The Narcissistic Truths – No. 193

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11 thoughts on “The Narcissistic Truths – No. 193

  1. thepianist20 says:

    Please DON’T come!

    Sincerely,

    – Your Empath

  2. Bubbles says:

    Dear Mr Tudor,
    Interesting.
    The narcissist gets you so love struck, he then isolates you from everyone, you can’t escape when he abandons you and you are then left with no one and stranded.

  3. Noname says:

    Hmm…I didn’t get it.

    I’ve thought, that the “ready” is a crucial factor for ensnarement. Narcs choose the certain type of victims with certain qualities. Love issue. Abandon issue. Daddy issue. Naivete. Unselfishness. Trustfulness. The victim, having such qualities, is “ready” for ensnarement.

    What does the “not ready” mean in such case?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It means whether you are looking for a relationship or not, you are going to get one.

      1. Noname says:

        Ah, I got it.

        When a victim really wants the relationship with a Narc – “good” then. It would be a “pleasant” relationship.

        But when a victim really doesn’t want it, then it would be an another type of relationship – forcing, pressing, harassment, stalking, threats. Been there. It is so sad.

      2. My first thought was premature ejaculation but I am glad you clear that up.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Ha ha, I see what you did there.

  4. Peaceful says:

    This image conjures up many memories and feelings for me… At the beginning of our relationship he took me on countless trips and vacations all around the US, and once to Maui. The trip to Italy never happened. Future faking I suppose…I had a stack of hotel key cards about 3 inches deep. As he told me to save them. These hotels were always 4 or 5 star places with ocean views etc. I was taken in by this show of largess. It was a lifestyle that was new to me and I lapped it up.

    The common thread between these trips was there was always something to create an argument. He’d get strange texts and deny them when my phone was under constant scrutiny… he’d flirt with someone when I was not allowed to look away from him… he’d come at me with false accusations when he was projecting… I always came home wondering wtf happened… Then he’d disappear for a few days… That always left me in cognitive dissonance wondering how I could be better…

    One time we went to Bar Harbor. A place like none other for me and I wanted to share this very special place with him. As we were heading out to get breakfast before a day of hiking he created an argument because I did not write out a detailed itinerary. I told him we don’t need one to choose between hiking/bicycling etc… He gave me the silent treatment for a few hours. I was left sitting alone across the street while he ate at a cafe. It dawned on me that he was treating me like my 2 ex husbands did. In the very place I went with them. I think that was my first clue to myself that I did it again… Picked the same guy again…

    I’m so happy those days are over! Those key cards went into the garbage a few months ago with a lot of other ever presence. I will be ever grateful for finding you HG and showing me the truth.
    Peaceful.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome.

  5. Super Empath says:

    Oh yes, the magnificently beautiful yet lonely isolated island!

    Looks divine and peaceful from afar, but alas most likely full of deadly snakes, venomous spiders and other equally creepy things deep down inside.

    The Narc’s world — No thanks!

  6. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!
    Not even safe on a beautiful deserted Island?
    Is there truly no safe place???!!

    Let us deploy the torpedoes and sink that battleship disguised as the Love Boat!

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