The Expanded Narcissistic Truths – No. 1
The heart of an empath is treasured by our kind. Whilst our own hearts are black and iced, the heart of the empath radiates with fuel. It is capable of love, desire, admiration, compassion, concern, hurt and so many other emotions which radiate from it. The empathic heart is a veritable fuel pump and as such is coveted by us. It has so much more to it than that which we have in our hearts. We are envious of this but recognise how such a heart is there to serve us and cater for our needs.
You, as an empathic individual, also have one further major difference between your heart and ours.
Yours is free.
Your heart is free to choose who it engages with. Who it falls in love with, who it wishes to show joy to, who it wishes to share its innermost desires and secrets with. It is free to show its pain to those that it chooses.
We are jealous of that freedom. Our desire to receive the bountiful fuel which is pumped from you by this delicious heart brings with it our desire to capture it and prevent you exercising this freedom any further.
Our dark hearts are bound to the venom that flows through us, to the vitriol which we spray over those around us and the adherence to hatred, envy, fury and other such dark emotions. Our hearts know no such freedom like yours. The nature of our hearts is that they are pre-ordained in how they will function.
In capturing your heart for the purposes of fuel, we also desire to capture your heart to take away this freedom that you have and the absolute method of removing this freedom is to bring about the effective ‘death’ of your heart.
We are insidious agents, proponents of the salami-slicing approach which enables us to secure our aims through a thousand deft and delicate cuts so that you never notice what is actually happening. We are no different in this modus operandi when it comes to the ‘killing’ of your heart. The death of your heart is effected through the removal of its freedom.
Each and every day we advance our cause to gain fuel and to secure the bondage of your heart, little by little, as we strip it of its freedom. Through the dazzling love-bombing we invade it, taking it piece by piece so that it belongs to us. We permeate your life through our compliments, our apparent love, our fabricated passion for you, our illusory desire as you are gradually over run and conquered. With each passing day as we unleash our charm on you, our legions of text messages, our battalions of telephone conversations and the marching foot soldiers of love, we take a piece of your heart and capture it. Thus a part of it has effectively ‘died’ since it has lost that free will.
Of course, entirely consistent with the notion of romance that you have been indoctrinated with, the capture of your heart in such a way is regarded as a wonderful thing. You are regarding this capture as one which is healthy, respectful and you do not recognise that it has been predicated on a false premise.
Once we have you embedded your heart is ours. It has been captured. You no longer are afforded the choice of where your emotions can be directed. They must be directed towards us and us alone for the purposes of our fuel provision. The onslaught continues as having captured your heart, we then set about our scorched earth approach through devaluation as our despicable manipulations and horrid machinations are deployed against you for the purposes of maintaining the occupation of your heart and the total hegemonic control of its emotional output.
We captured the good – the love, the admiration, the compassion, the happiness, the joy and so forth.
Now we capture the bad – the pain, the hurt, the fear, the terror, the hatred and all other negative emotions.
Little by little, day by day, we invade your heart and occupy it, making it ours, commandeering its emotional resources for our own use and in so doing we strip away its ability to function in a free manner.
The removal of this freedom is how your heart dies when you are with us.
This happens on a daily basis as we slowly cause your heart to ‘die’ through our polluted control of you.
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HG, I would like to get your opinion on something, please.. What do you think would be the reason a narcissist does not want to know about what you do without them after the Formal Relationship has ended? This narcissist is dead set on having absolutely no knowledge of who you may be having a relationship with, where you might consider moving, or anything dealing with your personal life, even if you’re trying to volunteer that information.. This is the case after almost three months of disengagement (the three months were mostly spent with complete silence between the narcissist and the former PS).. They have recently begun to communicate again, but the narcissist does not want to know any details of the former PS’s life, if it does not concern them directly..
My heart did not die,
It thrives.
Hg is this hoovering ??? My narcs fake profile just loved( heart emoji ) a post in a dating group I made with my fake profile fake name my real pictures he normally ignores these posts and likes the womans post above and below me but he loved mY post and then went on my fake profile and liked one of my public posts again with his fake profile that has his real pictures why ??? Why would he like my posts on a dating site with fake profile well actually he hit the heart button
If it wasn’t clear his fake profile liked two posts made by my fake profile one on a dating site one on my fake page
Kim
Look forward not backwards, my advice get rid of the accounts, don’t worry about what he is or isn’t doing this is looking backwards and causing you to stop going forward. I know this is easier said then done. This is a person you loved and desiring him to acknowledge you in any way “feels” for you. Emotions flow like the waves of the ocean they come and they go, your power is in the choices you make and some are freaking hard and can be painful.
Can you be brutally honest with yourself and look at why you want to stay connected to this man? IMO the lies we tell ourselves to stay comfortable can be very destructive, the truth always shows a path to grow from the pain.
I wish you well on your journey!
“This happens on a daily basis as we slowly cause your heart to ‘die’ through our polluted control of you.”
Narcissists are akin to carbon monoxide poisoning in many ways. You can’t see what it is doing to you until it is almost too late……and it can cause brain damage and even death. However…..just like carbon monoxide poisoning……provided you move away from the obnoxious fumes quickly enough, you can make a full recovery…..however if you stay breathing it in for too long….. you will be damaged in some shape or form…….Diva
Do all elites know what they are and what they are doing?
This last one had it down to a science, voicing the play by play of each move as he was doing it. His lifestyle seemed like a scripted outline. It was just uncanny to hear him saying out loud the details of how his relationships work, because each detail was straight out of your books. Lieutenants, watching the eyes, reading body language and responses (hearing him say that out loud, after reading it in your books, was like being hit with salt peter: sobering and mood-killing) , he wanted me to understand that he would be in my life forever (no matter who else he was with; but I was not to be with anyone else). He wanted assurance that I would not “play him” and then “disappear.” I guess he’s used to the escape of women.
The hypnotic thing he could do was frightening. Going no contact was the only choice I had after reading your predictions in your consult. He has been blocked, and there has been no sign of him.
Interestingly, the previous narc let me know that this current one had been casing his house over a month ago. That is really creepy.
I hope I got out soon enough that he moves onwithout looking back.
No, Elite is a cadre not a school.
Omg it’s all so horrifying.. and you know you’re doing it 🙁
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I went to the Smithy and had a new heart forged out of steel, titanium, tungsten and Inconel. Then I took it home and wrapped some barbed wire around it and sprayed it with Narc-Repellent, just to be extra safe. My heart will never, ever be broken again by your kind. Hell no!
Would you agree HG that narcissist never want us to be with someone else ?
Correct. Even when we do not want you, we do not want you with anybody else (save when we want to tee up a threeway).
Do you mean do not want us , as in the formal relationship is over and you have no desire to restore this or would this also be applicable when the N is hoovering because he doesn’t want us to meet someone else
Conversation with my narcissist when I ended the formal relationship 3 months ago
Me – why do you care if I’m breaking up with you , you tell me your emotionless your an empty shell?
Narc – because I don’t want anyone else to have you
Me – why what difference does it make , you don’t care about me and you don’t want me
Narc – yes but if your with someone else , I will think , that could have been me , I could have had that with you
This proves how mental they are .
He was also ready for a diengagement at the time
He never thought it was for ever , that’s why me ignoring his hoovers has thrown him this time . He’s speaking the truth but it’s also the usual word salad mental contradiction nonsense
An excellent example and analysis
The last time I saw him (after being apart for 9 months) I told him I was seeing someone else. He said “I don’t mind sharing, just as long as he’s clean”. Bastard!
That’s horrible , I think it must depend on the type of narcissist . Mine would never be ok with anything like that . Not because he cares about me but just because he’s not that way . He didn’t even like it if I was on my phone . They are possessive but not in a natural way
He never acted jealous of anything I did. I think he is a “bottom feeder”.
I don’t understand bottom feeder ?
It’s not normal jealousy although I do believe jealousy is something that’s narcs experience. They know that no one can really ever love them, if they knew the real them so they expect you to leave they push and pull and abuse as a self fulfilling abandonment to remain in control . Mine left me alone a lot of the time and didn’t want to spend time with me but at the same time always in contact by video chat etc. He’s leaving it wide open for me to leave him and meet someone else . I don’t know if it’s a test of sorts subconsciously or he just wants to prove , See relationships don’t work , women can’t be trusted , yet again he’s the victim. Whenever you leave it renforces their narcissism of a safe place .you can’t win they are mental. They are wired differently , warped twisted thoughts . Everyone’s out to get them, so they get you first.
Narchole doesn’t seem to be jealous either. I think he was only worried that he would lose me before he had the new IPPS embedded fully, and that’s why he wanted to continue seeing me after I found out. IPPS is fully embedded now.
He is married and always has a supply with his wife and two daughters. I feel so sorry for them.
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HG……….You really have a knack for making women feel sick……..just thought I would share that with you…….it’s not a complaint!!!!!!
Another great thing about our heart is that it does eventually heal. We learn our lesson and never let you invade are heart again!💜💜
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