Why does he lash out at you, abuse, assault and insult?

Why do you get ignored and cold-shouldered?

Why does he walk off and disappear?

Here is the answer.

By understanding fury, what causes it and what purpose it serves you will unlock a fundamental element of the narcissistic dynamic.

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8 thoughts on “Fury

  1. Rhyming Fun says:

    When I get angry, I feel as if I could murder someone… or even worse, torture them. It is as if I become super-strong. But, it feels like an anger that does not belong to me. It is a monster that I cannot seem to control. I don’t like it because during the time in which it shows itself, I feel sheer hate, and nothing more. It makes me do things that I much regret once the monster leaves.

    Then, afterwards, I am painfully sorry, and horrified by my words, actions, and feelings. It is so scary because the anger has a life of its own, and would kill in lightening-like impulse, gutting my offender alive, without any premeditation whatsoever- just a pounce. Nothing would run through my mind, but sheer fury.

    It terrifies me. But, the other side of me is completely the opposite and loves everybody and would give the shirt off my back for absolutely anyone. I take a medication which keeps this consuming anger at bay. Thanks to The Lord, it works! He is SO Good!

    Ironically, in this same passion that gives rise to this furious monster, I have the same passion for love, in action and in thought. I love as fiercely, and as finely delicate, as the monster does hate. Every minute detail…of him…in love.



    a new realm…


  2. Noname says:

    The “Fury” is an excellent book. I understand the concept of fury perfectly, moreover I witnessed it a lot and was a target of it in my own childhood and youth.

    It would be very interesting to know your opinion about another very important concept of Narcissism – Hate.

    Origin. Causes. Goals. Targets. Triggers. Consequences.

    What does the hate mean for a Narcissist? Curse or bless?

  3. narc affair says:

    Fury is…pent up anger, fear, sadness, pain, envy, jealousy erupting in either a uncontrollable way or in the greaters controllable but still damaging.

  4. Sniglet says:

    My understanding of the fury would be like a demon living just under the surface, within someone’s character, on standby ready to pounce or like a volatile volcano simmering its fires and fumes from the earth’s belly preparing its eruption on unsuspecting weaklings. You know fury is within you when sometimes you feel the pulse slowly shaking your head and body involuntarily, and your hands start to tremble in preparation for destruction. And then a soothing feeling washes over you and helps you escape it and control it via knowledge, reason and wisdom stashed away in your arsenal of conscience, if you have one. Would my understanding of it be correct?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It is but there is far more besides.

  5. Rhyming Fun says:

    The picture reminds me of a vulnerable teenager in a rage, and he does not know how to handle such fury. I am not suggesting that Narcissists are vulnerable, but the picture reminds me of vulnerability. It is something about his face… It is as if he, and his rage, are not ‘one with each other’. Perhaps the fury is painful to carry, and his release can only come about by way of pouring it out upon others.

  6. Paula Sarno says:

    Hello HG , let me see if I am fast lerner .
    It is all ABOUT FUEL ?

    1. K says:

      Paula Sarno
      protection and control.

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