The Haughty Forty



The trait of haughty arrogance runs through our kind. This is predicated on our innate superiority to all around us. The world ought to realise how special we truly are and we are naturally contemptuous of those who fail to deliver the required respect and recognition. Our default setting is one whereby we are scathing of those around us, irritated by any success that they may have which moves the spotlight of admiration away from us and on to them. It annoys us to see underlings being afforded attention and angers us when we are not given the appropriate adoration befitting who we are. We are sometimes at a loss to understand how these ordinary people fail to realise that a giant walks amongst them, a colossus, a behemoth, these princes amongst men and we realise that this is a further failing that is attributed to those who are cannot claim the greatness that is ours. If we knew how to feel it, we might pity them, but we do not and as a consequence our feelings are ones of contempt, annoyance and impatience. Naturally, when we are seducing you, our wonderful prospective primary source we need you to see the benevolent individuals that we are, the kindly souls, the magnanimous man, the entertaining and humorous person and those masks are expertly and conveniently worn. Beneath this veneer of pleasantry remains our sneering disdain for all those we interact with. How we scoff at their foolish little lives, their ignorance of what really matters, the mundane rituals they engage in as they drift through life like some epsilon semi-moron. They are so fortunate that our kind brightens their lives and brings some respite from the ennui through the great works we create, great charisma that we exhibit and the great sensations we evoke in all who have the privilege of being selected by us. Occasionally, we cannot keep this haughty arrogance in check. During moments of incompetence by underlings, those of a tertiary and servile nature, we may snap and be dismissive of them. Usually you, as our primary source, will regard this as evidence of our desire for high standards and the mark of a person who does not suffer fools. Any discomfort you may experience in our unpleasant dressing down of a clerk who mixes up our tickets or a bumbling waiter who spills our drink is dissipated as you remain in our thrall, mesmerised by our superiority. At times your thinking may be allied with our haughty disregard for these minions. Those instances are providing you with short-lived glimpses of what really lurks beneath our many masks and in the fullness of time you will find yourself experiencing such arrogant contempt once your own devaluation is in full swing. Nobody is immune from this stance of ours because it runs through our core, we keep it hidden for as long as we are able for most of our kind has the awareness that such an outlook towards people is regarded as regrettable and unpleasant. Entwined within this attitude you will also witness repeated projection by us onto you. It is necessary for us to relieve the burden by passing it on to you, to maintain our elevated status and preserve our control of you and others through this contemptuous air. Here are forty spoken instances of our haughty arrogance which you ought to keep a watchful eye out for.

  1. Don’t be sorry, be accurate.
  2. You are always a let-down aren’t you?
  3. Don’t be bitter, be better.
  4. You go out of your way to annoy me don’t you?
  5. Not like that, like this.
  6. I haven’t got time for this.
  7. You don’t understand, you are not me.
  8. Sorry is your favourite word isn’t it?
  9. I’d do it myself but you need to learn.
  10. I honestly have no idea why I bother with you.
  11. I have the patience of the saint, I really do.
  12. Do you know who I am?
  13. I don’t notice what other people are wearing.
  14. I lead, you follow.
  15. I do, I am not done to.
  16. I have one of those only mine is better.
  17. You’ve made such a little go a very long way.
  18. I would tell you why but you wouldn’t understand.
  19. You’d be nothing were it not for me.
  20. I’m the rock star in this relationship.
  21. People only like you because of me.
  22. You need to smile less; you look like an imbecile.
  23. I suppose it is the best you can do isn’t it?
  24. No, it’s not good enough, you’re not good enough.
  25. Why did I ever choose someone like you?
  26. That’s okay, you can’t help who you are can you?
  27. It must be hell being you.
  28. Who are you again?
  29. Sorry, do I know you?
  30. Once is a mistake, twice is you sitting in a room with no work to do.
  31. I’m not arrogant, I’m just better than you
  32. You have no idea what I have to deal with.
  33. You wouldn’t last five minutes being me.
  34. You don’t get to be me through chance you know?
  35. You’ll wish you hadn’t said that because you’re wrong.
  36. Don’t worry I’ve carried you so far.
  37. You should have been smothered at birth.
  38. You are such a waste of space.
  39. Laughter is for fools.
  40. You really are a sorry excuse for a human being.

6 thoughts on “The Haughty Forty

  1. gabbanzobean says:

    Another thing I just noticed about this… the Narc land of contradiction is it possible to have these said back to us as opposites? Because I heard some of these very statements worded in the opposite manner. For example….

    1. I am so sorry.
    2. I always let you down.
    8. Stop apologizing, it is my fault.
    11. YOU have the patience of a saint. You are the best person. I am a bad person.
    19. I would be nothing if it were not for you.
    24. I am not good enough for you, I do not deserve you.

    Why is this?

  2. gabbanzobean says:

    My mid was, with minimal exception way too polite and charming.
    #6 and #11 were the only ones I really heard with a few slight spins like…

    #6: No more of this, please, not today.
    #11: I am the nicest person you will ever meet or know.

    I heard slight variations of #32 and #35 which I will add below:

    #32A: You do not know the guilt and shame I feel every day of my life.

    #35A: Do you ever get tired of being wrong? LOL. Seriously? I am asking you.

    Fucking Narc textbook.

  3. angela says:

    That pic its the best..I dont need read anymore to be agree with you

  4. Blank says:

    My cerebral narc husband would never ‘degrade’ himself by saying those things. He would either walk away, give me that superior smirk or give an endless oration to show how intelligent he is and how inferior I am to him. He didn’t say a word when I told him I would visit a lawyer, because I wanted to divorce. Never, not one word about it. After a couple of months he got an invitation to sign the divorce papers. I expected something nasty to happen, because I couldn’t believe he would just go through with it (although I didn’t ask for alimony). So when he came back I asked: “Did you sign”? He answered: “Without preconditions”… gave me the superior smug face again and walked out on me.
    Today is the first day I can officially call him ‘ex’. When I’ll get the email from my lawyer today telling me our divorce is official, I will feel nothing but liberation.
    I just hope one day I will be able to forgive myself for ruining my own life, by staying in this lonely, one-sided marriage for 28 years.

  5. These are few of American terms..
    You stupid bitch
    No one loves you, not even your family.
    Your a whore, why do you try to fuck my friends? (Projection)
    Your just like your mom
    Your fkn Crazy
    Everyone hates you

    ” why do you take care of everyone but me?”
    I have chest pain, please help!!
    I had….. Spend the night, sleep in the same bed..( oh i only told that because our daughter is afraid too. )

    It’s all the same. Same actions, words. The only words that changes is our response. No response has the best outcome. Brings you one step closer to happiness.

  6. Windstorm2 says:

    I’ve thought that last one about a lot of narcs. Lol!

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