his comments (going waaaay back that his longest relationship ran 7 years). His marriage lasted 4 years start to finish. That’s just over a decade where only some of these may have overlapped with those 2 prominent relationships. Then mix in all these other IPPS’s, IPSS’s etc. Not to mention his pop culture references.

      Sorry I will always stick with 49 and still fine for Mr. Tudor. wink wink

      1. Indy says:

        MLA,
        My common sense says you are correct, but he does throw some fog in there rather skillfully! The music tells me he is an 80s child, though that comment above confused me totally.

        1. MLA - Clarece says:

          Of course he’s skillful. There are too many other practical, logistical factors with him balancing a professional life where he’s climbed the ranks and experienced his achievements along with fitting this (blog, books, building the consultation side) in around that, let alone tallying up two long standing relationships plus just the girlfriends he’s written about here lasting on average 6-18 months, with Kim (current IPPS) nearing about 20 months give it take.
          I have a couple other theories I’ll keep close to the vest.
          He is well seasoned, accomplished man. No kid on the other side of the screen.

      2. Ms brown says:

        I’m there with you on that… until he proves otherwise

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Way out.

          1. Ms brown says:

            Aww, Christ, please don’t tell me you’re my Son’s age! That would be a jagged pill to swallow

          2. Indy says:

            Hi Ms Brown, I had the same thought! My son is 28! πŸ˜‚

          3. Ms brown says:

            32!

      3. Mercy says:

        I am fairly new to this site so Im sure you ladies have more background on this subject, but I like to picture HG around mid 30s, over 6 foot and possibly dark hair. Most definitely handsome, with a little mix of hot…I may be off base but this is MY dream HG. Hey a girl has to have something right?

      4. strongerwendy says:

        Well, I’m 49 and still fine πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

      5. VFH says:

        I’m thoroughly confused then because I thought I’d read somewhere else on a different post a while back that HG had been engaged but not married….!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You are correct VFH. I have been engaged twice and married once, thus one engagement did not result in marriage.

          1. VFH says:

            Thank you for clarifying HG, thanks MLA.

            Does ‘liking’ someone’s comment register anywhere other than on this blog HG?

          2. HG Tudor says:

            Only if you choose for it to do so.

        2. MLA - Clarece says:

          There was a separate engagement that did not lead to marriage.

      6. Seastarr says:

        I just want to know why HG is so reluctant to reveal his age? Is that a Narc thing? Can’t be an identity protector….

        1. HG Tudor says:

          It is to protect my identity.

    4. Giulia says:

      A fine example of narc lines. The kind that leaves you puzzeling “does he mean this or that?”
      The answer is ” it depends”. :)))

  29. Giulia says:

    I need Walker Texas Ranger.

  30. Sarah says:

    “You’re a fake and you’re a phony and I wish I’d never laid eyes on you, Danny Zuko!”

    1. abrokenwing says:

      Love it !πŸ’ƒπŸ»πŸ•Ί

    2. Narc affair says:

      One of my favorite musicals! Grease πŸ™‚

    3. Love says:

      But You’re the one that I want
      You are the one I want
      Oo,Oo,Oo honey

      I got chills, they’re multiplying
      And I’m losing self control
      ‘Cause the power, you’re supplying
      It’s electrifying!

    4. 12345 says:

      hahahahaha! I saw that movie as a freshman in high school and left thinking…that’s what I need to do! I need to become more like the piece of shit man that I want to choose me! I’ll shed my clean image, start drinking and smoking and have a lotta sex with him and then I’ll finally be happy!

  31. 12345 says:

    Olivia and Sandy are in the same situation they just don’t know it. Olivia think she matters and Sandy prays that she still does. Neither will after it’s all said and done. So glad not to be in that cycle anymore. Just reading it takes some of my energy to remember how it once was. Nowadays I hate wasting my energy on anything that isn’t edifying. I just hope it stays that way.

  32. Brian says:

    Have to admit, the ending was funny.

    1. Sarah says:

      Shekel for an old ex-leper?

      1. Brian says:

        uh….I got better!

  33. SVR says:

    I know the game now.
    How many girlfriends have you had to date?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Define girlfriend please.

      1. strongerwendy says:

        ipps’s

      2. KT says:

        So how many IPPS’s did you have? 10? 20? 30?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You will see in due course.

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