6 Million
6 million. A couple of days ago, the 6 million threshold was reached and breached in respect of the number of hits on the blog. Once again, my thanks for your continued participation through reading, commenting and exchanging your views about the narcissistic dynamic and world. The combination of my unrivalled insights and your often articulate and fascinating comments is a winning one and yet again evidences the symbiotic nature of our involvement with one another.
The number six is relevant as some of you may know I had recently been overseas for 6 weeks which limited my opportunity for further writing. With that shackle removed for a period of time, this provides me with a rich window to provide you with new material and to that end I require your input. Do let me know which subjects you would like me to write about, there are works in the pipeline already, but is there something you feel that I should cast my dark eyes over and write about? Perhaps it is an awaited follow-up to existing articles, possibly the continuation of a revelation already made or an area of the dynamic which you feel needs greater expansion. Do let me know in the comments and I shall start adding them to my list.
I am not going to be the only one doing the work. No, it is time for you to flex your fingers too. Many of you express yourselves in an eloquent and thoughtful manner in your comments on the blog and I want to harness this. I want to see your response to the question ‘If you could write a letter now to your narcissist, what would you write?’ It can cover anything at all, from unanswered questions, through to a anger-filled tirade or perhaps a wistful lament. Maybe it is a clarion call of triumph or woe-laden words of confusion. E-mail them to narcissist1909@gmail.com and the best submissions will be published as blog articles in the future. Please keep the letter to around 750 words and include the name by which you wish to be known should yours be selected. I look forward to reading them.
In the meanwhile, there is much to be done, more information to convey to you, more for you to learn (and for me) and many, many more souls out there who need to seize the power.
Thank you for your support.
HG Tudor
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Oh my. Popped in again to see what Mr Tudor is writing valuable information about and see 6 MILLION. This is absolutely fantastic achievement for a man that I would never want to be entangled with. The lesser was enough, think the greater would be volcanic. From when I joined, albeit reluctantly as who wants to talk to another abuser when you have one already? My friend could not understand when I told her I was interacting with this man online. I knew it was right so kept following HG to learn from him on how to keep myself safe. It was the best thing I ever did as I am free of Narc and empowered to help others in similar situations.
Six million. Oh my god. Simply amazing you absolutely amazing, talented man.
Keep it coming.
Now toying with your letter request.
Thank you for reading my posts and replying. You played a pivotal part in my escape.
Thank you SVR, always pleased to see you popping in, you are always welcome.
Congratulations!
Email sent. I appreciate the knowledge I’m gaining here and am happy to contribute in this way.
Congraulations Hg. I pray that u will be featured on dr. Phil or such shows that reach millions more.
U have the answers that we all need. Many of us would not have closure without u. And many of us would not know how to behave w narc (if they are still entangled) without u.
You present the answers in articles and books, written so eloquently. U present the answers in interviews, audios, and youtube videos, asserted so eloquently.
I would like to say that i am extremely proud of u for cooperating w the good doctors, although i know u feel powerful when u challenge them and do not always cooperate immediately. I am proud of u for trying (although u stated clearly that u still cycle through women) to slow down ur thinking b4 destroying. This is a very big step. It is testament to your ever growing self awareness and effect of therapy, and facing the beast.
Many readers, including myself, wish to know more abt ur personal growth. I do believe that it would be valuable as an article, but i fear it may take away anticipation frm ur upcoming book ‘the Good Doctors.’
I personally would like to know about the mid-range behavior of avoiding negative fuel. I realize the cunning greater revels in negative fuel, as does the lesser via knee-jerk reaction, but my ex mid-ranger hated when i argue, challenge, or cry. Instead of absorbing the fuel, he was cowardly and quick to withdraw, but would usually apologize later.
Also, i worry that u may become exhausted writing your 60+ upcoming books, writing articles, creating youtube videos, designing innovative pictures (that a minion finally completes) to match the articles, answering questions on the blog, youtube, twitter, facebook, maintaing your personal life, travelling, and conducting your day job. I am concerned about sleep deprivation. U have stated that u do not require much sleep, and there is much to do, but pls do get some rest too.
I care abt u and i always will. Until my dying day, i will believe that u are not as empty as u think u are.
Thank you very much Jenna.
♛ HG!! Ive been meaning to ask about “Zero Impact”… have you published it or still in the making? O & BTW, speaking of “impact”, Irma will be paying exNarc a head on visit tomorrow. Everything he took from me, will now be taken away, effectively. I guess that is what people call “Karma”…🥊
Not published yet C Star, it is still being formulated.
I would be honored to be amongst the first to know…. THANK YOU!
You shall C Star, I shall make it so.
Congratulations on the six million hits I wanted to say your as succesful now as Hitler even though I know this comment is in terrible taste forgive me if I offend anyone but the honest truth is you saved my life prior to discovering your works I was in a place where I was having frequent homicidal fantasies following my first brutal devaluation and discard and yes those feelings are completely gone now secondly I finally discovered what is wrong with my sister all my life I knew there was something wrong with her but I never knew what it was until I researched narcissism about my ex and finally discovered there was a name to what my sister had I’m looking forward to sending in my letter unfortunately my writing skills leave slot to be desired again congratulations
Yo, Last time I checked , Hitler didn’t save lives. Happy yours could be saved , though. You’re still suffering so I get that. I am, too so I can relate. But a) that was a backhanded “compliment” and b) given the times we live in, invoking Hitler is in very poor taste. Maybe next time , think of him as the Tony Robbins of narcissism. Steve Jobs? I don’t know….There are many Influencers that you can refer to in the future that don’t connotate hate crimes and the murder of millions of innocent people. I guess that’s my empathy showing. My bad. Good luck to you, I really mean that. I hope you take this constructively. Have a nice weekend.
I studied the holocaust extensively six million is the number of Jews who died not a backhanded compliment used as a comparison due to the numbers only secondly although he’s saved lives he is a self admitted narc meaning he’s hurt people too by his own admission not saying it compares to what Hitler did the comparison was based on the number six million and this number alone
Hi HG, Congratulations all your hard work is paying off . I like all of your posts but I’d like you to write more about your sessions with the good doctors I think they are very interesting , I’m also hoping you write about Wuthering Heights as I’m a huge fan and interested in the dynamics of those relationships between those characters and the sex and the city breakdown was brilliant. Also could you write a post about some examples of changes you’ve made with you behaviour even if only tiny ones
Thank you Scarlet, I have made a note of your requests. It is a bit difficult to type at present because I am out on the wiley, windy moors.
Sounds really interesting! I don’t know if we have an equivalent to the moors here. I’ve heard about them all my life (beginning with Hound of the Baskervilles as a child) and they have always intrigued me. I will imagine you out enjoying them!
Whenever I hear someone say they are out on the moors I think of my favorite childhood book the secret garden
I think of the Kate Bush song from Wuthering Heights. My family introduced me to it this summer! Xxx
when of my all-time favorites!
Congratulations HG! Well deserved, you’re a very talented man.
Thank you Echo.
HG, Congratulations on 6 million! I am eternally indebted to you. Thank you so much for all of your advice. I know that eventually all of your readers will reach the point of zero impact! I am almost there!
Thank you Elise.
Bravo dear HG!
I would like to read:
1)Trilogy part 3
2)The book about the Creature
3)About the contagion Empath
To my future-ex Narc I would like to write something like that:
Your soul
The Black Hole
I can not deal with it
The masks on your face
Cover the emptiness
The void of your heart
Game over
My dear Mind-fucker
I could send it by SMS but I will not, because it would be dangerous I guess…
Am I right, HG?
Maintain no contact Salome.
You have become my port in a horrific, lifelong, narcissist filled storm, HG. You have been therapy on steroids for me and I could not be more grateful for finding you. I wish you billions of followers!!!
Thank you 12345, I appreciate your kind sentiments, let’s make it so!
Fantastic achievement HG! Congratulations! You have produced very thought provoking articles that have changed my perceptions about my interactions with certain people.
I am quite thrilled that our comments and replys have fascinated you, too. In what way? Has what we have shared with you altered your perceptions in any way? How? What has been most thought provoking for you?
I would be interested to read in what ways you use ‘compartmentalisation ‘. How that serves you and the consequences for us in our relationship dynamic with you. From what I can gather, this was quite prevalent in my own situation but I’m not too clear about it.
Many thanks
Thank you MTS and I have made a note with regard to compartmentalisation.
The ” number six is relevant as some of you may know” Yes it is HG 🙂
Check under you’re mums hair line .:)
Thank you x
Rascal.
666 the mark of the beast
Congratulations HG, 6 million views is impressive and very well-deserved. I am constantly impressed by your extensive knowledge about your kind, and with your writing skill.
I’ve also been enjoying your videos; like the blog they are very well crafted, and your speaking voice is a pleasure to listen to.
As for suggestions, I would ask for a bit more explanation of the ACON/Narcissist dynamic, as that is where I find my own difficulties lie.
Thank you Ellen and I have taken note regarding your suggestion.
You “da” Man, HG! Congrats 🥂…. what I would request you write is about YOU, your journey, earliest memories as a child, and take us through all the deets of your therapy…. I want to read about YOU, who you are, what you “do”…. some non narc stuff. You are an interesting, well traveled, cultured guy with fantastic taste! THANK YOU and 👁🖤ⓤ
Noted and thank you C Star.
I agree with C*! I want to know more about YOU!
I’m with you!!!
A very well deserved congratulations on reaching 6 million. I’d been to many narc sites before I found yours, but because you write as a narc and not a victim, it has made a huge difference to my recovery. I no longer have the indulgence of giving him the benefit of the doubt!! I can see it all so clearly now. Thank you so much for enabling me to do that. I am very grateful. Here’s to 7 million and beyond!
Thank you BU123, I like the picture you have.
Thank you. It was carefully chosen.
Thank you SO much HG you deserve six billion!
Thank you Mrs L.
Strangely proud of you, HG! Shame I can’t write but looking forward to seeing future blogs by empaths who have had their lives transformed for the better and empowered by you.
Thank you Bliss.
Congratulations on the 6 million hits, HG. Your decision to write about narcissism from your own experience as a narcissist was and is a fantastic idea. Would you autograph one or two of your hard cover books for me once I choose my favorites (hard to choose – they are all great)?
Indeed. E-mail me about this.
Congratulations, HG! Six million hits is certainly a testament to the value of your insights. Before I found your blog, I had already discovered that I’d been dealing with a narc and gained some understanding of the narcissistic dynamic, but you gave me the most important piece of the puzzle — empowerment. I’ll certainly be contributing to your collection of letters. Rock on!
Thank you RN.
This blog and your books helped me dig myself out of a seemingly futile situation. I wonder how many of the 6 million hits were me trying to hang on to my sanity on darker days.
The biggest purpose your words proved to serve was to analyze my situation, recognize myself and the narc, and plausibly brace myself for the hallmark behaviors. Countless occasions when my own hysterical paranoia nearly crippled me were mitigated with logical suggestions from you and the other followers.
I’m at the point where I crave more insight/observations on my own dynamic to heal and improve. The world needs more empathy so I don’t wish to extinguish my light. I always look forward to your new material.
Kindest regards
Well put Sandra.
6 million. Comes around fast these days. Good work. Well done. And thank you.
✌
Thank you DW.
Congratulations on creating a superior product/service and reaching your target audience in such large numbers so quickly. I’d love to learn more play by play details of an encounter with two narcs jockying for position around one fuel source (NISS). What is your real time evaluation of the chess game moves and counter moves? What happens when a narc sees a competitor gaining traction with a fuel source, how does a narc react during a temporary injury (a snarky comment or a bold move) and see that fuel diverted to the competitor, how does that narc regroup and strike back? I’m familiar with the triangulation of one narc and two targets, but I’ve also been fascinated by this game of two narcs and one target – especially narcs of different cadres who are each self-aware. I also sense it become less about winning the fuel source (who is downgraded for even entertaining the other) as it is about defeating the opponent narc. As an elite, I doubt you have ever been in the “one down” position in this triangle (except perhaps as an youngling observing a jedi master elder narc?), but perhaps you can still shed light on the perspectives of one or both narcs in this combat. Thank you for your consideration.
Thank you Wavey, much to consider there, an interesting request.
Hi wavey…great question! Im curious too. A bit off topic but the reality show survivor you can see narcissists compete. Not all are narcissists but many are and its interesting watching the dynamics between two that compete and how they triangulate/smear members of the tribes.
I do wonder about two greaters competing for a fuel source and how the losing one would react. That would be a major blow to the facade and ego.
Narc Affair
I admit I have wondered that myself…..
One of my senior bosses is a narc and she has a minion who is also a narc.They have an unhealthy relationship theminion gets smeared regularly so that the superior boss can get fuel from her co dependents who are competing for favour and are flattered when the minion is announced as having screwed up.The minion in turn smears the codep ndents lies and tantrums, always turning the subject to herself. Giving up friendships once people have serv d their purpose The superior Narc will Hoover in her minion with sugary words. The superior Narc knows her Minion is a narc and though she has promoted her almost abuses her more. Why on earth is going on in their heads HG? Two Narcs together at work.On the surface it is like a perverse mother daughter relationship or a dysfunctional couple.
These dynamics exist. In terms of how it pans out when a Greater couples with a Lesser or Mid Range Narcissist in a work setting, look out for the further When Narcissists Collide articles.
Huge congratulations HG. Amazing. I’d like to thank you for always taking the time to respond to our posts too.
I emailed you a suggestion a few months ago but can’t remember what it was now.
I would still love to know more about projection.
Thank you Watermelon, I have made a note.
HG you put a vast amount of work in here. It is impossible not to be impressed.
Thank you Mrs L.
Very good Mr.Tudor.
If you are taking requests, I like the blow-by-blow accounts where you can write exactly what you said in a particular situation and particular form of manipulation.(like the bar scene where she thought you were late, and the crying game articles)
I think the most useful articles are ones like ‘Provocation’ but I can’t think of any more articles that need to be done in that vein, maybe an article about ‘probing’ where you say a bunch of stuff and look at the victims face for a reaction and then use it later.
I would like to know the point of going on an angry tirade about an abstract subject (e.g. politics) to a victim, is it just done to upset them?
Is the anger actually real or fabricated?
Useful suggestions Brian, thank you.
You’re welcome, 10 million is just around the corner.
Congratulations, HG! I also would like to read any about things you are learning about yourself and any ways this is changing you. I also look very forward to more articles about types of empaths as I would enjoy seeing myself in one. Also more info on solely long-distance narc relationships. Thank you so much for keeping up with this blog! It means a lot to do very many of us!
Thank you WS2, duly noted.
Congrats on 6M 🥇
Thank you SW.
Congratulations on yet another impressive milestone, HG! Very well done! Even though we don’t know each other, I feel like you are a good friend I really care about and am very happy for. Thank you for being there!
Thank you IL.
Congratulations HG!!! Such an achievement! Ahh I love this idea! So excited for this assignment, also looking forward to reading others:) thank u so much for all you do!
Thank you Star, I look forward to seeing your submission.
Sincere respect and congratulations, Tudor. It is very pleasant to watch your success. You rightfully deserve it.
I would like to see more articles like a “5 fears of Narcissist”, “In the middle”, “What goes on below”, etc. With your high level of sensitivity and awareness, and your exceptional writting talent, it permits us to be in your head and, sometimes, to “see” your soul.
Also, if you decided to change yourself, it would be extremely interesting to read about your progress and, especially, about your thoughts and feelings on it. It might be a separate rubrication on your blog, kind of “HG Tudor’s recovery journey project”.
The idea with letters is very interesting. It would be some sort of cathartic (and therapeutic!) process for your readers and the huge income of new ideas and insights for you. Double win. I’m not sure that my numerous narcs want to read my unpleasant letters and I doubt it would be any positive feedback, so I better say nothing. Lol.
Thank you for everything, Tudor.
Congratulations again.
Thank you No Name.
6 million, HG! You are THE bomb! Mad Props!
Thank you K.
Putting my thinkng cap on and you pretty much have covered most of what i need to know about narcissism. Some areas that would be interesting is more on yourself HG as far as your deepest insecurities and shame based thoughts. I know we learn so much about how narcissists never admit to weaknesses or faults but im certain they know what they are when theyre not denying it to themselves. Narcissism is very much a shame based disorder. This may prove too personal and may not be possible but it is an area of interest. As the writer of these blogs we are naturally interested in you as a person and being of course a narcissist. This would i hope give more insight into the most inner parts of a narcissists mind and answer why a narcissist is this way. I do understand to do this goes against the very defense mechanisms of a narcissist and leaves you wide open. Something to ponder. Im sure youve touched a lot on this in your sessions.
Other areas of interest and maybe this could be set up aside from your narcissism blog is other areas of your writing. We focus so much on the fact you are a narcissist i feel we miss out on other areas of your works. You had briefly touched on some of your past writing but id love to see some of your thriller type (alfred hitchcock type) pieces like the buried one you wrote, your erotica like hush (and the awaited spanked piece 😄) and any other writing youd like to showcase.
First and foremost is your work on narcissism but theres more im sure to who you are and i for one would enjoy reading your other writings!
Thank you Narc Affair, much to address there.
Congratulations! Well deserved!
Thank you Louise G.
Congratulations on reaching so many. But sad so many have been hurt by a narcissist…
I would like more on how to move on. It’s been 15 months since I’d seen him or spoke with him. Ran into him yesterday. I was right back there in his control immediately. Soooo scary!
How to end this?
I think it is lack of confidence in myself.
But the control he still has is so crazy and scary!!
I hope I am making sense.
I don’t write well …
Thank you Lorraine.
Lorraine,
It has helped me to learn more about myself. What makes me happy. What approval I seek from others. I realized that I needed to love myself more instead of seeking it outside myself; to do things that made me more confident. Try learning about your personality type. Try figuring out what motivates you….what makes you tick. Learn how to have an internal locus of control. Journal. Therapy. Yoga.
I hope this helps. I have tried everything. 😃 It takes time. Sending Prayers and hugs your way.
Lorraine: ” It’s been 15 months since I’d seen him or spoke with him. Ran into him yesterday. I was right back there in his control immediately. Soooo scary!
How to end this?
I think it is lack of confidence in myself.
But the control he still has is so crazy and scary!!
I hope I am making sense.”
It’s been almost 11 months for me. I feel confident thinking I would turn my back on him if I ran into him again but now I think I would be just like you mentioned above. It IS “soooo scary”. The last time he showed up at where I work (he delivers medical equipment) after 9 months of not seeing him, he pulled me into an empty room and kissed me until my knees bent, even though right before that, as I was walking him to the area he needed to go to, I was being very professional and not showing him any emotion. I would like to believe that I have gotten over him now after all this time but. . . . who knows?
Mr Tudor,
I am very impressed by your ability to write about your own cognitive constallation in the way that you do. You manage to give your perspectives the correct dimension through all the literary genre through technique, tone and content.
My personal favourite are the articles like ‘Til death do us discard’, ‘The narcissist’s need for recognition’ and the like. These articles have a scientific approach of the raw cognitive core of your mind-set.
So, my wish-request for an article is written in this tone of words, and is covering the subject; How the narcissist tests their targets to be given a closer role in the fuel matrix.
I still struggle a bit with the difference of testing for promotion, and just serving a role in the secondary row of the fuel matrix.
Thank you for the suggestion Sunniva.
I would appreciate learning how the emotional abuse affects victims on a physical level. I know there is a reversal of cortisol and the nervous system takes a toll as our brains are rewired. Thanks!
Thank you Lisa.
Physiological? Neuroplasticy is an amazing thing.
Neuroplasticity. Oops 🙊
Hi Sophia. Are you an expert in this field? I’ve read up a tiny bit and would be curious to incorporate the physiological awareness with the new logic awareness. I swear , that asshole has caused me to age faster than I would have, due to physiological reasons.
Lisa,
I am working on my Applied Psychology degree, but I’m no expert. I have read a lot about it because I find it fascinating. I am sorry that you are having a hard time. I am attaching a link to an article. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4807201/
HG’s blog and books have allowed me to stop taking things so personally and to (slowly, yet surely) let go.
Congratulations on the 6 Million hits mark, HG!!! Great idea, asking for input and a letter to our ex-narc. I will start thinking of what I would write to him.
Thank you RS.
6 million!??? Wow congrats HG but i cant say im surprised! Your writing and knowledge mixed with your creativity draws people in and keeps them ensnared! Ty for all you do to make this blog a place of enjoyment, support and armory against narcissism and abuse!!! Were very lucky to benefit from your talent and experiences 🤗😘
Id also like to thank the people that make up the blog you make this blog a mosaic of beauty and diversity with everything you share and your individual personalities 💓
Ill comment also on subjects of interest and submit a piece of writing!
Ps i love the eclipse imagery 🙂 yayyyy to 6 mill!! 🍾🥂🍾🥂🍾
Thank you NA, I look forward to receiving it.
Congratulations HG. My letter is in progress, and will be sent your way.
Thank you.
6 mill yaaayyyy …thankyou HG … 6 million worth everyread your books your personal email consults and all your followers….1st time after many months of reading learning and getting stronger that i have entered a comment hope i will continue and contribute more….love all comments from regular blog comments you all make me smile ..still grasping the similar path we all been through…
going to beach now x
Congratulations HG! I’d like to see Dr. Phil have you as a guest! In fact, I think today I’ll email him with the suggestion!
I would love to read your take on the Narcissistic dynamic in regard to the emotional annihilation of the empath. I suffered this tremendously with my Nex. And I also suffered it as a child, and throughout my life. It was a couple years into my 5 yr relationship with Nex that I made the correlation that the horrendous pain I had was indeed the same exact pain I suffered as a child. It was then that I realized I was recreating my family dynamic over and over and had to look within for resolution. I have begun this extremely painful work into my initial abandonment, disregard, mental, physical, sexual, psychic abuse and devaluation by my own family members. I’ve heard this theory that one will continue to recreate the pain until the lesson is learned. Thanks to your wakeup call, I got it! I repeatedly attracted your kind to show me this.
Ever grateful,
Peaceful.
That you for the suggestion Peaceful.
Hi peaceful….word for word your post is what i too believe…were recreating what hasnt been resolved. Im spiritual and believe thats the very reason were here is to experience and learn and love.
The dr phil suggestion id enjoy. Ive seen dr phil referred to as a narcissist but he doesnt strike me as one.
HG not to be a suggestion hog bc i know ive posted already but id seriously love to see you and sam vaknin do an interview together. I think itd be a very cool interaction and swapping of info and ideas.
Narc affair, thank you! I don’t see Dr. Phil as a narc. Perhaps HG could shed some light on that? I did email him today with a compelling story including HG’s Blog and YouTube channel. I hope he takes the suggestion. He certainly has enough narcs on his show! So glad I connected with you here.
Funny… my Nex left on my doorstep today a bag filled with photos of me and us x’d out with black sharpie and torn up!!! On the bad he wrote ” more stuff to burn”. Childish psychopath. Looking into involving police and or lawyer… they’re a f*cking mess.
Peaceful.
Hi peaceful….dont let that shake you bc thats what the nex is doing trying to hit you where it hurts. Did you leave or did he discard you? It sounds like you left and hes in a state of fury lashing out. Hes trying to get to you. Anyone thatll do something like that is only confirming you made the right decision!! Hes helping you stay no contact. If it continues id get a restraining order. You can do this👍
Peaceful: ” It was then that I realized I was recreating my family dynamic over and over and had to look within for resolution. ”
I was told by HG that I have an imprint from being raised in a family with narcissists traits that they learned from my father. So that, AND being an empath, keeps me chasing the storm of that dynamic. I am guessing I have not learned my lesson yet as I keep gravitating towards this type of man. 😜
Hi RS….i see empath come up a lot and its definitely a trait a narc looks for but being an empath doesnt mean being a victim. An empath with codependant traits or vulnerabilities does bc of weak or no boundaries. Ths is what they need to infiltrate and seduce. If you have a strong sense of yourself and no your deal breakers a narc will find this too much work and add in an empath that knows about narcissism well its now game over a narc wont bother or will not try for long. Being an empath is a great quality with the right self love and boundaries in place.
Know not no … wish there was an edit feature.
Hello HG! Congratulations ! I entered the blog for a running and absolute curiosity about your kind think and feel , I am surely an empat , but , at the same time , a very logic person , all day long thinking about what is in people ( every kind of people ) mind . I have been sorruended by narcissists all my life , starting from my mother . They had changed , for sure , the life I had . Knowing about you , was the last step for me to survive and return to my sanity . I lived many lifes in my journey in this wold . I am , in my kind , a ” greatest ” . I will write the letter , thank you for this opportunity . It is about sorrow and pain and regrets , but the story of my life . See you soon
Thank you Paula, I look forward to receiving it.
Congratulations HG. You have come up with another good idea. Is there a deadline to submit the letter? I g:uess there is not. It does not matter anyway. Here is my letter to my ex narc
STRONZO DI MERDA.
I hope that is eloquent enough to be published. Let me know if it is not and I will try to go deeper, if time allows.
Thank you. There is no deadline.
Well you made your feelings clear which is fair enough!
It is actually a very bad letter because it is fuel for him only. I will think of something better. 😉
Lou: I had to look that up. . . I love it!!! Can I steal it and send it to mine? 😉
RS, be my guest (not that I invented the phrase). LOL
What is the best way to dump a narc who knows where you live. and when you don’t want a scene? You don’t have his stuff and it’s your house
I assume you do not live together?
We don’t, though he is angling to move in with pity plays about his money situation and how bad his primary source is. He is doing building work on my house which I want him to finish then I need to give him the heave ho somehow. Primary source has two children I want them to go off into the sunset am in a right pickle.
1. Replace him as builder, impose no contact ; or
2. Allow him to finish work, ensure he does not move in, then impose no contact.
I have a little boy I don’t want to be upset.
Your 6 Million hits is not only a proof that your work is absolutely outstanding and your advice exceptional but also that honesty, truthfulness and being yourself can be rewarding too. Congratulations!!!!
Thank you EB.
Hello HG. Id be interested to read a piece about Intuition. That being, the Empaths Intuition. I dont think we take it as seriously as we should, or more to the point, we doubt it, especially while under the pressure of seduction by the narc. We second guess it, when, truth be told, I think we could save ourselves a lot of pain if we knew how to harness it and have more faith in ourselves.
Thanks heaps….
As for the letter?…thats a great idea!!
Thank you for the suggestion Lisa.
Im sorry HG. In my haste to respond with a suggestion, I neglected to congratulate you. Well done on the big 6!! How fabulous for you!! Yay!!
Thank you Lisa.
I agree! When I received his first email and it was on my birthday and I was trying to respond, a feeling came over me that made me hardly able to type and made my hands shake. It didn’t feel like excitement but a warning. I made myself get over it… This was a famous person interested in little me. He had thrown in some sentences that made me think he was confiding in me about his life being hard in many ways.
Congratulations on reaching the big 6!
So, a 750 word letter to Narcy? Now there’s a challenge a girl can’t resist!!
Thank you Scout, I look forward to seeing the fruits of your labour.
Congratulations once again HG. The 6 million so soon is testament to how more people are becoming aware of you and your blog.
Thank you ANK.
HG,
I would like to read more on how you would be able to distinguish between a person that is just a serial cheater/addicted to sex and a somatic narcissist when they are for the most maintaining a facade and and dealings with him/her are few and far between, for example if you are a DLS.
Is it possible that there are narcs that don’t like confrontation and don’t want/need negative fuel, and therefore just move onto the next supply without expending energy devaluing etc?
Noted, ANK.
Congratulations HG!!!!
Looking forward to your new material
A letter is an interesting idea, I hope you wouldn’t mind if I participated.
Thank you Twilight, not at all, be my guest.
Well done HG! What a fabulous achievement!
And a brilliant idea – writing down one’s thoughts can be very cathartic
Thank you Flickatina, that is the idea, I look forward to seeing what you produce.
Flicka
Haha, will you be alphabetizing the thoughts in your submission?
Couldnt resist. Put down that Witcher controller and get back here! I miss your observations.
I’ve purchased an Alphabet for Children book. I should be ok 😂😂. I’ve moved onto Xcom now. In between binge watching Dr Who on Netflix.
Currently suffering with a ruptured disc at the moment so no gaming for Flick 😔😔
Thank you for empowering me with the knowledge I needed to stand up when I was forced to.
You are welcome Lori.