Little Acons – No. 42



19 thoughts on “Little Acons – No. 42”

  1. On Children
    Kahlil Gibran

    Your children are not your children.
    They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
    They come through you but not from you,
    And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

    You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
    For they have their own thoughts.
    You may house their bodies but not their souls,
    For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
    which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
    You may strive to be like them,
    but seek not to make them like you.
    For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

    You are the bows from which your children
    as living arrows are sent forth.
    The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
    and He bends you with His might
    that His arrows may go swift and far.
    Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
    For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
    so He loves also the bow that is stable.

    Arabic poet, 1883 – 1931

  2. Oh yes, the Monster had to work so very hard as a “single” mom for about 15 minutes. Three marriages later she’s exhausted. My favorite was when I got pregnant at the tragically young age of 29 and her response was “how could you do this to me?” Yes, Monster, I premeditated having sex so that I could do something “to you.” Somehow I’ve managed to be a single mom with no marriages (thanks to God).

  3. If children are such burdens to you, why do you have them? Is it really worth it just to ensnare someone and bind them to you? Well not you personally HG, but rather Narcs in general?

    Does any of your kind actually enjoy children at all? My mid-ranger made the biggest deal about his child, how she was his world and his everything. Constant sharing and pictures of the perfect life with his child. She was perfect and amazing in every way. I am assuming this is all part of the standard Narc facade? And that your kind does not give 2 shits or a fuck about kids? Do you understand what I am asking here? Basically is it just a facade and the “abuse” goes on behind closed doors?

      1. A hammer wielded by a narcissist. A discomforting blow from the narcissist which makes you feel like you have been hit with a hammer.

  4. The narcissist sees the victim as a burden HG ? Really ? Or the narcissist sees himself as a burden ? Sorry also what’s the name of your post about psycopaths please ?

    1. Yes because the victim impacts on the narcissist’s sense of entitlement, remember this is a Little Acon.

  5. Another one!!!! Lol. I felt this way my entire childhood!!
    My mother used to say “I can’t wait until you’re all 18 and you get the hell out!”
    We all left before that age and she then said “I can’t believe you left me”. And heard that for years after. Crazy!! She would say or imply that we were a burden and when we followed her lead then should would turn into a martyr.

    The damaged inflicted leaves such emotional scars.

    1. Sues423
      My husband said all the years the kids were growing up that when they all turned 18 he was changing the locks on the doors, buying a camper and hitting the road. They would all be on their own!

      Instead he moved in with one for several years and now visits our oldest several times a week! Our daughter in law has had to outlaw him periodically from coming in her house! No matter what they say, they never let go.

      1. Interesting story Windstorm2.. everything said it to manipulate .. and you’re right, they never let go completely .

    1. That’s a really good point Narc Affair. I think that was an issue for me with both of my parents. They must have seen something in me from an early age that posed a challenge to them because they both tried to squash my being. I was very aware of it. I couldn’t explain or communicate it but I sensed what was going on.

      1. Hi sues423.. what you said about squashing our being thats it in a nutshell! They want to destroy who we are to become compliant and able to form into what they want. This is exactly what all narcs try to do. We try to fix them and they try to form us into what they want. Its a go nowhere dance.
        Be true to you!! We were lucky to hold on to our true self 👍

  6. Amen Sir HG Tudor, ‘Surely’ is ‘Babysitting a ‘Narc’! Never ‘Again’. Great Post ,Thank You…You are ‘Still ‘Adored’… Will ‘Never’ give up on ‘You’!…

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