Merry Christmas
Ho ho ho!
Just giving a Corrective Devaluation to an IPSS there. She will learn.
Ho ho ho to you dear readers.
Christmas Day is most likely upon you at the time of reading this. Fresh from triangulating Santa with Rudolph (hey come on, if there is an opening, I will take it) I am well fuelled and therefore I am taking this moment to wish all my readers a holly jolly Christmas.
Remember, this occasion is one whereby you may well enter the sixth sphere of influence of your narcissist and thus a Hoover Trigger will be activated. If you have paid close attention to my work and applied it, you ought to have raised the Hoover Bar so that this Hoover Trigger will mean that there is no completion of the Hoover Execution Criteria and thus you will remain free from a hoover. Do not let your success cause you to drop your guard, this season of goodwill to all, the flow of mulled wine and more, the surging Christmas spirit, the score for devaluation et al means that you are apt to be subjected to a hoover.
If you remain in devaluation and have not yet escaped, give little or no fuel, watch for the manipulations, remember this is an occasion which is our stage and keep that emotional thinking under control.
For those who have recently escape, all hail you but the battle is but recently joined. The hoovers will come and do not let the occasion weaken your resolve. Remain stout of heart and firm of no contact.
Should you be recently disengaged, the season will sting and hurt, but it will pass. Do not yield to the urge to enter those spheres of influence. Do not seek solace with that which has hurt you, the relief from your malady will be both short and visited by greater pain. Use the generosity of your kin and friends to avail yourself of my most excellent works and so doing provide yourself with the armaments to overcome the hostile behaviours of my kind.
It will hurt. It is a painful time for all those who have danced the dizzying dance with our kind but you are here, privy to the most forensic, the most effective and the most edifying knowledge and understanding you can achieve. Do not turn away from this opportunity. Seize it and in so doing seize the power.
My compliments of the season to my ever growing legion of erudite, entertaining and capable readers. Thank you for your contributions and I look forward with much anticipation to more and more.
A Most Excellent Christmas to you all.
H G Tudor
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Dear Mr Tudor,
What a wonderful piece from the wisest of wise
Thank you for your teachings
Yuletide greetings to you and all your supporters and may 2018 be kind healthy and safe
Ho ho ho
🤶🏻🍾🎉🎁🌲
A bit late but Merry Christmas HG!
I’m finally free of the toxic of the idiot. No anxiety and life is finally brilliant again. All the techniques you taught me helped. Total NC and for once I have achieved what I wanted … indifference towards the man that took away my life and dignity. I’m free!!! 😘
Merry Christmas, HG, I agree you sound almost kindly in this post! Now, is there a favourite day over this festive season for hoovers? I am safe so far but fairly certain one is on its way….
HG,
I hope you are having a peaceful and positive fueled holiday season.
Thank you for all your well placed advices in 2016. The knowledge you spread and teach is revolutionary.
Enjoy Boxing Day😃⚽️🔴👌🏻
Jenna ,
Your absence worries me … Are you ok ?
Merry Christmas HG. Thanks for giving us the gift that keeps on giving. The books and blog have help so many of us rebuild what the narcs tried to destroy.
I am forever indebted to you. Again, thank you and all the supportive posters on the blog.
Merry Christmas with Love💜💜
I have wanted to ask you something for some time. I get that you may not be able to answer this here, so if not, I’d love it if you could include this in your next Q&A. Do you think Dr. Phil is a greater narc?
I know of Dr Phil but I have not analysed his behaviour or know enough about him to confirm whether that is the case.
Re: Dr. Phil. I’ve watched him a lot (sigh, Mom loves him…), but I’d be amazed if he’s a Greater. Too sloppy IMHO, but I’d LOVE to hear what HG says.
I hate Dr phil but I don’t think he’s a narcissist my undergraduate major was in psychology I don’t have a masters or doctorate so im not qualified to work as a psychologist I’m also 6 credits short of my bachelors but have an associate plus almost a bachelors i’ve worked as a psychiatric tech in two state mental hospitals drvphil violates in his show many of the regulations of a doctorate level psychologist if he really is one I wonder if he is still even licensed or liscenced to practice in the state the show is filmed in
He’s too boring to be a greater. IMHO
When he gets someone on the show with obvious problems he seems to be trying to get the crowd to laugh at them.
So, an alcoholic will come on with their spouse and he will say something sarcastic like “well you dont expect to stay sober after drinking a whole bottle of vodka do you?!”
The crowd laughs, that doesnt seem to be a good way of getting someone to open up and admit anything.
Why are you people hatin on Dr. Phil? WTH?
Merry chrisrmas to everyone! Hope your day was a special one and free from narcissism. Heres to 2018 and being healthier and happier! 🤗❤
Do not seek solace with that which has hurt you, the relief from your malady will be both short and visited by greater pain.
^ THAT THAT THAT
A Merry Christmas to you, Mr. Tudor. I am appreciative and grateful for your insightful writing, and this recent post was a gift, a reminder, keeping the peace in the holiday.
Just out of curiosity, how many readers got in some form or fashion an attempted Hoover from their ex? ( my hand is up)
I meant a Hoover on Christmas Eve /Day.
I did not get a hoover Star.
I did Star on. It was through email and let me tell you, the things he said to me I wouldn’t say to my worst enemy. My reply was, ” Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New year.” Nothing else. I know it infuriated him. LOL
Nice Paige Bosworth. Always good to spread the cheer 😂
I got two benign hoovers from two ex’s . One made me feel uncomfortable and annoyed and the other one made me smile as it was from someone who hovered me back in February after 10 years of no contact. I didn’t get the one I wanted tho.
Dear Star,
Not a single “ho” ….. yaaaaay!
Hopefully New Year will be the same 😝
And a most excellent Christmas to you too, HG (said in the voice of Keanu Reeves as Ted in Bill and Teds most excellent adventure)
Aww, so sweet of you, HG! Merry Christmas and a fuel packed year ahead for you! ( condolences to those you get the fuel from) 😜
Uncanny, how y’all use the same playbook. Had 2 attempted hoovers for Christmas day, but thanks to HG, they got nothing.
Thank you, HG! A Hoover arrived, right on schedule, but thanks to you, resisting was much easier this year. You are truly doing marvelous works. Blessings upon you!
It almost sounds like that you care about your readers. Almost.
Merry Christmas anyways.
KRG, he must care to some degree, why else would he be available in any capacity for us empaths? Honestly, I’m happy he’s around with all his useful information. If it wasn’t for HG, I don’t think I’d be as healed as I am. My life was saved because of him. Thanks again, HG
Merry Christmas from across the pond!!
probably the best and most comforting thing I have read in a while.
And a Merry Christmas to you too HG. I’m grateful for all the invaluable knowledge and insights gained here; and your articles have saved me so many times from breaking my NC; every time I contemplate it, I end up here; reading and rereading; learning slowly to let the past go. You save lives. Thank you.
All the best to you, HG. Thank you for everything 🙂
Merry Christmas HG,
May all your endeavors be a success. Thank you for existing so I can survive.
Merry Xmas hg
Thank you so ever much Merry Christmas to youn
Thank you, HG. And I have always loved the word ‘erudite’. That, and ‘learned’, ‘literati’ and ‘intelligentsia’.
Trying to chill today because it’s back to work tomorrow. Enjoy your day.
Merry Christmas HG! I felt the shift, finally, this past year, in myself to separate and let go of the toxic relationship that led me here two years ago. Although I know I had that fortitude in me all along, you are a huge part of that recalibrating in me to make that happen. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Merry Christmas to all of the readers who I have gotten to know through your shared stories, words of encouragement, humor, and our hope for a way out of the dark abyss. Those who over time reached out several times to me, Winstorm2, Jenna, Narc Angel, Not So Sad, Fool Me, ABW, Indy, Snow White, Garbonzobean, Narc Affair, Noname (and anyone I may have missed), I truly value and appreciate each of you!! I hope wonderful things are in store for you in 2018!
And HG, please leave Santa and Rudolph alone so they’ll be back next year for kids all over the world! 🎅 😜
Hi clarece…thats so sweet but youve also offered a lot of very valuable constructive advice on here and your posts i really enjoy reading! Hope your christmas was a lovely one 🙂
HOW HG STOLE CHRISTMAS
By Dr. Seuss
HG hated Christmas! The whole Christmas season!
Now, please don’t ask why. No one quite knows the reason.
It could be, perhaps, that his shoes were too tight.
Or, it may be that his heart was two sizes too small.
But, whatever the reason, his heart or his shoes,
He stood there on Christmas Eve, hating the Whos.
Then he got an idea!
An awful idea!
HG GOT A WONDERFUL, AWFUL IDEA!
He made a quick Santy Clause hat and a coat.
He chuckled and clucked, “What a great grinchy trick!
With this coat and this hat, I look just like Saint Nick!”
THEN
He loaded some old empty sacks
On a ramshackle sleigh
And hitched up old Max
And HG started down
Toward the homes where the Whos
Lay a-snooze in their town.
He came to the first house on the square
“Stop number one.” HG hissed
And he climbed on the roof, empty bags in his fist.
He slid down the chimney.
Where the little Who stockings all hung in a row.
“These stockings,” he grinned, “are the first things to go!”
He slithered and slunk, with a smile most unpleasant,
Around the room, and took every present.
Then, he did the same thing
To the other Whos’ houses.
HG packed up his sled
Three thousand feet up! Up the side of Mt. Crumpit,
He rode with his load to the tiptop to dump it!
When the Whos down in Who-ville wake up
I know exactly what they will do
They will all cry BOO-HOO! (fuel)
However, what he saw was a shocking surprise!
Every Who down in Who-ville, the tall and the small,
Stood in a circle holding hands,
Swaying and singing Kumbaya,
While Dr. HQ strummed her guitar.
Merry Christmas everyone!
Thank you, HG. I needed those reminders. Merry Christmas!
do not know much about narcissism except the generalities…the same with empaths. I do know I have always been able to recognize when I am being targeted by them. In my last several encounters I allowed them to target me and then turned their seduction inside out as I outmaneuvered them…thereby auto-exposing themselves. Yes rage was under their surface, but I remained calm as they floundered. The last one, just a week ago…was busted stalking me at our mutual workplace. Busted by me (and on security camera). Now he wonders if I will keep the secret. Anyway decided to write him in as a minor character in a novel I am halfway through. I really think one must make some creative use of these encounters.
Enjoy your youtube channel, your voice is soothing as a sometimes backdrop in my office. Am learning much.
Merry Christmas HG. I hope you have a great holiday full of warmth and happiness.
Thankyou for this timely message & reminder HG.
I received a Christmas message from one of the Greaters sisters today. I thought it was accidental as it is generic but I remembered she had me blocked as a consequence of his smear campaign so it was deliberate. I believe making it a Hoover by proxy. I did not acknowledge it.
While it has evoked some feelings & desire for contact, it is minimal & manageable with logic, patience, faith & the belief of dignity in silence. I do still pray for him & the day it’s over.
Thankyou for your work that has played such a significant role in getting me to this point in what has been a massive year. I still shake my head that it was one wrong choice 30 years ago that set these wheels in motion.
I have also learnt this week not to get complacent with it all either. I reconnected with a lover of 26 years ago & have been lapping up the attention. The first since the Greater. The messaging from him has been teasing, playful & intense making me realise he is probably one too. Thankfully, he’s 2 states away (damn I miss touch..) & knowledge is overriding emotion. Admittedly, the attention feels good but it’s almost time to throw a couple of tests his way. It feels powerful to be the one in control for a change.
I hope (I know, there’s that word) your being well fuelled is as a result of positive fuel & not negative.
RH
RH
Good luck with the old flame. If he is a narc, may you find out quickly and get cleanly away!
Thankyou Windstorm2!
Yes, his charm has already worn off & he has not grown up. Boring. 😴 It was a good test for me though & I passed 👍 but he didn’t. 😵 hehe
Thank you. Happy Christmas to you and to all your readers.
Merry Christmas to you too
To you as well. Thank you for what you do…this Christmas would look and feel very differently if not for the knowledge. Fondly…
Same to you HG! Thank you from the bottom of my war torn but learning heart !
Merry Christmas to you !
Happy Christmas to you as well.
HG,
It is very rewarding, empowering and validating to let us know your readers that you are proud of us.
You recognise together with us that an entanglement with a narcissist and its aftermath is not an easy journey being the main difference now that you are certainly making it intelligible for us.
Looking forward to more knowledge here and to continue collaborating and participating.
Thank you HG. xxx
Sound guidance. Listened to and following.
Merry Christmas.
Merry Christmas HG!
Merry Christmas … You do have a heart … x x
I was numb about today and felt guilty for family … I walked to parents for Christmas Lunch a 5 minute walk… A further 1435 minutes in the day … I pick the 5 minutes he happened to drive past … We slightly curled our lips at each other… He just has contempt for me … I have love and contempt… I almost wished for the Hoover that I was still wanted in some stupid way … Like your article the other day … There is an obsession and I don’t understand why … x x
Merry christmas HG, hope its all positive fuel
Negative fuel and devaluation can wait a day cant it?
You sound half human today 😁 your welcome
We (orthodoxes) have our Christmas holiday at 7th of January, but from this very year our government esablished the catholic Christmas as an official holiday also! Of coooourse, everyone is glad to have another day off and an “official reason” to drink and celebrate. Lol.
Merry Christmas to everyone!
Big Hug to all of you!
Merry Christmas, HG Tudor!
Never give up your writing. You are the best!🎄 💋 ☃️
Thank you HG; as always for your sage advice and Merry Christmas!! I truly hope you won’t be ruining it for some unsuspecting empath!
Thank you for the warning about the possible hoover and for your good wishes and advice. Merry Christmas to you too, HG.
Sending good wishes to your IPSS as well – – hope she connects the dots soon enough and does what she needs to do, for her sake.
Merry Christmas, HG. I hope thousands of your books are wrapped up nicely with a bow on them ~ under Christmas trees. They’d be a thoughtful, and helpful present. 🙂
Happy Christmas to you too, H.G.
I know you probably will find yourself having to be in contact with family members who have wounded you, I hope such reunions go smoothly and that the fuel you need these days is only positive. Best wishes
That was really nice. Merry Christmas!
Merry Christmas too you as well Mr. Tudor. And a jolly fuel filled New year as well. Thank you for all the wisdom you have bestowed upon me this past year. Kisses and hugs