@Yolo, the thing is, their physical psychology has shut down parts of themselves. that doesn’t mean they aren’t hurting themselves, that’s why they feel rage and resentment towards others. it’s complicated. the way to look at it is, their defenses are counter-intuitive because they reject what they need *they reject everything and isolate themselves, they’re paranoid in their rationalisations and they resist self reflection. they’re super-tough because their defense mechanisms have taken over their entire self and beaten the self into submission. it’s quite sad.
while obsessed with self-interest, narcissists rarely make good decisions about their wellbeing, but they don’t know why because they see hurting others (a projection of what they’re doing to themselves within) – as evidence of them winning. it’s called mental illness.
P,
Thanks for your response. I know mental illness, I guess I was associating anger with being hurt. In hindsight the lesser would go into guys of rages. The mid would also pretend to be hurt or offended and always accused me of undermining and not believing in him. Neither never appeared hurt other than the pity plays. Again, thanks for taking time to explain.
Untrue…call it fear, injury, or whatever you want you feel that same churn in stomach, nauseating, perspiration, and skin color change as others. Your type may not love.. but you know hurt, pain, and fear. You might identify it from recent or past experiences. Trump wall couldn’t keep the hurt out. You hurt and we hurt you regardless if its only your perception.
If i am wrong correct me, I refused to believe the hurt and pain is mimic.
I am gonna smash his bubble into a million-tiny-little-fucking-pieces and annihilate him, just like he broke my heart into a tiny-million-little-pieces. Bastard!
Hellooo K! I love when you start my day with a bang!!
Sadly, my first thought when I saw this image was that I’ve now created a bubble around myself for the exact same reason. How lovely their nastiness multiplies when we too invert into ourselves and withdraw.
MLA – Clarece
Any time you want a “bang” just check out one of my comments. You are right; we create bubbles around ourselves to prevent being hurt. Exactly like they did, when they were children but their bubbles are booby trapped with narc weapons.
The isolation from individuals through not allow ourselves to attach to them is the bubble. The belief is this will prevent us from being hurt, but as you identify, the wounding still continues, albeit far less than if we attached to you.
It really amazes me how there are people who can avoid attaching but there are and narcissists are such a person.
Ive tried to detach thru different ways and its impossible. Once im attached i pretty much stay attached except when that bond is broken which it was with my ex narc.
Also avoiding attaching is impossible for me unless im not around the person or dont have feelings for them.
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@Yolo, the thing is, their physical psychology has shut down parts of themselves. that doesn’t mean they aren’t hurting themselves, that’s why they feel rage and resentment towards others. it’s complicated. the way to look at it is, their defenses are counter-intuitive because they reject what they need *they reject everything and isolate themselves, they’re paranoid in their rationalisations and they resist self reflection. they’re super-tough because their defense mechanisms have taken over their entire self and beaten the self into submission. it’s quite sad.
while obsessed with self-interest, narcissists rarely make good decisions about their wellbeing, but they don’t know why because they see hurting others (a projection of what they’re doing to themselves within) – as evidence of them winning. it’s called mental illness.
P,
Thanks for your response. I know mental illness, I guess I was associating anger with being hurt. In hindsight the lesser would go into guys of rages. The mid would also pretend to be hurt or offended and always accused me of undermining and not believing in him. Neither never appeared hurt other than the pity plays. Again, thanks for taking time to explain.
Untrue…call it fear, injury, or whatever you want you feel that same churn in stomach, nauseating, perspiration, and skin color change as others. Your type may not love.. but you know hurt, pain, and fear. You might identify it from recent or past experiences. Trump wall couldn’t keep the hurt out. You hurt and we hurt you regardless if its only your perception.
If i am wrong correct me, I refused to believe the hurt and pain is mimic.
I’m not hurting. I do the hurting.
Does injury =hurt?
No.
Injury =fury + disengagement ÷ x. 😊😊
I am gonna smash his bubble into a million-tiny-little-fucking-pieces and annihilate him, just like he broke my heart into a tiny-million-little-pieces. Bastard!
Hellooo K! I love when you start my day with a bang!!
Sadly, my first thought when I saw this image was that I’ve now created a bubble around myself for the exact same reason. How lovely their nastiness multiplies when we too invert into ourselves and withdraw.
MLA – Clarece
Any time you want a “bang” just check out one of my comments. You are right; we create bubbles around ourselves to prevent being hurt. Exactly like they did, when they were children but their bubbles are booby trapped with narc weapons.
Stay in that bubble too long and you’ll float away….
I want one 👍
it’s called the comfort zone
And yet, you are easily wounded. So how is it that you are claiming you cannot be hurt in the bubble? Please explain/clarify.
The isolation from individuals through not allow ourselves to attach to them is the bubble. The belief is this will prevent us from being hurt, but as you identify, the wounding still continues, albeit far less than if we attached to you.
It really amazes me how there are people who can avoid attaching but there are and narcissists are such a person.
Ive tried to detach thru different ways and its impossible. Once im attached i pretty much stay attached except when that bond is broken which it was with my ex narc.
Also avoiding attaching is impossible for me unless im not around the person or dont have feelings for them.
Bubbles pop eventually…
Only when a prick is involved NA.
truth #100…. so you have your protective bubble just like “we” have, after we know what YOU are… we are so different yet so alike…..no??
That’s what I say. Love my bubble