Love Letter


love letter


“Dear Victim,

I have not addressed you by name because your name does not matter to me. In fact, I am struggling to recall it as after all we have only been together for a week but notwithstanding this I wanted to write this letter for you because for once, perhaps the first and only time in my life I wanted to be honest with you and tell you the truth. Your name does not matter because I do not see you as a person. I see you as an appliance but I know you must be the best appliance. How do I know that? Simple. I chose you. You see, although I have given you the impression that I have met you by chance in a wine bar a week ago (is it only a week, it feels like we have known one another a lifetime) I picked you out. I look out for ladies like you. I know that there is a hospital nearby and many of the staff drink in that particular bar. I use it for many of my victims but I don’t want to talk about them because I only now want to focus on you. I saw you with your friends and saw how you made people laugh and how people often turned to you when you were speaking. I saw your membership card when you opened your purse at the bar so I knew from that you did indeed work at the hospital. In fact, I watched you three times before I came over to speak to you. That was to make sure you were my kind of victim and guess what? Good news. You tick so many boxes and that is very exciting. I am not interested in you as a person. I only want to know what you can do for me. I am of course going to pretend I am interested in you and I spent some time finding your social media footprint and having a good look through. Have you had any friend requests lately from someone you were not sure you knew? You have because that was me. Thanks for letting me in and allowing me to look around your page. Great photographs and you gave me so much material to work with. You have been a busy bee telling the world about all the places you go to. I didn’t like that man who kept appearing in your pictures though. I will be trying to find out who he is. Hopefully it is your brother or a cousin otherwise I will need to have him isolated. He seems far too friendly and may get in the way of what I want to do. So, I knew you long before you knew me, but you soon felt like you knew me. That’s what I do. I trot out so many marvellous and flattering lines They are just devices to make you think that we have some special connection. I know you are into all of that. I heard one of your conversations with your friends as I stood nearby as you explained all about the need for connections with those you fall in love with, your belief in astrology oh and spiritualism. I have already organised two tickets for the clairvoyant who is in town in three weeks. I will tell you about that later, although maybe you already know this given your “special powers”? I will tell you this, they are not as special as mine because I already know lots about you. You think you know plenty about me but over half of what I told you was made-up and the balance was embellished and exaggerated. I am great but not as great as I want the world to know me as, so I tell some lies. Okay, I tell a lot of lies but I have to. That is the way I am. You won’t mind though because they are lovely lies. Pleasant lies. Lies that make you smile and grin, that make your head spin and your heart beat faster. That’s good isn’t it? There is nothing wrong with making you feel good because that is what you need to do for me. I am going to seduce you, you see, in order to have you fall in love with me. You will really enjoy it. I promise you that. You will be swept off your feet and you will end up loving me like never before and you will never again. At least, that is what I hope. I truly hope you will be the one that can fill up this void inside me with your perfect love. That is why I chose you. If you can do that I will always be good to you. It is a transaction. If you let me down, well, hey, let’s not be pessimistic about things, we don’t need to go there. Yet. There is plenty of fun to have first. How long? Oh that is up to you. I will do my part. I will put you on a pedestal and make you into a queen and I honestly do mean it because I want you to love me, adore me and admire me. I want you to praise me and raise me up to recognise I am your king, a prince amongst men. I need all of that. You must understand that for some reason which has never been explained to me by anybody I have this nagging sensation of emptiness inside of me but I have learned that if you show massive amounts of positive emotions towards me I feel so much better. I will be good to you, so you will be good to me, so I will be good to you and round and round we will go. I have lots to show you. I have lots of friends. I am a popular fellow. I charmed them all and if they knew what I was really like they would run a mile, but they do not know, so we need not concern ourselves about that need we? I know you won’t say anything to them and to be frank, even if you did, they have had so long a period exposed to my charm and magnetism they would not believe you. You may find out about that down the line. Sorry, there I go again, being the doom-monger. Let’s hope we don’t have to go there. This is the best part. It is all sunshine, love and romance. I will amaze you. Yes, I will. I will probably want to move in with you in about three months’ time because then we can have an even more amazing time together and also I can use all your resources without paying for them. Come on, it is only fair. I am going to give you everything so I will also take everything also. That is how I operate. What I give you isn’t real but that doesn’t matter because you will think it is and that is all that counts. Hey, if it looks the same and feels the same, why complain right? I will buy you many wonderful things. I will say a lot to you and I will do it all day and through the night too. I am an expert at finding different ways to compliment you but then I have had a lot of practice. Just accept it though, it is better that way, after all, those others were just a trial run for you, because you are the real thing. Look at me, I just cannot help it. That is one of those standard lines right there. Anyway, you might want to spend the next couple of days with family and friends because I will steadily isolate you from them. Oh they are nice enough I realise but I need you to be subsumed in my world and there is no room for them, especially your sister who I think may be a trouble maker. Either that or she’s next if things don’t work out with you. What am I writing, of course they will, we are soul mates, whoops there I go again. I do it so often it is second nature to me, no wonder I end up believing my own lies at times. Anyway, what I wanted to tell you was that you are going to now have the most amazing, scintillating, glorious and breath-taking time which will be beyond anything that you have ever experienced before. I will charm, delight, mesmerise and amaze you. Hang on for dear life as we are going to soaring up very, very high indeed. We are heaven bound. I do want you to be the one. I really do mean that. Please don’t let me down. I don’t think you will. I think I have it right this time. I have studied you well and you are a perfect match for me. So enjoy these words, understand them because once you have they will vanish, but I won’t. I will be with you forever and that is very much the truth.

With love for your fountaining fuel but not you as a person,

With falsity, fraud and fake



21 thoughts on “Love Letter

  1. abrokenwing says:

    I’m not a victim anymore.

    1. HG Tudor says:


      1. abrokenwing says:

        Thanks to You ! 🤗

        I should start thinking of a new username..🤔

    2. NarcAngel says:


      Back to running and feeling healthier? I remember reading your posts at first and hoping you would get stronger, so your statement of no longer being a victim is very good to hear. Now hold that resolve and become Flight Risk if you run into another Narc.

  2. Indy says:

    Hi Doc,
    One would think so, but this is what I think…..
    I think certain narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths like the challenge of duping a professional or going head to head with a psychologist.

    The victim types want to be taken care of and get free therapy.

    The more caustic ones will use it against you. My ex did. He played psych games with me as he was therapitized and knew the lingo.

    1. Dr. Harleen Quinzel PsyD. says:


      I see your point. They always regret it though because they start to see who they are really dating …

      They dont exactly see that I can be just as manipulative as they are until it’s too late and they pushed my crazy button one too many times lol.

      1. Indy says:

        Yes, same with me, especially the last one. Though, there are some therapists that are very codependent and get off taking care of others and play the martyr for a while too. Many have deep wounds that drove them to this caring profession. I had my wounds that I’m sure attracted the numerous toxic partners. That’s when a narcissist has hit jackpot. Then there are the challenges of the super Empath within the psych field too and many upper mids and greaters will take on, simply because of the challenge and the sweeter this difficult to obtain fuel is given the work required. Like other caring professionals, when have targets on us for sure.

  3. Dal says:

    Very true when you do realise ad hard as it is to come to terms with pack your stuff quietly and calmly if you live with the narc do it alone and run for the hills with no further contact

  4. ANK says:

    Would love to see the letter to the married target.

    1. Bel says:

      HG … today I outed my previous think mid range narcissist. Low and behold he has met his soul mate the love of his life on line of all places lol and is now engaged after 8 weeks of knowing each other . Trouble was he was hoovering me for sex at the very same time , they live in a different state to me . Twist of fate had me find this out I messaged her and her family and provided proof of this predator. She like me has a house and he needs a roof . The family including the lady were very grateful and she kicked him out today with the help of her brother . I have had to go to the police as I’m getting threats from him saying he will stop at nothing to get me etc . Should I worry ? Or do you think it’s all puff ?

  5. Sues423 says:

    I must have missed this one before? Other than what this is about, this is excellent! what a very very creative way to convey this information!!!
    On the other hand, what a way to go through life. I don’t know what’s worse, taking a chance and getting hurt or living a sick lie..

  6. Scout says:

    This really appealed to my dry sense of humour, and yes, many of narcy’s victims were nurses.
    Great blog, HG.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you.

  7. Anne says:

    Just wondering, does the lesser think on the same lines if they don’t know? Or is just programming they think is unique to them?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      They think along somewhat different lines Anne, there will be a different letter.

  8. RS says:

    Wow! I wish all of your kind would give us a letter like this in the beginning. It would save us so much heartache!

  9. Gabrielle says:

    LOL my Narc refers to his wife as his “queen”. (insert eye roll here)

  10. Wolf girl says:

    Spot on. I recognise a lot of this. The words ‘queen’ and ‘king’ were actually used! As an ex nurse, I’m glad I left that ‘target on my forehead’ profession, not that it was anything to do with narcissists but still glad!

  11. Sunniva says:

    Hehe…Touché Mr Tudor.
    Found Amanda yet?

    1. HG Tudor says:


      1. Dr. Harleen Quinzel PsyD. says:

        Wouldn’t you think that narcs, sociopaths and psychopaths would wanna avoid me because of my profession?

        I realize… okay yeah I’m in a helping profession but I feel like I would be the last person they would wanna interact with lmao!

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