The Narcissistic Truths – No. 127

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13 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truths – No. 127”

  1. You are afraid of the creature and you need our fuel to numb your fear and keep it imprisoned in that fortress that you have built. The empath is the key to the lock that keeps the creature away from you.

  2. I assume you are speaking of the fear of exposure and loss of control, collapse of the construct in the absence of fuel, the escape of the creature…

    What other fears are on that list?

  3. This is interesting. I would very much like to know more about it, if possible, as I do not think you are referring to any of those fears you wrote about in your article ‘5 Fears of the Narcissist’. The man in the picture looks extremely frightened and terrified.

  4. Narcissists are in a perpetual state of emotional numbness except when furious. Their instilling fear in their source is a way to confuse and divert away from the truth

    1. Narcaffair, fury or jealousy, or depression, etc. My ex is so low on fuel that he is depressed. I guess he devalued his last remote tertiary source with whom he was talking daily on the phone.

      1. Jenna, I get the whole “I’m depressed” from my mid range all the time. He insists he’s never leaving his wife but surely there’s been DLSs since me. I wonder if he’s low fuel or if it’s all a pity party to get fuel. Or a combo of both. Guess we will never know!

      2. Gabs, i think it’s a combo of both. They always need to replenish fuel, many times daily, and the cowardly mid-ranger uses pity plays to extract that fuel in the form of sympathy.

      3. Hi jenna…im trying to peg what your ex is and im thinking a midrange narc. I dont doubt he is depressed from lack of fuel. I always know when somethings up with my narc bc hes either really happy and sure of himself (lots of fuel) or hes a bit down and he starts to devalue more (supply sources not coming thru for him). When he starts to devalue me i pull away. I give him a lot of fuel but i refuse to run in a hamster wheel upping my potency i have barely enough energy to keep my own life going and i cant and wont allow him to take all of my energy from me in the form of worrying and keeping up to his demands.
        Your narc im sure has other sources that arent panning out right now and why hes leaning more on you. Observe. Observe how you feel from this…you feel good? Its a false sense of security and the rug will be ripped out at any point when his sources come around to what he wants. I know so very well the cycle in this. It feels good when they come back but oh so bad once they arent there the same way bc theyve switched back to another source. You can be sympathetic but try to stay as an observer and not an active participant and dont let him postpone your life.

      4. Hi narcaffair! Yes, he is a mid-ranger. Thank you for your observations. I definitely am not postponing my life for ex. I am with a partner right now.

        I don’t let ex devalue me either. I have learned here, and i have learned frm my mistakes. If he devalues me, he knows i will argue (which he hates because he looks at it as a type of blame shifting), and he has seen it enough times now that he knows not to do so.

  5. I don’t fear my ex narc. He’s a cowardly mid-ranger. You, hg, on the other hand, i am a little frightened of sometimes. Other times, i just want to give u a big hug! Lol i know u don’t like hugs tho…

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