20 Cries Of The Victim

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We do not think of ourselves as victims, to do so would be weak and we are not weak. You are. We are better than you. We do however feel put upon, hard done by and persecuted and it is you that does these things in order to victimise us. Evidencing our legendary double standards, we do not consider ourselves as victims as this does not accord with our sense of superiority, but we like to portray a victim mentality because doing so serves our purposes. There are many things that we say which evidence this mentality and when you hear them you should know that we are looking for you to respond. We want reassurance, praise, an admission of fault from you, confirmation that we are brilliant, an apology and for you to do what we want you to do. Playing the victim card allows us to gain fuel from sympathy and compassion, assistance when we do not want to do something, absolution from responsibility and preventing you from doing something we do not want you to do. Here are twenty cries of apparent victimhood.
You make my life so difficult.
Why are you treating me like this?
You never try to understand me,
What about me?
What am I going to do now?
How’s that supposed to make me feel?
You are meant to look after me.
It’s not my fault.
I can’t help the way I am.
Why must you be so difficult with me over this?
You never listen to me.
You always make it about you, never about me.
You never do what I want.
You don’t love me like you should.
You never do what I want.
You never let me speak.
You always treat me like a fool.
You are the reason for all of my problems.
You are trying to ruin my life.
Why do you do this to me?
Watch out for these comments from our kind because they are the foreshadowing of further manipulation of you.

6 thoughts on “20 Cries Of The Victim

  1. H. says:

    My experiences were so odd. Most conversations are to be supportive, meaning a natural flow during a topic of conversation. However, ours Inevitably it would abruptly end while he would scream at me ” you never listen to me!”. He would become highly annoyed if I would ask questions or make comments. Sometimes he would fall into a rage. WTF?

    I still don’t get what I was suppose to do.

  2. Catherine says:

    “It’s not my fault” and “You always make it about you, never about me” was the favourites of my narcissist. And on I went, trying to find the fault in myself, making him even more the centre of my universe. He never deserved me.

  3. Leolita says:

    «you always critisize me, you are always so aggressive / angry/ hysterical» think that was his mantra in every situation

  4. Nuit Étoilée says:

    And every single one of these, we could say of our experience…

    ..the most frustrating thing…being told words you feel.. but by a person who doesn’t understand you.. and being absolutely incapable of seeing that – made me want to scream –

    Yes! That’s exactly how I feel!

  5. Windstorm2 says:

    When these are said in front of a third person who understands the narc they can be humorous. Like when a narc who always monopolizes the conversation says, “you never let me talk.” And early in my marriage I myself said many of these statements to my husband in frustration. His response was that any statement containing the words “always” or “ never” should be dismissed out of hand since nothing in life is ever always or never. This kept him from ever using many of these statements to me, since I would just say his own words back to him and he would acknowledge their truth.

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