The Igniters of Fury – No. 15

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  1. I wrote «Congratulations being uncle, to the qutest little baby girl» (sounds better in my language), to a former lover from 6years ago whom I have realised is a Somatic Narc, probably a MR. (but I have only been his IPSS for a very short period and he has never hurt me, neither does he know that I know what he is). So I had to try this. He actually unfriended me AND blocked me on the chat! But first he wrote «thx». So he hated it?

  2. This is one of the most frusterating aspects of some narcissists. You cant compliment or like anyone else without them feeling insulted or betrayed in some way but thats the fragile ego of a narcissist. You walk on eggshells afraid to become an enemy thru complimenting someone else.

  3. Hi SE, I read your story. I’m glad you start to come out of the fog. I remember the fog very clearly ;). About the smell.. yes, I experienced that also. It’s about biology and evolution. For people to get together and have sex, it is ‘neccessary’ to like each other’s body odor. You are fooled by your mind to believe the other person smells really good. Once you fall out of love those believes disappear and you can become really disgusted by that person’s smell. For me the worst moments were where I had to sit in the car with my Nex. I honestly thought he might have a medical problem (which wasn’t the case). I think you probably are really sick of him S.E.

  4. It has taken me awhile to figure out why my narc went so crazy wacko insane during our vacation.

    His outburst came out of seemingly nowhere. One minute everyone (I guess except him) was laughing and having a great time and then BAM he became totally unglued and started shouting, screaming, slamming doors, calling me names, etc. (All explained somewhere in another post.)

    My friend of mine for 25-years and her husband joined us, and I was spending most of my time with my girlfriend and I made the most horrible horrendous mistake of complimenting her husband on what a good cook he was.

    My friends husband got up every morning and cooked all of us a full breakfast, it was delicious. My girlfriend and I would make snacks and drinks. Everybody was contributing something except my Narc who sat on his @ss doing nothing. Thinking back, I remembered a couple of times he was sullen and pouting and I asked him if he was ok, was everything alright. He dusted it off as nothing and mumbled something about work.

    Seeing that I am now REALLY going through a divorce (not just another drill out of frustration), both my girlfriend and her husband opened-up to me and made comments about how odd his behavior was that entire trip and the one we had before.

    I had become so used, or rather programmed, to him constantly being a d!ck that I would casually brush things off as ‘just another day added to the diary that was miserable.’ It has been very enlightening to read other comments and I’m starting to come out of the fog, or should I say smog!

    He had managed to slowly trap me inside his tiny box of lies, manipulation and control, I was participating in his madness, I was allowing his behavior to continue. Well, I don’t care to participate anymore, I’m sick of him, sick of all of it! His outburst on vacation was the end of the road, he pushed me into Super Nova Mode.

    Odd thing happened earlier today, I finally got around today to cleaning-up and packing-up the guest room, where he had been staying. I must honestly say it smelt like a corpse was rotting in that bedroom. Just smelling him made me nauseous. I put everything in the sanitary cycle on high heat before I packed things in boxes.

    I don’t know if the tension of not getting his fuel was causing ‘something evil’ to seep out of his pores, or what. Anyone ever experienced something like that, or am I really truly just that sick of him?

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      Kinda fun for a few seconds.

  5. If you know that you are the best for your woman, friends, or family, it really doesn’t matter how they compliment others. You’ll always be the best for them. So, no need to worry about it.

    1. Hello Noname,
      First I thought it was because they were insecure but I think they really believe in their superiority and grandiosity . Then I realised it was more because of jealousy…they have to have all the attention focused on them…they always want to be the best ,they always are competing , they see all (people )as the competition…even their “woman” …

      1. Windstorm, this is about the (fake) snow on this website :). You probably don’t see it on your phone, I don’t, but I can see it on my PC monitor.

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          Ha, ha! Thanks for the explanation! No, there is no snow on my phone. And there I was imagining you all enjoying a Friday early evening snowfall on the first day of December! Lol! At least I got some joy out of thinking about it!!

  6. Yes. That definitely brings out their insecurities. Sometimes it’s pathetic how narcs will interrupt someone else being complemented to brag about themselves. It makes me feel sad and embarrassed for the narcs. They are often clueless how selfish and needy this behavior looks to other people.

    1. Hi windstorm…my mother in law is notorious for that! She will take any compliment someone gets and either diminish it on the spot of inject herself in some way. She cant stand to see anyone get a compliment.

      1. I have tested this many times on my narc mil. For example she will build her daughter up but in a heartbeat tear her down(typical narc pattern). So when shes been i her build up mode ill agree and start adding some compliments of my own and it comes to a complete halt and she will start disagreeing with my compliments of her daughter.
        Example….she could be saying (well call her daughter sally)…sally works too hard and has given so much to her job with no thanks. Ill say something like…i know shes worked there longer than any of us have at any one job. She should be proud of herself for sticking it out that long. …..injection…she will say …well ive worked many jobs my arms in terrible pain. Ive worked til i was in agony and i had no one to help me (yes you had us paying for your car repairs etc)…this person was ungrateful and that person mistreated me…blah blah blah….
        It no longer was about her daughters job and being there a long time it was now about her. She does this every time without fail. Injects herself to take the spotlight off of someone else. Even if SHE started the compliment lol so typical!

      2. Meant to add…when she starts the compliment its ok bc its an extension of her but no one else can compliment bc its no longer about her. So her initial compliment really isnt entirely sincere.

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