The Igniters of Fury – No. 11
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This is something I find confusing..
If our accomplishments add to your character traits, why would me accomplishing something ignite your fury?
I’m an extension of you.. my success is your success..
I got to where I didn’t want to talk about any plans or things that happened for fear of his pathological jealousy.. sometimes he would ask so many questions.. it made me nervous – like…what are you planning??
Painted white – your accomplishments are taken to use as a character trait.
Painted black – your accomplishments outshine us and wound, thus our fury is ignited.
So on a day when everything seems fine yet the accomplishment was perceived to outshine you, then we would be “punished” – insulted, reduced..
..whereas on another day all could seem to be fine but it was time for devaluation bc our positive fuel was determined “stale” – we would be insulted.. etc..
Neither of these is under our control.. no wonder I had the impression to be playing w a ticking timebomb!
..bc we don’t know what’s going on inside your head…
I hate that.. that there’s often nothing we can do to influence our own treatment..
Regaling myself in the audio experience that is listening to your voice, you provide an excellent explanation of this dynamic at 8:30 in the video –
https://youtu.be/ub1lohBMFns
Thank you! x
You are welcome and thank you for highlighting it for other readers/listeners.
I played a small role, very small, in helping to get a charter school up and running. When I mentioned it to the narc, he immediately launched into how he didn’t like it. It was so puzzling at the time. Most people would be glad to know that grassroots works and that people pulled together to build a so far, quite successful charter school. It was nothing but jealousy. I was supposed to be a failure in my life compared to him. Only he found out, after hoovering after 30 years, that I wasn’t.
Wow! Thank you for this, HG. I wondered why my LMV Narc was withdrawing more and more. I just paid off my marital debt, bought a new place, and a new car. He’s JEALOUS?!!! I had no idea my small success would ignite a fury.
Congrats geyserempath!!🍾🍾🍾
Thank you so much, narc affair!
Jealousy, envy and insecurity.