The Narcissistic Truths – No. 129
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I usually react by questioning him. He chooses to answer some, but not others while sitting calmly and quietly. But i press and press, until i get answers to all. Usually afterwards, he hugs me.
I did this 100% over the weekend. Introduced to the newest 20-something coworker that’s fun to just “hang and chill” with and I kept it together until in private and just could not not make an emotional comment. I am a fountain of fuel. Ugh.
This meme is incredibly important and so very true.
Everybody needs to be aware of its message.
Some people fan the fire of an overreaction and create a smoke screen to hide their misdeeds. Consequently the subject of the original matter/argument loses itself behind a new irrelevant facade. Having a good memory of facts and timeline, strong ideals and foundation, and being visual will save you from irrelevant noise and nonsense. Delay your reaction if it is an important issue and much to be lost.
Is someone else moderating comments?….Lennox?
Interesting question. Why do you ask?
Never mind.. I just had this feeling yesterday but today it’s back to normal.
I hate this one. Most of the time I kept it together, but when I lost it, I behaved just like my father (a lesser) minus the physical violence, however, the potential for violence was there. The few people that witnessed my rage walked on egg shells around me afterwards and I was left alone and that is ALL that mattered. I didn’t give a shit what people thought of me and I still don’t. They were mostly narcissists and I fucking hated them anyway! (absolute hatred) We need a HATE emoji.
Congrats on hitting 6 million HG.
Thank you NarcAngel.
Mr Tudor,
Congratulations on the 6 million blog hits! Well done ! 👏
I was waiting for your post to celebrate it ..
Are you on a professional trip? Is everything alright?
Thank you ABW, all is well thank you for asking. Busy about many things.
Hmmmmmm……
Then the best thing I can do is not react at all!
There! Done. 😁
..that is also an reaction..
So true. From my own experience, if there is an ongoing smear campaign and the narcissist has a vast experience in smears and character assassination, no matter what the target says or does, she will be seen as the Abuser or the Enemy to bullied and destroyed and, in best case scenario, the Troublemaker to be shunned and ignored.
Considering that a MRN is usually calm and composed in front of others, if the target reacts(*), people think that she is the Abuser and if she does not react at all and stay calm and composed just like the MRN, people may think that both of them, Target and Narcissist are Troublemakers to be avoided or to be kept at arms’ length.
(*) By reacting I do not mean getting hysterical or exploding like the lady on the picture.
Also if a Lesser N loses his temper but his Target doesn’t and remains calm, even when there is a huge power imbalance between the two of them, the Target will still be seen as the Troublemaker. People think the Lesser is defending himself/herself.
People will be watching the target’s behaviour to confirm that what the narcissist said about her is true and also to justify their own abuse against the victim.
Unfortunately, the target’s assertive behaviour can be seen as a form of aggression. Sadly, most Normals and Empaths still mistake Assertiveness for Aggression. They want the target to become a doormat. Only passive, submissive behaviour is considered socially acceptable.
Yup ive been where this lady is 😄 we take on the unreasinable overreactive ones and the narcs calm bc their behaviour covertly caused our reaction. Its sneaky and dirty game playing which they are experts at!
I have tiptoed on eggshells my entire life, thanks to my NMother.
I reacted very carefully to unacceptable behavior as a matter of survival, if at all. I was taught to fear confrontation because of repercussions. I learned to choose my battles and take calculated risks to ensure my victory in conflicts that really mattered to me.
Does that make me F.R.E.E. or just more compliant supply?
It depends on whether you have continued to engage with those individuals when you need not do so. It certainly appears that you have headed in the correct direction.
I have blissfully intermittent engagements with my somatic mother and the façade of her successful parenting reliably gives her what she needs. Ever heard the term “Asian Tiger Mother”? Egads.
Compared to her, my cerebral mid range illicit lover is an amateur. Dangerous yes, but thanks to strategies outlined here, entirely manageable with no contact
Obrigado for the positive reinforcement.
So true … so unfair …. 😞