Little Acons – No. 40

I FORBID YOU TO BE YOU

18 thoughts on “Little Acons – No. 40

  1. Carolyn says:

    Thank you for your reply and sorry for multiplying my posts 🙂

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome. Not a problem.

  2. Carolyn says:

    He broke up with me after I cancelled our weekend plans (because the day before he gave me the silent treatment). It was a savage strike, telling me I dissapoint him too often and he doesn’t see a future with me anymore. I went no contact.

    After 2 weeks he started to mimic my tweets and liking my friend’s tweets who was having a convo with me. I got mad and sent him a text telling him to stop his silly games, cause I’m not into it and want to move on. He lashed out, blaming me for everything, telling me mean and cruel things. Then he blocked me on twitter and facebook “so you won’t accuse me of playing with your mind”.

    I was cool with that, again I went no contact. After 2 weeks he started to listen to our songs online (public profile) that I have sent him in the begining of the relationship. So I picked these songs, he didnt knew them before.

    Why does he do that if he discarded and blocked me? Is it a hoover or a kind of torture? What does he want?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      1. You are not applying no contact if you know what he is tweeting and you are looking at what songs he is listening to.
      2. He disengaged you and blocked you because he did not want anything to do with you. The playing of these songs is to torture you by reminding you of what you had but still telling you that you cannot have it because you are blocked.

  3. thepianist20 says:

    Well, dear narc parents,

    If you loathe individuality, then that’s your kiddish problem,, Grow up!

    I am my OWN person. I will NOT conform. I will NOT submit.

    I AM my OWN person.

    Period.

    1. Windstorm2 says:

      Pianist
      Hold on to those thoughts! 👏

      1. thepianist20 says:

        Thank you Windstorm2 🙂

  4. sarabella says:

    It is painful for a daughter to finally give up on a Narc mother. But once you do, it is actually less painful.

    1. Cyndee R says:

      My heart is very heavy with sadness but I will never let the narcsisst know. Don’t ever let your emotions enter the picture, and yes I feel your pain, your heartache. I wish you well and I wish you a happy life as an adult. My prayers go out to all people involved. I wish all the people in the world would recognize this behavior and not tolerate it. What can an innocent child do when this behavior is so well hidden from the outsiders.

    2. Tappan Zee says:

      sarabella—once you give up…. HOW? what does or did that look like for you? need help. thankyou.

  5. Cyndee R says:

    This is the saddest thing I’ve ever seen and watched, a child who’s self has disappeared and has now become what the parent is. 🙁
    It is literally disgusting to watch, so much so that watching the child become what the parent is forced me to take action. Take that you twisted soul. I have no tolerance for children being abused. None!!!

  6. narc affair says:

    I could be myself so long as i agreed and went along with the program. A big part of that was accepting the favortism and the devaluements.

  7. Susan Kay says:

    I am witnessing this very manipulation and control by an NPD of his family…along with parentification and emotional incest. Terrifying and tragic.

  8. PhoenixRising says:

    I was never allowed to be myself, always had to follow their script of who I was. I cut contact with my nparents and finally for the first time in my life, I am able to be me.

    1. Becky says:

      Good for you! I’m on no contact with my narcissist family too. Almost 7 years with my nmom and about half with the rest of them. I don’t miss them, especially my mother. It’s such a relief to be away from her, I can’t even tell you.

    2. Tappan Zee says:

      PR—i need nc from my nfamily too. bravo. nice to hear that.

  9. Becky says:

    Yeah, growing up everything was scripted and predetermined. No spontinaeity. It was like, “Here’s your script. Now you’re going to be Becky…”

    1. Tappan Zee says:

      Becky— yep. and if they did not approve. clearly we went off script. no wonder we play roles now. with gaping wholes. plot twists. et al..

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